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Kelsey - posted on 03/23/2013

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My son wouldn't come out and I had preeclampsia. So I had to be induced twice. The first time I was induced, I was in the hospital Friday to Sunday on Pitocin (sp?) That was bad, I had contractions every two minutes and I was only a centimeter dilated. It was horrible. The hospital discharged me and concluded that "I'll pop when I pop"

Well, my preeclampsia was getting more severe and so, my doctor didn't bother with a Fetal Heart rate test and sent me straight to the hospital, once I had told her how I was feeling. I went to the hospital on a Tuesday, and a couple shots of Pitocin(sp?) and an epidural because my blood pressure was too high for all natural like I wanted, I was at risk for stroking out. After 16 hours of labor, I had my boy at 10:41 pm on April 25th, 2012, 8 pounds and 6 ounces, 191/2 inches long.

Nicolle - posted on 03/22/2013

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I had a 6Hr 20Mins labour with my one & only Girl.
I was 17 Years old, had only a slight amount of Gas & air. She was born 9Lbs 10.5Oz. I suffered 2nd degree tears, from FRONT to BACK, Internally & externally.
I won't lie, It was verrrry painful. But also one of the most amazing & joyous experiences of my life.
She's now 2 & a half.. & I'm planning my 2nd, so it can't be that bad!
Good luck!!

All my love; N- xoxo

Tracy - posted on 05/01/2009

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I have three boys, each one was vaginal and over 9 lbs! The first was the easiest, they are all so different but the one thing that is true, the very second the baby comes out all the pain is forgotten. The next days after I filled a rubber glove with ice lined it with tucks pads and was much better...

Natalie - posted on 05/01/2009

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Oh and everyone is different - the placenta came out after about 3 mins and bleeding only lasted about 4-5 days... the feeling afterwards though was like having sex a million times in a row!

Natalie - posted on 05/01/2009

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I had a drug free birth and it was better than expected. If yourve ever had really bad period pain, or the feeling of being really constipated... then your half way there! Just concentrate on your breathing and take one contraction at a time. I tell you I had shingles in the same week as giving birth and I wouldn't want shingles again - but I wouldn't mind labor again - just keep in mind that women have been doing it for how long and we keep having babies! must not be too bad... Just some advice if you don't have drugs keep active and listen to yourself only YOU will know what is a comfortable positon to be in and also when the perenium is stretching get a nice hot fannel placed there its heavenly!

Kayla - posted on 05/01/2009

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My labor experience LOL....wow! It wasn't too terrible! I was induced...and my cervix wouldn't thin or whatever so i ended up with "cervical ripening balloons" haha. They were interesting, but I finally dilated enough for them to fall out and then the FUN began. My contractions weren't bad at all! But, my Oliver was difficult. He didn't want to come out, but I can't say that I blame him. I didn't make it past 3 cm and ended up with an emergency c-section. So, they messsed up my epidural (which I didn't want in the first place) so my numbing meds wore off and I felt the end of it. I labored for 14 hours without the epidural and wouldn't have gotten it when I did, but they forced me into getting it think it might do a little something for me! But, my pelvis is weird shaped and not made for birthing I guess! But, seriously, I don't know how having the baby feels, but I know what hard labor feels like and mine wasn't too bad! Not as bad as they make it sound and look on TV!!!

Philippa - posted on 05/01/2009

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i was in 1 hour 30 mins with my second baby he weighted 9lbs 5oz it was fine i do it again

Callie - posted on 05/01/2009

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for me, it was all just very uncomfortable (like really bad period cramps). the only pain i felt was when his shoulders came out and i tore a little. i had no epidural and absolutely no other pain meds. i honestly think it wasn't all that bad, nothing like all the horror stories i was told. it goes different for everyone, but i do know that i can't wait to do it all over again!

Cathelijn - posted on 05/01/2009

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I was so scared and when I was actually having contractions I didnt realize that was it I was expecting the WORST pain everI was actually very hyper active the whole day! I still went to the shop carried the shopping home cleaned the house and by evening time I told my husband maybe we should call the hospital, We went to the hospital but because I was still calm and walking around they didn't see me for a long time, by the time they checked me ( in a little examination room) I was 4 cm this was around 11 PM, The pain got worse at the stage and an hour and half later I asked for gas and air. at 1 Am the pain was gone and i was walking around then all of a sudden I felt the urge to push and told me husand the baby is coming right now No one believed me because it all went so quick the midwive came and checked and said she could see the baby. She broke my waters at this stage, The pushing was baaaaaaaaaad it felt like i was burning but as soon as the head is out your fine my daughter was born at 1.50 am. No one ever told me about the pain afterwards, I cried everytime I went to the toilet it burned so bad I had a bad tear that they couldnt stich..

But I am fine now and would do it again what is a few weeks of pain compared to a life time with your baby??

Erin - posted on 04/30/2009

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You got a good response...I am going to tell you about my experiance too.

It was about 10:45 pm...and my water broke. We headed to the hospital and I was not having contracts so they gave me Platocin (spelling?). I was in labor 12 hours and pushed 45 mins and my daughter was born. I will not lie, it was way different then I thought it was going to be. I was prepared for the worst...but it was one of the best experiances of my life. The pain was nothing like I had imagened...I didn't think it was painful at all. And the time went so fast for me..for my sister and Husband that were by my side I think it dragged on. And I agree with many of the women who say that recovery is a lot more painful then child birth. Best of luck to you and don't get to stressed out about it...it will come natural. Wishing you a healthy, happy labor and baby!

Tiffany - posted on 04/30/2009

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Like everyone has already said, every birth is different. My first was 5 days overdue and they induced me because I started bleeding (I know that having sex caused it but they didn't want to risk it). They started pitocen at 8am. After a few of those contractions and I opted to get the epidural. I started pushing around 2pm and he was born at 2:29pm... I had asked them to turn the epidural off when I was fully dilated but not quite ready to push so that I could feel the sensation... and it wore off very quickly. It hurt, and the pushing seemed to last forever, but as soon as I held my lil man, all that went out the window and no longer mattered. The after wasn't as bad as I was expecting. I was a little sore for a day or two, and wore ice packs for about 3 days, but I thought I was gona be sitting on donuts for a week... and it wasn't nearly that bad

With baby 2, I have no clue when I really started contracting, but I was 3 days overdue and if it hadn't been for my best friend dragging me to the hospital, she may have been delivering him... I really didn't think I was in labor. The contractions hurt, but not near as bad as I thought they should (the only ones I had ever felt were with pitocin) so I didn't think anything of it. When I got to the hospital I was 7cm and fully efaced... so when they broke my water, I just opted for the epidural again since I had it with the first... well, I wish I wouldn't have done it that time. my labor slowed a little and I was 8cm for 2 hours until they finally sat me up... once I was sitting up, it took about 30 minutes before it was time to push... during this time they gave me demerol because I had a dead spot right in the center and the baby kept moving through the contractions and it hurt... well... needless to say, I felt absolutely nothing when he came out... 2 pushes and the doctor almost dropped him because he literally came flying out and she wasn't expecting it... kinda funny... my husband and best friend said it was definitely a different experience for them because it looked like I was attempting to go for a long pass or something... haha...

but the advice I would give is this: think about how you would like your labor to go, but expect that it won't go exactly the way you think it should... try to decide now if you want to try drug free or just go ahead and get meds... and if u decide for no meds and change ur mind during, there is nothing wrong with that, thats what they were intended for... also... have your own pain management ideas... things that you know can help u through the pain... that way if u get the epidural and get a dead spot as some women do, u have another source of pain management... but just remember... this has been done for YEARS... it is an amazing experience and it doesn't last forever... I wish u a very happy and healthy labor and baby...

Megan - posted on 04/30/2009

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FANTASTIC! i got an epidural didn't feel a thing and had a beautiful baby girl i would do it a hundred more times.. it's only a temporary state in which you get a spectacular reward!!

Gina - posted on 04/30/2009

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Not as bad as you think, actually. I compare the contractions to strong cramps. The birth might make you tear up, but you'll feel a sense of relief as soon as you deliver. The worse part is the few weeks after. Be sure to get EXTRA ice packs to take home, as well as numbing spray.

Olivia - posted on 04/30/2009

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From 6:30am to 6:30pm i was induced and had already given birth. I didnt have to deal with any pain [i went with the epidural of course] the worse part would probably be the end when she was coming out and i could feel the pressure. but then again she was 11 days over due, had a bowel movement and we had to wait for a special nurse to be found before i could make my final push =[ but to be honest with you i would have a baby everyday for the rest of my life as long as it went as well as it did the first time =]

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2009

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I have to say I really enjoyed my labor. My water broke at home, and then I went to the hospital after I went out for breakfast, I still wasn't having any contractions. The only part that was bad (which wasn't too bad) was that they had to start me on a pitocin drip to help induce contractions. I wanted to have a drug free labor but I ended up having back labor so I ended up getting an epidural. The only part that was hard is with having an epidural it is hard to figure out how to push...as you can't feel anything. So from the time that my water broke to the time I delivered it was 14 hrs. Major contractions though were only for 5hrs, and I only pushed for 40 mins

Lisa - posted on 04/29/2009

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It is a completly diffrent kind of pain! Its very satisfiying. Dont worry about it it is not really something you can avoid. I had a very complicated labor and i would do it again! You wont really remember, your baby wil be to special to even thing about the labor :) Good Luck!

Karen - posted on 04/29/2009

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go on youtube look up ecstatic birth. i had home water birth and it was great. there is a great loss of sensation in the vagina when it is underwater! i wish i had known about ecstatic birth. also look up christian northrup she is an obgyn who talks about ecstatic birth. also think about how animals give birth, very peaceful, no fear. it is our fear that gives us resistance which gives us pain.

Catrin - posted on 04/29/2009

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Hi,i have 3 Daughter (25,22,and 12),with my first baby,nobody tld me anything all i got was:its not that bad.The advice I can give ,having also been at the birth when my 2 grandsons were born,is (I have tld my daughter this trick,and it has worked for her),have either a damp flannel or sponge with you to squeeze,and keep on telling you that the pain is going to get worse,and then b4 you know it your baby is born! It is very painful,ye,but you cnt really compare to any other pain.Once the baby is in your arms ,the pain is just a memory! Everybodys perception is so different,but if you know it is going to be worth it, then no amount of pain is to much!! How far are u gone?

Catrin x

Angie - posted on 04/29/2009

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My labors weren't bad. First let me say that I'm the worlds biggest wimp - I have a very low threshold of pain. I had all three of my children without pain meds. I pushed for 3 hours with #1, and hour with #2, and a push and half with #3. I took very good care of myself and my baby during pregnancy so delivery was easier. My recovery time was very short - I was sore for a day or two and back into my jeans within a week with all three babies. I can't imagine not being able to feel every aspect of childbirth. I trusted my body to do what it needed to do, I didn't try to control anything and labor, delivery, and healing was great..........

Courtney - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Monica:

i'm still sad about how it went for because i so enjoyed being pregnant and so wanted a natural birth, i wanted everything to be just perfect i even flew hone at 38 weeks to a private clinic then after 24 hours labour i endend up having an epidural and a cesarian, i feel i didn't give birth but simply was operated on, i feel robbed of an experience i've always dreamt about, i know it sounds crazy to most women but i really needed to go through it all, never mind, maybe next time, don't get me wrong i love my 9 month old baby girl more than anything in this world. hope you have a wonderful experience though and enjoy every moment of it. best of luck.



As a women pregnancy and labor are a right of passage.  I know how blessed I am to have 3 beautiful children.  I know there are women out there who can't get pregnant so, I need to count my blessings, but I understand just what you are saying Monica.  With my first child I was so excited and scared of the inpending labor.  I took all the classes and made the big birthing plan.  Then after being 2weeks late and no signs of labor I had a sono to see what was up.  My baby was so big that he couldn't drop and induce labor.  The Dr. said even if he induced labor that the baby was so big I'd never be able to deliver him.  I was so upset.  I felt robbed.  I felt like a failure. Like I wasn't a real women.  The Dr was right to say that the saftey of the baby and myself was the most inportant issue, but I felt so sad to loose out on that expierence.  Well, my 11lb baby is now a humungus 13year old defensive lineman, healthy and happy. Every women's expierence is her own. Healthy happy babies and moms r the inportant part.  I had 2 more big babies, I continued to push for a natural deliverys, but they were just to big for me to deliver.  All these years later I have come to terms with it all. Good luck with your family.

Tamara - posted on 04/28/2009

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The first time was really painful and the worst pain ever but after the Epidoral things were great!! But the 2nd time I didnt know I was in lador and was 8 1/2 cm... LOL had no med at all with the 2nd and it was so easy!!

Ava - posted on 04/28/2009

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I was really scared about the whole process, but it wasn't bad. I couldn't wait to hold her. they took her first, though and cleaned her off, but I would have taken her without them having cleaned her at all. She was (and still is) absolutely perfect. The biggest stress I dealt with was trying to learn how to feed and diaper her- she was so tiny, and seemed so fragile... They have lactation nurses at the hospital, and they tried, but kept on getting frustrated with me, which made it all the more challenging for me.

I had an epidural, so overall, nothing significant in terms of pain. Some soreness afterwards because I was cut (and I watched it- you don't need to "feel" pain, if you see the doctor using the scissors "down there"). The worst part of the whole process for me was letting my milk dry up. OUCH. The best way I can think to describe the pain is if you were to imagine stretching your skin over a pile of rocks. My husband and my first date after my daughter was born was at a movie... a double feature. I didn't make it halfway through the first one before I was crying. Then it's straight into the warm bath... the only (even slight) relief.

Mel - posted on 04/28/2009

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I ttotally agree with Joy i only have one so far but natural was the way to go for me. yeah it hurt like hell and a few times during the pushing i did say "i cant do this anymore". feeling the stinging when u tear is not very fun but for me much like Joy the pain afterwards was worse. everytime i tell this to people they seem shocked but compared to the pain afterwards giving birth was nothing. I had the ice packs, the ultrasound with the machine down there to attempt to reduce swelling and i took anti infammatories and pain killers on the dot for at least 2 weeks. i could not walk around or sit up to breast feed and after sex for the next for months i had to take strong pain killers. AND THIS IS AFTER ONLY A 6 POUND BABY!

Im trying got baby number 2 and hoping the next one is no bigger after the problems i had with healing for the first one. 3 courses of anti biotics didnt work so i had to go to physio to get checked out after about 4 months.

Rachael - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Joy:

Every birth experience is different and I'm sure you'll get a LOT of different feedback on this. For me, to put it simply, my birth experience wasn't nearly as scary or painful as I thought it would be. For me, a drug free delivery was the way to go. But other moms I know have used epidurals & pain meds and that's what worked for them. For me, the after part is what was more of a "pain" than anything. No one ever told me that I would bleed so bad after and for so long. It was like being on the worst, heaviest period EVER for about 6 weeks after birth. Other than my body just being sore all over, it wasn't so bad. When are you due?



she's right! everyone has a different experience. even every birth YOU have may be different! With my first i was in labour seven hours my second fourteen hours and my third two hours!  I had some IV pain meds witht the first two and nothing with the third. It was AWESOME! you feel so much better in the aftermath if you can think straight and feel your body! I will never have pain meds again for labour! I was up, showered, dressed with my hair and makeup done an hour after giving birth to my third. (the nurse wasn't sure I was really the mom!)  hope your birthing goes smoothly!

Jenifer - posted on 04/28/2009

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I've had four children all natural (as if there's an un-natural) child births, the first one was hardest even though she was the smallest. All the rest were fairly easy as I suppose my body got use to it. It hurts alot, and it's pretty boring most of the time, only the end is exciting. It depends on alot of factors, how long your in labour, if you get an epidural etc..I chose to not have drugs with the last three and to have the legal limit with the first one. It does hurt quite a bit, but it doesn't take long with your baby until the memory fades. My first one was a very long labour so by the end I was exausted. I recomend waiting to go to hospital as long as you can because your more comfortable in your own home if you want to get on your hands and knees your not as self consious, If you want to lean over your bed etc...Once your in hospital your hooked up to the baby monitor and your fairly limited as to how much you can move. I will tell yo a little trick I learned from a seasoned labour ward nurse, when I was in labour with the first two children my blood pressure rose to an alarming rate, and they gave me drugs to bring it down (except with the second one I gave birth before they got it to me), I found out if I just rolled onto my other side my blood pressure went down and I didn't need anything. Hope that helps, just remember it's so worth it in the end! It's only a few hours and it's over. The less they cut on you, the quicker the pain goes away, but that's a duh. If there is something you enjoy doing reading, knitting what ever take it with you to the hospital just watching the baby monitor gets old. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 04/28/2009

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I had twins two years ago. It all happened so fast. I had them both naturally and no.... not by choice. Water broke at 2 am and they were here at 730 and 745 am. 3 and 4 lbs. I was in lots of pain, but the adrenaline kicks in and it is all worth it.

Trina - posted on 04/28/2009

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wow! there have been some pretty "easy" labours described! I would say that I'm envious, but I've had both an easy labour and an extremely difficult labour. My labour with my daughter was awful. 56 hours from the first "real" doubled over in pain, contraction until delivery. My contractions started on a Wednesday morning and continued until around midnight when I went into the hospital. They checked me out, but were really busy, said that I was in early labour, gave me an atavan and sent me home. Contractions continued all night and all the next day, but never really got predictable so again, I waited until around 10pm to go back. Again, they gave me an atavan and sent me home. I went home, made a sandwich, lied down and my water broke, so back to the hospital we went where they admitted me. This was Thursday night/Friday morning. My labour continued throughout the night, and all the next day. I threw up continuously and no amount of pain medication helped. I had gas, demerol, morphine and finally an epidural. Even the epidural didn't work because they put it on a broken machine that wasn't feeding continuously, so it wore off while I was still labouring. By the time the got it fixed, only half of me re-froze so I felt every single contraction on only my left side - very strange feeling btw. I pushed for 2 hours before my little girl came into the world at 8pm on Friday night. My contractions never increased or decreased in intensity - each one felt like my insides were being torn apart right from the first one. The recovery was hell - I had 5 stitches that burned every time I went pee and the afterpains were almost as bad as the contractions.

With my son however, I would have a MILLION labours like his! 8 hours start to finish and relatively mild contractions. By the time I got to the hospital, I was already 4cm dilated, and they broke my water to speed it along. I wanted to skip the narcotics and stuck with gas until the contractions started reminding me of my daughters birth and got an epidural around 11am and he was born at 4pm after 20 minutes of pushing. Easy peasy! as my daughter would say! hahaha

They afterpains were still bad though, bad enough to make me cry every time I fed my son, but I didn't have any stitches with him, so I had no burning or anything while going to the bathroom.

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2009

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i was induced at 39 wks and it was the worst experience. my contractions started 10 hrs after i was induced. i was in labour for 12 1/2 hrs and i was sick the entire time. they tried breaking my water 3 times and finally the 3rd time it broke. after they broke my water i was given the epidural and i gave birth 4 hrs after. i had to push for an hr then i was told i had to stop and hold him in for an hr. so i had to lie there with the feeling of wanting to push buti wasnt allowed. it was the most horrible feeling. after the hr i was allowed to push again and within 20 minutes he was out. the dr wasnt in the room (she was a res and they couldnt find her anywhere) so i tore really bad. it took them an hr to stitch me. i didnt even get to see my baby for an hr, they took him away from me right away because of how bad i was. my epidural ran out so they tried freezing me 5 times but it never took, so needless to say i felt it all! after that the nurse told me to take a shower with the help of my sister and mother. i just about passed out in the bathroom and was still sick. so for me it wasnt a very good experience! i am due in July and really really hoping this one goes a lot better!

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Pain was manageable for me, but I didn't anticipate how long I'd be in labor. I planned a drug-free birth, but opted for the epidural eventually since I wasn't able to rest between contractions. Got a nap in after that and was really refreshed for the delivery. I didn't think recovery was all that bad really. I think I was sore for a day or so from the tearing.

Claire - posted on 04/28/2009

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Mine was a 7 hour drug free labour, very hard work but absolutely amazing. I had no tear and no stitches. I was walking around half an hour later! The bleeding afterwards is pretty yucky, but it was a great experience all up. My story however, is very different to some of my friends!

Brea - posted on 04/28/2009

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As soon as you can get an epidural.... do it because you are on the low end of the totem pole and if you change your mind later it may be to late!

Nichola - posted on 04/28/2009

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I actually loved it! I thought it was amazing...i mean yea it hurt and stuff and i was in labor for prolly about 12hours before i got an epidural but it wasnt as bad as i tought it would be and I pushed for 2 hours and even that wasnt bad...the time totally flew for me I was up and around the next day and not to sore...plus i had no stiches! so i loved it!!!

Tara - posted on 04/28/2009

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Mine was not too bad, I got an epidural about 4 hours in, and had her 10 hours after that, so it was the recovery after that was worst for me. Just really achy, and it did sting a little for a couple of days after the birth when I went pee. I think it's different for everyone. My mother-in-law said her longest labor, including delivery, was 4 hours, and that she felt okay after that. I think most women find that the recovery after is harder than the actual labor :D

Kate CP - posted on 04/28/2009

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Well, it hurt...but I loved giving birth. I can't wait to do it again. And yes, I had a pain medication free delivery. Had to have pitocin though when the contractions had stopped over night.

Monica - posted on 04/28/2009

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i'm still sad about how it went for because i so enjoyed being pregnant and so wanted a natural birth, i wanted everything to be just perfect i even flew hone at 38 weeks to a private clinic then after 24 hours labour i endend up having an epidural and a cesarian, i feel i didn't give birth but simply was operated on, i feel robbed of an experience i've always dreamt about, i know it sounds crazy to most women but i really needed to go through it all, never mind, maybe next time, don't get me wrong i love my 9 month old baby girl more than anything in this world. hope you have a wonderful experience though and enjoy every moment of it. best of luck.

Lacey - posted on 04/28/2009

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first time was miserable i pushed for two hours straight after 18 hours of labor and couldn't even feed myself the next day ad almost had to have a c section. other two was over in a couple of hours from first contraction. 100% natural in these cases no pain killers at all. however the days following labor were miserably painful still no painkillers because i breast fed all three.

Tiffani - posted on 04/28/2009

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my contractions were super mild. i have felt more pain with gas or menstral cramps. I planned on having an epidural but found I didn't need it at all. It was also only an hour and twenty-five minutes from my water breaking until I was holding my baby. Heck I could have popped her out in half that time if a hospital and midwife weren't in my "birth plan" Getting the IV put in hurt more...but that was kind of circus in its self. Heck the IV may have taken longer too. Don't worry a bit, everyone is different and everything will be alright.

Hayley - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

The labour was nothing, all three of mine easy and no help at all with the third, the midwife just watched. Let your body relax and breath. But after pains r the worst...make sure you have support after and plenty of pain killers.


the after pains definitely are the worst especially if your breastfeeding the cramps you get are awful! but they only last a few days to a week. peeing is also sore but that eases off very quickly :)

Hayley - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

The labour was nothing, all three of mine easy and no help at all with the third, the midwife just watched. Let your body relax and breath. But after pains r the worst...make sure you have support after and plenty of pain killers.


the after pains definitely are the worst especially if your breastfeeding the cramps you get are awful! but they only last a few days to a week. peeing is also sore but that eases off very quickly :)

Hayley - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

The labour was nothing, all three of mine easy and no help at all with the third, the midwife just watched. Let your body relax and breath. But after pains r the worst...make sure you have support after and plenty of pain killers.


the after pains definitely are the worst especially if your breastfeeding the cramps you get are awful! but they only last a few days to a week. peeing is also sore but that eases off very quickly :)

Hayley - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

The labour was nothing, all three of mine easy and no help at all with the third, the midwife just watched. Let your body relax and breath. But after pains r the worst...make sure you have support after and plenty of pain killers.


the after pains definitely are the worst especially if your breastfeeding the cramps you get are awful! but they only last a few days to a week. peeing is also sore but that eases off very quickly :)

Kerri - posted on 04/28/2009

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The labour was nothing, all three of mine easy and no help at all with the third, the midwife just watched. Let your body relax and breath. But after pains r the worst...make sure you have support after and plenty of pain killers.

Hayley - posted on 04/28/2009

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i had both my babies without any drugs or gas or epidurals and the pain really is terrible at the time especially the head coming out cos that pain seems to last forever as everything is so stretched down there! but as soon as you hold your baby you dont even remember the pain you were just in! it sounds weird but its true the pain is instantly gone!

Stephanie - posted on 04/28/2009

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I had an epidural so I don't think the labor part was painful at all. AFTERWARDS though was pretty painful for awhile. Then again we moved to a different city 2 days after I was released from the hospital. That may have slowed the healing down.

Alexandria - posted on 04/28/2009

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After I choose the epidural about 3 hrs into labor - Awesome!! Afterwards only a little sore. Before labor I was all about natural birth. After 3 hrs labor, my mind quickly changed. I had a great Dr too that I discussed options with. I believe that we are lucky today to have dr's & medicine so why not use it. If I have another baby, I'm doing the epidural again :)

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Quoting Joy:

Every birth experience is different and I'm sure you'll get a LOT of different feedback on this. For me, to put it simply, my birth experience wasn't nearly as scary or painful as I thought it would be. For me, a drug free delivery was the way to go. But other moms I know have used epidurals & pain meds and that's what worked for them. For me, the after part is what was more of a "pain" than anything. No one ever told me that I would bleed so bad after and for so long. It was like being on the worst, heaviest period EVER for about 6 weeks after birth. Other than my body just being sore all over, it wasn't so bad. When are you due?






Much kudos to you for not having pain meds. How long was your labor. I got some iv med that began with an E but i think it made it worse because it made me sleep inbetween contractions so to me when i woke up having a contraction it felt like i was having one really bad contraction for hours, when they checked me the second time and i wanted an epidural it was 2 late. Next time I'm not getting any IV meds, if i get any it will be the epidural from the beginning.





From the time my water broke until he was here it was almost 6 hours.  It's such a different experience for everyone though.  For me, labor was bad but in a hazy sort of way.  Like I don't remember the pain now...or much of labor...my husband has to tell me the story of our son's birth sometimes because I like hearing the whole thing.  In my memory there are lots of holes...stuff in between that I don't remember.  I think it's the brain's way of blocking out the pain.  I think that next time if you decide to go drug free, there are exercises you can do before labor to help ease the pain.  Then during, for me, rocking on the birthing ball and humming worked....a low, long hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm and squatting on the ball.  And the shower was nice too.

Brittany - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Joy:

Every birth experience is different and I'm sure you'll get a LOT of different feedback on this. For me, to put it simply, my birth experience wasn't nearly as scary or painful as I thought it would be. For me, a drug free delivery was the way to go. But other moms I know have used epidurals & pain meds and that's what worked for them. For me, the after part is what was more of a "pain" than anything. No one ever told me that I would bleed so bad after and for so long. It was like being on the worst, heaviest period EVER for about 6 weeks after birth. Other than my body just being sore all over, it wasn't so bad. When are you due?



Much kudos to you for not having pain meds. How long was your labor. I got some iv med that began with an E but i think it made it worse because it made me sleep inbetween contractions so to me when i woke up having a contraction it felt like i was having one really bad contraction for hours, when they checked me the second time and i wanted an epidural it was 2 late. Next time I'm not getting any IV meds, if i get any it will be the epidural from the beginning.

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