Huge Bad Mommy Moment:

Tandi - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Friday I was rushing like a mad woman to get the house cleaned because my cousins, that i havent seen in 3 years, were randomly coming in town (to my place) to say good bye. They were moving out east! And I had to go to my friends farwell because hse was also moving out east.



So I figured that I would be a super mom and clean the house while I got ready for both events and take care of Elizabeth. Well anyway I was rushing up the stairs with a load of laundry, and I could have sworn that I had kicked the door closed behind me. I mean I always do, why would this time be any diffrent?



Well little DD, who can walk along walls now, was in the hall. I passed her and thought nothing of it. she always does this, and comes to what ever room I am in. When I heard her get far away, I called out to her as I was folding clothes. Instead of a reply I heard the horrible, sickening, sound of a little body falling... and hitting each step on the way down.



I ran as fast as I could, though it felt like I was running through 3 feet of mud. When I got there, I was thinking why is this door open? Then to my horror I saw my poor little girl lying there on the floor. It didnt look real, and for some stupid reason, I just stared for a second (but it feels like forever when I think back) and was like 'wait, what is happening here?' (ugh so stupid!!) when my mind caught up with me I scooped her up as I was screaming, then she started screaming. I was releaved to know at least she is alive.



I took her to the bedroom and shakily tried to put my first-aid and c.p.r. level c training to work, and she seemed ok, but to be sure I took her to the hospital they ran like every test there, and we were seen by so many doctors becasue we were there through 3 shift changes! but in the end and aside from some bumps and bruises she was fine, just the slightest concunsion.

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Ashley - posted on 08/24/2009

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you can't always keep an eye on your child it's good that she was ok but accidents happen.

Tandi - posted on 08/21/2009

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Thank you all for your very kind and heart warming responces, it feels better to know that i am not the only one out there who's child got an injury lol, i knew that but you get what i mean.

Chemane - posted on 08/20/2009

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As odd as this is going to sound, your bad mommy moment has made me feel better about alot of things, most of which is centered around my worry that anything I accidently do, like losing my grip on my son when he is less than an inch off the floor, and his head hits the carpet is going to cripple my child for life. I am glad your daughter is fine and came away with minor injuries, and no you weren't being stupid when you saw your baby on the floor. You had gone into an inactive shock pattern, that does not allow a person to respond to the emergency in front of them, kind of like pressing the pause button on the DVR. Luckily you came out of it very quickly, some people do not. Though this is no comparison, I did that once when I was first married nine years ago. I was cooking and started a fire, and I just stared at it for a few minutes, letting it burn higher, and higher until I snapped out of it, stopped myself from putting water on it, grabbed a jar of flour and a lid and put the thing out. And my guess is, when you saw your little girl on the floor like that, part of your brain was trying to determine if one, she was alive and two if she was safe to pick up. Don't kick yourself for not reacting, if she had a neck injury, this whole thing could have ended alot worse.

You are a very good mommy. Pat yourself on the back.

Julie - posted on 08/19/2009

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I had the same thing happen to me just a couple of weeks ago. My 11 month old fell down our stairs because I forgot to shut the gate. It is the worst feeling in the world. Thank goodness he was ok, too. Their little bodies are really able to take a tumble! I know what you are going through!

Nicole - posted on 08/19/2009

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Last week I sat my 8 month old in the rocking chair and bent down to get some books from behind the rocking chair. I stood back up just in time to watch him fall out, face first! His cheek caught the foot stool and I heard that THUD as he hit the floor. Luckily we have carpet and the foot stool kinda broke his fall so he didn't hit his head. Other than a little scratch on his cheek and having the bejesus scared out of him he was fine. I think it scared him more than anything. I still felt so bad though! Things like this happen, live and learn. What doesn't kill them will make them stronger. Kids are surprisingly durable!

Samantha - posted on 08/19/2009

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It can happen to the best moms. My niece also fell down the stairs, concrete stairs too. As horrible & scary as it is, little ones are quite resilient, thankfully.

Karen - posted on 08/18/2009

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When my grandson was a month old, his mom and I got all the kids together (she's my step daughter... her kids are just a few years younger than mine) to make Christmas ornaments. He fell asleep while my oldest (11 then) was feeding him so she put him in his carseat and sat it in the kitchen next to us, on the floor. When my step daughter got ready to leave, she picked up the carseat not realizeing he hadn't been buckled in and went to set it on the table... she cought the end of the table with the side of the carseat, it flipped, and he went flying out of it and rolled across the hard wood floor.

These things happen!!!!

He was fine... we did call an ambulance to be on the safe side... they took him in then transfered him to a childrens hospital and kept him overnight to be safe.

Lydia - posted on 08/18/2009

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Bah - accidents happen. Always have, always will. Fortunately your daughter is fine. So were we after we fell down the stairs (actually after the first time we decided it was fun and threw ourselves down them at every opportunity so there are always mums who have their challenges) and so is my daughter who threw herself face-first off my bed 2 days ago. We are human, they are human so dont beat yourself up about it just try and calm the nerves coz youll need them again at some point in the future :)

Stina - posted on 08/18/2009

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Oh. I remembered another one. When my son was still a baby, I was having an infuriatingly frustrating day and went into my bedroom and SLAMMED the door shut behind me so hard it got jammed. I could not open it. Thankfully, I had my son with me in my arms (it was not him I was frustrated with) So there we were in my bedroom with no food, no diapers... just some little swimmers diapers and thankfully my breastmilk. We were stuck there until my mom happened to decide to pay me a visit and was able to break me out.



- Once I also locked myself out of my apartment while my babies (11m and 3 yrs) were inside. I was going to change the laundry over in the laundry room- locked and shut the door behind me before realizing that I didn't have the keys on me to unlock the door. To make matters worse, I was the apartment manager so the only one who had a spare key to my apartment aside from my husband who was at work, was me. All my windows were locked- I even got a ladder and climbed up onto the balcony to find that my screen door was also locked as a prevention to keep my son from opening the door and falling off the balcony. In the end, my upstairs neighbor jimmied my lock before either of the babies woke up. So so embarrasing.

Stina - posted on 08/18/2009

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1. My husband was hoisting dd up onto his shoulders when she was just about 18 months old. We had an ceiling fan and he had not been aware that it was on. He was standing right underneath it and it cracked her on the head. He felt horrible. I drove her to the nearest ER and after and hour and a half of waiting to be seen and her walking around, talking, doing all her usual things, I took her home.



2. I was at the park with my 2yo dd and 4yo son. Because I was quite pregnant, I had stopped lifting her into those baby swings but rather helped her onto the big kid swings since she had very good balance and held on quite well. As I was pushing her, I pushed the swing seat instead of her and the seat went out from underneath her as she fell flat on her back on the gravel below. I felt horrible but she got right up and wanted to get back on the swing being the tough cookie she is.



Then, same day, same park, she was going down the slide and FLIPPED over the side of it halfway down. I was horrified to see her fall down on her side and was certain she would have broken something. She was fine, but I still felt horrible.



3. For the longest time, we had been letting our kids climb up ontop of the toilet seat to get to their toothbrushes in the cabinet over the toilet. Then, one night I came home from work and my husband told me, Jonathan had fallen and hit his mouth very badly. (he probably should have called me at work to come home) The next morning when I saw him, fat lips and two front teeth loose and darkening. I called the dentist pronto. James, my DH felt just awful. Took my son into the dentist where they looked at him and said that if they didn't tighten up in a week, it would probably be better to take them out since they were his baby teeth... Well, a week later, we went back, they hadn't tightened up and one had turned gray. 5 years old and he'll be singing about wanting two front teeth for Christmas for the next couple years. My poor boy.



The toothbrushes are no longer in the cabinet over the toilet but on the counter next to the sink (I hate lots of things on my bathroom counters) They are no longer allowed to climb up on the toilet- but I feel bad that we ever even allowed it- seems like such a no brainer.

Jennifer - posted on 08/18/2009

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I was at work one day and I went on break. I called my house phone to talk to hubby and see how the kids were. There was no anwser. This worried me bcause he is always home when I am at work. So I called his cell phone and he told me he was at the Hospital. I immeditaley started panicing, started screaming at him as to why he didn't come and get me. why was he there. While my husband was cleaning the house my youngest son got a hold of one of those oil candles, and chewed on it. My husband immeditaley called poison control and they told him to try and make him puke it up and get him to the hospital. I had a friend from work drive me to the hospital. When I got there they were still in the er, there I seen my poor little boy on the bed moaning in his sleep. I felt hopeless and my husband just started crying. I stayed with my son over night cause when he puked it up some of the fumes went into his lungs and they had to make sure he was ok. Luckily he was. No one is perfect, kids will get into anything they can get into. To this day my youngest still tries to put everything in his mouth. I have to keep a constant eye on him to make sure whatever room he is in there is nothing he can put in his mouth or choke on.

Candice - posted on 08/17/2009

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i was setting up the playpen in the bedroom (so my daughter would have a SAFE place to play)...turned my back and she crawled off the end of the bed. talk about a stupid moment! thinking of her safety and leave her on the bed.



luckily, babies bounce. i swear their heads are made of solid rock. thank god.



as my mom friend said to me when i was racked with guilt: it's the first of many falls. kids explore...and get hurt in the process. if we keep them from exploring, they lose out on the learning. things happen...we aren't perfect.

Cheryl - posted on 08/17/2009

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My heart broke for you.... Try to remember one thing we as parents are not super human or wonder woman mistakes will be made love them

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I'm glad to hear your both ok! Somehow, writing about it can make it seem better. Your a good mom!

Neetu - posted on 08/17/2009

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u r a brave mom,certain things r just out of control,i just want 2 say that withkids around it is impossible 2 do things perfectly.

Jeanne - posted on 08/17/2009

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Welcome to the human race. We aren't all perfect and we make mistakes. I saw my nephews hand burned cause my sister in law was holding him in her arms while trying to ladle soup wit hthe other hand and he grabbed the ladle. Another nephew almost drowned at the beach and he was surrounded by six adults (all related to him) at the time because high tide had come in and didn't see the whole that had been dug in the sand and he fell into it and wen't under. I was folding laundry at one end of the bed and my daughter crawled right off the end and hit her head on drawer handle of the dresser (I wasn't even two feet away). She was also walking in my friends living room and tripped on an area rug fell and hit her mouth on the coffee table and split her lip open and we all watched it happen in slow low just like you did. So you have to cut yourself a break. Yes she fell and yes she was probably scared out of her wits (just like her mother)....but she is none the worse for wear. And remember this my dear, the only people who never make mistakes are those who never do anything. So you have learned that you are not "super mom" and that accidents happen quickly, be thankful that she isn't seriously injured and give her a couple of extra hugs, cuddles and kisses. And if people cannot understand that a house isn't always immaculate with a young child in it, either they have never lived it or chose not to remember it. And I think this quote will help: Those who care don't matter, and those who matter don't care.

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I got to learn my Son could start crawling when he crawled off our bed and landed on the metal scale beside it. Of course I was in the washroom at the time. I felt bad for whiping before I ran to the bedroom! He cried for a bit but I managed to calm him down. When his Dad came home I took my turn to cry about what had happened.



It happens to the best of us. They cannot live in a bubble that would mess them up more than a bump here and a bruise there.

Andrea - posted on 08/17/2009

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I know that paralyzing fear! When my son was only a couple weeks old I decided I needed a shopping spree - new clothes for both mom and baby. When I got home from the mall my son was curled in a ball in the bottom of his car seat! I had been so tired and distracted that I actually forgot to buckle him in. I almost vomitted I was so scared and a million could-haves went running through my mind. It was several minutes before I could stop shaking enough to pick him up and make sure he was OK. I used to drive fast and hard and the whole time I was thinking of all the hard turns and jerky lane changes I had made. That was over 2 years ago and I get tears in my eyes just thinking about it. The guilt never really goes away but you'll be thankful that she's OK and I promise you'll never make the same mistake again.

Erin - posted on 08/17/2009

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i reacted the same when my daughter fell off the bed at 7 months. I was on the phone with a friend, i threw the phone and freaked out. But she was okay. Just remember that everyone has accidents, it doesnt make you a bad mommy!!!

Rebecca - posted on 08/17/2009

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I too am very relieved your little girl is OK, don't beat yourself up. Accidents happen. You're not a bad Mum.

Rebecca - posted on 08/17/2009

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I know misery loves company - On fathers day we had a similar episode. My husband thought I had put up the baby gate, I thought my daughter was with him. The only difference was that I heard the first thud and my head snapped around - I knew the sound was her head against the stair. I ran through the hall and got there just in time to see her thud down the last two steps. We went immediately to the hospital as well and everything was alright but boy, my heart just split in two and we both felt like the most aweful parents ever. Luckily the doctors were so awesome and said that yes, we have to be careful, but accidents happen and most likely when she started to walk she would figure out how to get around the gate and go down the steps anyway. One even said that his daughter had done the same when she was around the same age. Somehow that made me feel better.

Lisa - posted on 08/17/2009

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I am so happy your little girl is okay. I think things like this (not exactly) happen to everyone. At least u were there to pick her up and take her to the hospital right away. My little guy (2 years) fell off of a toy her was riding (way too fast) a couple weeks ago and chipped off a good amount of one of his front teeth. I felt soooo bad!

Kids are going to fall, kids are going to get hurt...... she is lucky to have u as a mom and have u take quick action like that, I'm sure there are people out there who would have just brushed it off and not have gotten follow up care.

Kalie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Hey, doesn't it suck that the 'one' time the door doesn't close this happens? Isn't that always the way? I am so glad that she is alright. It reminded me of when my twin brothers were infants. I was 9 and we were at grandma's house and she had stairs leading downstairs. My mother called m downstairs and I forgot to close the door. My lil brother who was only crawling at the time went tumbling down the stairs in a sort of roll. It was horrble! I still feel bad about it and have a thing about kids and stairs now. Also when i was 1 my uncle who was only 3 pushed me down the stairs in my stroller. lol A beloved family story now!



You aren'[t the first and you won't be the last. Don't beat yourself up about it too much!

Kattie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Deep breath. . .she's okay. Accidents happen; it doesn't make you a bad mom. In fact, I am sure you are a more cautious mom.

Stephanie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I am so glad she is ok.Every Mom has had a moment that they wish they could take back.You may want to get a baby gate for the top and bottom of the stairs now though.You may forget it there and take a tumble with the laundry but at least your daughter will be safe whether the door is open or not.

Ashley - posted on 08/17/2009

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oh my gosh, im so sorry. I would have freaked out as well. Things happen momma, and you cant beat yourself up....i say that but i know if it was me i would be doing the same. Thank God she is okay.

Jenny - posted on 08/17/2009

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Us Mommies cant always be perfect!! What is important is that she was ok. You cant beat yourself up about it..It was an accident..and you reacted just like anyone else would have...

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