huge problem, help?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

Well, then he likes to manipulate you also. Him going off and trying to get everyone upset about him disappearing is also manipulating. Many people have a difficult time around the holidays, especially those that have mental health issues and drug problems. I am dealing with something similiar with my crazy sister. After all the years of torment with her mental health and drug abuse, I have learned there is nothing we can do for her. And we have tried everything. It is out of our hands. But we control if she sees us or the kids. I do not want her in my childrens life with her highly destructive personality. She used to be awesome, but now I fear for her. If she keeps going like this, I don't see her making it through another year. She blames everyone else for her problems, be she is the one that brings them on head on. Sounds to me like your husband is the same way. I would not want my kids growing up with such an unstable father.

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

i advised his family that he is doing poorly. so he will be ok i hope... i know if he and when he calss he is going to put it all on me and say i didnt care for him becuase i didnt call though... thank you so much. i really needed some outside unbias advise on all this

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

Sorry, but I would not be able to. I am sure you love and care for him, but I would be more concerned about my helpless children than a man that keeps making poor choices and abandoning his family. In fact, if you are married, I would be personally seeking a divorce. Non of these things may be the right thing for you personally to do, but it is what I would do in this situation.

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

am i wrong for not trying to contact him during this time?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

There is nothing you can do for him if he is not willing to help himself. Bringing him back home is just going to continue to enable his behavior. If you can help him get back into rehab or professional help, that is great. But I would not be letting him back home with my kids.

Laura - posted on 11/26/2012

Take the focus off the addict and put it on you and your kids. And what is healthy for y'all. Go to an alanon meeting. You will find non judge mental help there. And the strength to do the next right thing. And then your kids will learn how to do that too...

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

thank you. im so lost in this. i iwsh i knew more people where i live i feel so lonely during this hard time...

Michelle - posted on 11/26/2012

If he's not willing to get professional help then there's not much you can do. I have learned the hard way that if you keep trying to help people like this it's only you that ends up being hurt.



The best thing you can do is let them know that you will support them if they get the professional help they need otherwise you will be taking a huge step back because you don't need the drama in your life.

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

help?.?