I am 9 months pregnant - and about over it. Is is normal to feel frustrated with being huge?

Vicki - posted on 07/20/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I do not have any resentment toward my baby or husband - I am just feeling down because of my size - and not being able to get around very easily. Is there anyone who felt like this and how did you cope?

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Amy - posted on 07/20/2009

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It is totally normal!!! With my fist, my husband was deployed for most of my second and third trimester, when he came back (a week before my due date) i was as big as a house, couldn't sleep, was walking like a freaking walrus, and just plain gigantic. It is extremely normal to want to have your body back ASAP.
I dealt with it by poking fun at myself (my husband enjoyed chiming in too)

Ashley - posted on 07/20/2009

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i had my son 2nd son 2 wks ago and i was feeling exactly how you are! i was huge, i could barely walk, he was head down since 29 wks so i had a huge amount of pressure and was so sore i was in tears half the time. the last month all i kept thinking was i will be sooo happy when this is over. thankfully i had him 2 wks early and was so happy when i was standing in the kitchen and my water broke..lol. dont worry it'll be over before you know it and it def is all worth it once you hold your baby in your arms!

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Oh yes, many moms feel this way. At the end, it's hard to move, feet and ankles often swell, and it's just basically awkward. Don't worry though, the baby will be here soon enough and use this time to rest as much as you can. You can't prepare for the sleeplessness that follows, but if you are well rested to start, it can't hurt. I can't say there is any special way to cope, but know that you are not alone, and it will not at all impact your love for your baby once he/she arrives. :)

Savannah - posted on 07/20/2009

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Yep, sucks to feel like a whale! I'm 6 months now and already over it! lol. You're almost done. Just preparing for the baby will help keep your mind off it a little. Good luck with your little one!

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Rhonda - posted on 09/28/2011

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Yep it sucks. People bumping into me at the grocery store, struggling to get out of my car, the soreness, pure misery. This is my second, so I do have faith that it will all be over with soon. Even the late night feedings in my opionion beat feeling this miserable!

Donna - posted on 07/24/2009

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As the moher of 5: This is completely normal ! Just try to concentrate on enjoying every little kick, etc... Your little one will be here before you know it and then you will have to SHARE ! With my first child that was the hardest thing, especially with well meaning relatives wanting to take him and show him off.

Kristina - posted on 07/23/2009

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I can speak for any mother when i say YES! Your ready to get back to your normal body and being able to stand up without feeling like a huge balloon is attatched to your stomach. The best thing to do is take your time to relax. even if it's a bath in the evening or sitting down with a book. Keep your feet up and take it easy. :)

JL - posted on 07/23/2009

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You are not alone. Once I hit my 9th month in both my pregnancies I was over it. I felt frustrated, tired, irritated, uncomfortable, Huge, and ready to jump out of my own skin.

Jennifer - posted on 07/23/2009

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Most definitely! I felt so gross, clumsy & BIG! I was so ready to give birth and be done with it. Your feelings are totally normal. =) Just take lots of walks and know you're almost there.



Now for me with a 6 wk old, I'm wishing for just 1 more day in the womb, so I can take a nap. LOL! My daughter is SO worth it though! love her tons. I would do it all over again just to have her

Ashley - posted on 07/23/2009

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Yes, it is ok to feel frustrated. At this point you are really ready to meet the little person that has been sharing your body with you. It's ok. I was so ready by my 7th month that after my baby shower, I was talking to my baby saying she could come anytime because we had everything for her. It's almost over.

Laurie - posted on 07/22/2009

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Oh yeah. by the time i was 6 months pregnant i felt like an elephant and i was ready for my daughter to come out. it is totally normal. try to still be active and take it easy when needed. it wont be long before you have your baby and feeling normal again.. Good Luck with the new joy in your life.

Paige - posted on 07/20/2009

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TOTALLY NORMAL! it does take a toll on you in the end. But just think of the end product and your so close to it!

Emma - posted on 07/20/2009

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Yeah what you are feeling is completely normal. Just try to relax and let time take its course. Good luck

Abbie - posted on 07/20/2009

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OMG! I was so sick and tired of being pregnant by the time I gave birth. I am only 5'3" I was huge, because there was no room for the baby to go but out! I felt FAT & unattractive no matter what I did.



Its normal! Its YET only another reason why we have babies and not men! You're doing a fine job and are not a "wacko"!!

Christine - posted on 07/20/2009

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I will be 9 months pregnant next week and I feel the same as you do!! Its hard 2 get around as we are used to and all the night trips to the restroom prevent me from getting enough rest.Im getting a bit restless now. I rest as much as I can now and I try not 2 count the days because it only feels longer now!!! Its well worth it at the end,I cant wait 2 hold my little pride and joy!!!

Amanda - posted on 07/20/2009

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I most definitely felt like that. I felt down because of my size before my 9th month, and really the only thing that made me feel better was my husband. I told him how I was feeling and he reassured me that I was still beautiful and that all of these feelings were temporary. These feelings will disappear soon. In fact, now 3 months after I delivered, I wish I were pregnant again because I miss how it feels.
Congratulations!

Shaunte - posted on 07/20/2009

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just remember you don't have much longer to go, and I know how uncomfortable you are and your body is not going to stay that way forever, look at it like this, now you deffinently have the greatest excuse your ever have in your life time to get fat! good luch and best wishes to you and your baby.

Stevie - posted on 07/20/2009

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haha yeah the only pregnancy i had that i didnt want to end when it did was my first cuz to me it was soo short since i found out really late haha but no that is compeltly normal to feel that way by like 7 or 8 months i was ready i was doing anything to get my second out i was so big and im just a small little 5 foot 1 girl haha but yeah i know being so big and clumbsy and tired and irritated and agravated just sucks but think about it your so close to having your baby 9 months!!! you could go into labor any min or day, congrats hon only a few more moments left to put up with and enjoy at the same time it will be over soon eat some spicey food hopefully that helps you lol good luck

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I'm working on 8 months and tired of it! This time last baby I wasn't working and this time I still have til the middle of next month :( IT SUCKS! The only thing that will make it better is to have the baby!!! All you can do until then is try to get through it the best you can. Some of these ladies have some good suggestions!

Timbrel - posted on 07/20/2009

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oh from my experience...it is totally normal...i loved feeling my baby inside me...the kicks and hiccups and just knowing she was growing off my nourishment to her...but omg i hated being big!!! i was tiny before...130lbs. a size 3...and after i was 170lbs and a size 9. i have lost 20 lbs but i still feel huge...and the fact that im breastfeeding makes it so hard to lose weight seeing as i have to intake 500 more calories per day to produce the milk for my little one.

Keisha - posted on 07/20/2009

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I felt that way with all 3 of my kids. After I got to that point I would just count down week by week and try my best to enjoy the other things in life that I liked because once this baby comes your most likely going to be way to tired from all those "all night" feedings and diaper changes to do it after the baby is here. Relax and have what fun you still can.

Becky - posted on 07/20/2009

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Oh you are not the only one honey, with my first i went over by two weeks, i suffered from insomnia from two weeks prior to the due date. I was desperate!
I went two weeks over with my son as well and i was twice the size with him..........didn't have a chance to dwell on it as was too busy trying to have a natural labour rather than be induced as i was with my daughter!

I think that a lot of mums feel like that i think it is finally near the time to meet your baby and you just can't wait! Your feet hurt, you can't sleep comfortably (if your baby is anything like my two then your baby likes to be soo active at bed time!).

Nohting i wore was comfortable, my feet just hurt!

I was very open with my husband - hey if i am going to feel like this he is going to know i am lol - he was wonderful and really tried to find things to help me.

You are in your last few days and your little one will be here soon. Is there anything that you could do that would make you feel better? I tried a few things such as girls nights in with some dvd's etc and just had a natter. I organised the babies things - more than once! I also took myself for a hair cut (which was hard as i could not drive towards the end) and just tried lots of little indulgencies including asking my husband to do the house work!

Hope your little one arrives soon xx

Rose - posted on 07/20/2009

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Oh my goodness YES!!!!! I think you would be the exception to the rule if you didn't feel frustrated ad miserable! That's what makes me ready, willing, and even anxious to go through the pain of labor and birth :)

Glenell - posted on 07/20/2009

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Yes. Just remember it is all worth it when you hold your child. I gained 17 pounds with my son and 15 with my daughter.

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You are totally normal as far as I'm concerned. I was not a big fan of being pregnant in the first place, then when I got big as a house I was OVER IT. There's not a whole lot you can do but grin and bear it. It will be over soon. Try to stay active so you don't pack on extra weight and to keep your strength up for labor. Don't give in to sitting on the couch eating all day because you feel like crap. Sadly, I did that with my last pregnancy and I still have the extra pounds to show for it. sigh. Good luck! Soon this will all be a vague memory. No, really.

TABATHA - posted on 07/20/2009

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IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO BE FRUSTRATED WITH ANYTHING OR ANYBODY. IT DOESNT MEAN YOU HAVE RESENTMENT IT JUST MEANS THAT YOUR BODY IS DOING SOMETHING ITS NOT USE TO. I FELT THE SAME WAY WITH BOTH OF MY KIDS. I AM INDEPENDENT AND HATED ASKING FOR HELP AND I AM GUESSING YOU ARE THE SAME AND THAT IS YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM, NOT YOUR SIZE. WE HAVE TO LEARN TO ASK FOR HELP SOMETIMES I GUESS.

Vicki - posted on 07/20/2009

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Thank you for the kind words. I wish you all of the luck in the world and a fast recovery!

User - posted on 07/20/2009

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It is ABSOLUTELY NORMAL to feel the way you do at the end of a pregnancy - you are just tired of being big, bumping into everything and everyone with a belly that seems to go on forever - not to mention the backaches and difficulty finding a comfortable position to sleep in!



How do you cope? You just do - you're almost to the end of this adventure - so hang in there! Just remember that you WILL get smaller after the baby is born and you won't spend the rest of your life feeling like an elephant!



P.S. Don't take your pre-pregnancy clothes to the hospital - you won't fit into them anyway! After your baby is born, you still have a lot of fluid to lose and your uterus has to shrink back to it's previous size, so just take something comfortable. You'll start to notice a large difference in your size in a few weeks!

Melissa - posted on 07/20/2009

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Im right there with you. This is our 2nd baby and im sooooo ready to be done its crazy. Luckily i FINALLY get induced 2moro morning. What you are feeling is totally normal. Just remember once you hold that lil bundle of joy it will all be worth it. I PROMISE! You will be glad that you struggled thru it all. God Bless and good Luck!

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