AnnMarie - posted on 11/03/2009 ( 67 moms have responded )
I found out i was pregnant last year around this time. David (the dad) and i weren't really together. infact, we didn't get together until christmas eve. it was a complete shock for us. i took 5 pregnancy tests just to make sure i wasn't dreaming. i grew up in a christian household and went to a christian school. telling my mom was not an easy task. she actually told me to think about adoption so my child could be raised in a complete household. well, after david and i decided to get together, we decided to move in together which like to kill my mom. we thought that would be best. i want to get married to him and have another child with him one day. david on the other hand has a different story. he has gone back and forth 3 times on marriage. saying that he isn't sure about our future, meaning marriage. he doesn't know if he ever wants to take that step with me or with anyone, but wants to be together right now. it really hurts to know that the person i want to be with doesnt' know if he wants to be with me forever.
any suggestions on what i should do? i thought about moving out and back with my parents...but i love david and i want him to be in aaron's life. but what do i do about the marriage thing? even though i got pregnant before marriage, church is important to me. i tried to join a church but can't until i either get married or move out. this is so embarrassing. but i need others on the outside opinions.
i love my son and woudlnt' trade the past year for anything. i just don't want him to get used to us being together as a famliy with david still being wishy washy. i told him that if he hadn't made up his mind by feb then i was moving home but he has already told me he needs more time. am i over reacting? i mean we will only be together for a year come christmas...i guess my thing is pressure from my mom...i guess somewhere in my head i figured since we are having a child we should get married...but that is def not the case. any opinions and advice is welcome!