I Am A Single Mom At Age 36 Who Only Had One Child Who Is Now 18 Years Of Age. I Desire To Have...

Amy - posted on 03/28/2009

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I am a 37 year old mother to a 21 month old, currently 7 months pregnant with my second. So, no, I don't feel I am too old. Having a child is a very personal decision, no matter what opinions others may have. Do what is in your heart....there must be a reason why this is on your mind!

Gina - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hi bridget my names gina, like you i always wanted another child, i fell pregnant last year unexpectadly at the age of 44, i was over the moon, i had all my test for downs etc, certain members of my family tried to talk into an abortion, for me that was never an option, do what you want to do, for you, you are never to old, and say to those who say different, its not you bringing up my new baby, it's me, Tell people to mind there buisness if they have nothing good to say, you have plenty of love to give, and why shouldnt you want another child now your eldest is grown up. As for me i lost a baby he was stillborn, before i had my son who is now 15, Then on 30th Nov 08 i had a beautiful baby boy born at 26wks, sadly he passed away after 2days, i had servere pre eclampsia, we both could have lost our life, but i will try again, it has not put me off, i just have to find a man, failing that i am looking at sperm donation, we dont all need a man to bring up a child,if we're lucky to have a man who doesnt run a mile then great, mine always piss off. Go for it, i wish you all the luck in the world, i was on my menopause, whichprovesyou can still fall pregnant, good luck and love gina x

Gina - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hi bridget my names gina, like you i always wanted another child, i fell pregnant last year unexpectadly at the age of 44, i was over the moon, i had all my test for downs etc, certain members of my family tried to talk into an abortion, for me that was never an option, do what you want to do, for you, you are never to old, and say to those who say different, its not you bringing up my new baby, it's me, Tell people to mind there buisness if they have nothing good to say, you have plenty of love to give, and why shouldnt you want another child now your eldest is grown up. As for me i lost a baby he was stillborn, before i had my son who is now 15, Then on 30th Nov 08 i had a beautiful baby boy born at 26wks, sadly he passed away after 2days, i had servere pre eclampsia, we both could have lost our life, but i will try again, it has not put me off, i just have to find a man, failing that i am looking at sperm donation, we dont all need a man to bring up a child,if we're lucky to have a man who doesnt run a mile then great, mine always piss off. Go for it, i wish you all the luck in the world, i was on my menopause, whichprovesyou can still fall pregnant, good luck and love gina x

Kimberly - posted on 03/27/2009

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If you belive you can handle the raising of another child after 18 years of raising your first then i say your not too old. My mother had my sister ten years before me, she was 36 by the time i was born. i myself am only 23 and have an almost three year old. Im married and dont see us affording another for ten years lol. so if you feel u want one and can have one go for it.

Rachel - posted on 03/27/2009

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No way are you too old. I am 38 and have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. I also have friends and acquaintances who have had children in their mid 40's. Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!

Carol-Ann - posted on 03/27/2009

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you go 4 it girl. i am 47 and i only have 1 child lauren and she is only 8yrs, so i was 38yrs when i had her and i wouldn't change her 4 the world. good luck.

Tania - posted on 03/27/2009

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you are not to old im 33 expecting and will probably have another after this one if its wat u and your partner desire it shouldnt matter wat other people think my mum had her last one at 44 i feel the older theperson the wiser and more patient u r so go 4 it before its to late and u regret not going for it good luck

Lisa - posted on 03/27/2009

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Quoting Bridget:

I am a single mom at age 36 who only had one child who is now 18 years of age. I desire to have another, but every one says I am too old. I am afraid I can not produce anymore. What can I do? Am I too old?

There is no way your too old bridget my mom had my brother at the age of 42 he wasnt planned but has been a joy to the family and has kept my mom young.My brother ids now 15 and my mom wouldnt change the past so go ahead,if you want another child do as you desire and good luck xx

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2009

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You are definitely not too old. If you want to have another child go for it. Also keep in mind that if you can not have another one you can also adopt and be a blessing to a child that has no parents. Pray about it.

Denise - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hi,

My name is Angela. You are not too old. My husband and I adopted a beautiful brown baby from Atlanta. We are ages 42 and 47, she is almost 2. She keeps us on our toes and we love her to pieces. If you choose to pursue adoption, have fun. It will seem stressful at times, but once you meet your bundle of joy, all the stress is forgotten! I'm excited for you!

Stacey - posted on 03/27/2009

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No, you are not too old! I'm 44 years old, my oldest will be 26 in July and my youngest is 10. I hope you will have help from the father. I was a single mother for a very long time. The father of my youngest is a fantastic Dad, I wish my older children had that when they were growing up.

Kimberley - posted on 03/27/2009

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You are not too old and as some other lets say to be polite "old fashioned" people on here have tried to hint around to you don't need a man in your life to raise a happy and healthy child.I hope you make the right choice for yourself and not let the ignorance of some other peoples opinions change your decision.Good luck!

Dubravka - posted on 03/27/2009

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Dear Bridget,

you are definitly not too old, and if you feel like to it , go for another!!! In my coutry mothers in age of 45 are not too old!!! I live in Eu!!!

Dot - posted on 03/27/2009

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I had one child when I was almost 30 and my second child was born when I was 38!! I will be 39 in May and I am just as healthy as any mom that has an infant! The drawbacks of age are usually the fact that the children will be at home w/you later in life and most people look forward to some "down" time before retirement age. Don't let anyone tell you what age is too old - go by your medical history and your instincts! I wouldn't trade my little surprise (Destiny Skye) for all the world!!

Rhiannon - posted on 03/27/2009

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Your child won't care about your age, all they will care about is how much you love them. And as age is no factor in how much you can love, there is no reason for you to deny yourself this dream of having another child. Good luck!

Tara - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Lish:

Quoting Gladys:

The need to have a child as a single mom at this age doesn't benefit the child in any way. I am a 29 year old mother of 3 and I cannot imagine my children not having a father to tuck them in at night. Especially my son who needs a male role model in his life. My husband and I model traditional roles and are preparing the way for all of them to go to good schools, live in good neighborhoods and go to college so that they too can live fulfilling lives. There is obviously something big missing in your life (a true relationship with Christ and healing through Him) but please remember that the child will never fill that hole. A child needs a family or else he/she too will end up with a hole in his heart as well. You must take some time to ask God what needs to be healed in your heart before you even think about getting into any relationship.

Gladys-

WOW! I read the original question and I don't recall her stating that she felt a void or asking if a child needs a "father" to tuck in a child! She asked if she was too old. I am a 36 year old single LESBIAN mother of a 19 year old and a 19 month old. I do not have a partner nor do I need one! I can tuck my baby in just fine on my own! My daughter is already in a great preschool, I am an awesome role model (strong woman!) and have excellent parenting skills. We live in a great neighborhood and two weeks ago we (my baby and I) traveled to Massachusettes to check out Harvard and MIT. She already has a college fund started and has quite the savings account set up. Your "traditional roles" obviously play no part in the ability to provide for a child nor is there any requirement for a "father" in order to raise a child to live a fulfilling live of their own! I think you got way off course and did not answer the question at all which again had to do with her ability to bare a child at the young age of 36. And one more thing - what does GOD have to do with it? She did not ask for religious advise or if she needed absolution for thinking of having another baby! She never states that she feels any voids that need filled. I think if that were the case, she would probably be stuck in some controlling relationship with a man! She is single, so she more than likely does not feel that way. She said she desired to have another child.

Bridget - again - if you can concieve and you feel you have enough love for your new child, GO FOR IT! It is the greatest thing I have ever done!

AND I AM 36, SINGLE AND A LESBIAN!

I left a big reply to that gladys too...,,man some people are so judgmental.....wtg.....exactly my point how many children are out there with parents that dont want them??? or shouldnt have them??? tons!!!!! so how dare anyone judge someone that is in an unlikely situation, or less ordinary for being a great role model and exemplary parent? what makes a single mother or a lesbian less capeable??? nothing!!! It is closed minded people that do not see the world around them for what it really is...and are unable to see the truth enough to put these children in capeable hands...instead they leave them in unhealty homes due to religion and extremely primative beliefs...A new world...many new ways!!!! how dare anyone judge that!!! kudos to you hun that was balz'y'

Katherine - posted on 03/26/2009

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corse ur not my mum is 41 nd is pregnant nd will turn 42 b4 the baby is born!!!

Dena - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Bridget:

I am a single mom at age 36 who only had one child who is now 18 years of age. I desire to have another, but every one says I am too old. I am afraid I can not produce anymore. What can I do? Am I too old?

No, you are NOT too old. May God bless you and your family.

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2009

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Hi Bridget,you do whats best for you!!!! I have an 18 year old & 16 month old,I feel i have more patience & im a lot more relaxed with my little man.Im doing it alone for my Partner & i didn't work out but my son still has both of us in his life which he benefits from still having two Parents that love him dearly.So if this is what you want you go for it!!!! Keep Smiling

Nicole - posted on 03/26/2009

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No way I have a 6 month old and I am 35 bless you I think it is great

Betsy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I have 2 boys from my 1st marriage, 16 & 17. I remarried in July 08 to a wonderful man who had no children.I am 36 and 7 mos pregnant!! No you are not too old. The best advice I can give is if this is something you want, seek out a doctor that will support you. Some doctors are not so supportive of advanced maternal age pregnancies. Good luck!

Tara - posted on 03/26/2009

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I had my one and only little girl at your same age. I had a few pregnancy complications that I don't contribute to age. My little one will be 7 in May and is healthy and happy!! I feel our relationship is wonderful! We are close and I appreciate her soo much! I see too many women having children too young! I find myseld much more patient than others I see that are younger than me. Feel a little old at school functions with other young moms, but these days there are all age ranges to tell you the truth. I may have my hands full when she is 16 and I am 52 but she keeps me young!! Age is only a number! Good luck with whatever you decide!

Lisa - posted on 03/26/2009

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I had my first one at the age of 34 and my second child at the age of 37 and both of them came out fine. You're never too old as long as your healthy and this is what you truly want to do. Remember your child is 18 and you have the freedom to do what you want. But if you desire a baby and its what you really want, go for it. Only you can judge you!!

Lesley - posted on 03/26/2009

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i do not think you are to old

i am 53 and have 5 children ages 36 /34 /17 /15 /11. and 3 granchildren ages 17 /14 /8.

i will say it is harder when you are older . so if you want to for it is up to you so good luck

just be happy

Tracey - posted on 03/26/2009

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hi well i had a child at 36 he is 7 now and doing well and i have 1 other son who will b 26 in may so it how u feel

Lindsay - posted on 03/26/2009

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I dont think you are too old. If this is something that you really want to do and you have a good support system behind you I dont think you should let anything get in the way.

Cynthia - posted on 03/26/2009

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Too old? That's a tricky question. As we age, we increase the risk of our baby's being born with things like down's syndrome. And I think it is the luck of the draw. You just never know. Have you considered adoption? There are so many children, and you look like such a good mom. Cynthia Morgan, R.N. www.kingslandpress.com

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2009

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I hope you are not too old as I am only 3 years younger than you and about to give birth for the first time! I think you would experience a different motherhood at this age than you did when you were younger and that would have both advantages and disadvantages. Provided your doctor says you are healthy I don't see any reason to be hesitant on that aspect of it. If you find you cannot have anymore children for some reason your desire to love a child would be a great opportunity for a foster child who desperately needs someone to love and care for them. Just something to think about.

Lisa - posted on 03/26/2009

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if your doctor says you can do it and your body will still produce then there is no harm in having another child. I have a friend who is 21 and his father is 82.

Kacee - posted on 03/26/2009

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I'm 38 and expecting my second in a few weeks. I had my first at 36. Natural birth and absolutely no complications. I loved being pregnant and have never felt better!

Lora - posted on 03/26/2009

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I had our first son when I was 37 and our second at age 39. So, unless your doctor tells you you can't have another child, you probably can. You just have to figure out if you really want to start all over again, I guess. Just be sure to do all the gentic testing and have a support group you can trust. I don't know your personal situation, so maybe talk it over with your significant other and make sure you are both on the same page.

Patricia - posted on 03/26/2009

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Hi I don't think you are too old .I had my last one at 38.and he's doing fine

Jacinda - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Bridget:

I am a single mom at age 36 who only had one child who is now 18 years of age. I desire to have another, but every one says I am too old. I am afraid I can not produce anymore. What can I do? Am I too old?

Hi Bridget

Just had my first baby at 39yo so you are not too old! Althought my husband is away this week with work so I am alone with baby and dog - very busy days!!

Christina - posted on 03/26/2009

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I don't think your to old! I had mine at 35, she is six now and I joy most of the time. I would talk to your doctor and make sure you are healthy first. I did stress my back but that was one of my problems before the birth took place anyway.

Tracy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I can speak from experience here-I just had baby # 3 two months before my 36th birthday. I had a very normal and complication free pregnancy. 35 is no longer thought of as the cut off for automatically being labeled a "high risk" pregnancy. If your genereal health is good that matters much more than your age.

My older kids were 14 & 8 when I had the baby and being pulled in three completely different directions has been the biggest challenge.

Good luck :)

Tracy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I can speak from experience here-I just had baby # 3 two months before my 36th birthday. I had a very normal and complication free pregnancy. 35 is no longer thought of as the cut off for automatically being labeled a "high risk" pregnancy. If your genereal health is good that matters much more than your age.

My older kids were 14 & 8 when I had the baby and being pulled in three completely different directions has been the biggest challenge.

Good luck :)

Tracy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I can speak from experience here-I just had baby # 3 two months before my 36th birthday. I had a very normal and complication free pregnancy. 35 is no longer thought of as the cut off for automatically being labeled a "high risk" pregnancy. If your genereal health is good that matters much more than your age.

My older kids were 14 & 8 when I had the baby and being pulled in three completely different directions has been the biggest challenge.

Good luck :)

Lish - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Gladys:

The need to have a child as a single mom at this age doesn't benefit the child in any way. I am a 29 year old mother of 3 and I cannot imagine my children not having a father to tuck them in at night. Especially my son who needs a male role model in his life. My husband and I model traditional roles and are preparing the way for all of them to go to good schools, live in good neighborhoods and go to college so that they too can live fulfilling lives. There is obviously something big missing in your life (a true relationship with Christ and healing through Him) but please remember that the child will never fill that hole. A child needs a family or else he/she too will end up with a hole in his heart as well. You must take some time to ask God what needs to be healed in your heart before you even think about getting into any relationship.

Gladys-

WOW! I read the original question and I don't recall her stating that she felt a void or asking if a child needs a "father" to tuck in a child! She asked if she was too old. I am a 36 year old single LESBIAN mother of a 19 year old and a 19 month old. I do not have a partner nor do I need one! I can tuck my baby in just fine on my own! My daughter is already in a great preschool, I am an awesome role model (strong woman!) and have excellent parenting skills. We live in a great neighborhood and two weeks ago we (my baby and I) traveled to Massachusettes to check out Harvard and MIT. She already has a college fund started and has quite the savings account set up. Your "traditional roles" obviously play no part in the ability to provide for a child nor is there any requirement for a "father" in order to raise a child to live a fulfilling live of their own! I think you got way off course and did not answer the question at all which again had to do with her ability to bare a child at the young age of 36. And one more thing - what does GOD have to do with it? She did not ask for religious advise or if she needed absolution for thinking of having another baby! She never states that she feels any voids that need filled. I think if that were the case, she would probably be stuck in some controlling relationship with a man! She is single, so she more than likely does not feel that way. She said she desired to have another child.

Bridget - again - if you can concieve and you feel you have enough love for your new child, GO FOR IT! It is the greatest thing I have ever done!

AND I AM 36, SINGLE AND A LESBIAN!

Rosel - posted on 03/25/2009

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Well in Hollywood it's just the right age! What does age have to do with caring and loving a child. You have knowledge DO IT!

Shannon - posted on 03/25/2009

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NO!! I have a 17 year old son and a 1 year old son. Having another child at 39, new relationship and all, was the most fulfilling experience and continues to be every day. It is completely different and I love it.

Jo - posted on 03/25/2009

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I was almost 39 yrs old when I had my last baby! I say GO FOR IT!

Maria - posted on 03/25/2009

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if you have not hit menopause yet then He must not think you are too old :) go for it! If YOU feel your are ready for another and are able to handle having another baby then by all means talk to you doctor and start the prenatals already! I will pray for you to be able to get the answers you are looking for!

Angela - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi there, at the time i was 36 had a tubal reversal and 6 months later pregnant, no your not to old!

Tracey - posted on 03/25/2009

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You are definitely not too old. I'm 37 with an 18 yr old down to an 8 mth old and expecting twins, with two additional teens in between. While it may or may not be difficult to conceive for you, there are many options you have in getting reproductive assistance if needed. I would start with your OB doctor to make sure everything checks out great and then start taking ovulation predictor kits. If you're not pg within 6 mths, ask a dr for help. Good luck!

Deanna - posted on 03/25/2009

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I had my first and ONLY baby at 35. She was a complete surprise to for me. I never thought I would be blessed enough to have one but, lo and behold, I did. She's now 21 months old and I am 37... So being 36 is still young enough to have a child. So I say go for it and don't let anyone else tell you that you are too old.

Deanna - posted on 03/25/2009

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I had my first and ONLY baby at 35. She was a complete surprise to for me. I never thought I would be blessed enough to have one but, lo and behold, I did. She's now 21 months old and I am 37... So being 36 is still young enough to have a child. So I say go for it and don't let anyone else tell you that you are too old.

Liane - posted on 03/25/2009

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You are not too old. You can have babies up till 40 according to what I know, the only risks that have been known is of down's syndrome babies at your age, but still if you do not have a family history of this condition go for it girl!! I have had many freinds @ your age who have had children.

Jessica - posted on 03/25/2009

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You are not too old, I have siblings that are 15 years yonger than myself, they are perftectly healthy if that is your worry, although a dr consultation is probably best. You might want to think about the reasons why you want another child, and think about how your first child will feel about you having another baby. In a few years your first child will probably be getting married, and be thinking about having their own children, that you will get to spoil and love and care for. If you are feeling the need for nurture, perhaps you need to think about what about your life is lacking, a baby gives women a sense of purpose, and love. Have you considered becoming a foster parent? I only ask this because now that my yongest sister is 10 my mother has so many things she wants to be able to go do on her own, and complains she never has the chance because she always has had to be a mom. Just make sure you are not compensating for something else missing in your life, and be sure that you take this time you now have to yourself to go out and do all those great things you may have always wanted to do! God bless!!