i am currently co sleeping with my two week old baby, how long do you wait before letting them sleep on their own and when do you start using the methods for sleeping, any advice ,good books?

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Andi - posted on 03/02/2009

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We have done co sleeping with all 5 of our kids and nothing EVER happened to them and three of them are now in gifted programs. I think it very natural to do this, I mean how many species push their young away at birth-NONE with the exception of snakes. Babies NEED to know that their parent is close and availble to protect them and comfort them in their new world. Can you imagine what it does to them if they are shoved into a crib or bassinett left to fin for themselves for 8-12 hours at a time. Each one of our kids have had different comfort levels and different times when they were ready to sleep on their own. Plus, many child specialists around the world go on and on about how wonderful it is for brain development to hold babies in the their newborn stages. They have used studies based on orphaneges around the world where many of those babies are lucky if they get held once a month or once a week which is sad, so why would we shove our newborn babies into a room by themselves to scream it out. I agree with co sleeping until they are secure enough to be on their own.

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i coslept with both my kids and didnt start switching them to their own beds until they were done nursing and even then i kept them with me until they were about 4-6 months old. I recommend starting with nap time in their own beds for a while then gradually do it threwout the nite. less stress for everyone.

Megan - posted on 03/03/2009

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Quoting Emily:



I also co-slept with my daughter and nursed for the full first year.  I had her bassinet next to my bed and then her crib tied to our bed, with one rail removed and mattress at same hight as ours.  She usually always slept in her own bed but my husband and I never objected if she crawled in with us.  You need to do what feels right for you and don't let anyone bully you into doing otherwise.  We caught a lot of flack from both our families about co-sleeping but they eventually stopped when they saw that Morgan was not a needy, clingy child who cried everytime we left the room.  She is in fact the opposite, very outgoing and independent.  And she was 4 before we finally moved her bed permantly into her room.  I did it in steps every few days, first her toddler bed next to mine, then moved a few feet away, then across the room.  When we moved into her room she got her new "big girl bed" (as a bribe) and I slept in there the first few nights.  Then laid with her till she fell asleep but I slept in my own bed.  Then sit on her bed, then the floor...you get the idea. She never cried once and we haven't had one backslide.  She doesn't even wake me to go potty anymore.  Hope this helps. 





I completely agree.  My childre all co-slept and are independant and confident!!!  All five do great in school and have outgoing personalities!!

Lise - posted on 03/03/2009

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Oops - forgot to mention that the latest research on co-sleeping shows that co-sleeper tend to end up MORE independent than the average kid.

Mandy - posted on 03/02/2009

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I don't think there's any timeline for when to let them sleep on their own. I personally didn't co-sleep with my son from the beginning (just kept his playpen in the room with us for the first few nights). Just go with what feels right to you.

Dr. Sears has a book called The Baby Sleep Book. It talks all about co-sleeping and how to transition from co-sleeping to having the child sleep on their own. He also talks about methods for getting the baby on a good nap schedule, which I found especially helpful since my son doesn't like to nap!

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Ashton - posted on 03/05/2009

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We kept our son in our room until he was 4 months old. He fit in his bassinette until then cuz he was a preemie. However, when he would wake up in the middle of the night i would let him sleep with us in bed for a few reasons:



1-i was breastfeeding and it was simple



2-when he was finished he was more content to cuddle then to go back in his bed.....if i put him back he'd scream.



3-I had an emergency c-section and didnt get to hold him much for the first 12 hours after he was born so I had seperation issues. I didnt want to let him go. Plus it hurt to get up and down to put him in his own bed so it worked out the best for all of us if he slept with us.



WHEN WE DID PUT HIM IN HIS OWN ROOM IN HIS CRIB, the first night, he cried at 2am and i went and got him and he slept with us the rest of the night lol. That went on for a week then I let him stay in his own bed. i think its really up to you. when you feel ready for them to be in their own room/bed they'll be ready too: my son has slept through the night since he was 4 weeks old and i think it was just because we were both comfortable with the sleep arrangements.

Tessa - posted on 03/05/2009

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this is a very hard habit to break, i suggest starting the "you sleep in your own bed" right away. a bassinet near the bed is okay. it only takes one night to get your child used to cuddling in your bed, it can take several (sorry ;) to stop. even a newborn has ways of controlling the situation. just remember YOU are mom. ~good luck!

Melissa - posted on 03/05/2009

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Neither one of my first two children slept in our bed. But my last one slept in our bed until she was about 8 months old. Then she slept in a crib in our room and now sleeps in her own room. We never had an issue moving her to her own space. I just felt more comfotable having her with me. I know some children get attached and then wont sleep through the night, but I think you just know when its the right time to move them. Everyone has their preference and their opinions, but us as mothers are the only ones that know our children and know whats right. :)

Arlene - posted on 03/05/2009

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Our son sleeps in our bed and he is now two, and does not want to sleep in his own bed, even with it in our room. We never had a problem with him in our bed, and I can't even remember making the conscious decision to have him there, but he is and for the most part we don't mind, but now he's getting bigger and starting to sleep perpendicular to us and I am getting less room and not a great sleep. I think the bassinet beside the bed is much more practical especially concerning their independence with sleeping. However, I have to admit that I enjoy the cuddle time I get right before he falls asleep because he is a busy boy all day that doesn't have time for hugs and they grow up so fast that I want to get all the cuddles I can before it's too late!!!

Jamie - posted on 03/05/2009

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we co-slept mainly b/c I bf all 3 of my kids... each child is different.  My oldest stayed in our room for about 2 yrs back and forth... The next one until about 8 months... My youngest stayed mainly in the bassinet beside our bed until he outgrew that (2-3 months old)... They we put him in his crib... I say do what works best for you and your situation.  At a point we even had the pack in play in our room for temp. sleeping.  With 3 kids and 2 bedrooms, you do what works & quit worrying over what the world thinks :)

Erica - posted on 03/05/2009

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I had my newborn co-sleep with me till around 3 months. I was nervous that it would be a struggle, but I was pleasantly surprised that he actually slept more soundly in his crib in his own room! it is harder to get him to fall asleep on his own than holding him but its worth it! I'm so glad I tried putting him in his crib becuase it made me realize that he was not sleeping as well with me, i think becuase any movements I made could wake him.... but I do think that the 3 month age is a good time to start transitioning- and have him nap in his room too so he/she feels comfortable there and associates it with sleep.Good luck!!!

Samantha - posted on 03/05/2009

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With help on methods for sleeping alone and getting them to sleep through the night fast, my pediatrician recommended rice cereal in the baby's bottle. With my first we did it by 3 months and they slept straight through the night. Then with my second we did it at 2 months and it worked great, then with my 3rd we did it at 1 month old and he slept straight through the night. They are now recommending starting to feed foods earlier to children. Not one of my children are overweight, and they all to this day sleep a solid 12 hours a night. It brought great routine to our house and us more sleep. We made the mistake of letting our oldest sleep with us and it was the biggest mistake because it took a full week of nightly crying to get him to sleep in his own bed. They become attached. Just my opinion.

Holly - posted on 03/05/2009

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Quoting Katie:

i am currently co sleeping with my two week old baby, how long do you wait before letting them sleep on their own and when do you start using the methods for sleeping, any advice ,good books?




hy i have a 16 month old 1nd a 4 month old they are completely different alfie stayed in my bed with me till he was 11 weeks old and he only went in on his own was cuz of his dad and george left my bed 2 nights ago dont do it till your ready xxxx

Sandy - posted on 03/05/2009

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children can sllep in moses basket from birth my health vistor sed children can sleep in there own room from 6 months.

personally my daughters never slept in my bed and sleeps really well on her own hope this helps.



ps gd luck

Lori - posted on 03/05/2009

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Every child and every situation is different my duaghter slept w/ me from early on (tried the crib/bassinet and no one slept!)  She eventually went to her own crib (was out of crib by 18 months) but reverted back after surgery at age 4.  She suffered from serious sepatation anxiety, and I could not get her in her own bed after being traumatized by horrible hospital policy.  My son never slept with me, he wanted his crib (and didn't want to give it up at 3+ yrs old).  My sister refused to let hers sleep w/ her and let them cry it out--they don't sleep well and don't stay in their beds either.  You have to do what is right for you and your family.  If you are concerned about safety, purchase a bassinet that folds open and place it against the bed so you are still right next to your baby.  They really won't be there forever (mine are 14 and 12)  Just enjoy them and savor these precious moments!

Alissa - posted on 03/04/2009

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I have three girls and they have all slept in bed with me since birth. They have all slept mostly throughout the night if you count feeds when they're little. So far both my older ones have asked for their own bed before they were two and go to bed very nicely with a little cuddle. My newest one (8 months) goes to bed at 7:30, wakes up once still for a feed around 11:30 and is then asleep for the rest of the night. You will know what you feel comfortable with for you and you baby. It doesn't hurt to try new things as long as you don't go past what YOU think is OK. Everybody has an opinion, but your baby chose you, because you would know them best. Thats how I think of things and my children are very confident and comfortable with themselves.

Bonnie - posted on 03/04/2009

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I breastfeed my daughter so she slept in a bassinet for about 2 months. Then I put her in her crib and she loves it. She woke up about every 3 hrs to nurse but I would put her right back in her crib and now its great she sleeps from about 8 pm to about 8 am so good luck

Mathida - posted on 03/04/2009

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ohh and i didnt use any books i think its all crap but thats my opionion. Oh and i think people who say to me ohh what about SIDS and all that i just simply say well if your always going to worry about and be so uptight about it, it will happen but i dont it wont Mind over matter, but i think u do wat u feel is best for u and ur family

Mathida - posted on 03/04/2009

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Hi there

i co slept with my baby in my bed with my husband for 2 months then put him in a bassinet at 3 moths slept in there till 4.5 months hes now 6 months old and sleeps in a cot, in his own room! wat i did to make him sleep in his own cot was wrap him in muslin blanket after a feed n burp the sit in the room with him and tell him i was there until he feel asleep and then the next week sat away were he couldnt see me in his room tho waited till he feel asleep and left the the 3rd week i sat at his door and waited again and now i can just put him down all wrapped a cuddle good night and kiss and walk out of the room and come back in 15mins and hes fast asleep! so i think co sleeping is fine!

Lynn - posted on 03/04/2009

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I just read about a study that shows more babies are being suffocated while sleeping in their parents bed. Get  them out & In their own beds NOW!!  Both of our kids slept in the crib from their first night home from the hospital & they sleep just fine on their own. No sleep problems ever.  They are 8 & 12 yrs old..  Just my thought, Lynn

Lynn - posted on 03/04/2009

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I just read about a study that shows more babies are being suffocated while sleeping in their parents bed. Get  them out & In their own beds NOW!!  Both of our kids slept in the crib from their first night home from the hospital & they sleep just fine on their own. No sleep problems ever.  They are 8 & 12 yrs old..  Just my thought, Lynn

Lynn - posted on 03/04/2009

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I just read about a study that shows more babies are being suffocated while sleeping in their parents bed. Get  them out & In their own beds NOW!!  Both of our kids slept in the crib from their first night home from the hospital & they sleep just fine on their own. No sleep problems ever.  They are 8 & 12 yrs old..  Just my thought, Lynn

Lisa - posted on 03/04/2009

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I suggest reading "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child".  My son slept in a co-sleeper beside my bed until 3 months and then we moved him to the crib.  Looking back on it, he could have went to the crib earlier.  I followed the above mentioned book from about 4 months on and it works wonders.  My guy is a great sleeper. 

Lisa - posted on 03/04/2009

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I suggest reading "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child".  My son slept in a co-sleeper beside my bed until 3 months and then we moved him to the crib.  Looking back on it, he could have went to the crib earlier.  I followed the above mentioned book from about 4 months on and it works wonders.  My guy is a great sleeper. 

Lisa - posted on 03/04/2009

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I suggest reading "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child".  My son slept in a co-sleeper beside my bed until 3 months and then we moved him to the crib.  Looking back on it, he could have went to the crib earlier.  I followed the above mentioned book from about 4 months on and it works wonders.  My guy is a great sleeper. 

Mary - posted on 03/04/2009

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i would stop now.once they get to used it,they don't want to go to sleep on there own.

Meryl - posted on 03/04/2009

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"Helping Your Child Sleep Through the Night"...great book! Both of my kids (14 and 11) have great sleep habbits and always have.



If you want to sleep in the same room, put the baby in a bassinet. Co-sleeping with your kid isn't good for either of you. It's nice to cuddle but you both need sleep. We put our kids in their own room as soon as we could (the younger one had health issues so he stayed in our room for a few months but the older one was in his own room from the beginning.

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I think co sleeping is a wonderfull thing... I have an 8 week old for the first month he slept on my chest then i started working on other things like a cradle then in his own crib for a little bit .. He sleeps 4-5 hour now in his crib then comes in bed with me because i need it as a working mom..that is my special time with him.. we may be sleeping but it is the best time just to feel him that close ;-)

Candice - posted on 03/04/2009

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I slept with both of my children until they were 4 months.....I was told by my Lamaz coach that it reduces the percentage of sids by like 80 percent. As long as you are drinkin or taken any sleep meds you will never roll on your baby. So the longer the better is what i say.

Candice - posted on 03/04/2009

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I slept with both of my children until they were 4 months.....I was told by my Lamaz coach that it reduces the percentage of sids by like 80 percent. As long as you are drinkin or taken any sleep meds you will never roll on your baby. So the longer the better is what i say.

Amanda - posted on 03/04/2009

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I would  wait till your baby is 3 months old before removing her from your room. As far as I understand the risk of SIDS decreases after the 3 month mark. At that point if you haven't already; work out a night time routine that is calming for you and the baby.  Bath, swaddling, singing...were all very helpful for me. Best of luck.

Christina - posted on 03/04/2009

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i know exactly how you feel.. unfortunately i didnt put my daughter in her own bed and she is 5months now.. and as a result she doesnt like sleeping without mommy!! I also breast feed so for convenience reasons i kept her by me but eventually she never wanted to leave. So i would suggest maybe keeping your baby in a bassinet in your room!

Amanda - posted on 03/04/2009

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I had my daughter in our bed until she was 6-1/2 months old.  I breastfeed and I found it easier to just roll over and go back to sleep.  The reason I put her in her crib was because I was ready.  That is the most important thing, you have to be ready because if you're not it won't work.  I tried the cry it out method.  The first night she cried for 15 minutes (with me going in every 5 minutes to comfort her but not picking her up) and she woke up once through the night.  The second night she cried 10 minutes and didn't wake up through the night.   Again you have to be comfortable with the method you choose.

Shawna - posted on 03/04/2009

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GOOD BOOK??? LOL HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! PUT THEM IN A CRIB OR A BASINETTE OR PLAYPEN OR WHATEVER, GIVE EM A KISS, AND SAY GOODNIGHT!! THEN U DO WHATEVER U DO AFTER THE BABY GOES TO SLEEP. LIKE HOUSEWORK, READ A BOOK, GO ON FACEBOOK, SLEEP, SEX.

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Quoting Lise:




Oops - forgot to mention that the latest research on co-sleeping shows that co-sleeper tend to end up MORE independent than the average kid.









 






Hi Lise,






I found your posting to be quite interesting. I have the opposite opinion on co-sleeping than you, but I am in NO ways saying you are wrong or anything of that nature. I am just interested in your last comment there about the latest research and I have a question. Did the study say HOW the co-sleeper ends up to be more independent than a non co-sleeper? I am curious! Can you by chance send me the article? (is it online by chance?) I have a few girlfriends who co-sleep with their children, and I want to pass the article along to them!






Thanks!!





http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_roo...



Dr. Sears and his wife also have this opinion.  This is one of the major reasons I chose to co-sleep with my daughter.  As a child I was denied affection - I needed way more cuddles and hugs and didn't get them because that isn't the way it was done 36 years ago ... I am doing a lot of things in completely the opposite way from my own Mother and hope my daughter does not suffer from the low self esteem that I did. Co-sleeping only works if everyone is okay with it.  Any resentments from any of the parties ruins it.  Anyway, pass on the info ... just doing a quick Google search for "co-sleeping more independent" will bring up many many articles on the subject.

Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2009

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Hi Katie



It is really interesting reading everyones replies clearly it is a hot topic. At the end of the day you need to do what is right for you and the baby. Our experience was a bit different, we have 9mth old twins and they co-slept with each other for the first few months and now in their own cribs. But like many others we did the kiddopolous, a white noise machine and music.  In the beginning our son would co-sleep with us at some parts in the night as he seemed to need more contact. We did not really establish a clear sleep routine until they were seven and half mnths old. prior to that we were feeding and holding to sleep.  At 7.5 mnths we hired a professional sleep trainer for two nights and now we have a clear routine, bottles, stories, white noise and music and they sleep for 11 hours. We also discoverd that they sleep better when they are bigger and are gaining good weight.  hope this helps.

Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2009

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Hi Katie



It is really interesting reading everyones replies clearly it is a hot topic. At the end of the day you need to do what is right for you and the baby. Our experience was a bit different, we have 9mth old twins and they co-slept with each other for the first few months and now in their own cribs. But like many others we did the kiddopolous, a white noise machine and music.  In the beginning our son would co-sleep with us at some parts in the night as he seemed to need more contact. We did not really establish a clear sleep routine until they were seven and half mnths old. prior to that we were feeding and holding to sleep.  At 7.5 mnths we hired a professional sleep trainer for two nights and now we have a clear routine, bottles, stories, white noise and music and they sleep for 11 hours. We also discoverd that they sleep better when they are bigger and are gaining good weight.  hope this helps.

Tammie - posted on 03/04/2009

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i have four boys and they all stayed in my room between 1-2mths in a moses basket then i placed the moses basket in the cot with the babe in and then transferred them into the cot.. my eldest was quite difficult because if he so much as murmered my ex would bring him in our bed and he kept that up until he was six.. and my second lad did the same.. my now partner moved in and the two eldest stopped with the two younger ones never in my bed and love going to bed lol.. i tried to breast feed all of them and two had probs two didnt. its difficult because its so easy to just lay down feed them whilst you are dozing.. i often woke up with the youngest in bed and then would put him in his cot.. you do it when the time feels right for you and your instincts tell you to..

Kimberly - posted on 03/04/2009

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I never co-slept with my now 16 year old son.  He was fine home from the hospital.  My 15-month old started out in her crib as well.  She has only been sleeping all night for the past 2-3 months.  What worked with her was swaddling. But also if she was having a difficult night, I would snuggle with her and then when she was asleep put her in her crib.  She stayed asleep about 80% of the time.  She doesn't require the snuggling now.  We now use the cry for 10 minutes rule (and she usually falls asleep before the 10 minutes is up.)  Good luck - what a cutie!

Denise - posted on 03/04/2009

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We had our daughter swaddled in a moses basket right next to our bed from day one until roughly 4 mths.  It was much better because she learned to sleep by herself from day one and I still had her close by until she was big enough to go in her own room. 

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Okay - here's my story. At 4 my daughter STILL sleeps with me ... and I wouldn't have it any other way - really. I read the Dr. Sears books (strongly recommend them) and breast fed for 31 months - yes, really, for 31 months. For me, breastfeeding wouldn't have worked if we didn't co-sleep. The thing to remember about breastfeeding and co-sleeping is they only work if it is good for ALL parties involved. At 31 months I wanted my body back. I took a weekend trip out of town to break the breastfeeding cycle (which was at nighttime only by that time). By age two you can talk to kids about life in simple terms. I told my girl that she was getting to be too big for "Nums" and that when Mama returned from her trip there would be no more Nums. Worked out fine. As for the co-sleeping, my soon to be ex and I were working on transitioning her to her own bed in the weeks before we broke up. Now it is just me and my girl and I don't think she would be handling the transition of her Dad leaving as well if she didn't have me to cuddle up with at night. She also has bad night terrors so having her in bed with me makes it quick and easy for me to comfort her and get her back to sleep. I don't get parents who push their kids away after birth ... didn't you want that little bundle of love??? What other creatures in nature push their children away? I figure it this way ... these early years are the only ones I get to be the best Mama I can be. Soon enough my girl will be telling me to go away and leave her alone. I am sure, eventually, my little independent thinker will decide she wants her own bed and her own room. In the meantime, co-sleeping makes for a strong bond between me and my daughter and I am hopeful that this strong early bond will make for a strong and loving relationship in the future. I have had such a contentious relationship with my own mother that I want to avoid that with my own daughter. I'll let you know how she turns out but for now she is loving, affectionate, curious, and completely independent at school and on the playground. At the end of the day, do what is right for YOU ... follow your gut instinct on what is right and you will hardly ever go wrong.

Joanne - posted on 03/04/2009

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If your baby is in the bassinet next to your bed. Then I would keep him there until he is sleeping four to six hours witout waking up for feedings. That woked for me and all four of my kids were sleep six hours by two months.

Laurie - posted on 03/04/2009

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I co-slept with my daughter until she was 4 months old.  Make sure you safely co-sleep: www.drsears.com has some suggestions, and so does the book: "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley.  I made sure my daughter did not have a pillow, blanket, and I didn't wear loose PJs or clothing with zippers or string.  When she was four months old, she was ready for her crib!  Now, she's two and sleeps in her own toddler bed in her own room, but she's welcome to come into our room in the middle of the night if she needs us.  I hope this helps!

Jacci - posted on 03/04/2009

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lol, research shows...best advice I can possibly give is take all these opinions in and do what works for you and your baby.  I wouldn't recommend co-sleeping just because it is dangerous.



Good luck!

Cathy - posted on 03/04/2009

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Hi If you are comfortable with him sleeping with you and you manage to get some rest it is fine but if you think you could sleep better you should try a basinette in your room.

"the hapiest baby on the block" Harvey Karp is an awsome book; quite simple but it works.Good luck!!

Jacci - posted on 03/04/2009

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My son went to bed in his crib at 3 weeks.  He never co slept with us as we don't feel it safe.  Crying it out didn't work for us, now that he is a year he is starting to sleep through the night - I guess you could try a few things after 6 months.

Naomi - posted on 03/04/2009

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I would move your baby to the basinett now & have it in your room.My son fed every 2 hours for so long and as my back was really sore I started putting him in bed with me so I could feed him lying down.My back is now great however I have had no sleep for the last 9 months as max is now the boss of our bed.He will rarely stay in his cot & he still wakes frequently through the night to feed & suckle.

Desiree - posted on 03/04/2009

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LOL there are so many posts! But I thought i would add my 2 cents. I co slept with my little boy and nothing happened. He usually spelt on my or my hubby's belly or on his back in between us. At around 4 months he started moving too much and waking up crying so we decided to start him in the crib then. We used the ferber method after much dismay (I hated the though of my LO crying and not picking him up BUT let me tell you that it worked. He cried for a few HOURS the first couple nights and had to cry it out for a few weeks but once he got it he slept so great. He even took naps in his crib soon after we had him in there at bedtime, which was a godsend because before we had to let him sleep on us if we wanted more than a 20 min nap. He is very content in his crib. He will patiently wait for us in the morning to get him, and rarely cries. Now that he is well "trained" I do go ahead and pick him up in the middle of the night if he cries because I figure he is teething or doesn't feel good since it happens so rarely. I loved my time cosleeping with him and will do it with the next one as well, BUT I also strongly recommend the Ferber Method book when YOU feel it is time for the transition. I say go with your gut and what you feel comfortable with. You are the mom and YOU know best. God luck!

Lise - posted on 03/04/2009

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Quoting Marissa:


 






Hi Lise,






I found your posting to be quite interesting. I have the opposite opinion on co-sleeping than you, but I am in NO ways saying you are wrong or anything of that nature. I am just interested in your last comment there about the latest research and I have a question. Did the study say HOW the co-sleeper ends up to be more independent than a non co-sleeper? I am curious! Can you by chance send me the article? (is it online by chance?) I have a few girlfriends who co-sleep with their children, and I want to pass the article along to them!






Thanks!!





I haven't been able to find the original article I read but http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handou... has a list of references with research on this issue. I know Dr Sears is a biased source, but the research he cites comes from reputable scientific publications.

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We co-slept with my first son for a few weeks and then realized that our breathing and movement tend to wake him up, we moved him out of our bed into his own cot for a couple of months and then into his own room. We started sleep therapy after 7months. With my second son we put him in his own cot in his own room from day 1. My first son is now 2years 4 months and baby is now 6months 3weeks. I moved them into the same room when my youngest was 4months, they both sleep from 7pm to 6:30 or 7:00am every night.

Sandi - posted on 03/04/2009

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If you start out putting your child to sleep in their crib then chances are you won't have a problem when they get older. I have 3 kids and my oldest, 9, slept with us when she was little and even now doesn't like to sleep by herself. When the second child came along we put her to sleep in her crib and now she is 5 and wants to sleep by herself. It is also safer for the baby because when you are asleep you aren't aware of what you are doing and could roll over the baby and that could be prevented by letting him or her sleep on their own. Hopes this helps....

Lise - posted on 03/04/2009

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Co-sleeping can be dangerous when not done properly - most accidents I have heard about have been people falling asleep with their babies, and not intentional co-sleepers that prepared a safe environment for it. There is a lot of information online about how to do it safely. My favorite is the SnuggleNest, then the Arm's Reach.



I have found quite a few references to the independences associated with co-sleeping. I will try to find some online later today (this is just a quick drive by right now)

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