I am having real problems potty training my 2 yr old she cries and screams every time she see's it I have tried star charts and rewards but nothing seems to work any ideas...?

Kristyn - posted on 11/27/2008

The best thing I found to work (and my dr agreed) was letting my girls sit on the potty while watching tv, if by chance they went the praise them A LOT!!

My oldest was potty trained at 18 months, my youngest at 27!!



Good Luck!

Jill - posted on 11/27/2008

I agree with the open door technique. Bring her with you when you go to the bathroom so that she sees what you're doing. Also, are you using a potty or putting her on the toilet. My daughter wasn't the least bit interested in the potty but was fine with going on the toilet. We would go in there with a book and read together. Eventually she would just go and that's when we would make a big deal. Good luck. Hope this helps.

Lacy - posted on 11/27/2008

Take some time off from it. My daughter did the same thing and so I left the potty in another room where she would see it once it awhile but it wasn't in her constant eye sight. Less then 2 weeks after I stopped trying to get her to use it she just did it herself. She's been potty trained ever since!! Let her own curiousity take over.

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2008

hi there..my daughter was the same way when we first started with the potty..she is 2 1/2 and was trained in one week..I went out and bought adorable panties and told her that mommy didnt have any more diapers and I just let her wear panties and stayed home for one week and just kept saying "lets do potty"..it was repetitive and tiring but after a week it was done..now she is 100% trained..we dont use pull ups at night..my advice is not to use pull ups..they are too much like diapers, its confusing for the child..just go cold turkey with panties only..yes there will be a few accidents but they just get the hang of it..and you have to stay home

Anu - posted on 11/27/2008

I think you should let the potty matter rest for a while, maybe for a week or two or longer if needed. I have noticed that you can't make your child do those kind of things just by doing it, they have to be "ready". We tried with our, now 3,5 year old, daughter the potty training for almost a year, and then she just learned it in one night. We had times when she didn't even wanna hear the word potty. Now she is day dry...So next step is the nights.

Jodi - posted on 11/27/2008

My youngest just turned three. He still is not potty trained. He had NO interest in being potty trained. I tried many things including letting him run naked in the house. (He soaked my bed and made artwork on my carpet ) He was not scared just didn't want to do it. I quit asking everyday and finally yesterday when I did asked, he gave me no problems. He went twice :) The one thing I did different yesterday was NOT sit in the bathroom with him. He was in there by alone and did it! Half went in the potty chair half on the floor. But I don't care if it works!

Julie - posted on 11/27/2008

Nakey time! If your daughter likes being naked, let her run around that way so you can both get in touch with her rhythms. Have a couple of little potties handy so you can offer them as needed. Invest in a few waterproof pads or fleece blankets to minimize mess stress.

Maria - posted on 11/27/2008

I had the same problem with my first kid, until i bought a dvd called "Potty Power" you can get it on Amazon.com

It helped alot and since then both my kids are trained, and yet they still love to watch the dvd. it has very nice catchy songs.

Now i let my 11 months old watch it with them too, so that when i start potty training him he won't be afraid.

really the dvd was a life saver, didn't have any problems with my 2nd one at all.

Cheryl - posted on 11/27/2008

i was sooo stressed out trying to get my girl potty trained as we were planning another baby...but the more u push, the more they feel threatened about the whole process...after months of trying and not trying for weeks inbetween i stopped altogether..then just b4 her 3rd birthday i asked her when we were doing our grocery shopping if she wanted me to buy her nappies and she said no...it was that simple..no accidents ..no bribes ..no sticker charts .. sometimes its just easier to wait until they are a bit older and REALLY understand .

Andrea - posted on 11/27/2008

I just saw my sons doctor for his 18 month check-up and here are some of the tips he gave me, I hope they will help you! He said to allow my son to observe both my husband and I using the "potty", and for that matter anyone else who will allow him to watch. While we are using the toliet we should explain to him what we are doing and allow him to help us say "goodbye to the pee & poop" by helping to flush the toliet. He also said to go out and buy our son his own special potty and to show him it is his write his name on it and let him decorate it with stickers. He says at first, leave the potty in the living room, allow him to play on it, sit on it while he is eating a snack, etc. He said once he is really comfortable with sitting on the potty and thinks it is fun move it into the bathroom. Once it has been moved then everytime one of us has to use the potty, we should strip him down and allow him to sit on his potty. He said if he makes pee or poop on the potty we should offer him a special reward that is just given when he uses the potty. Make sure when you are teaching her you give her the easier words like pee and poop so she can verablize to you what she needs to do. I hope this will be of some help to you as we are starting the process with our son.

Katie - posted on 11/27/2008

my little girl was the same have you tried treating her when she goes on? With emily i just left the potty there and left her nappy off and she got the hang of it after a few mistakes

Stacey - posted on 11/27/2008

Perhaps she is just not ready. I had a similar issue with my 2 yr old son, so i waited a bit longer til i thought he was ready. He is now 2.5years & practically toilet trained... He kept telling me he had a sore bum so i bought him a potty & put him in jocks, he had maybe 3or4 accidents then he started using the potty on his own. He did this for about a week & everytime he did i put a star on his chart & gave him a jelly bean. After a week going consistenly on the potty (& me getting very sick of cleaning it i put him on the toilet. All up took about 3 weeks & now he only wears a nappy to bed... No longer a baby at all but an indepentant little boy.

Alixandria - posted on 11/27/2008

I know this sounds bizarre but have yo tried going to the bathroom with the door open? When you don't have company of course! :P Sometimes it's MUCH less scary if they see YOU doing it too...

Bonnie - posted on 11/27/2008

try visiting www.pottytrainingtips.com you can find anything and everything you could ever want to know about potty training... also www.pull-ups.com is great plus every once in a while they give away free potty training DVDs... there is too much great and invaluable information between these two sites I wouldn't do them justice paraphrasing!!!

good luck bonnie

Jenny - posted on 11/27/2008

My son has only recently started going to toilet by himself.He didn't have a clue about what he was supposed to do...I was told by health visitors,doctors etc that he would pick it up in his own time and he has...My advice is to leave it for a bit and go back in a few weeks and then try again.