i am pregnant with fraternal twins and i have no idea where to get good information on what im in for

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User - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have 30 year old boy/girl twins. My twins were born 6 weeks early. I was a single parent. Their father left when they were 1-1/2 years old. I stayed single for 10 years. I also worked 2 jobs for 3 years during middle school. Then when they were in college I helped another mother with twins once a week for 9 months. I know all the tricks of the trade of how to make things easier. My daughter is now a Pharmacist with her Pharm D and my son is a teacher with his Masters Degree. It was hard at times, but THEY ARE MY GREATEST JOY!!! The very best advise my doctor gave me when they were new borns is: "Get on a schedule and keep them on it. When I say feed them at 2:00 I mean 2:00, not 1:55 or 2:05. And do not tip toe around the house. Vacuum under their cribs during nap time. Let them get use to noise." And it worked well. That really got me through the sleepless nights for the first few months. And one most important piece of advise - enjoy every minute - good or bad!!!! They grow up real fast and one day you will look back on it and say I where did the time go. Being single I had to work more than I wanted to to put a roof over our heads. I missed too many basketball games, etc. Make a point to put them first no matter what! But never, never forget your husband!!! Mine got lost in the mix and left. Make sure you keep date night and alone time for you both. You will have plenty of time for just yourself in the 2nd half of your life. If you have any questions please feel free to contact me at roxfisher@hotmail.com (my name is Roxanne) and take advantage of my experience. I had no one and stumble through it all. Enjoy and Congrats!!!!

Suzanne - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi there! I am pregnant with fratenral twins myself! Congratulations. PLEASe pick up the book by Dr. Barbara Luke: Twins, Triplets or Quads- proven guidelines for a healthy multiple pregnancy. Everyone I know recommends this book and has has healthy, big, full term babies. It is alot of information- but a lot of fun eating- so enjoy!!!

Suzie - posted on 05/29/2013

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Congrats to all the mother of twins. It is amazing.... I am almost 10 weeks pregnant...and we just found out we are having fraternal twins!!! SHOCKED is not the word. Took us 4 years to even get pregnant....and now we have 2 beautiful blessings! I am very nervous.... I know we are in for alot of work. But very excited to have this experiance.

Lonyea - posted on 07/15/2013

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Hello every one. I found out 7/9/2013 I'm having fraternal twins. Expected due date: 2/17/2013. What should I expect. I'm 36yrs of age and will be 37 this month. I have a 10 month old born 9/11/2012. I need good information and support.

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Janet - posted on 07/28/2013

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I'm 32 weeks pregnant with fraternal twins boy and girl due date: Sept 20th,2013. Experiencing lots of Braxton hicks and pelvic pressure. Trying to take it easy don't want to go into labour early. Working all the way up to Aug 5th then I'm done can't take much of the pelvic pressure working up at cash all day. Plus I have a four year old daughter that keeps me quiet busy. I've been getting most information from experienced twin moms, online and BabyCenter.

Tara - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hello! We had a 2.5 year old and a 16month old when we brough our twins home. You are going to be busy. After about 4 months things got a little easier, but you will also find new challenges every day. I belong to a mom's group called MOPS. I have really loved this group, been in it for 4 years now. MOPS meets during the day when I need the adult contact. There are also multiple groups out there. They usually meet in the evening. I did not do these too much because I liked being home with my husband and kids. My twins are one week away from being 3 and I just love watching them interact with each other. They truely are each others best friends. Let me know if you have any questions. I would be glad to help if I can. Remember, get rest when you can. Do not over do it! I did not know I was having twins until I was 27.5 weeks along. No wonder why I as so tired!!! You are going to have a great time with all of your children!!

Kenya - posted on 01/21/2009

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I HAVE TWINS TOO BUT THEY ARE GOING ON 4, BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART ABOUT HAVING TWINS IS TO TRY TO GET THEM  ON THE SAME SCHEDULE, BELIVE ME IT WAS HARD AND SOMETIMES CRYING NIGHT BUT THE START GO TO SLEEP AT THE SAME TIME, AND IF ONE WAKE UP TO EAT I WOULD WAKE THE OTHER ONE UP TO BECAUSE SOON AS U GET ONE BACK TO SLEEP THE OTHER ONE WOULD BE WAKING UP ANYWAY  >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>GOOD LUCK I HOPE I WAS HELPFUL

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Hey & congrats on a double blessing!! I have 3 1/2 year old fraternal twin boys and although it can be difficult at times, it's amazing!!! I wouldn't have it any other way. I strongly recommend that you check into your local Mother of Multiples group. Not only are you able to develop some great friends, you'll be exposed to more support, yearly multiples sales, cooked dinner once you have the babies, etc. You can learn so much.

Good luck with you and again, congrats!!!!!

Kimberly

Kylie - posted on 01/20/2009

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thanks, unfortunatley unlike most mothers i have come in contact with lately i didn't use and form of fertility treatment, it was just...i guess youd call it luck, we got pregnant with the twins naturally and my family is mostly still in shock that we got pregnant with twins.

Michele - posted on 01/20/2009

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You're in for the greatest time of your life! I have four year old girls. One looks like me the other her Father. It's awesome! They play together,fight together even cry together. I nursed both for three months with the help of a pump. I used IVF to get pregnant and would say to all it's a wonderful procedure. If your husband works a lot find a friend who is willing to help you with checkups and well baby checkups. You'll need it! Don't forget to PRAY-PRAY-PRAY! That helps with everything... Have fun..

Kylie - posted on 01/20/2009

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no we find that out at the end of next month and i cant wait, my husband has already got bets going on genders and everything. but i'll be happy so long as they are both healthy and happy little babies, my obgyn doen't want to induce me with this pregnancy as he has had to with my daughter and a little with my son, he just decided he didn't wanna come out. my dr is great and he has stated as little medical interferance as possible with this pregnancy, this time

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As well as my twin boys I also have a 10 and 7 yr old boys and a 6 yr old girl. They are the best helpers!! They feel really importanat knowing they are helping.

Every one kept telling me "youll have them early and youll need a c-section." I was induced at 39 weeks and had them naturally 6 mins apart.

Do you know the sex?

Stephanie - posted on 01/20/2009

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Quoting Kylie:

i am pregnant with fraternal twins and i have no idea where to get good information on what im in for




HI ITS NOT THAT BAD GOT BOY AND GIRL TWINS NOW 5 WERE EASER THAN MY TWO BOYS  HAD NATRAUL BIRTH 13 MINS APART BUT DONT BE SURPRISED IF U GO IN TO LAYBOUR EARLY

Sima-moshe - posted on 01/20/2009

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Congradulations welcome 2 the club i also have  fraternal twins they are allready 6.5 yrs old set of boys . I couldnt ask 4 better kids then them from when they were born they were good i was also scared my husband helped me alot w/them make your self involved in near buy hospital where u give birth they have mothers of multiples meetings & diffrent support teams take advantage of it .Enjoy them now when they cant open there mouths 2 u .



 

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Congratulations!  Twins are easy and are hard.  Colic is the worst and if they are premies, it lasts 44-6 weeks after their suggested birth date....if colic screaming gets to you, go to the ER and tell them you need a break-it is okay!  Bouncing up and down is way better than side to side because it helps to release the gases that colic creates. 



 



If they are not colic-that is awesome...they'll be easy because they basically entertain themselves.

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Congratulations!  Twins are easy and are hard.  Colic is the worst and if they are premies, it lasts 44-6 weeks after their suggested birth date....if colic screaming gets to you, go to the ER and tell them you need a break-it is okay!  Bouncing up and down is way better than side to side because it helps to release the gases that colic creates. 



 



If they are not colic-that is awesome...they'll be easy because they basically entertain themselves.

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Congratulations!  Twins are easy and are hard.  Colic is the worst and if they are premies, it lasts 44-6 weeks after their suggested birth date....if colic screaming gets to you, go to the ER and tell them you need a break-it is okay!  Bouncing up and down is way better than side to side because it helps to release the gases that colic creates. 



 



If they are not colic-that is awesome...they'll be easy because they basically entertain themselves.

Kylie - posted on 01/20/2009

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i have a three year old and a thirteen year old and am thirteen weeks pregnant with fraternal twins, i imagine it is a hell of a lot easier with one than two but im glad for all the help that people like you can give me

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Hi there. Firstly CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have 6 month old fraternal boys. I have found a really good website www.multiplebirthparents.com It is for parents expecting or already have twins. Very helpful.

I dont think you can ever be totally prepared for twins. But saying that its fantastic. I still look at my boys and think WOW!! Its a real challenge but so worth it.

Hope all goes well for you. xx

Joanna - posted on 01/19/2009

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I have 6 month old fraternal twins boys. In Australia the support group in AMBA  - Australian Multiple Birth Assoc. having twins is soo much work but also soo much fun. Once the first  few months are under your belt you will really get to enjoy them. I always say they are double the joy not double trouble. Take all the help you can and get people to help out when they visit. Dont fret too much about hte housework, anybody who says anything about it wont have twins themselves. Congrats and goodluck

Diane - posted on 01/19/2009

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Hi,

I have identical twin girls who are 5 years old.

The AMBA (Australian Multiple Births Association) are a great circle to join.

The website is http://www.amba.org.au/

They have a few in different areas so call them to enquire about your local club.



They are a great help ... as only advice from a mother of twins is useful ..



I also have a newborn now and it is soooooo much more easier with one than two.



But twins are fantastic .. the first four months were a blur but it does get easier and they have such an amazing bond, it is a beautiful experience and you are lucky to experience it.



Where are you located?

Darleen - posted on 01/19/2009

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I do not have twins but am a fraternal twin of a sister. I have six children of my own. I was pregnant with twin boys, but miscarried one. I always wanted to have twins since I am a twin and found it to be a positive experience growing up with my sister. My mother always said the first 5 yrs. to be the hardest. Congratulations!
Blessings,
Darleen

Justkima - posted on 01/19/2009

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Congratulations! I have six year old identical twin girls. I would echo what other posters have said and find a local Mothers of Multiples group. You can go to the national page and put in your zip to find a local club. http://www.nomotc.org/index.php?Itemid=4... Besides here, there are many other online communities for twins at iVillage or at Twins magazine. http://forum.twinsmagazine.com//index.ph... Hope your pregancy is smooth and uneventful!



~Kim

http://www.mygc.com/kimniehaus

Debbie - posted on 01/19/2009

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I had fraternal twins girl 22yrs ago! i also had 2 other girls at home at the time! around 3 & 5 at the time! best thing my mother ever did was tell me i wont be able to get out much? (not sure if she did it on purpose or not) so i set out to prove her wrong! like other's have suggested take help when offered! DO NOT THINK U HAVE TO KEEP ALL THE HOUSE WORK UPTO DATE? U DON'T! as long as the kids are fed have some clean clothes?My hubby was in the RAAF at the time & we did move around? so having family close wasnt really an option! U CAN DO IT! JUST GET IT IN YOUR HEAD 1ST not last! & a helpfull partner is worth his weight in gold if he is there! & above all try to look after your self? even if it means going for a 10min walk around the block! or go & sit down by the water be that lake, river or ocean? i found sitting by myself watching the water very calming! u have to find time for yourself! & i found a clothes dryer? the biggest godsend? with other kids & no place to hang washing? the extra cost is worth your sanity in the long run? but do use the sun when u can? as it helps with stains on clothes? & dont be afraid of second hand clothes? from either OP shops? or friends? be grateful! kids grow quick? &  ENJOY THEM & MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO KNOW WHERE THEY ARE & WHAT THEY ARE DOING AT ALL TIME? IT'S REALLY NOT AS HARD AS U THINK? & CAN SAVE U SO MUCH GRIEF!(THEY DONT HAVE TO KNOW U ARE WATCHING!) TRUST ME THIS SAVES YOUR SANITY!!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2009

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We have fraternal twin girls who will be turning 6 next month. Having twins is fabulous! It's work but so is having just one! What questions do you have and I'll help with whatever I can!

-Jen Sanford

Heather - posted on 01/19/2009

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hi first of all congratulations. i have 6 children my 1st is13 then i have boy/girl twins of 11, and another set of boy/girl twins that are 3 and lastly a 2yr old. my piece of advice would to treat your twins as complete individuals. mine are completely unalike in personality and learning stages.

User - posted on 01/19/2009

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hi i am a single parent and have twin girls aged 2.i would not of managed without a book called twins and multiple births by dr carol cooper.it is an essential guide from pregnancy to adultood.this book has been my rock when ive had the' why me 'days.lol.xxxx

Kylie - posted on 01/18/2009

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thank you for that, if any one has site addresses that have info on them please post address

Kathy - posted on 01/16/2009

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I have no twins but just wanted to say congratulations to you



and wish you many happiness

Kylie - posted on 01/16/2009

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yeh that pretty cool, i have a three and a half year old and a 13 month old as well, it is gunna be so much fun(HAHAHAHA) as we live in a rural town and you dont really see to many multiple births here, i think my obgyn said like one every like three years if not longer.

i hope to find a very helpful group here as multiple are different from single children and i do want to have a rough idea what i am in for with the twins.

Carrie - posted on 01/16/2009

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I SO understand where you're coming from. I just joined a twins group online here, but I belong to a local group called Mothers of Multiples (MOMS). They have groups nationwide and I'm sure you can find them through google online for your area. Monthly meetings if you like, or just an online community, but I found them very supportive throughout my pregnancy - bedrest- etc. My fraternal twin boys will be 3 months on the 29th. It's pretty awesome! Congratulations!!

Kylie - posted on 01/16/2009

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that you all for you advise and help, as i am in australia some of it is a little less accurate for australia, but at the same time i am looking for support groups in my area, with out much sucess at the moment, but should do when my Mum's Dad's and guardians group gets back from holidays.

thank you especially for the websites as they seem a bit more handy, i can read them when the kids are asleep and dont have to worry about due dates.( for books) especially as i have found the few books that i have come across have been more confusing than helpful.

Marissa - posted on 01/15/2009

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I have 3 year old fraternal twins. I joined the loocal Moms of Mutliples club. I also talk a lot on the multiples board on the nest. A lot of people will reccomend a book by Dr. Luke about nutrition during a multiple pregnancy. I don't since I had issues gaining weight. I got a chart made up for the boys and we kept track of who did what. Those first couple of months were rough so it helped us to remember who did what and at what time. There's also different companies that you can write to that will give you discounts and free things because you are having multiples. Babies R Us will give you a 10% off of items over 50 dollars that you buy more than one of.

Margaret - posted on 01/15/2009

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I am expecting fraternal boy/girl twins any week now and I have found a local organization: Mothers of Multiples to be a great source of info. As a previous post describe, moms sell multiples items that they are no longer using and you can save a lot of money. Also, our group has "nights out" and "days out" for moms, think game night or a getting our nails done. There are holiday parties, musuem days just for your group, etc. Also, people recommend great nannies if you are going down that route. You should check to see if you have a local chapter in your area.

Laura - posted on 01/14/2009

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I have fraternal twins...you life is going to be challenging but so much more fun! My oldest daughter was 18 months when we brought the twins home. If you are in the states there is an organization called P.O.T.A.T.O. (Parents of twins and triplets organization.) They have meetings usually once a month where you can get with other parents and also swap items you know longer need for ones you do. It is also a good support system to have on hand. My only other suggestion is to not turn down any help offers. If someone wants to do your dishes, let them. Life is going to get busy and hectic with the twins. One thing we did was make a chart that kept up with pees, poos and feedings. It is hard when you are tired for 2 and not just one! It logged how much they ate, what time, time and type of diaper and we would also write little things on it such as first smile. It is now in a folder and fun to look at. I would try though to get them on back to back schedules. It may not always be that way but it makes it easier when it comes time for feedings. This way you can get both done when you are home alone and you are not getting up inbetween feeding one for the other. It helps to buy you some rest time! Would be more than happy to chat with you more if you have questions. Good luck with the pregnancy.

Jolene - posted on 01/14/2009

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a fun time for one

on line there is a twins website so you can chat woth other mothers with twin and what is happing with you and the kids

Alroud great support - www.muliplybirths.com

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