i am sure i am being controlled by my husband

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my husband left me and my children some weeks ago he has told me the only way he will come back is if i move out of the home we live in , also he yells down the phone at me saying where have you been i not heard from you for hrs on end when i am busy with the kids next he will show up in the town we live in saying meet me and he so loving and gentle saying you know i love you etc etc i want our marrige and next he on phone saying i not sure what i want any more this is hurting me so much the txts i get makes me cry night after night he makes out everything is my fault saying you made me do this if i try to call him he never answers his phone he allways busy and when i challange him he say i owe you nothing i have a life when he heres me cry he says dont cry you know i love you i will be back when i am ready i dont know what to do anymore and could do with any advice from anyone out there as i am at my wits end he even acusses me of wanting some body elase which is not true please help

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Lacye - posted on 12/03/2012

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You need to calm down. First thing, is there a court agreement saying the kids should live with him? If not, there is still a chance for you to get your children back. Your lawyer is right though. It will be after Christmas before they can do anything through the court system.



Does your ex work? If he does, where do the kids go while he's at work? If there is no court order stating he has custody, you can go and pick up your kids from a daycare I think. I know usually they don't allow it when there is a custody battle but if you have not gone through one yet, then you can get them back.



Do not give up. You need to fight back. If you do manage to get your kids back and if he shows up at your house, call the cops. Do NOT answer the door for him. Do not have any contact with him. If possible, go to a relative's house for a little while until all of this calms down. Right now you and the kids are most important. Yall's safety is most important.

Lacye - posted on 11/28/2012

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That's the thing, you haven't done anything wrong. Men like him are dangerous. You need to move out of that house, change your number, and run as far from him as possible. Get a lawyer and file for divorce. Right now he is only abusing you emotionally. Later, it could turn into something physical. Do you want your child to see that? You need to leave him.

Sarah - posted on 11/28/2012

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Lisa- this is emotional abuse. Abuse is about power and control, which he definitely is getting right now. You need to contact your local domestic violence shelter and they can connect you with the resources in your area. Whether a counselor or a support group, they will be able to give you some good ideas on where to start. This man is controlling you, is abusing you and only You have the power to stop him.

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Lakota - posted on 12/03/2012

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Lisa, don't think about hurting yourself. Your kids need you. Do you have family or friends who can help you right now and people you can lean on?

Holly - posted on 12/03/2012

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get to court, tell the judge that he took your kids from you, he will end up will BIG problems... he has officially kidnapped your children.

Lisa - posted on 12/03/2012

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he all ready moved out , he has now taken my kids my babies my 6mth old girl and my 2 yr old son he sayin i am mentally ill i am not i am fine he recons he is going to nail me to the wall and make my life hell i did nothing wrong to him i loved him i gave him all i had and put him b4 me i cant belive he taken my children the cops wont get involved i saw a lawyer and there usless say it will be after christmas b4 i can get in to court for resadency order my life is in a mess he leaves messages on my phone wont let me talk to my little boy says he dont talk when he does string a few words together then he says he is asleep he playing massive mind games with me i cant even begin to understand it hes done so much to me and my other sons here and they hate him for it all , i cant even sleep as i keep thinkin i can here the babies cryin at night i even thought about suicide and somthing made me snap out of that idea it like he wants me gone and i dont know why

Lisa - posted on 11/28/2012

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today was the worst ever it started with a phone call late last night and because i did not answer straight awayand then phoned him back he said whoa re you with i said no one its just me and the children he said lier this went on till early hrs of morning then came the bang onthe door he stood there checking the house and him saying he was sorry and went today i had txts saying i know what you are up o you are having an affair and i will find out who it is he had me in tears he showed up in town telling me to get in the car yellin and screaming at me i never seen him like this and then said you know i love you baby i cried and left all night i had this him on phone threats towards me and i really am worried i never seen him like this he use to be so loving once and i keep asking my self what have i done wrong to make him like this

ANDREA - posted on 11/27/2012

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i really think you should leave him he is the father of your son but no man should treat you like that

Holly - posted on 11/27/2012

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sounds as if he has issues he needs to work on, either he is working on becoming abusive towards you, or he is bipolar to the extreme; either way he needs serious counseling and/or meds

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