I babysit a spoiled 10 month old. Coming to a point I don't want to watch her anymore cause all she does is cry and constantly HAS to be held in order not to cry advice...?

Alie - posted on 11/29/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have 10 month old boy, and I babysit my friend's daughter who is also 10 months. The little baby is spoiled you cannot put her down. If you do she throws a tantrum and screams. I don't have time or energy to carry her everywhere and its coming to a point that I can't watch her anymore if that is all she is going to do. How do I break her of this while she is at my house or how do I tell her Mom this needs to stop or I can't watch her?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/29/2012

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Ok....you cannot spoil a baby that age. Babies want to be held and be a part of what their parents are doing, and when others are taking care of them, often they will need extra love from the anxiety of not being with their parents. Sounds to me like you don't want to deal with this kid anymore, so don't before you hurt the baby. Tell the mom that you no longer can do it. If you want to salvalge your friendship, do not use the word "spoiled". Tell her the truth, taking care of 2 babies is to much work for you. Hell, if someone was taking care of YOUR baby, how would you feel if they were talking ill of the light of your life?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/29/2012

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Sounds to me like the baby may not be the spoiled one.

Lacye - posted on 11/29/2012

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You cannot "spoil" a child that young. It sounds like the child is having separation anxiety. It's not that she wants to be held all the time, it's more of she wants that contact. She needs that contact.

Dove - posted on 11/29/2012

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If you are on here complaining about a spoiled 10 month old... it IS too much for you to handle. There is nothing wrong w/ it being too much for you to handle.



I had two kids that behaved like you seem to be saying your sons behave... and one that behaved like this little girl. None of my kids are spoiled and they are all 100% normal for THEM.

Alie - posted on 11/29/2012

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By no means am I talking "ill" of her and I'm quite offended that you would even implicate that I would harm that baby. Her own mother has asked the same question about her behavior. And my sons have never acted the way this little girl does. Both are highly independent and being that I have a father with a masters in psychology who has said you CAN spoil a 10 month old. I'm going with his professional opinion. It isn't that it is "too" much for me to watch the two of them, it is she has never been stimulated in "play" or encouraged to explore the way I have my sons. I've spoken with her Mother being that her and I's friendship is open and honest about the situation and she agrees that her daughter has been "spoiled' by the live in grandmother who never puts her down. Babies adapt to routines and hers is being held all the time. Unfortunately that can't be for life it would be the same in any regular child care center, they would not be holding her 24/7. So I appreciate the advice but being that I took initiative spoke with her mother and my professional father we have come up mutually with our own plan.



And for future reference I would advise you not to assume or suggest that anyone would harm any baby in their care. If I didn't feel I could handle it, I have no problem letting her mother know. That was uncalled for and quite disrespectful.



With that I am closing this post. Thank you ladies.

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Dove - posted on 11/29/2012

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Fine. Then tell her mom that her daughter is spoiled and you refuse to watch her.

Alie - posted on 11/29/2012

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i spoke with her mom before about it, she and the baby lives with grandma and grandma carries her everywhere. I guess she is now having issue with it at home and doesn't know how to break the habit or tell her Mom to stop carrying her. I have 2 boys and have watched a lot of other babies and NEVER have I seen one THIS spoiled.

Alie - posted on 11/29/2012

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It isn't the having the two infants, its her she is literally spoiled. She is fine if she is held, her mom walks in and out and she doesn't make a peep. Its the baby. Nothing other than carrying her around consoles her. And its not just a pick me up cry, its a legitimate hold me of I'm throwing a full blown tantrum and scream like someone is hurting me. She doesn't want to play, eat, nothing, just be carried around back and forth rocked ect.

Dove - posted on 11/29/2012

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She's not spoiled... She's normal and probably missing her mom.



If you can't watch her just let her mom know that you've realized that having two infants (yours and her's) in your care is simply more than you can handle.

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