I don't want to go back to work, but i need income! What do i do?

Tennille - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My maternaty leave is almost over and I really really dont want to put my daughter in child/day care. I think that it not fiesable to pay the child care fees and I am really uncomfortable with the thought of having someone else raise her! I no that the social connections would only help her later in life but i am really struggling, can you help me???

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Alisa - posted on 11/14/2009

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You know you don't have to have a full time job, maybe a part time job, alot of daycares will take children part tiime. Think about it, you not only get a little income, but she gets the social benefits, and contrary to what you might think, that small amount of time at the daycare doesn't mean they are rasing her, because she will still be with you most of the time. Do you let her visit the grand parents? Most will keep their own grandkids for free, it's someone you know and trust, and they'll have great bondings with their grandparents. Think of it as play dates for her, wether it's at the grandparents or the daycare, if you go into it negatively, she'll be able to sense it. I mean let's face it there's a recession, and it's going to be hard enough finacially not doing anything at all. Have you thought about doing Avon, people sell online and over the phone now, it might be worth looking into, or any other kind of products out there like MaryKay, Tupperware, Home Interior....give it a shot. good luck!

User - posted on 11/13/2009

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i know what you are going through. i opted to stay home with the kids. i dont regret it, but we ended up super tightening our belts as a result and can barely afford to save money. i don't regret it, but i know when the time comes that they are in school, i will have a hard time finding a job again. i say you seriously think this is over, and devise a budget plan to see if you can affor staying home, working part time, or will have to work full time. also discuss this careully with your significant other. sometimes they can think you have it too easy staying home with the kids while they work all day. that can lead to resentment which can lead to the dissolution of a relationship. it really is a diffcult choice, and i wish you the best of luck.

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Jenny - posted on 11/14/2009

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I do not know where you live but you could sale beautiControl and then that way you could be at home with children. As a mother we all strugggle with this problem. It is a big problem selling beauti control is an answer to that. It gives you the freedom that you want and the flexibity as well. You work when you want to work and that is the best thing about it.

Becky - posted on 11/14/2009

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Re-budget, work part time, work from home. I started selling Tastefully Simple for a way to get out of my house. I'm currently laid off so money is extremely tight in our house. Shop frugally and buy bulk if you can -- it does help to cut costs and can save you money. Resale shops for kids clothing -- we cut out alot of dining out. My goal is to return to work part-time (I don't like child care either) but I made it a point to really get to know the individual who took care of my child when I was working full time.
Good luck.

Brandie - posted on 11/14/2009

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You could always try working at the child care center, then you will be close to your daughter while working.

Kathy - posted on 11/14/2009

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I've got a few months before I really have to worry about it, but we've been talking about me babysitting or starting a day home of my own when my mat leave runs out. I don't want to miss out on anything, and I don't want to put her in a daycare. No offense to moms that do, but you hear too many bad things about some of them, and friends that have kids in daycare and they get sick alot more than friends with kids that aren't.

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If you do decide on child care, be very picky and ask a lot of questions. Don't knock daycares because they are NOT all the same. Sure, there are some crappy ones out there, but there are also some wonderful licensed and amazing child care facilities.
There are also many work-from-home options and I know some very successful moms that literally did every catalogue product: Tupperware, Pampered Chef, PartyLites, Gold Canyon candles, Tastefully Simple, a jewelry business, Avon, scrapbooking parties, and even some that did Passion Parties (sexual related products, but apparently a big money maker!)
Good luck!

Sharolett - posted on 11/14/2009

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I am a stay at home mom. I have two boys. I cant have anymore children and didnt want to miss a thing! I dont have a problem with daycare my first went to daycare. I decided to start a in home childcare. I don't regret any choices I made I love it! Pays not great but it helps when your on a budget.

Karen - posted on 11/14/2009

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Do anything you can to stay home! Get a smaller place, get rid of the extra car, commit to living wihin one income. As a former owner of a licesed day for 10 years, your baby will have fun at daycare, they will be fine! In fact will enjoy all the attention, will grow and develope! What is impossible to give them there is your outlook on life, your view of morals, your thoughts on how to be a good person. "Quality Time" from from 6 when you pick them up to 8 when you put them down is wonderful, but lets face it you get tired. Your making dinner, needing time for you too. In the end you won't have much of the material things you worked for during that critical time, and you won't get another chance. If you have to work (like me still a full time working mom with my last a 13 year old) do your very best and don't beat yourself up over it.

Jeanne - posted on 11/14/2009

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Okay, the most important social connection at this point is the one she has to you, you may want to look at work you can do on the computer, from home. It allows you to be home with her, raise her, and have an income.

April - posted on 11/14/2009

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There is nothing wrong with putting a child in daycare. I used to work in a daycare and now I have my daughter in one. Just be picky about it. If you need money, the only honest thing to do is to go back to work. Sure, you could steal and sell drugs to earn money but,, that's not being honest lol ; )

Andie - posted on 11/14/2009

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Hi Tennille,
Have you thought of starting a business and working from home?
There are tons of opportunities online to make a great income.
I have two young daughters, as well, and I stay at home full time and run a couple of businesses.
Andrea

Michelle - posted on 11/13/2009

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Well if you're married/ with someone I'd say re visit the budget and see what can be changed so you can stay at home. If you can't afford day care whether you're working or not then I'd say you can't really afford to work (because you're not actually bringing money in). The other thing you can do is get a part time job that is the opposite of when your significant other is. It sucks for together time. My sister and her boyfriend have to do it that way because they need the money and they can't afford day care. My sister works during the day and her boyfriend at night (he actually works graveyard so they get a little time together in the evening). I have to say I'm a stay at home mom and honestly we would have lost money in the long run if I had kept working. My kids socialize with other kids just fine (we go to malls and parks and stuff and they do get to play with other kids). Don't feel guilty about wanting to stay home with your daughter. Hopefully something can be figured out. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 11/13/2009

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Well if you're married/ with someone I'd say re visit the budget and see what can be changed so you can stay at home. If you can't afford day care whether you're working or not then I'd say you can't really afford to work (because you're not actually bringing money in). The other thing you can do is get a part time job that is the opposite of when your significant other is. It sucks for together time. My sister and her boyfriend have to do it that way because they need the money and they can't afford day care. My sister works during the day and her boyfriend at night (he actually works graveyard so they get a little time together in the evening). I have to say I'm a stay at home mom and honestly we would have lost money in the long run if I had kept working. My kids socialize with other kids just fine (we go to malls and parks and stuff and they do get to play with other kids). Don't feel guilty about wanting to stay home with your daughter. Hopefully something can be figured out. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 11/13/2009

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how about going back part time. Do you have family that could help you out, that way she's not with strangers. That's what I had to do, it breaks my heart everyday I have to leave my son, I hate it. It is nice to get out with adults, don't get me wrong, sometimes I need it and I don't know it till I'm at work.

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