I don't want to leave my 5 month old child by him self, with his delusional step aunt, is that wrong?

Monique - posted on 12/01/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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This girl feeds off of drama, she is twisted; she likes making everyone feel devastated by lying and manipulating. I am not even married to her step brother (we broke up in March), and when i told him that I was pregnant. My ex and his step sister tried to convince me to get an abortion. I don't believe in abortion so I decided to keep my baby, and now she has been urging me since the birth of my child; she always say "Drop off the baby with some of your pumped breast-milk so we ( her family and her) can spend time with the baby without you!" b.t.w. my baby's dad doesn't even want to support the baby (all the baby got from the dad was 150 dollars) He told me, he thinks babies are leeches. What should I do? Any advice?

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Lacye - posted on 12/01/2012

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Please understand that I'm not being mean when I say this, but your social worker lied. Just because you were never married to the father of you child, does not mean he doesn't have rights. It's just his choice to act on them. Believe me, my husband is not even allowed to see his child by his ex because of this reason. We don't have visitation set up through the courts (yet) and she will not allow us to be alone with the child and will not allow us to have her because she knows we could take her and not have to give her back.

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Maria - posted on 12/03/2012

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I wouldn't let felons, or family of felons, near my kid. I would leave the country! But I enjoy leaving the country :)

Monique - posted on 12/02/2012

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I will continue to stand my ground with the sperm donor/ biological father's family.



I want them involved in my son's life, I just want to be present when they are bonding with my son. Is that too much to ask?



I don't know why they want to shove me in the corner while they bond with him.

I carried him in my womb for 9 months, I provide and care for him 24/7, he is so very dear to me. It is as though they want to get rid of me and just keep my son for themselves. How heartless of them.



From now on, I will NOT continue to take my son to their house like I've done in the past during the weekends. They live about 30 miles away from me and I drive out there to let them spend time with him. They just want to take advantage of my kindness. If they want to see him they'll have to visit us instead.



Enough is Enough! His biological father won't stand up for him, so I have to put my foot down for the safety and well-being of my son.

Lacye - posted on 12/01/2012

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Ah ok. I got you now. Just stand your ground with the family though.



Another thing that you might want to look into is if your state supports grandparents' rights. He might choose not to take you to court, but his parents might decide to do it in order to get visitation of their grandchild.

Monique - posted on 12/01/2012

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The sperm donor doesn't want the court involved. He's got a criminal record and he doesn't have money....

Dove - posted on 12/01/2012

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Just be aware that if he decides to take you to court for unsupervised visits... he might get them.

Monique - posted on 12/01/2012

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Oh I see. Thanks for the heads up. I appreciate it. But I am not worried because my baby's sperm donor is a felon, and me and him had a fling ( I got myself into this mess by being so naive and believing his lies). I just found out a couple of months ago that he has another baby only 2 months older then mine. So there is no way I am going to let him or his dysfunctional family take my baby! They never wanted my baby when he was an embryo. The only reason my child is here is because of my choice to keep him. I've never and I will never ever, let them spend time with my baby without my supervision. I want to protect my child, since he doesn't deserve to go through all the lies and manipulations from him or his family.

Monique - posted on 12/01/2012

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I was told by a social worker that I don't have to do the custody battle since I was never married to begin with. She said as long as my baby is under my supervision and care his biological father can't just take the baby from me. My baby's biological father, told me he never want any kids, and he never comes by to see our baby.

Lacye - posted on 12/01/2012

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Oh! And you can inform her that until your child gets off the boob, the "without you" crap is out the window. She can take that and shove it too.

Lacye - posted on 12/01/2012

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Tell them no. If he wants to spend time with his child, then he needs to step up and do it. That is the time when he is supposed to bring the child to them and let them see the baby. It's not your responsibility to cater to these people.



I agree with Dove. Don't just hand your child over to him or them either. If you do, they can legally keep the child away from you. Have custody and visitation set up through the court system.

Dove - posted on 12/01/2012

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If the baby's father wants visitation.... he can get it. 'I' wouldn't be just handing the baby over to anyone else though and wouldn't hand the baby over to his father (father can see him WITH you) until the two of you work out a custody and visitation agreement and have it signed by the court.

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