i dont know what to do?!?!

Rachel - posted on 11/13/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my baby daddy and i are not married and his mom has been such a pain. throughout my pregnancy he cheated on me and smoked weed everyday and told me that me and the child were not worth him quitting. his mom told me to just leave him alone because all i did was stress him out and then she told me what to name my son!! she always asks my boyfriend to send her money for bills and gas etc..we are college students and already pinching pennies. after having my son my boyfriend has continued to smoke weed and wont quit. he lies about everything. his family lives 7 hours away and have never came up to meet my son yet expect us to do the traveling down there. they havent sent even a card to him yet my family helped me get a car and has spent hundreds on him already. should i feel obligated to put out all the time and effort for them to meet him or hold my ground on it.

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Dove - posted on 11/13/2012

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He can get visitation without child support in just about every state (not sure about all). You need to be documenting everything and get a good lawyer. Hope, pray, and push for supervised visits.

Holly - posted on 11/13/2012

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um, this guy and his family seem like losers, get out of this situation... you and your baby deserve better.

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Rachel - posted on 11/13/2012

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I am very strict and wont let him bring the smell around my baby and he would rather play xbox than interact with drey anyway.im hoping to get an internship out of town next semester so i will only see him a few days out of the month.but i know his mom will throw a fit if we dont bring drey down to tx soon.i just dont feel like i dhould have to go out of my way to benefit her when she did not even want me around her son while i was pregnant.and the whole family still talks to his ex and i feel thats disrespectful to me

Gwen - posted on 11/13/2012

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Sounds like HE'S the real pain. Why are you still with this loser?



Talk to a lawyer about your visitation options. Typically there are different schedules based on age and distance. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! Emails, text messages, photos. The more proof you can offer a judge, the better your chances. Also, if you continue to put your child at risk by exposing him to drug use, etc. you could be charged with child neglect or endangering. Just something to think about.

Holly - posted on 11/13/2012

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if you can prove that he is a drug user, they may be able to let him have supervised visitation in a supervised facility.

Rachel - posted on 11/13/2012

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If he is on child support he gets visitation and since he is from texas will he be able to take my baby down there? I dont trust his family alone with my baby and has already disclosed the some of his cousins were molestedby other cousins...it scares me. they are all terrible influences and i wish i could just take my son and not get in trouble for refusing visitations.

Holly - posted on 11/13/2012

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thats why i think it would be best if you leave, you already said it's like you are a single mom ANYWAYS, so whats the point of living with the ADDED stress of him and his family? this way you can get child support ORDERED and make sure it goes through the attorney general, so that they can keep track of it.

Rachel - posted on 11/13/2012

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He doesnt help me at all.i take my son to daycare change the diapers feed him bathe him clothe him everything! i may as well be a single mom and then i have to deal with the dads mom who just thinks im terrible.she blocked me on facebookand then wrote how she deletes people she really doesnt like..aka me..i dont feel like i should drive 7hrs with a 6mo old just for her to meet him when she didnt support me during my pregnancy n has not done anything to show she even cares for her grandson

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