I dont wanna confuse my daughter,what should i do??

Ashley - posted on 12/03/2012

me and my husband were together for almost 5 years. we split up when our boys were about 2 and 4. we stayed split up for 4 years, but for some reason we still called each other when things went wrong, when we needed someone to talk to, we called each other and seen each other the 5 years we were split up. it was never in front of the kids because we were not sure where it was headed and did not want to confuse them, even though they wanted us back together. the last year of it all, the kids finally knew we were trying to work things out. we moved in together after about a year, and we just got married on friday. we dont ever want to be apart again and we want our whole family together. i would advise to take it slow and give it some time to make sure this is what you both want. you have only been back together for 3 weeks, so it is like having a whole new relationship and your still excited about it. just take the time to make sure it is going to work and that your both happy. you dont want him moving in just to realize it isnt going to work and then him move out again. if you really love each other, then it will work out. it took us 5 years of not being together to realize that we did still love each other and were meant to be. im not saying to wait 5 years, just dont do it until you know 100% that the both of you are ready for this. good luck.

Lola - posted on 12/03/2012

Yes I must admit growing up I heard my mum and dad have little arguments nothing big they weren't screaming down each others throats,I'm sure in the end she will be more thankful that he can grow up with a mommy and daddy together at the same time not split time.Thankyou :)

S. - posted on 12/03/2012

Good luck! And i hope you all have a good christmas. Remember thou living with anyone your bound to have arguments and hearing arguments are a normal part of any child growing up its "the real world"

Lola - posted on 12/03/2012

First of all thankyou both.Wasn't trying to use her as an excuse but you are right I'm sure she won't remember in the long run,I think we will give it a go because we never were virtually screaming and jumping down each others throat we have both matured so much since Audrina has grown as we were both only 20 when she was born I know we're only a bit older but she sure made us grow up fast!! I think it will work out I will tell him he can move in but if things get bad really bad he will have to leave for Audrinas sake.His lease is up on the 17th so it would be nice to have him moved in and be able to spend Audrinas 1st Christmas all of ether as a family! Thanks for the help all of you!

S. - posted on 12/03/2012

You both seem to have you daughters best interests at heart, I personally would give it another chance if it doesn't work you daughter won't remember.

I just need to add that most couples have financial issues and the root to most arguments is money and children, I don't know a single couple that doesn't have arguments it's to what extent they get to that's the problem. I think the normal bickers are ok but if your both screaming at each other then it's a different story.

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2012

Your daughter is still far too young to remember what is going on at the moment.



Think back to your earliest memory. How far back can you go? I know I can remember when my brother was born and I was 3.5. I don't really remember anything before that.



Using your daughter as an excuse not to get back with her father just in case it doesn't work isn't a very good one. Give it a go but keep in mind why you broke up in the first place. I don't know why you split up but people don't change overnight and are a lot different when you are living with them.



ETA: I didn't read the whole post because without paragraphs it's just far too hard.

Sherri - posted on 12/03/2012

Yes give it a go. Your baby will be fine and too young to know any differently.