I feel like my 5 year old has no respect for me.

Kristi - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My five year old daughter has a mind of her own and uses it regardless of what I say. Sometimes she acts like she doesn't hear me when I tell her to do something. She tells me "NO I don't want to" when I tell her it is time for a bath of bedtime or anything. Anybody have any suggestions for what I should do to make her realize I am her Mother ( WIthout the spanking business)?

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Kylie - posted on 01/26/2010

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star charts/ rewards charts...sit down together a write the goal for the chart..like doing what mummy ask the FIRST time. It may take her a while to get the jist but once the stars star adding up it becomes a big deal to lose them. My daughter is almost five and she has really taken to star charts. i just print them out free from the net ..(google rewards chart) and we color them in together and I put the charts up on a cork board that she cannot reach. so far we have done and finished - using manners without being reminded, packing my toys away by myself, remembering to brush my teeth (she got two stars a day for that one..when she got 14 stars she got a small reward) Her behavior has really improved and i don't have to ask things over and over. I say " do need to take away some stars? and i have her full attention.

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Jean - posted on 01/28/2010

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Kristi, I am a grandmother and have no little ones at home however, one of my daughters told me about Love and Logic which gives wonderful tips on how to raise children. You might want to look at www.loveandlogic.com. Another daughter and her husband have been working on their children, one a very mind of his own 4 year old son and I am amazed at the results. He is more respectful even though he still has his moments. He is much more obedient also. I would suggest you look into that you might appreciate what it can do.

Daow - posted on 01/27/2010

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I have a four year old who's been showing me similar behaviors. Isn't that annoying :) I can tell you I've tried many things including timeout and the useless spanking business ;) None of that work for me. But recently I've started this reward charts similar like Kylie's. I have to say for once my daughter is doing what I'm asking her without repeating at least 5 times! My daughter loves stickers and Ferraris. She gets a sticker at the end of the day for her chart and at the end of the week (depending on how many smily stickers she gets) she would be reward with a coin for her piggy bank, a saving for her future Ferrari. I supposed you can call this 'bribing' on good behaviors. Lol!

Vanessa - posted on 01/27/2010

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at around 5 years all childern both boys and girls have this thing when they are the boss. trying to fight with them only makes it worse. always Discipline with a calm voice and ignore any minor behaviour. star charts with small rewards work good and just praise for every thing good no matter how little

Shelagh - posted on 01/27/2010

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When you're talking to her, make sure she is listening. Do this by insisting on eye contact ('Look at me when I'm talking to you' is a cliche, but it works) - that way, she can't pretend that she hasn't heard you. You'll be amazed how well it works. Good luck.

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