i have 2 children, a girl and a boy, but want another one. does this really seem crazy?

Lady - posted on 05/05/2009 ( 105 moms have responded )

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like i stated. i already have two children. i want another one, really badly. i love being a mom and come from a small broken family. i love the idea of having grandchildren and want as many as possible. so to increase those odds i think i need one more child. (LOL!!!) no really i am an only child and love the energy of children. do you think i should be grateful and leave it alone or peruse my dream of a "big" family.

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Mandy - posted on 05/05/2009

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I also have a boy and a girl and would dearly love to have another baby. I think there is no right or wrong and it definatley does not seem crazy! Having a child is totally up to you & your partner. What is crazy is the people that say "you already have a boy and a girl you don't need another one". Listen to your heart not other peoples opinions. Good Luck.

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aww there nothing wrong with haveing a baby wen i had my son 22yrs ago i wanted a girl then for company for him so 3 years later she was born i watch them grow then wen my son was 9 and my daughter 6 i longed for a boy so i had a son again this one looked like me and his sister the 1st 1 like his dad then daughter wanted a sister so we tryed and behold sister was born . older son dint talk to me for two weeks he liked just having 1 sister and 1 brother there 14 yrs between him and his little sister but they all lve eachother.he now has a son of his own age1 and he got enother one due oct he wants a daughter best of luck to him they be close as they grow up children bring the love from lynette

Sophie - posted on 05/08/2009

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I had 2 children 1 boy and 1 girl and always said they were my last, after 4 years i pinned i have since had 2 more lovely boys latest is only 7 months old and i am already begging my old man for another. You go girl good luck and keep us informed xxxx

Soniasbb - posted on 05/06/2009

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i think u should go for it if that is what u want i always said that i only wanted one boy nd one girl wich i had i then went on to have 4more children its really hard work but worth every minute and i must state i am not having anymore lol.

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It's not crazy at all. As long as you can comfortably provide for them - go for it!

Best wishes!

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Natasha - posted on 01/11/2013

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Pursue it!!! Big families are always a wonderful thing. i am the youngest of 9 kids. and Let me tell you watching my mother be a Grandma, and myself having a 10 month old. Kids will ALWAYS have energy. i have seen my nieces wake up hyper. my mother loves it.
So go for it. as long as its within your means. have all the kids you want.

Natasha - posted on 01/11/2013

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Pursue it!!! Big families are always a wonderful thing. i am the youngest of 9 kids. and Let me tell you watching my mother be a Grandma, and myself having a 10 month old. Kids will ALWAYS have energy. i have seen my nieces wake up hyper. my mother loves it.
So go for it. as long as its within your means. have all the kids you want.

Kevin - posted on 01/08/2013

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Having more children is defiantly good and full of joy for parents and everyone has hi/her own idea about...I have 1 boy,4, and my wife is 6 weeks pregnant now. we are thinking for abortion.I love kids more than anything else but I think that is pure selfishness leaving them behind,,,,They need a real fight in this life which is getting tougher and tougher each day...after 20 years there will be no job for PHD's no security,,,parents are getting sick, old and die....are we thinking about these things or we just think about a few meters meaning today,next week or a few years after....What will happen to them after we pass away?...Can anyone challenge these questions and write about these real world facts? I would be very happy to know your ideas?

Erika - posted on 08/02/2012

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I'm in the same state of pondering day and night whether to have more or not- since my youngest of my two turned four last January! It's constantly on my mind it seems. So much so that the words "planned pregnancy" sound like an understatement... My latest 'plans' are to have two more, when timed right, both born in Aug-Sept, with only one year apart! Both my children now are Aquarius babies, unplanned in the area of zodiac signs! It's more interesting to see if I can have similar results with my next set with planning actually put into place....

Now that's what you call crazy! ;-) Best regards with your decision!

Lady - posted on 04/04/2011

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UPDATE: I did have another little girl, born prematurly at 32 weeks but she is fine now and the perfect addition to the family! Thanks to all for the support and encouragement...and i say this with pride...no more children for me!!!!

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I have 7 children and would love to have more, mine range from 13 right down to 11 weeks and everyone is a blessing, all are unique and all bring something different to our family. I couldnt imagine a single day without any of them. I am looking forward to sharing deb balls 18 and 21s weddings and births (hoping that will be quite a while away) etc with them in the future but at the moment I am just enjoying every day. One thing I will say though is that when preparing for your 3rd make sure that you are organised. Have a place for everything and make sure that things always go where you can find them, I found this out very quickly because you only have 2 hands and when you need go out you have 3 kids going separate directions so you need to grab things quick. As I said I have 7 so being organised is VERY important, but while saying this try not to get too snowed under with the grind of daily life and enjoy every moment because they grow up so fast and if you are not paying attention you miss out on the special moments. My youngest son is 2 and we were having trouble getting him to give up his dummy I have learnt to stop what ever I am doing when he comes to me for something now because he is sometimes very hard to understand. I was doing the dishes and he tapped on my leg I bobbed down to see what he wanted and he handed me something wrapped in a hanky and his favourite book,I opened up the hanky and there was his dummy he said I give you dummy you read book and kiss and cuddle me peese. I almost cried. I stopped what I was doing and we cuddled and read his favourite book, he hasnt had a dummy for 3 days even though he knows where they are he would rather have a story and a cuddle. So go for it and add more special memories to you already blessed life. I hope this helps.

Belinda - posted on 05/10/2009

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i have 4 kids and i would not chane anything in the world for what i have even though im single and do this on my own ilove them to death

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I don't think you are crazy! Children are wonderful, I have 10 and they are truly a joy. If you feel you want more, then why not have them!!

Sarah - posted on 05/10/2009

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I am going thru the same thing right now I have 2 daughters and 2 step daughters tho. I also want another child very badly. I have wondered the same thing but I think you should go for it why not you can't help what you want.

Nancy - posted on 05/10/2009

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not at all. i have 2 year old twin girls and so want to try for another one. it's trying to convince the other half thats the problem. good luck.

Irene - posted on 05/10/2009

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i think your just like me,i love kids toomuch,kids are wonderful,if you have the time and resources its a sure thing according to me

Karen - posted on 05/10/2009

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I am a big fan of large families. I myself have five kids aged 10yrs, 8yrs, 6yrs 3yrs and 19months and absolutely love it. Everything just seems more fun when there are more people to share in it. I think provided you are prepared to face the added challenges of a large family and can afford it you should have as many kids as you like. Having said that its alot of work but worth every second I think. Good luck

Tiffany - posted on 05/09/2009

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doesn't sound crazy at all.. i have a 2 and a 1 yr old and pregnant with another due in july. now thats crazy lol! good luck!

Dolores - posted on 05/09/2009

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I don't think anything wrong with adding to your family I am currently pregnat with my 4th!!I have 3 girls already (ages 5-3-19months) and a son due in july!!I have always wanted a big family and god has blessed me. If it is ment to be it wil happen!! GL

Vanessa - posted on 05/09/2009

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I have the one and find myself wanting at least one more. The funny thing is I swore up and down that I was NEVER having children.

I think that if you want another one, you should go ahead and have another one. Just don't stress about it.

Traci - posted on 05/09/2009

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There is nothing wrong with wanting another child. I had a boy and a girl myself and wanted another. Now i have 2 boys and a girl. my kids are 7, 3, and 10 months. They love each other and I love each of them. Yea, it makes some things more expensive (food, clothes, education, vacations, etc...) but it is so worth seeing how much fun they have together, watching them get along (and yes the older 2 still fight but not as much as they used to), and all the other things that come with parenting children. Depending on what kind of car you have, car seats could get more expensive (in a mini van its not a problem, but car seating 3 across can be a challenge) but thats a minor bump compared to all the joy my 3 kids bring me.

Jamie - posted on 05/09/2009

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I have a big family, 6 kids that is......My best advice is to be prepared to be frugal, they are only as expensive as you allow them to be:) Otherwise, I wouldn't have it any other way!! I think there is nothing wrong with wanting a big family it's just not as common as it once was...

Isabella - posted on 05/09/2009

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I don't think it's crazy. I have 3 boys and I still want another baby in another few years time.. I like babies... And I think they're lil' angels...

Jenny - posted on 05/09/2009

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If you can afford it financially and are able to spend enough time with them. You got my blessings ;)

Laura - posted on 05/09/2009

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If you want another child and your partner feels the same what's stopping you! I have 3 and personally I don't want any more but everyone is different! children are little miracles and if you feel able to have and care for another one go for it! good luck!

Jamie - posted on 05/08/2009

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Nope... keep it going i got three and want more a big family is a great idea...........

Kay - posted on 05/08/2009

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I am feeling the same way but of course I can not right now [[I have two who are 10 1/2 mos apart, boy and girl]]...but if u are ready for another and are financially as well then go ahead!!! Dont let others make u feel as though u are doing something wrong. I swear ever since the Octomom people are making it seem as though its illegal to have as many as u want...

Samantha - posted on 05/08/2009

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I have a 14 yr old boy and 11 yrs old girl and i want another one too.. I say go for it

Debbie - posted on 05/08/2009

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No, it doesn't sound crazy! If you can handle the financial & emotional efforts of another one, go for it! I have 3; & don't regret having any of them for a second!!

Kristy - posted on 05/08/2009

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I have three boys, I am 29, stay at home and want a fourth. They are 8 1/2,5 and 1 1/2. I think its mostly because I really want a girl. But I would still be very happy if it was yet another boy LOL> I might pull out a little hair but they keep me going. I am loving every minute of it. Good luck

Athena - posted on 05/08/2009

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No i dont think its crazy at all. I think you are very brave wanting another one lol 1 i just had my 2nd and i found it really hard. Woen who have lots of kids are heroes !!! in my eyes . If this is what you really want go for it !!!

Daliborka - posted on 05/08/2009

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If You want, then that is your answer. Oh I desperatе want another one. But I steel can consive. I hope it will be soon for me. God luck to you and enjoy. Just go for it.

Kinshasha - posted on 05/08/2009

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There is nothing wrong with wanting to have more children. So, no that doesn't seem crazy! It's natural for you to want to have more children. I don't know your situation and if you're married or not but if you've let the person whom you're with know that you want a big family and they're ok with it and you guys can sustain a big household, then I say go for it. I have two children myself (girl and boy) and have, at times, thought about having a third one as well. I know for me and my husband, a third child would not be in our best interest! At least, now now. So, don't think that you're crazy, it's natural!

Jana - posted on 05/08/2009

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Hi! The choice is ultimately yours... If you want and can take care of them...why not? My older two sons love the idea of being big brothers...my middle son was 61/2 when our third son was born almost a year ago. I agree it is hard at times, but I love them and they keep my active..insane..grounded..and full of life. Do what your heart tells you to do...I say GO FOR IT! YAY!

Ann - posted on 05/08/2009

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I think if you and your husband/ boyfriend are ready for another then go for it. I have three myself, a 4, 2, and two month old and there all pretty good with one another. I love them all and wouldn't change anything. My husband is a marine so i'm doing it by myself most of the time but they keep me busy and always bring me up when i'm feeling down.

Kristine - posted on 05/08/2009

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i have the same..one girl and one boy and want another baby too...so i dont think its insane at all.

Kate - posted on 05/08/2009

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I think everyone is different, and if you feel that you can financially, physically and emotionally have a third child, then why not?



I have a daughter and two sons, and I feel that I have now finished with my family, even though I always thought that I would like 4 kids.



My brother and his wife have 3 sons, 2 daughters and have not said that they are done yet! Other people I know stopped after one child, because that was all they wanted or could cope with.



You should go with your gut, what you feel will rarely let you down. Good luck!

Jan - posted on 05/08/2009

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i am 45 yrs. old and have 1 daughter and 2 stepchildren. my only regret is that i didn't have more children. i love children, came from a family of 8, and think the more children you have the better it is for the kids. they will always have each other growing up and be friends. they will not always have you. they do grow up and some move away. your chances of having more grandkids rises if you have more. especially having a girl. you will get to share your daughters pregnancy 1st hand, but your son's wife will probaly want to share with her mother. have another girl!

Courtney - posted on 05/08/2009

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My cousin wanted "just one more", and is now about to give birth to twins! :) So be prepared anything can happen!

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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There are plenty of people having larger families now. I am in the same boat as you.. 1 boy, 1 girl, and thinking about having 1 more, but haven't decided to take the jump just yet! LOL

Christina - posted on 05/08/2009

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I have a girl and boy as well! I would love to have another one but the timing isn't right for me right now. If the timing is right for you, I say go for it!

Dana - posted on 05/07/2009

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if that's how you feel you should definately go for it. i only have the one boy and he's got global development delay. i always wanted to have 3 but am terrified to even have another one as hard as my boys been but then next time could be better. good luck.

Nicole - posted on 05/07/2009

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Stop at none stop at none. LOL

2s a good number exspeicially if you have one of each. My malfuctions started w hen I had another boy and my poor girl is in the middle.

Angela - posted on 05/07/2009

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Girl, there is nothing wrong with wanting more kids. I also have two kids - a boy and a girl - and I want lots more. When people hear that I have a boy and a girl they always say things like, "Oh one of each how perfect." I'm not the type to think that just because I have a boy and a girl that's it I'm done..I would've been happy with two girls...but I also beleive that God has more kids planned for me. So I am waiting on his timing - even though I'd like another one now..my hubby doesn't feel its the right time so..we wait. Anyway...if you and yours agree, then go for it!

Kelly - posted on 05/07/2009

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Natash Clinton-that is the most gorgous baby picture I think I have ever seen! It makes me smile just to log on here and see everyone's pictures of their kids-your daughter is just beautiful.

Kelly - posted on 05/07/2009

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Big families are wonderful!!! My last pregnancy was physically tough on me, but I wouldn't mind adopting...we have two boys and two girls, and they are all wonderful and special and I don't think you're crazy at all. Who ever said two was the perfect number, just because you happen to have one of each? I think if you can give them stability, and make them your top priority, and have the patience, there is no number that is too many...good luck!

Natasha - posted on 05/07/2009

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I think it is normal for you to want another one. if you have the means to support having more than i say go for it.

Jessica - posted on 05/07/2009

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Of course not!!!! I have two girls and I want another one so bad. My husband wants to wait a couple of years. I think because our two year old is so full of energy right now.

Michelle - posted on 05/07/2009

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you can't...i am a middle child myself....make it four just to even it up a bit...lol!!! i have six and am due again late july...don't ask me about crazy...sanity is way over rated anyway...!

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