I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?

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Lauren - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hey!  I remember having the same issue with my son.  My daughter was so easy....big girl panties was all it took...but my son???...I tried placing cheerio's in the toilet...he liked playing "Hit the Target"...but it didn't last too long....unfortunately he was 3 almost 4 before he went all the time....the MD told me not to force him....keep offering the potty....but all children are on their own time line...I told the MD that my other friends had their son's potty trained at 2 or shortly thereafter....the MD reminded me that all children are different...and not to compare them....and it did not mean I was a bad mom.....but the MD did make a good suggestion that did work for us.. he suggested that my husband  take him to the potty with him....I know sounds gross...but I think it worked the best....well at least for "peeing".....wish you the best!!

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Dara Mae - posted on 10/22/2011

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How do I teach my son when he needs to go pee? I dont know how to explain it to him to know the feeling of when a pee or poo is comin on?

Anna - posted on 02/03/2009

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I am having some problems with my 2 1/2 year old daughter and I totally agree that pull ups are a big part of the problem because she can so easily say mama I wet, change me.  Does anyone know where I can get the rubber covers that go over the trainer underwear?  I would really love to try it.  Thanks

Beth - posted on 02/02/2009

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If he is not ready at 2, just let it go.  Keep the potty as an option and encourage its use, but he is not ready right now.  I have 3 children, my only son and middle child did this also.  I let him go without force, but consistent encouragement until he was 3 yrs and 2 mon. old.  At that time, I knew he was ready, and there was no excuse.  I put my foot down!!!  I told him, that's IT, you are using the potty and within a week he was trained into underwear and never wet the bed.  It all depends on the mental development of the particular child.  A mother should know when her child is ready, especially if they are over 3 years of age!  They reach a point where they know what they should be doing and you can clearly see that they understand that.  Whatever discipline method you use for other bad behavior (time out, spankings etc) should be used when you are ready to stop the MADNESS!!  As far as the mother of a 4 year old not trained......that would be a HECK NO unless they are medically proven to be delayed mentally!  No normal 4 year old should be un-potty trained unless they are being allowed to make decisions for themselves and are undisciplined.  I don't want to be offensive b/c if God has given a mother the ability and patience to deal with that, good for them, but I don't have that gift.  I am the mother and therefore the BOSS, no toddlers will run my home, EVER!!  Having said all that, wait till your intuition says they are old enough to know better and understand that this is the natural process and next step in growing up and take it from there.  Forcing at a young age is too hard and will only make for an unhappy mommy and an insecure child.  Hope this helps =)

Becky - posted on 02/02/2009

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Quoting Belinda:

I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?



Hi, Don't worry too much my daughter was potty trained then relapsed when my son was born. She is now trained again.



The piece of advice my mother gave me was when you stand at the school gates in their first year at school you will notice none of the children are wearing nappies.



The other thing i think helped my daughter is we go rid of her potty and brought a potty seat that fits over an adult loo. She loved it said it made her feel grown up.



Also the first time around we made such a fuss when ever she used the potty (even some times giving her a treat to praise her).



Hope some of that helps!

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boys typically train later. usually closer to 3 yrs. Don't push it, he will do it when ready. If you try to force training it will stress him and it will take even longer. You don't want him to associate the potty with a stressed mumma. My daughter was just 2 when she trained completely, through the night and all. My son was 3 and when he used during the day and about 3.25 before through the night. Good luck.

Simmi - posted on 02/02/2009

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I have a 2 yr old little boy also...  He never wanted to use the "little Potty"  so we went right for the big potty, we have books in the bathroom and i have a stool...  I sit down and read to my son.  we also have flash cards that have bugs, numbers, and animals on them and we go over them...  when he only has to go #1, i tell him there r bugs in the potty he should pee on them...  we have a big jar of rasins that i will just drop one in and away he goes trying to pee on it...  it has worked for us... also from the day we started... he only wears underwear. 



I have also heard its harder for boys than girls...good luck... 

Andrea - posted on 02/02/2009

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O how I laughed when I read this – the very idea of trying to train a 2 year old boy!  My son who turned 5 this weekend is still not trained!  We started when he was 2.5 and gave up after 2 weeks as it was hopeless, we had another go at his request when he was 3.  He was dry very quickly but has never been ‘clean’ that is at 5 he still soils himself daily… it has driven me to the edge of reason.  He is according to the pediatrician very articulate and ‘quite bright’ but he will not use the toilet… to cut what could be a very long story short… he is now very constipated or very loose, it is very hard to predict.  He takes stool softeners and laxatives going out/school/holidays are all a nightmare… we also have a 28 month old girl who trained herself.  There was no way I was going to do it! But she just decided she was ready and started to use the toilet.  Our boy is bright and charming but there is an assumption (I feel) that I/we (mostly me lets face it) pushed him to hard.  Let children do things at there own pace..

Evangelina - posted on 01/31/2009

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potty training take time all of my 4 they willlet you know when they are ready... if you force t the mmore they won't give him time.....

Tara - posted on 01/31/2009

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My son is 9 now, but like others have said...boys take a little longer than girls. I also have a 16 year old daughter, she was potty trained much more quicker than my son. i would wait closer to 3 for a boy. I also never used a potty seat with him, we started with the big toilet. It really helps if dad is willing to help, if he goes everytime dad has to it helps! Target sells some little toys to put in the toilet that were a big help for me. It makes it "fun" to go in the toilet. I am not a big fan of pull ups, they do not help teach children not to go in their pants. I used training pants and rubber pants...ither of my children ever had a bed wetting or pants wetting problem. Hope some of this helps. Good Luck!

Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2009

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we also tried no pants!! that way you can see when he needs to go and learn his cues. once you learn his cues, you can teach him... hope this helps! good luck. potty training is soooo hard!

Yvette - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi Kimberly,



I agree that age 2 is a little early to be overly concerned about this. I don't have boys but I have heard from many that it is much harder for boys to be potty trained. I always recommend the video or DVD Elmo's Potty Training. It's funny and very effective!!!

Yvette - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi Kimberly,



I agree that age 2 is a little early to be overly concerned about this. I don't have boys but I have heard from many that it is much harder for boys to be potty trained. I always recommend the video or DVD Elmo's Potty Training. It's funny and very effective!!!

Shannon - posted on 01/31/2009

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what I did for my son that seemed to be fun and an incentive to learn, was to throw cheerios or fruit loops in the toliet and have him aim at them. No joke!  It worked so well and for everyone that he hit, I  gave him a star for his chart or a treat. It makes it so fun for them and you. If he is too short for the big potty like mine was I gave him his "potty stool" to stand on. Mine refused to use his potty chair cause he was a "big boy" and wanted to use the "big potty" like daddy. They will eventually learn just some take longer than others. so relax he'll come around

Briana - posted on 01/31/2009

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Most boys are not ready at 2. From all the boys I know it was 3-3.5 before they were trained. But one thing I did find with either boys or girls is that if you push too hard and they are not ready they won't potty train. If they have someone to watch then it helps. We put a potty chart up outside the bathroom and everytime they went pee they got a sticker and everytime they went poo they got a bigger sticker. Then when that wasn't working anymore we did potty candy pee got one piece and poo got 2. We did M&Ms because they are small and not too much sugar. My nephew didn't want anything to do with it while I was training 2 others but now he is almost 4 and we do nothing but he sees the other kids and he only wears pull ups at night. So it really is when they are ready they will do it you have to give them time, or you will go insane.

Sara - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi i have a 5 year old boy and found when potty training the main problem i had was him wearing a nappy at night so we stopped him wearing nappies all together which seemed to really help as he didn't feel comfortable when wetting his pants i would put him on the potty as i was going to bed to make sure he had less accidents in bed. I also bought a toilet seat and step so he thought he was a big boy which was really good you just have to get on with a bit of mess for about a week and you'll soon get there but do remember not all kids do things at the same time.

Marie - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi, I have 6 kiddies 5boys, 1girl, ur right girls r easier, my eldest son was the only boy 2 b trained by 2yrs the others were between 2 1/2 & 3, health visitors will tell u this is normal for boys ( sumtimes they take longer!) Have u tried him on the proper toilet with a childs seat & stool, i found mine used 2 love flushing it after. I also find summer is the best time to train as they can run around naked, which they find easier as they dont have 2 worry about pulling down their clothes. But the best advice i can give, from my own experience is, DONT panic, they sense this & will only do it in their own time. If he has a favorite cartoon charecter, eg thomas the tank engine, try getting pants with him on (lots of pairs, u'll need em) I hope this may help, stay calm & dont worry we've all been through it, i've done it 5 times & have got 1 more 2 look 4ward 2!!!!!!! lol ;)

Veronica - posted on 01/30/2009

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Boys tend to potty train later than girls.  Keep offering it and in time he will decide on his own.  With both of my boys (and I have a daycare to) that's what they did and potty trained in just a couple days but not until they were 3 years old.  Good Luck.

Cristy - posted on 01/30/2009

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I posted previously, but I would like to add a few things.  I've potty trained 2 boys(one at 18 mths and the other the first week after he turned 2) and I'm working on the third (who is 23 mths).  It's true that every child develops at different rates, but don't let boys be stereotyped.  If you dismiss the failure to potty train, as "he's a boy", you may put it off until he's 5.  If he is able to communitcate or hide when he potties, then he knows something is happening and you know for sure he's ready. 



This sums up my opinion, plus a lot of others:



1. Make potty training fun (maybe even gamelike) (even outside)



2. Don't use pull ups - He needs underwear because they allow him to feel whats



    happening and its new and exciting, but remind him often that he has big boy pants on



3. Everyone has to be involved and consistant - meaning you, grandparents, babysitter, etc..



4.  The BIG potty is more encouraging - all three of mine hated the little potty because daddy



      used the big potty



5.  When he goes potty in his underwear, tell him what he did so he becomes aware and



     take him to the toilet.  If it's #2, dump it in the toilet  and tell him where it goes.  Have him



     answer, "Where do you poo poo?"   Response, "Pot."



6. Praise and/or give treats or rewards



*Some kids take longer because there wasn't consistancy or they were given up on too



  soon or maybe they were introduced in the wrong manner.  It's harder to  try to reteach than



   it is to teach with a blank slate.  So, don't be worried that he will be starting kindergarten



   before he is potty trained.  Keep working with him.  Good luck and don't stress too much!!!

Sam - posted on 01/30/2009

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Quoting Belinda:

I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?



I don't have a boy but i was watching a program when a new invention called "wee target" came on.  This looks really good and it has stuck in my mind ever since.  Found the web site www.weetarget.com.au.  Good Luck

Kristian - posted on 01/30/2009

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My oldest son was 3 when he trained. when we were at home i would let him run around with a shirt on and no pants and he trained easy that way and for my 2 son we brought his little sister home from hospital he trained that night with no ragging from us. he was 2. i also got my kids a "gift" that was put up but could see every day right around there 2 b-day. but they couldn't have it until they went a week in the potty. good luck i still have one to go!

Cynthia - posted on 01/30/2009

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don`t ask me why, but my sister who is an early childcare educator (daycare worker with a specialty in infant toddler) suggested to wait until 27 months. For some reason boys seem to get it at that age as per her . Anyway we read lots of books (little critter, Elmo) and had a potty in the bathroom before that, but we never even bothered with it until the magic ``27th month``. We (my son & I) went out and bought lots (12 pairs) of cool `big boy` underwear, Walmart seemed the cheapest, and we had a few accidents sure but he got it. He had to be asked every couple of hours if he needed to go (as a reminder) and sure enough off he`d go to use the potty. Lots of happy hoorays and hugs and great job of remembering helped us through it. He`s now 31 months and doing great. He still has the occasional accident...when the trip to the park is way too fun and he doesn`t want to have a try because it means leaving what he`s doing to go ..but that`s normal. NO pressure worked for us, along with no pullups. They seem to prolong the transition. they get the pooh part great but because they never feel wet there is no reason to get a handle on the peeing. For fun I might try the cheerios in the toilet with my second son (now only 5 months) . supposeably you throw in the cheerios into the toilet and get the boys to aim at their targets. I don`t think I `ve ever heard negative feedback on that one! Good luck.

Rachel - posted on 01/30/2009

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Belinda, Maybe you should just give him some more time and wait til he tells you he's ready. I potty trained my son at 3 years old and it wasn't an overnight thing. I've heard from several moms that they just felt it was best to wait until boys are a little older. My daughter, on the other hand, was more than ready by 2 years old. Hope this helps!

Rachel

Jeanne - posted on 01/30/2009

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My son was a little over 3 before he was willing to use the potty. It was frustrating to me until I attended a potty training workshop. I know it sounds funny, but it was the best thing I could have done! Obviously, there are expections, but boys on average are 3yo before they hit this stage. My son just turned 3 and I said that's it! I made him run around the house for 2 days without a diaper, pull-up (these are the worst things to use), or underwear. I set a timer and every 45 min when the timer went off I ushered him to the potty in the kitchen. Yes, the kitchen because it's easier to clean up an accident if it happens and it was the closest room to the living room where he was always playing. For 2 days he was great and even went out to eat! The 3rd day we went to the park and he had an accident because he didn't want to use the potty. After having to walk home in wet shorts and shoes he was officially potty trained. His next minor accident he had when I picked him up from school (3 weeks later). It wasn't even an accident he just wet his underwear a little, but to him it was an accident. Ever since that 2 day weekend he has also worn underwear to bed with only 1 accident. Please let me know if you have any questions and good luck!!!!

Patricia - posted on 01/30/2009

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Belinda, a friend put cotton balls in the toilet and had him try to hit it with his stream of urine. Have fun . . . less stress.

Patricia - posted on 01/30/2009

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Belinda, I have been a nanny for over ten years with infants to 3-5 years. I have introduced the potty chair before they were a year old so they would not feel uncomfortable with it. I had one little girl pottie trained by the age of 16 months. One of the ways was teaching her the sign language sign for Potty. Since she could not speak she could still tell me.



If you put them in a room like the kitchen with their pottie chair and not let them go anywhere else {gates}, give them a couple toys only and put underware on them. When they pee their pants they don't like it. You put them on the pottie and tell them that is what it is for.



The problem with the disposible diapers and pull ups is the children don't feel the uncomfortableness of being wet so they don't care. They now have "wet feeling pull ups" now but they are terrible expensive. They are good when you travel but at home I would use cloth.



 Also if everyone is not on the page to do the pottie training it won't work. If I as a Nanny work with the child in the week and you put them in diapers for convience for the weekend it defeats the purpose. I have found the earlier you  introduce the pottie it is better. Even if you watch for the grunting at 8 months and train yourself and get excited for them. It won't take long. I did train a 2 1/2 - 3 year old boy in one day with this one room, 2-3 toys method. Good luck



Read your child and you will know when they are ready. Who knows them better you?



Patricia



 

Robyn - posted on 01/30/2009

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I tried potty training my now 3 year old when he turned 2. He was not ready and it was torture for me. Now a year later, after taking a long break he is potty trained. Every opportunity I had to put him in underwear I did. He had accidents and I cleaned them, but he got it after a few days. As far as the pooping situation, he refused to go in the potty at first, but then I found a reward that was meaningful to him and he is now completely potty trained. Thank goodness!

Heidi - posted on 01/30/2009

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I know it may not be the same because this is in relation to my daughter. I have a three and a half year old daughter who just would not use the potty consistantly and we were so frustrated with her but we never pushed her to do it. I felt like she would feel like a failure and I really don't mind changing diapers so..... we let it go. Well one Sunday while I was watching a football game she just did it and it was such an accomplishment for her. We have had no accidents and she gets so proud of herself everytime. We were not lazy parents just not pushy and it worked and not only did it work we made it a relaxed accomplishing experience for her. She is now proud of herself instead of feeling like she failed. She did it when she was ready. Trust me we felt like failures because she can count to 40 she knows all her colors and shapes, her ABC's and has Letter recognition so she is so very smart she just did not want to use the potty when we decided that it was ok and to not expect her to just because everyone else was it made things more peaceful for everyone. We have not had one accident and I believe that is because she was truly ready and truly wanted to. Just let him be him he will do it when he is ready.

April - posted on 01/30/2009

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Don't stress it! The "average" boy is not potty trained until 35 months, you have time. If you start too soon, it takes longer! Don't worry, they will do it when they are ready!

Tammy - posted on 01/30/2009

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Boys are much harder to train. I had one trained at 2 1/2, and my 2nd boy wanted nothing to do with it, no matter how much we bribed him! He was trained at 4 years old. My suggestion is to have him pick out his own underpants, sometimes that will work. Ask, and let it go. Don't force because it will become a power struggle, and you won't win! I promise he will not go to kindergarten wearing diapers! They are only little for a while, enjoy it, embrace it. He'll do it when he's ready. Just keep encouraging, but remember, it's under HIS control, not yours. Hope that helps and good luck.

Jessica - posted on 01/30/2009

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Don't rush him. If he's not ready then he's just not ready. Try making the potty chair a place he's comfortable with. Let him sit on it clothed while reading a book or playing with a toy. Once he's comfortable with the potty he'll soon show an interest of wanting to use it. I potty trained both my boys starting out this way. By 2 1/2 they were potty trained.

Christel - posted on 01/30/2009

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I'm sorry. I'm in the same boat. My son is 2 1/2 and knows when he needs to go. He has been sitting on the potty some, but prefers not to use it. I think kids just learn all on their own schedules. My oldest son was around 3 before he learned. I tried everything, even cheerios in the toilet bowl so he could aim at them...nothing. One day, he just started going on his own. That was a long time ago. I sure hope my little one starts soon. It would save a ton of money!

Kerry - posted on 01/30/2009

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Little boys take longer to potty train than girls.  He may just not be ready. My youngest was not ready until he was 3. Just give him time and keep the pull-ups on.  He'll let you know when he's ready.



Kerry

April - posted on 01/30/2009

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Boys are hard I have 3..don't be obsessive about it he will do it when he is ready believe me he won't be waring dippers when he is 15!!!..lol but the more you try to make him go the more he will not just give him time!

Tammie - posted on 01/30/2009

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they all different my duaghter was lazzy and boys beat her to it . using star charts (diff characters) for ever time they use potty. Siting them on it every 20min drinking more so they feel the need there. They all have there ups and downs good noes i sure had them with the 5 kids and i am sure i will once the new baby comes along and it time for training them. Best Luck

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I can't say that I have any suggestions other than patience.   My son was almost 5 before he was COMPLETELY potty trained, while my daughter had it mastered by 2.  I am thinking it just takes the boys a bit longer.  Good Luck!

Brandy - posted on 01/29/2009

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my son was hard too and my daughter was so easy..i think at 2 hes still too young i just let him do it when hes ready and dont pressure him cause then he will definitly not want too my son showed an interest when he was 3 and started using it and i danced and clapped everytime he went he laughed and thought i was being so silly he loved going to the potty just to see me dance and praise him..it did take a little longer for him to use the potty for pooping though!..hope it helps

Rebecca - posted on 01/29/2009

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my son was just over three when he was potty trained.  Hi Dad was gone in Iraq so it was even tougher for him to focus.  I used a lot of reinforcement.  He got some-meaning a few at a time M&Ms or Skittles every time he went in the potty.  Daycare ran it the same way so we stayed on the same page.  I also got my son a toilet extension seat that goes on top of the big potty so he feels like he is going like a big boy! My Daughter is 2/1/2 and she is still struggling too-but is atleast showing some interest-she does well at daycare but seems like she is just lazy at home.  I used pull-ups for both my kids and they seemed to do a pretty good job for my son, but my daughter treats them more like a diaper.  Except she loves to be able to change herself so the pull-ups are more fun for her than diapers.  Hopefully by this summer she will be good to go!

Kristal Kindler- - posted on 01/29/2009

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I have been potty training my 3 year old for about 6-8 months. He now can wear underwear during the day but at night he wears night time pull-ups. He is doing well but I think it just takes time with boys. I have a nephew who is the same age as my son and he is doing better, so I think it also depends on the kid. Don't give up and don't get upset they can read you like a book. Good luck and have fun with it. Try sticker or quarters in a jar...that is what Owen really likes.

Susan - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Belinda:

I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?




I have 2 1/2 year old twin boys and they are not potty trained yet either.  They will go on the potty but it is here and there, not all the time.  They fight over who is going first so I have to battle with "who really needs to go". 



I have heard putting cheerios in the potty may help so I may start trying that.   Good luck to you!

Jen - posted on 01/29/2009

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You can always try to kill a fly or a bug or even a cheerio and throw it in the toilet and tell them to pee on it.  My mother in law said it worked for all 3 of her boys!  I know I will be trying this trick in a couple months with my 1 1/2 yr old boy.  Good luck.

Karin - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Karin: Don't rush him.  When he's ready he will let you know.  My oldest was 5 before he was fully trained and my youngest was a little over three.



Quoting Belinda:

I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?






 





 

Karin - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Belinda:

I have a 2-year old son and he is still not potty trained, he resist going to potty in his little potty, he has maybe used it like three times, but doesn't want to use it consistently, with my girl it was so easy to trained, any suggestions?



 

Tara - posted on 01/29/2009

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I have potty trained 2 of my 3 boys and my daghter. My daughter was 23 months old and both boys were almost 3. All I can say is the harder you try the more they resist! I guarentee at some point it will look fun, and then go with it. As long as he's potty trained by preschool, your good!

Janet - posted on 01/29/2009

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boys can be tricky lil so n sos sometimes, dnt rush a child is my motto, theyl let u know when they are ready, mine did. just keep encouraging him, make it a pleasure with fun stickers and play rewards, its not bribary-its just taking the fear out of it, good luck,-im doing it too at the moment

Deidre - posted on 01/29/2009

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When you figure it out...let me know. My boy is almost 3 & won't even sit on the potty with his clothes on...forget it without clothes. He has no interest & I'm not going to force him...I learned long ago that I can't force this kid to do anything.

Annette - posted on 01/29/2009

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HI there...I have three boys and am happy to report, they have all potty trained! My best advice for boys...IT takes longer than for girls, be OK with that! We started at about 2.5 years old, asking what a "big boy" was to them...each one said when they were 3 they would be BIG. Then we started to just say every once in a while...BIG BOYS potty on the potty...hmm...when are you a big boy? Each one of my kids basically talked themselves in to going on the potty, the day they turned three...We had no accidents, night time issues or anything with each one! They each thought it was their idea. I hope that helps! :)

Jenny - posted on 01/29/2009

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my kids were all 2yrs old and they all had a tv show they liked and i would tell them like the show barney ,would be happy with u if u go to potty no more diapersyour a big kid now and reward your son everytime he does it .if he not ready dont force him its okay if not time for him. .boys r more lazy than girls.

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