I have a 3 year old and a 7 year old Daughters that insist on sleeping together. I can seperate them but my 3 year old always makes her way back to her sister. I was wondering if it would be considered a bad thing by purchasing them a full size bed and just let them share a bed so that it will free up some much needed room?
Sarah - posted on 05/14/2009
I don't think it's a bad idea. I slept in the same bed with my sister until 10 or 11. She was 3 years older than I was. It's completely normal. I don't have any attachment issues and neither does my sister. We are completely normal. We eventually got our own beds, but continued to share a room just because we didn't have enough rooms for all the kids. It's not a bad idea. If they are for it I say do it.
Jo - posted on 05/14/2009
my girls slept together for many years, they shared the same room too. It doesn't hurt if both girls agree. When they get older the younger one will understand better when they separate for sleep overs or even own room. We gave our girls a double bed then day beds to bunk beds. Our oldest girl had a life changing accident and when we finally go her home she had to have a feeding tube and pump and her sister was given her own room but she hated it and would sleep with her older sister. They have always been very close even now at the ages of 27 & 25. They don't have the same relationship as before the accident but the youngest has many wonderful memories of them talking and playing until they went to sleep. don't discourage it. it will resolve it self in time. siblings can get along with out constantly fighting.
My girls are 11 and 17. They have always shared a bedroom. When they were younger they slept together in a double bed because that's what they wanted. They have their own beds now and are still very close. If your girls are happy sleeping together, let them. It will give them wonderful memories. :-)
Breeze - posted on 05/14/2009
I think it's awesome that you're open to this. :) My older two sleep together often. She's 8 and he's 6. Obviously this can't continue too much longer but for now, they're just siblings, hanging out together. We've found that it helps them bond. She reads to him. They're there for each other when one wakes w/ a bad dream. They each have their own bed and they only share when it's mutually agreed upon. I'd suggest rules and limits but otherwise, I'd encourage their spending this sibling time together so long as it's working for them.
Amanda - posted on 05/14/2009
My girls are now 3 and 6. They share a room and have bunk beds. My little one would end up in bed with her older sister often. My oldest never minded, but I kept the beds for those times they want their space. What about getting a bed that has a pull out mattress underneath. That way if they decided to sleep seperate you can pull the bed out, but the rest of the time you have more room.
April - posted on 05/14/2009
It depends. Your 7 year old is in school right? If it's interupting her sleep or school preformance then I would say it's not a good idea and it's best to get the three year old to stay in her own bed. Do they have separate beds in the same room? It might help your 3 year old just to be sleeping in the same bedroom as her sister. Your 7 year old might be ok with it now, but a year from now? two years? She might start to resent the fact that her sister always wants to sleep with her, especially when the older child starts having sleep overs. You know your children best though, so go with your gut. :)
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