i have a 5 and a half month old baby boy, just wonderin wen this wakin in the nite stops im wrecked.

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Ashley - posted on 10/13/2009

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My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 21 months old! good luck lol.



Edit: CIO is a bad idea... it doesn't teach a baby to sleep, it teaches them that NO ONE IS COMING, they don't know why, they feel they need you, and you don't care... don't resort to that... it's damaging for a child.

Sarah - posted on 10/16/2009

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I've read through almost all of these comments, and I think the consensus is pretty obvious: all babies are different. Some sleep through the night from the beginning (lucky mothers); others take years. No matter what your pediatrician, or girlfriends, or mothers, or books tell you, there is no simple "solution" that will work for every baby. And "crying it out" is considered in most childcare circles -- and certainly to this attachment-parenting mama -- to be harmful.

My son is almost 9 months old and still wakes up twice during the night, even though we have a solid bedtime routine that never wavers (dinner, walk, bath, nursing, bed). It really sucks, as I have been working full time since he was 3 months old, but I just remind myself it's not forever, and I make sure to go to bed early whenever I can and take naps on weekends. Recently, my husband and I have started alternating nights so that at least one of us gets a good night's sleep every other night. Our son is still breastfeed, so this means that Dad still has to bring him in to me to nurse, but not having to get out of bed myself really helps.

That said, I know lots of moms with babies who sleep through the night from three months on, but they are lucky and they know it. I just don't think its at all realistic to expect to sleep through the night during a baby's first year. That's just motherhood, or didn't anyone tell you?

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2009

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as long as you keep getting up and going to him, he will continue. at around that time, i started letting my daughter cry it out. it was hard, but they dont need night feedings at that age. now she sleeps from about 7pm-7am she is almost a year old. good luck!

Lisa - posted on 10/25/2009

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I think that parents these days are impatient and expect too much from there child. If every baby slept through from the day they were born we would live in a perfect way. But every baby is different. And every parent is different, Stop expecting so much from your baby and when your baby is ready he/she will sleep through the night!! If you tired do some exercise, rest, eat well and drink water. Your body will adjust to this. But remember babies sleeping through from a young age is not common and some dont sleep though until they are 2.

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Quoting Ashley:



My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 21 months old! good luck lol.



Edit: CIO is a bad idea... it doesn't teach a baby to sleep, it teaches them that NO ONE IS COMING, they don't know why, they feel they need you, and you don't care... don't resort to that... it's damaging for a child.







I couldn't have said it better myself!



I SO agree! I vehemently refuse the CIO method in my home. My daughter is 8 1/2 mos and wakes 2x between 7pm and 6am...not all that bad, really. I actually savour our middle of the night cuddles...they won't be around forever.

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Ava - posted on 03/23/2011

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Give her a warm bath just before bedtime ! rub her with baby lotion! She will smellso good and the bath should tire her just enough s o that when you feed her she is ready for food and rest.... a little cereal at night might last in her tummy longer, resist feeding her in the night...get her back to sleep WITHOUT FOOD... do this a few times and it will become the NEW habit.

Ava - posted on 03/23/2011

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a bath just before bedtime and a full tummy does wonders for a good night's sleep + rountine makes a child feel safe so that they know what to "expect"

Ava - posted on 03/23/2011

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children need full tummies to sleep thru the night, so a really large feeding before bedtime and then a pacifier when they wake will get them away from the "habit" of eating in the middle of the night. be assured that they will get enough food during the day to compensate for the middle of the night feeding. speak very softly to them as you give them the pacifier, they love the sound of your voice and remember TONE is all that matters . You can tell them your life stories just anything to let them hear your voice. pat him until he goes back to sleep, after you make it through a few nights ...NO FEEDING..it will become habit...be firm and persistent..give yourself the GIFT of rest!! It will be good for the whole family...It may take a few nights...but just think you will be in for some REST later,...

Summan - posted on 10/26/2009

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my daughter is the same age of your baby ,she stopped waking up at the night when she was two but now she has started waking up again :S Do you feed her when she wakes up?

Carol - posted on 10/26/2009

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i no it sounds bad but u need to let them cry onestly 2 our 3 nites they should be sleepin all nite u dont have to night feed a child after 8 weeks i have to girls dey sleep 12 hours straight good look

Melissa - posted on 10/26/2009

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I fed my baby until she was about 10 months old in middle of night. He will let you know if he is not hungry anymore. He might just be using so much energy during day and needing that night feeding still. My daughter just took less and less of her formula at night and just eventually stopped on her own. I was just really patient with her. Good luck

Cristi - posted on 10/26/2009

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My daughter sleeps next to our bed and my husband works early in the morning so when she wakes up fussing at 2am it's hard not to feed her just to keep her quiet. She's nearly 4 months now and I know she no longer needs the nighttime feeding but I'm having trouble convincing her of that! I have been giving her a binky when she wakes up at night and she's been sleeping 6-8 hours when that works. I just pray that she will stop fussing at night so I can get a full night sleep without having to give her a binky in the middle of the night! Any tips would be great plz send me a msg!

Summan - posted on 10/26/2009

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my daughter is the same age of your baby ,she stopped waking up at the night when she was two but now she has started waking up again :S Do you feed her when she wakes up?

Summan - posted on 10/26/2009

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my daughter is the same age of your baby ,she stopped waking up at the night when she was two but now she has started waking up again :S Do you feed her when she wakes up?

Hiba - posted on 10/25/2009

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i hear you!! i have a six week old and im going through the same mind blowing problem. it's just as if daya nd night are connected by the feedings and the diaper changings :-( i try to keep my spirits up by telling myself that i will stop by the ebd of the year. ( out of experience cause i have two elder ones)

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Our son is 6 and a half months nd he has been waking every night lately (several times!)..His is due to teething though, which also causes him to have dirty diapers MUCH MORE often than usual. Can't wait to get a full nights sleep again!

I like the idea of letting them cry a bit before rushing in there, however he shares a room with his3 year old sister and we don't want to wake her so we don't let him cry for very long. Otherwise if we could, we would...even though it seems like you are being ahorrible mother, you are actually teaching them to self-sooth, an important life long skill!

Connie - posted on 10/25/2009

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Oh, sweetie, you may have awhile to go. If she is teething, or unset tummy. Or has trained YOU. It will kill you, but let her cry for a little while each time, go in and the hardest part that will rip your heart out, do not touch her. I know it's like you are committing a form a child abuse, I know I felt that way, just talk to her and she will cry more but tell you are there, life is mean but in morning you can play together and sing songs. Then slowing talk to her less and less, wait longer and longer before you go in. I'm telling you, this is the hardest thing to do. I bought a book, no joke, because I failed so many times. I thought he's just a baby and all this unhappiness. Wish you sleep.

Connie, OR

Katie - posted on 10/25/2009

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My daughter started sleeping through the night at this age...I just figured out I needed to give her a little more to eat before bed...maybe even a little pablum will help. Also I always bathed her before bed to calm her, and used the bed time bath lotion. Hopefully this info will help you.

STACEY - posted on 10/24/2009

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EVERY BABY IS DIFFERENT!!! BC MY DAUGHTER STARTED SLEEPING THRU THE NIGHT AT 5 1/2 MONTHS AND NOT ONLY THAT I HAD HER ON SCHEDULE SO THAT HELPED ALOT!!! GOOD LUCK

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You've pretty much gotten some pretty good Advice here, so there's not really much more for me to say other than: THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

I've had near Break-Downs a few Times because our Son (our third Kid no Less) would wake up and cry almost every two hours, well after he was a Year old. I think the worst Thing of it all is that they can't tell you what's wrong at that Age, and you just can't ignore the Crying, you have to check and make sure everything's okay.

It won't last forever, I promise, hang in there!

Lois - posted on 10/24/2009

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I read 'the contented baby' by Gina Ford - seems to coincide nicely with alot of the advice here which is to make sure they get plenty of regular feeding during the day so that they are satisfied when they go to bed and will wake less.

Wendy - posted on 10/24/2009

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Every child is different. The best tip I can give you is to nap when the child naps. Hang in there.

Carisa - posted on 10/23/2009

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usually by now if you feed them real good and then give them a nice bath, they should sleep all night

User - posted on 10/23/2009

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my daughter is11 months,i did not sleept the night thru since she is born.hope it is coming soon!!!!

Simone - posted on 10/23/2009

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My son is 8months and still wakes 3 times a night for a breastfeed. He did sleep up to 8 hrs when he was 8weeks old but that didn't last. I agree with many comments that you should never let your baby CIO/ contol crying - what ever you call it. Recent studies show that this is not benifical to the child as it can put unnessessary stresss on them. All babies are individuals. We have to remember that they are only babies and yes somethimes they need reassusance that someone will be there, whether it be a feed or a cuddle.

I have also done the bedshare when I have been really wrecked - I found it helpful, we both get what we want - he got a feed and I was able to sleep. I still continue my night feeds at this stage also as my son is extremely active and burns of alot of energy during the day. Just be aware that at every mile stone their sleep pattern can change ie teething, crawling. I hope you find a remedy that works for you - Good Luck

Noelle - posted on 10/21/2009

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Babies who are rocked to sleep or fall asleep with a bottle, tend to wake up through the night. They need to learn how to put themselves to sleep. Then you will get your rest and so will he. I tried this on my 7 month old daughter and it worked wonderfully. Good luck:)

Shauna - posted on 10/21/2009

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We put our little guy in his bed from the day we brought him home from the hospital and he is an EXCELLENT sleeper! I agree with Ashley, as long you you keep going in to get him and feeding him, he will continue to wake you up...it might be a long week or two 'training' him that he isn't really hungry in the middle of the night, but it will definitely be worht it! GOOD LUCK!!

Amber - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Claire :

My daughetr has just started sleeping through again she is 7 months, from 12 weeks we were getting about 9 hours straight, then at 5 months she started waking again. We have now tried the technique of her crying herself to sleep, and it was hard but really works, we get from 7 - 6 maybe a bit longer, and if she wakes in the night she generally gurgles to her self and falls back in to her. I allso started reducing the milk I gave her in the night and offered water instead so there was no incentive to wake



ya, the water thing, thats good.....

Amber - posted on 10/21/2009

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I am in the same boat, however the last week or two he has been only up once or twice (less often).....but now I think he is teething, it never realy ends.This is my third child, other two are girls.....he is takin way longer to figure out the sleepin through the night thing.Everything is a phase, keep telling yourself that.

Susan - posted on 10/21/2009

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I used to give my kids cereal before bed at night...helped them sleep. Does your baby drool alot or chew on everything? If so Your little one might be in the early stages of teething. If so they have teething tablets to help them relax. They are all natural and work good.

Claire - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughetr has just started sleeping through again she is 7 months, from 12 weeks we were getting about 9 hours straight, then at 5 months she started waking again. We have now tried the technique of her crying herself to sleep, and it was hard but really works, we get from 7 - 6 maybe a bit longer, and if she wakes in the night she generally gurgles to her self and falls back in to her. I allso started reducing the milk I gave her in the night and offered water instead so there was no incentive to wake

Joanna - posted on 10/21/2009

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long story short, I did CIO with my girl at 7 months, it was easy as pie (for the both of us), and now she is 2 and generally sleeps through the night, unless she is sick or has a nightmare. Every baby is different, I never woke up in the middle of the night, I slept straight though since the day I was born. My friend's 2 year old girl just last week started sleeping through the night.

Krystle - posted on 10/21/2009

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my baby boy is coming up 6 months and stil wakes up thro the nite sumtimes its more than once its 3-4 times.He would wake up cryn then id breastfeed him and put him down bt i figured why he was waking up it was bcos he was cutting his teeth!Could ur son be teething?

Danielle - - posted on 10/20/2009

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take him to bed with you....you'll both sleep better and longer.



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Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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Also Babies wake or cry for a reason. You can not spoil a baby and it seems as though parents today are too egar to have their child sleep through the night. Every baby is different and they will do it in their own time!! You need to let your baby work its own routine out at night and if it doesnt sleep through so let it be. Atleast be happy you got a healthy baby. I know when my son was 4 months old I started feeling tired but now I dont I am used to being woken up. Also maybe instead of worrying about fixing babies sleep maybe look at ways to get energy. If you have time try walking, cardio is fantastic for sleep deprevasion and you will find it gives you energy. Also if you can and really need to try have a short nap when bub does during the day. Also you can look at changing your diet espesh if you are breastfeeding and eat more often and small size meals this will increase your energy. And remember to drink lots of water its good for that too!!

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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I think that every baby is different and I dont perticulary agree with letting thenm cry it out. But it is completly up to you if you do that. Not always when you let them cry it out they will sleep through some babies just need that extra feed or two through the night. Also if your baby is breastfeed, it will tend to wake for that night time feed as its a comfort thing also breastmilk is not as filling for your baby but is still much better then bottles. My son is nearly 9 months and he does not sleep through the night but with age he is only waking once a night for a very short feed. Totally up to the parent if they want to let babies cry. I personally dont believe in controll crying or letting baby cry it out.

Tiah - posted on 10/20/2009

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I, like everyone else can only tell you what worked for me. I make sure our baby has a bed time routine. Which is: Ceral and/or veggie, bath time, baby message, clean warm jammies, and a bottle, a little snuggle time and off to bed. Doesn't matter what time you choose just as long as its the same way everytime. Also pick up a book called Babywise it might help this time and if you want to have more children.

Heather - posted on 10/19/2009

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I tried all the tricks, my daughter is 10 months and still doesn't sleep. I tired to let her cry but after 2 hours I couldn't do it any more. My son who is now almost 7 slept through the night from the start. Everyone I talk to though say to do the cry it out method. Good luck.

Brenda - posted on 10/19/2009

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I have a 3 year old (almost 4) and he still wakes up in the night crying sometimes. Stay strong

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2009

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It seems like that, but my fiance has a 9 year old who looooooves his sleep :)

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2009

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Is your baby breast fed? When I put my daugter on formula at 6 weeks so that I could go back to work and wouldn't have to pump in a bathroom (ew) she started sleeping from midnight to 5am. Also, I agree with the people saying that when your baby is ready he will just start sleeping through the night. Hang in there :)

Megan - posted on 10/19/2009

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dang I have a 6 WEEK old and I'm wrecked. I hope mine doesn't go that long. Have you tried food in the night bottle. Also you can try comforting at night and not feeding. See if you can ween him off night feedings. Good luck!!! A mommies job is never done!

Megan - posted on 10/19/2009

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dang I have a 6 WEEK old and I'm wrecked. I hope mine doesn't go that long. Have you tried food in the night bottle. Also you can try comforting at night and not feeding. See if you can ween him off night feedings. Good luck!!! A mommies job is never done!

Lisa - posted on 10/19/2009

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I need sleep too and my daughter is 20 months old. She is still breastfeeding and sometimes that is why she wakes up. I wasn't a sleeper and I still dont' sleep great. Go with what your heart tells you to do. My husband and I get into disagreements about our daughter sleeping all the time. He comes from a CIO family. I don't. I come from a love you child to no end family. Do what you feel is right. My daughter is starting to sleep longer periods at night and I am finally getting some sleep. I have always put her in bed with me so she will sleep longer. She doesn't like to sleep alone when she knows mommy or daddy are close by. I have no problem with this. Since I am working full time and get no help with nighttime parenting, I let her sleep with me when she wakes up, depending on the time.

We are just now getting into a routine of when she wakes up before I go to bed, I rock her back to sleep and put her back in crib. She then generally sleeps until 3-4am.

Do what works for you. All babies are different and there is no guarentee that anything you do will make your little one sleep through the night.

I can tell you this, a solid routine makes the difference. Last feeding at the same time every night, bath and then quiet play time before bed.

My best help, go with your heart. If your heart will let you let your little one CIO then go for it. If your heart tells you it feels wrong then don't do it.

Good luck.

Alexia - posted on 10/19/2009

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lucky you it s just abotu waking in the night mine naps 4-5times just for 10 mins so i am 24/7 round the clock and am desperate for some form of routine ...when will this happen???

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Quoting Chelsie:

I read this really great book after I had my daughter, of course I can't remember the name of it now. But in this book they said that if your child uses a pacifier what you can do, when they get to the age that they don't have to eat during the night, just put the pacifier back in his/her mouth through out the night. It takes a little bit to train them but eventually they will stop waking up to eat. I'm not promising anything, but it worked for my daughter.
Good luck!
~Chelsie



chelsie is right! i didnt read a book about it, this week i  decided to give my son pacifier instead of feeding him at night and it works, now he sleeps through the night.





 

Linzi-Jane - posted on 10/18/2009

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I'm a big fan of the Baby Whisperer - My 5.5m old started waking from 4.5m during the night again (was just waking for 1 feed before that) eventually she was waking every 1-2hrs! Read the Baby Whisperer and started teaching her to go to sleep on her own (took 2 days) then decided to give Baby Whisperers E.A.S.Y 4 hour routine a try and within 2 days she was running exactly to schedule and started sleeping well again (she is now back to 1 night waking for a feed again)

Shamiema - posted on 10/18/2009

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Hi there, my son is now 6 and a half months and for the past 2 weeks his been sleeping from 21:00 and wakes up at 4:00 religiously. Waht a pleasure, hang in there by 6 months they should get a routine

Susan - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 21 months old! good luck lol.

Edit: CIO is a bad idea... it doesn't teach a baby to sleep, it teaches them that NO ONE IS COMING, they don't know why, they feel they need you, and you don't care... don't resort to that... it's damaging for a child.


Thank you, Ashley! 



I know that there are some mothers who are lucky to have magical babies who sleep through the night at 3 days old, or whatever.  Yeah, we envy you.   But some of us have the kids who woke several times during the night to eat.  Or play.  There is something spectacular at seeing those bright and shiny eyes at 2:30am, but maybe I was hallucinating that. 



My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 16 months.  We started the Ferber method - 5 minutes of crying followed by a brief comforting, then 10 minutes, then 15 minutes thereafter until he slept.  My daughter took even longer, maybe 20 months before she slept through the night.  I'm SURE we could have done something differently, and better. 



I hope you have a partner who understands your needs and can get up at least a couple of these nights or let you take naps on the weekends.  Pump breast-milk ahead of time so that you don't need to be involved, if that's an option for you.  My wife and I try to help each other out whenever possible, and we have family members who can help us out.  But it's still HHHAAAAARRRRDDD some days.



Lastly, I would say that parents of young children are in a different realm from parents of older children.  It's a few years of extremes - extreme emotions, sleep deprivation, extreme needs of your children.  That's why the practical support of friends and family is essential.  And it's okay to feel overwhelmed and imperfect.  And some day, you'll forget the endless nights and just remember those little eyes staring back at you in the dark.

Chandra - posted on 10/18/2009

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It does stop eventually!!! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, dont worry! I have a 1 year old little girl who started sleeping from 8PM to 8AM at 9 weeks. She has continued to sleep through the night ever since. Guess I got lucky.....sometimes it helps to just let them cry. You'll know after 10 min, if he is playing with you or actually needs something. Just an idea

Katrina - posted on 10/18/2009

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I didn't read through all the other posts. I didn't get my daughter to sleep through the night until she turned 13 months. Don't worry it will pass.

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