i have a cat and iv been told i can't keep him as any1 else kept there pets? x

Debra Louise - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 416 moms have responded )

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is it ok to keep my cat? please help!!!

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Janine - posted on 08/22/2009

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who told you to get rid of him??? I had 3 male cats with my newborn son and they were just fine!!! it all depends on the animal and you must not ignore them totally, so keep a special time when the baby is asleep just for your cat!!!! DO NOT get rid of him just because some ignorant person told you to.

Janine - posted on 08/22/2009

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who told you to get rid of him??? I had 3 male cats with my newborn son and they were just fine!!! it all depends on the animal and you must not ignore them totally, so keep a special time when the baby is asleep just for your cat!!!! DO NOT get rid of him just because some ignorant person told you to.

Lynn - posted on 08/22/2009

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You want to make sure the cat is not left alone in a room while your baby is sleeping. THe cat may lie on your baby's head which can cause suffocation. I would not get rid of your cat either. I was told that once too. You also need to make sure they clear of the cat box if you have one.

Melanie - posted on 08/22/2009

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I have 4 children my first 3 I had 3 cats!!you just need to make sure that you do not change the litter box . all my children came out fine.

Crystal - posted on 08/22/2009

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By all means KEEP YOUR CAT! I am a cat lover and have had cats in my family since I was born 32 years ago...they are like my children to me. When I got pregnant with my first child everyone kept telling me I had to get rid of my cat. I didnt. The cat never bothered her and would actually lay down beside her and seemed to protect her. When she was 18 months old we found out my daughter has asthma and was allergic to cats...oddly enough, our cat never made her sick. I will say, If you love your cat, keep it. Dont listen to all those horror stories people tell you about cats smothering babies...they are not true. But if you are worried just be sure to keep a close eye on the cat and its mood around the baby! Hope this helps!

Sandra - posted on 08/22/2009

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Okay, here's the deal. You can catch toxioplasmosis from cat poo. Don't change the cat box, get someone else to do it, don't scoop out the box, and if your cat poos in the garden, don't do any gardening. Other than that, you're fine until the baby is born. Then you want to watch the cat near the baby for at least the first month, to train the cat to stay out of the baby's face. There is an old wive's tale about cats stealing babies breath and killing them. What it in fact is, is the cats smell the milk or formula on the baby's breath and want to get as close as possible to that smell, and cats have been known to 'accidentally' smother a baby while doing that. I've got two cats and am pregnate now, I had both cats thru my last pregnacy. My oldest boy changes the cat box, and the biggest problem we really had after the baby was born was one cat would constantly lurk around the baby and attack anyone that came close to the baby that wasn't me, and the other cat would run up and steal the baby's socks, drove me nuts. But the kids are all healthy, the cats are too, and everyone is fine. Good Luck!

Tiffany - posted on 08/22/2009

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Getting rid of the cat is an old wives tale.



You need to be careful about being near or changing the litterbox. Do you know about Toxoplasmosis? You will likely be told about it many times.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toxoplasmos...



Other than that, you just need to be more careful with a cat or any pet.

Hygiene is important, as well as cleanliness or your home. Animal feces, fur, litterboxes, etc need to be cared for accordingly. Keep the home clean and free of excess fur and dander. Keep litterboxes far from food and food areas, as well as where the baby will be.

Plus all pets are different. If the pet goes after the baby, or cat sits on him or something, that's a different story entirely, and then you need to figure out what to do. But if the pet behaves well, and you can maintain a happy, clean and healthy home, there's no reason to get rid of a beloved pet.



Also, consider purchasing air purifiers/filters to set in a few rooms of the house.

Gemma - posted on 08/22/2009

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We had to re-home our 2 cats as my son developed asthma and their hair made it worse. I felt extremely guilty giving them away but when my son was born they no longer recieved the attention they were used too! And I was also extremely paranoid that they would make their way into his cot at night as so many people told me they would make for his cot!!!!

I still to this day (20 months later) still feel bad, but my son's asthma has improved and I am no longer paranoid and I know they have gone to a good home.

Just think of yours and babys health

PS Do not go near cat litter x

Betty - posted on 08/22/2009

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don't get rid of your cat. he is family just don't do the litter and don't touch the poo.

Lee - posted on 08/22/2009

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i think aslong as you trust your pet and your baby is ok around it and your pet is clean and in good health then there is no problem, i have a snake and a rabbit and ive never had any problems

Leah - posted on 08/22/2009

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I have 3 very healthy children and another on the way. I have always had cats and will never give them up. There is no reason you should have to give up your cat. True, you can't clean the litter box while you are pregnant, but you can still cuddle and pet your cat. My cat still sleeps with me at night and never bothered with the new babies other than a sniff here or there. Who told you that you had to get rid of it?

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We have two cats and two dogs at our house. plus a fiver year old and a 5 month old. The animals do well with the kids so long as the kids are taught to be gentle with them. I have read several articles that say children growing up with animals have a lower likelihood of developing animal allergies. Also, if you are pregnant you should have someone change the litter for you or wear gloves and use a no clay litter so there isn't dust that you can in hail while changing the litter.

Tiffany - posted on 08/22/2009

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There is no reason why you can't keep your cat. I was even told because I had cats growing up that I had already been exposed to any toxin that might be in the cat litter so I had nothing to worry about when I was pregnant. I think some people might just use the pregnancy as an excuse to get rid of their pets so you have to make sure you are looking at the facts before you make any decision.

Tamara - posted on 08/22/2009

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I don't feel that pets are a good idea around babies and children. They can be dangerous and can have diseases. I wouldn't have a pet and child combo myself. I think folks with pets should get rid of them if they are expecting a child or have a child.

Jennifer - posted on 08/22/2009

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Ofcourse its ok! Where are you getting this nonsense from???? Iv had two pregnancies and I have my two cats and would never get rid of them. There is no harm to your baby. Thats garbage. I even still scoop my cats litter box pregnant, I just wash my hands real good when Im done. My cats sleep with me, I kiss them, my toddler chases them around the house. My cats vaccines are all up to date, and they dont go outside.

Erin - posted on 08/22/2009

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if you are pregnant now....NO it is not good to have a cat....the amonia in a cats pee from the the litter box can be very harmful to you and your unborn child...even if your child is born it is still not good to have a cat...there has been many cases where a cat has smotherd a new born baby...they can jump in their crib/basanet and has smotherd them from laying on their chest...i know it sucks but i would def. get rid of your cat or just be very carful with the cat around you or your baby...if your child is born and is sleeping at night or for a nap keep the door closed at all times so the cat will not jump i their crib...good-luck

Cortney - posted on 08/22/2009

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I have 3 cats and they don't harm my baby girl at all, they really don't get near her. I just keep the litter box extra extra clean these days.

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2009

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If you are pregnant you just can not clean the litter box...because it is not safe for the unborn baby. But other than than that I have kept mine and I know a lot of moms that have theirs to.

Brooke - posted on 08/22/2009

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have to be careful with cats as they like to sleep close to the human body and may end up upo sleeping on the babys face.

Annette - posted on 08/22/2009

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We kept our cat, through 2 pregnancies. He is fine, and so are my kids. I did make my hubby take over the litter box duties, which has worked out in my favor. I think since I had my oldest 7 years ago, and my youngest 3 years ago, I have only changed the box 3-4 times, myself. Just wear gloves , and mask if you have to do it yourself, or get someone else to do it for you.

You'll be fine, and so will kitty

Sharon - posted on 08/22/2009

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As stated before, you need to stay away from the litter box while pregnant, but there is no reason to have to give your cat away. I have 2 children & have had pet's (cat) for many years. My cat did get jealous, but she came around & ended up being very protective of my baby. Hope this helps. Why were you told to give tour cat away?

Kelly - posted on 08/22/2009

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Before we had our first child we had a cat that had been our family pet for the 3 years previous we had started to prepare for our little girls arrival and the cat sensed that something was about to change and our cat started to pee and tear up everything. Lucy(our cat) had never done anything like this before and I had called our vet and talked to him about why she was starting to act this way and he said because animals can sense when things are about to change and they get jealous if it takes away the attention from them and they start to act out and try and get rid of what is taking your attention away. He said that her behavior would only get worse and that he reccommended that we found a good home for her to go to, just to be on the safe side so that she would try and harm the baby, to get rid of it...so I guess it is just on a pet to pet basis..our pet was HIGHLY jealous before our daughter even got here so we chose to get rid of her so that she wouldn't harm her just out of instinct but if your pet isn't showing any signs of jealousy you might be okay to keep it and just make sure you introduce your new baby to your feline friend and let it get used to the idea of the baby being around.

Kim - posted on 08/22/2009

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yes it is ok to keep your cat. i have had cats with all of my three pregnancies my kids love cats as well. i also have two dogs and they do not mind my new baby at all even though they are leary of other peoples small children. i feel if you already have pets you should not be concerned about it when people tell you that they are dangerous for you new baby you know you pets better than they do. you will know if your cat will be ok with your new baby or not. i would suggest that you just watch your cat when around your baby you will know if there is going to be a problem but most cats are ok with babies and i even know some that are protective of babies. i think you will be fine and your cat will also be fine. good luck and hope you make the right decision for you.

Rose - posted on 08/22/2009

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OLD wives tale ! There isn't a report anywhere that calls this true. Cats do tend to "smell" around the baby's mouth because of the milk, but they can't still their breath. 3 kids and more cats and dogs than I can count.

Verity Clare - posted on 08/22/2009

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I think it is a very good idea to keep your cat, as I have 3 cats and all my babies have grown up with animals.

Yolanda - posted on 08/21/2009

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You can keep your cat I had a cat for a long time and she was around for all 3 of my kids you will notice that your cat wil start to distant itself from you but other then that you should not have any prolbems with it :)

Charlotte - posted on 08/21/2009

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a friend of mine kept their cat until he died some years later..he never once harmed any of her 3 kids when they were babies in cribs he slept in the crib at the opposite end from the baby and never once get in their face at all...i say keep your cat..

Heather - posted on 08/21/2009

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Weighing in on the cat issue (somewhat belatedly) ... I have two cats, both of which were at least "middle aged" [i.e. 7 or so] when my daughter was born. Litter boxes are certainly safe to change, just wear a mask and vinyl or latex gloves. If possible, have someone else change the litter box for you. Either way, make sure your OB/GYN knows to test you for toxoplasmosis (they did it for me as a routine matter) at some point.



Cats definitely don't "steal babies' breath", but they DO love to try and cuddle with infants, because they are warm, small like milk (and their human mama!), and are roughly the same size and weight as another cat. Because cats tend to cuddle by sleeping ON something, they can suffocate the baby unintentionally. This is why they need to be kept away from a sleeping baby until the child is old enough that they will not smother under the cat's weight if it does try and cuddle up with them. (We held off on letting the cats into the bedroom until our daughter was about 2 or 3 years old.)



Don't let folks scare you, there is no reason not to keep your feline. You'll just need to take a few precautions, and all will be well.



By the way ... if you find that your precious kitty is suddenly doing inappropriate things like urinating on your clothes or bed ... s/he is simply suffering from a form of sibling rivalry. This does *not* usually happen, but some cats do get very anxious when a new baby is born (remember, when a mama cat has a new baby, the older kittens -- if any are still hanging around -- are immediately banished). Anxious cats will try to tell the infant in the only way that they know how, that the humans belong to *THEM*. Since cats mark territory with urine and feces ... well, you see how this can quickly turn unpleasant. If this happens, try not to discipline the cat too harshly, or this might actually exacerbate the problem. Instead, do not touch or feed your cat unless your newborn is in your arms. This can be tricky, I know, but the cat will quickly learn to associate the new baby with good things (food and affection), and this should put a stop to any jealous antics. When your child is old enough, start having them help feed the cat themselves. This will solidify their position in the house as out-ranking the cat (rank is very important to dogs and cats), and will contribute to better household harmony. Good luck. My cats ADORE our kids, and I'm sure yours will too.

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Keep your cat. Just watch and make sure its not in the crib and you can't change the litter box while prego due to toxians

Shelby - posted on 08/21/2009

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My guess would be they are worried about toxoplasmosis but if you have had the cat for a while you have already been exposed. they can test you but if you changed the litter long before you were pregnant you were exposed. Don't change the litter anymore while you are pregnant. Cats are fine to be while pregnant and with babies. Who told you that you couldn't keep the cat?

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Myself and many many others never got rid of there cats. Just keep cats out of cribs, they can lay to close to babys faces causing suffication. As long as you have a door on babies room your fine. KEEP YOUR CAT!!!!

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Its not your cat thats the problem, its the feces when you are pregnant. If your cat is a inside cat then you have nothing to worry about. But if your cat is inside/outside thats when you have to worry. Outside cats catch and eat birds which carry a disease that your fetus can catch, but you can have your husband clean out the litter and you will be fine. I have a inside/outside cat that I have had through all 3 of my pregnancies, my husband cleans the litter box and weve had no problems. Also, after my babies were born he was fine, just a little protective of them when other people were around. He loves my kids and weve never had any problems.

Theresa - posted on 08/21/2009

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we have an indoor cat and an outdoor cat--- never had any problems while I was pregnant I did not change the litter but that was about it, of course they both were up to date on there shots and declawed-- just to be sure that they wouldn't scratch the baby.

Veronica - posted on 08/21/2009

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Don't give your kitty away! I was told the same thing when I had my first baby. People would tell me that they lay on the baby's face and will kill your baby... IT'S NOT TRUE! I cried for days for my poor kitties...

Gina - posted on 08/21/2009

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Most people that tell new parents to get rid of their cats are going by the old wives tale about cats stealing the baby's breath away. This comes from the cat being attracted to the smell of milk on the baby's breath and laying on top of the baby, which makes the baby overly hot and they stop breathing believing they are back in the womb aka crib death. Just keep the cat out of the crib until the baby is strong enough to push/grab at the cat to make it move. We had a cat when our daughter was born and I was told by a coworker the same thing about getting rid of it. Her daughter had a cat that scratched the baby and of course she said the baby didn't do anything for the cat to to that. The baby probably grabbed the cat and it scratched the baby. Our cat died when our daughter was around 3yrs and the cat was close to 10yrs. The cat would sometimes sleep in the foot of the crib with our daughter after she fell asleep to watch over her and this was a vicious cat most of the time.

Jennifer - posted on 08/21/2009

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The question isn't really whether it's ok to keep your cat, it's why were you told to get rid of your cat? Is there legitimate concern about the possible behavior of the cat or do you have toxoplasmosis? Or is the doctor you see "old school" or just doesn't like cats?

There is some concern with toxoplasmosis during pregnancy. I contracted toxoplasmosis when I was pregnant with my daughter - and I NEVER cleaned a litter box. I didn't even have a cat, I was just at my boyfriend's mom's house a lot, and she had a cat. I barely even came in contact with the cat, but I still contracted toxoplasmosis, most likely because the cat was an indoor/outdoor cat. You don't have to EAT catshit to get toxo....though I'm sure you could get it that way! lol =)

I did end up getting a cat when my daughter was 2, which was a bad idea. My daughter was a bit too touchy feely for the cat and ended up getting some pretty bad scratches on her face. (This cat wasn't one to just jump up on the fridge to get away.) At that time, I found him a home without small children, and haven't had a cat since. From then on, I've had dogs. =)

Good luck!

Keri - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have a dog and two cats and all of them understand that there is a baby in the house. And I truly believe that they understand that this little being is a "baby." They're all so gentle and cautious. Never have my cats even smelled my baby's breath let alone lay on top of her. And I will also confirm that research has shown that the wives tale of a cat stealing the baby's breath is a falsehood. You know your animals. Give your animals boundaries with the baby (such as they aren't allowed in the baby's room), lots of love and a chance - they wont disappoint you!

Melissa - posted on 08/20/2009

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I can honestly tell you that I had two cats during both my pregnancies. My OB/GYN told me not to clean out the cat litter box even though my risk for toxoplasmosis was very low given I had had both my cats long before I got pregnant. Both my kids turned out healthy as horses...lol. My cats actually did sleep in the same room with both my kids and one of my cats always slept in my sons crib. There were never any adverse effects on my kids from any of this. If your cat is considered part of the family I would keep the cat. Just take the proper precautions where the baby is concerned.

Andrea - posted on 08/20/2009

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I've had my cat since 2002. She has been around my daughter and nothing has happened. I trust my cat around my baby. I think you shouldn't have to get rid of your cat it is part of your family.

Rachel - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have two cats one is ten yrs old now my kids are 6 and 4 .When they where little babies I let the cat hang out outside most the time she liked it.Now the kids are older Kitty sleeps with them.DONT CHANGE THE CAT LITTER until after the baby is born have your man or friend do it.

Maureen - posted on 08/20/2009

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Do not get rid of a valued member of your family. People telling you such nonsense probably do not like cats. Maybe it says something about how they feel about being a parent too... We had both a cat and a dog when our son was born. Just make sure that the pets know that this is a new member of the family. A bit like bringing in a new puppy ! The worst thing you could do is make a big fuss and freak if they're looking at the baby. When we brought our son home we immediately greeted our dog Abby and made a big fuss about her. She has missed me as I had been away 3 nights. We put the carrier on the floor and backed away. Now, we do know our dog and she had always loved staring a kids and looking after them. No worries. She stared at Aidan for what seemed the longest time as we explained this was her baby. She looked up at us with the most grateful, excited eyes. Our cat Tasha was also introduced very calmly. She was also fascinated and took him in as her own. In fact, whenever he would fuss or whine, she would come out of nowhere and smack our dog like it had to be her fault ! very protective girl she was. If she tried to sleep with him we just gently took her off and said no. I think she did take up residence in the rocking chair in his room though.

She put up with too much from him and would grab the arm of his clothes to let him know. That is ( lol ) until he got old enough in her mind to know better and grabbed both cheeks of his butt and bit him. He was horrified but we knew mother Tasha was just laying down the law. He never bugged her again !



Enjoy and cherish the newest addition to your family. Your child will be better off for having a pet .

Of course, I do love the hint to not eat the poo !

Sarah - posted on 08/20/2009

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Why wouldnt you beable to keep your cat? When my 1st was born we had 3..they never even paid any attention to her..but they all slept at her door.

Now she is 2 and I also have a 6month old. We are down to 1 cat and he plays with my 2 year old and lets my other one touch him..and he sleeps inbetween their rooms at night.Never has he ever jumped in the crib..but when i had one of those beds that you put your baby in that goes in your bed....he use to curl his body up in her feet..but it still didnt bother me..cats can tolerate alot..I wouldnt get rid of your cat.

Jennifer - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have two cats and a small dog. They love the baby and I have had no issues. The situation they are trying to prevent is the the cat not smother the baby once born which you can keep the cat out of baby's room and monitor them when they are together. I guess this can be an issue for some cats, something about the milk smells coming from baby's mouth. I know lots of people with cats and a baby. Depends on your cat if it scratches etc... Monitor and see how things go.



For the litter get someone else to change it if possible. Even if you didn't have to worry about the urine you will not be confortabler bending over. If you have to clean the litter wear gloves and wash your hands well after.

Teresa - posted on 08/19/2009

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Of course you can keep your cat! My kids are now 26 and 24, and we have had anywhere from 2 to 5 cats (that were only indoor cats) from before they were born. Cats will not "take the baby's breath" (as my grandfather told me they would), and they are not likely to smother a baby either. Some cats may smell the milk on the baby's breath and be curious, but as soon as our babies moved or cried, the cats were out of there in a hurry!! When my grandson was born, he and his parents lived with me, and while I did have one huge male cat who became sort of a protector, laying just off his blanket on the floor, watching him constantly, the other four (yes, four) cats had absolutely no interest. I have kept my 3-year old granddaughter from birth, and had the same five cats when she was born. The same five cats didn't care about her as an infant either, but they love now to sit with both kids on the couch, and sleep on their feet when they nap. If your baby is allergic, that is one thing.....but other than that, no ....keep the kitty....it will be fine.

Lori - posted on 08/19/2009

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I had a cat (the same one) through 2 pregnancies. My children are now 6 and 3. They are fine. Our cat never tried to jump in the crib with the babies. However, with my youngest, I would find our cat on the floor next to the crib sleeping. Just keep your eyes open and go with your mama instincts. Don't believe that garbage that the cat will steal the babies breath.

Valerie - posted on 08/19/2009

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OMG! That is so NOT true in fact I was told the same thing! I have 4 dogs and 2 cats. My pets NEVER had a problem with my son and still don't. He's 2 now. My cats are de-clawed but never so much as bated at my son even to this day. They just have always moved out of his way. My dogs have never so much as even looked the wrong way at him. Even my big dog. I have an English Bulldog and my son grabs her face, and lays all over her, as she licks him,lol. One of my cats is best friends with my son, has been since day one and follows him EVERYWHERE. When I brought my son home they all acted like they just had their own pup, or kitten. It was so cute. So I have to say I don't think there is any problem with keeping your pets. Whatever works for you I would go with. I wouldn't do anything till something happens or looks like it could happen. No sense in stressing yourself out till you know how they will react together. Wait and see. Best of Luck

Chris - posted on 08/19/2009

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I was told the same thing- I was devistated just thinking about giving up my cat (I had the cat before I had my husband!) I kept the cat & everything was fine. When we got home from the hospital we set the baby, in the carrier, on the floor- the cat sniffed him & never bothered the baby. I've since had two other children, and 2 dogs- nothing bad has ever happened. Just see how it goes....

Laura - posted on 08/19/2009

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I had 3 cats during pregancy. The only thing that I can tell you is not to change there cat box. that is toxic to unborn baby. but other then that you can pet love them do whatever. Enjoy being pregant

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