I have a really weird question- when should I have the talk with my ten year old daughter?

Savahna - posted on 04/22/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )

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She is asking me where babies come from and how a mom and a dad have a baby. Moms may respond

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/22/2013

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I would DEFINATELY start talking with her about it. She is ten so probably within the next 3 years she will start her period. She really should understand how her body works and why. Especially in this day and age, kids are getting pregnant younger and younger. Best way to avoid this? Educating our children. it starts at home.

Have the talk. Have all the talks. About puberty for girls and boys, hormones, and things they make us want to do. Masturbation, and how it is natural and a good way to avoid having sex to young, and of course sex. You don't need to do this all in one day, that would be over whelming. You can get her a book about her body, and talk with her about it.

Dove - posted on 04/22/2013

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That's not a weird question. Now is a good time. If she's asking questions... she's ready for answers. I used books when we started this topic and have built on from there over the past few years.

Amy - posted on 04/22/2013

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Be honest with her if she's asking then someone is probably giving her some information. If you aren't comfortable or are unsure how to have the conversation your local library probably has some books to help.

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Courtney - posted on 07/28/2013

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I would definitely talk to her about it. Just remember she is 6 so keep it on her level and the older she gets you will tell her more. Its much better that she finds out from you than the wrong information from her friends. My daughter is 14 and she has questions so it really is an on going conversation. You are doing the right by being there for her and it also tells her you care enough to be there for her. It will help you and her both

Angel - posted on 07/15/2013

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My daughter is 6 and she's already had the talk. Given she may not understand the full mechanics, but she's been to enough dr appointments & asked enough questions that she has a more than basic understanding. It came earlier than I expected, but I had decided to always be open & honest yet tactful & discreet with her. She has even asked about my "icky stuff" (period). She thought I was going to bleed to death, so I had to explain it to her to comfort her.

Short answer: if she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to get an honest answer.

Angela - posted on 07/14/2013

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No time like the present - speak to her soon. And it might be helpful to have a book that she can refer to whilst alone because some kids are shy.

Remember that SOCIAL education is just as important as SEX education.

Good luck!

Charly - posted on 07/14/2013

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Marnie - posted on 05/16/2013

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My basic rule is tell them often, tell them lots, and tell them sooner than you think. Kids will filter out what they aren't ready to hear and integrate. Talk honestly and frankly to her and reassure her that it's all very natural. Really it's just science and kids deserve to have good sources of trusted information.

I write a blog about raising sexually intelligent kids. Have a look if you think it might help. www.sexplainer.com

Kristi - posted on 04/25/2013

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It's not just The Talk anymore, it's The First of many On-Going...you definitely want to be the main source of her knowledge. You want her information to factual and true, not something some she heard at the lunch table. That means you have to be open and honest about the "stuff" you'll tell yourself she still doesn't do even after she's married! ; )

It's good she's coming to you with questions! She's comfortable enough and curious enough to talk about sex and she trusts you to tell her what she wants to know. That's a blessing.

Hope it all went well! : )

Liz - posted on 04/22/2013

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I started menstruating at age 11, so in my opinion it is not only NOT a weird question but your timing is good. Now is a great time to start talking to her about it.

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