I have a six year old who's VERY picky about what he wears - no long sleeves, only sweat pants! I have lots of clothes for him that he refuses to wear! I realize it's not that important what he wears, but has anyone else dealt with this? How can I encourage him to wear more than just t-shirts and sweats?

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Eve - posted on 03/15/2013

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As long as it's appropriate for their age and for the weather, who cares? I've always encouraged my daughters to express their own unique personalities. When someone asked my 7-yr-old why she wears "boy" clothes, she replied "Clothes are clothes. I don't have to be a boy to like Buzz Lightyear." There was a time when she wore her rainbow tutu with everything, even over sweats or jeans! Just to get her to "discover" all her other clothes again, I stopped doing her laundry for a week or two. Now she's in this mismatched socks phase and I actually find it adorable! My 13-yr-old has a quirky fashion sense as well. She loves cosplay outfits and wears her Batman Chuck Taylors with everything, even with skirts. It doesn't bother me, as long as she's not dressing like a hoochie-mama!

Dani - posted on 01/09/2009

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My brother was that way, if you don't wear sweats and tees, your son will probably take note and may mimic you eventually. Also try commenting on people you see dressed how you want him to dress, "oh that man looks so tough in jeans" or  "doesn't that boys shirt look warm. Anyway he'll probably grow out of it in time. Good luck.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/09/2009

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Thanks, everyone! It's just good to know that other Moms are dealing witht he same thing. In the end, it really doesn't matter, and hopefully he's grow out of it!

Wendy - posted on 01/09/2009

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I was also thinking it might be a texture thing. Have you looked into "sensory issues" relating to clothes and how is feels on their skin? Just a thought...good luck!

Meredith - posted on 01/09/2009

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My 4 year old is the same way. He has drawers full of t-shirts and pants and he only wears a select few of them. I bought him an outfit for christmas that was his favorite color and had curoius george on it who he loves and I have to beg him to wear it!!!! He is just very perticular. You have to learn to choose your battles...is it really that important!

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This sounds like my 7 yr old! Try to find out why he likes sweats or why he doesn't like other pants. It turned out that my son can't do zippers and buttons very well so pants other than sweats (which he could just easily pull up) frustrated him too much. I've tried to look for pants which have velcro or other less frustrating mechanisms.

Julie - posted on 01/09/2009

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i have 9 children and found leting them choise what they want they end up picking what you want them to in the end its a battle i no but they grow out of it

Katie - posted on 01/09/2009

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I have a 5 yr old boy who gets very upset if he can't find jeans to wear. In my house this can be a tricky task I have 4 children a husband, we both work and I go to school full time, SOOO laundry gets done very sporadically and getting it folded and actually into the draws where they belong seems to be impossible sometimes. The good new here is that while Christmas shopping with my 12 year old daughter I found out "why" my 5 yr old will only wear jeans his sister told him jeans were "cool" and that was what everyone was wearing. Since that I have had her talk to him and tell him all clothes are "cool" especially the ones she picked out for him while we were shopping and they weren't jeans AND he loves them!

Sarah - posted on 01/09/2009

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I have the same dilemma & he is almost 9 (hopefully yours will get better!). When he has to wear jeans for scouts, pictures, etc it turns into a crazy yelling screaming battle the jeans don't feel right not comfortable etc. This is normally a very sweet kid but very defiant when he is told he has to dress a little nice. I'd welcome advice on this as well.

Sandra - posted on 01/09/2009

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You're singing my song. My daughter, at 14, just began to wear long sleeves this week. She went in waves of wearing different things. I had to clean out her closet because she began cutting the sleeves off of shirts. Then it got to the point that I began picking out her clothes. Then, for Christmas, she got to buy her OWN, warm clothes. Some of it can be behavioral (like we like to wear our own comfy pjs and we don't want to wear a suit to a meeting). Good luck!

Lori - posted on 01/09/2009

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My 8 yr old went threw a stage that lasted a year.He only wore broncos t-shirts and camo pants.I made it his problem not mine.He was 5 when it started.I told him you can where what you want when you go to school,playing at home or at your friends house but when we go to the store I pick what you wear.It went on for a year and now he wears what ever I buy him and never complains.It might work for you.

Lynn - posted on 01/09/2009

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It could be something as silly as he does not like the texture and feel of other clothes.  Eventually he will start wearing other clothes.  Try to look for outfits that are the "sweat" material. 

Kerri - posted on 01/09/2009

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Ha, I know, it's not funny. My 9 year old does the same thing but he wants jeans and t-shirts only. He hates long sleeves (even when it's 35 degrees outside) He says he'll wear a jacket (which is actually just a hoodie) He refuses to wear shorts too even in August when it over 100 out (We live in Dallas) It may sound mean but sometimes I purposly don't wash his stuff so it's dirty and he HAS to wear other things. Sometimes it works and sometimes he tries to dig the dirty clothes out of the hamper (gross) Does he have any idols? Maybe point out that they wear other things too, it may not work but it's worth a try. Sorry I couldn't be of more help but I'm in the same boat. Good luck and let me know if you find something that works. I'll do the same.

Carolyn - posted on 01/09/2009

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Trust me honey it doesn't get any better when they turn 14 either.  My son has this thing with warm-up pants.  Everywhere we go that's what he wants to where and he has plenty of jeans to where to.  I think it's just boys being boys.  My son claims that the buttons hurt his stomach (He doesn't have one, he's too skinny if you ask me)  But the famous quote is "boys will be boys" I've come to discover they do it more due to the fact it irritates you so much. 

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