I have a theif on my hands!!!

Alison - posted on 05/04/2010

First off, keep the wallet hidden to remove the temptation.

This looks like a good article on the subject:
http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_f...

Robin - posted on 05/04/2010

I had an issue with my oldest where she would steel every time she got the oppertunity we would walk in a store she would pocket something I would leave my bag laying any where she could get it she would take money I would leave money out even just for a min and it would be gone she also stole from ppls houses when we would go there I finaley had to start pocket checking her every time just before we left any place so I would take things from her if she had earned a dollar I went in when she wasnt paying attention and take it she got a new toy and I took it and when ever she asked about it my responce was allways I dont know maby some one stole it from you when her responce was well thats not nice I earned that or but its not theres I simpley asked her if she liked it being stolen from didnt feel verry good and then I added but its ok to steel I mean you steel from ppl all the time and you never consider that you might be hurting there feelings she thought about it for awhile and sead no its not ok I want my stuff back

Shawnica - posted on 05/04/2010

What has always worked with proving a point to my kids is do to them what they do to you, and when they get hurt feelings or question you about it, then you sit down and have a conversation about how it made them feel when you did that to them, and explain that that is the same way you feel when it happens to be reversed. Usually if kids experience a feeling they do not like they think more about making someone else feel that way. I'll tell ya it doesn't always seem right to do, but it works!!

Dora - posted on 05/04/2010

It sounds as if she maybe trying to get your attention. I am not saying your not giving her enough but what kids expect from us and what actually give them are different things. This is why I believe being a parent is the toughest job in the world.

Louise - posted on 05/04/2010

Tell her all about personal space and personal belongings and stress that it is not right to steel. Sit her down and ask her why she is doing this, you might not get the answer you thought. If she continues to steel then one lock away your cash and two take away something that she values and tell her that she will have to earn it back, by doing jobs around the house. Explain that you have had to work for that money she is taking so she needs to work to get her things back to. This is really a tough one so good luck!

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2010

Personally, I haven't had the issue.



Is there anything in particular she is using it for? Or is she just taking it and keeping it.



When you say she "needs" it, does she receive an allowance, do you have a chore chart and pay her an amount of money each week, or do you just give her money when she asks for it, and then, just say no sometimes because you can't afford it?



Sorry for the questions, but it could help work out why she is doing it. Once you know why, then you might be able to sort it out appropriately. Punishment must fit the crime!!!

Noreen - posted on 05/04/2010

Just turned 8

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2010

How old is she?