I have anxiety/depression and need advice!Was put on zoloft stopped after 2nd day!

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010 ( 192 moms have responded )

19

14

0

I've had anxiety/ panic attack for over two years ever since my son turned 3months. Its gotten alot better but now i just have it when im alone i get a uneasy feeling. My depression is my bigger problem i feel like a zombie and cant stand this feeling. I went to the doctor today after sleepless night, night sweats, anxiety, and not being able to eat for a couple of days. He prescribed me zoloft and im suppose to start tomorrow but am very nervouse it might make me worse. I just wanna be happy i have overcome ocd when i was 11 and anxiety/ panic attack recently. I just have a uneasy feeling with depression and i just want some advice. Should i take it or should i just try something. Btw im only 21 with a two 1/2 year old. My spouse is somewhat understanding and trys his hardest to understand and help. Im a stay at home mom/ student and i have lots of family but not many friend due to the fact i never go anywhere unless i have to. My family is supportive but they dont fully understand and i talk to them alot but dont see them very much. Sorry for such a long explanation just thought i get it all out there so whoever wants to give me good advice knows my full story!

This conversation has been closed to further comments

192 Comments

View replies by

Bethany - posted on 06/13/2010

8

14

0

Take the zoloft! It's a shame that you waited so long before talking to your doctor. Make sure to read about the side effects, sometimes you can have a few...bathroom issues while getting used to the drug in your system :) Things will get better. Keep reaching out, and keep talking to your family. They may not fully understand, but they will support you. God Bless!

Tiffiany - posted on 06/13/2010

4

69

0

I know 1st hand how confusing it can be to take or not to take those meds....1st find a doctor u totally trust! Its ok 2 take anti-depression meds sometimes its an imbalance that we just cant fix on our own AND my last piece of advice..friends or no friends, Get out n enjoy urself..get ur nails done or go 2 a coffee shop n read a book. Hope u feel better soon

Alana - posted on 06/13/2010

1

0

0

My advice would be to not only take medication but look into a psychotherapist that can also help with coping skills , sometimes iin the end you don't even need the medication. everyone is diferent but the combination definitely has far better results. And make sure to get time for yourself !1 Iknow all too well what it's like to only get out when it's to appts or the grocery store!!

Janice - posted on 06/12/2010

1

20

0

I wouldn't presume to advise you on the meds the Dr. prescribed for you. I'm not a Dr. and he is, but I understand your quandry. I guess it comes down to whether you trust your Dr. or not. If you decide to take the Med just be sure and stay in touch with him if you expierence any changes.
Something I do feel comfortable in advising you about is exersize and healthy eating. Walking helps depression a lot and so does a high protein diet with some fruit and veggies. You do need to get out and see people as much as possible. Staying home all the time can get to be a problem as well. if you don't have a church family, then get involved in one. It will be good for your whole family and you will make friends that are in the same circumstances as you. Make play dates for you and your child. Try to get out for a few minutes each day. Maybe you could find a nice little park where you and your child could go for picnics and to play on the playground.. I wish you health and happiness and pray that God blesses you.

Patricia - posted on 06/12/2010

32

24

2

First start doing something to help get some good rest at night! if you're not rested you are more wound and tense. I use 2 benadryl (generic) and 10mg Melatonin = it's herbal and helps you sleep. You can also do a nice hot bath or shower and curl up with a good book. I LOVE Janet Evanovich books= one minute you're laughing the next you're crying=it takes you out of your environment into someone elses life. I lost my baby brother =murdered at 23 this is how I coped with the depression. I would go for walks or take the kids to the park or even walk around the block. We would take a pbj and koolaid or tea picnic plastic tablecloth and blanket= when we were done eating they would swing and play. Sunshine fresh air other people getting out of 4 walls helps. Some days we would rent a movie have hot dogs and popcorn. Other days we would go to the mall and walk and we would get oriental lunch. I tried all different foods like this with my children= it helps them too they don't dislike foods if you try them all when they are little. Take bubble baths with your child , blow bubble at the same time & put on soft music. Start your own play school time with your child =1/2 to an hour a day work on coloring adding subtracting. Go to the store and get little workbooks or coloring books, or make your own paper problems to solve . Practice the name address phone number. Use blocks fruit whatever you have on hand . Go shopping to the produce stand or section in the store learn and try new fruits and vegetables. Your body and child will benefit from this. Get a new cookbook or go to the library get your child a book and copy down good recipes or check them out= practice recipes that sound good include your child in your prep work you can be a kitchen diva. Check with the Library -ours had a toddlers book reading with a lot of other Mom's or Dad's it helps to meet and have others to socialize. Most of all it will help you feel better as a person. Don't put yourself down only positive good things. Clean dust vacuum the house the, the car wash it=your child can help clean windows wheels= anything. It helps your child have pride for their home and car. Plant a flowerbed or vegetable spot= include your child growing is a good thing you will happily watch it grow = outside your house. These positive distracting things that naturally help you feel better. God Bless I know it's rough but you can do it! You have a beautiful child to shine and grow with!!

Vanessa - posted on 06/12/2010

14

16

4

I have the same problem. I never had anxiety but i always had depression since i was 13 i am 21 years old with two kids. After my son was born i started having anxiety attacks! xanax is a good thing to take at nite before u go to bed becuz it relaxes u and the more you get use to it taking it in the day helps as well! you are under alot of stress it sounds like! and alot of anxiety is trickered by stress! it seems like you need to find some quiet alone u time! depression is hard and can take a tole on the kids becuz ur doing the same thing everyday being a stay at home mom working with skewl! it can get old! find something new and refreshing to do! :)

i have found that doing something at least two times a week if possible, is very helpful! sometimes mothers overwork themselves, and babies can overwork the mamas! find time to breath and relax.

Heather - posted on 06/12/2010

71

11

0

I know what you are going through as I suffered through ocd from childhood and then got depression and anxiety as an adult I seeked help at 23 years old and am so glad I did they put me on Zoloft for 5 years and it helped me so much. Unfortunalty I went off it at 28 and when I had to go back on it it didn't work. The doctor shifted me to Paxil and that worked for me I've been on it now for 8years and will be on it for the rest of my life but I don't mind because I finally know what it is like to relaxed inside. You have to give the meds 2 weeks to know if they will work for you.

Kate - posted on 06/12/2010

8

28

2

if you actually have depression and anxiety herbal remedies are not going to help, clinical depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and no amount of herbal therapy can correct that. you should take the meds and definitely try cognitive behavioral therapy as the person above suggested. if you take anti-depressants it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be on them for the rest of your life. it is also very important to keep yourself busy and do things that you enjoy in order to be happy.

Barbara - posted on 06/12/2010

19

14

0

Thanks everyone. I took my first pill today and felt horrible. I know it wasnt bc of the pills but it was that i knew i had taken it. I did feel alot more irritated and zoned out. My whole family came over and they said i look out of it plus i was crying alot. Not to mention my bf who i thought supported me completely gave up on me and told me very horrible things that i need to go to a mental institution. So ima try these pills for a week and see if they end up helping. This morning i woke up very dizzy, nausea, and out of it and thats before i took any medicine. So thats how i know its not the pills i just dont see how a pill can truely make you happy and ourself again especially once you feel your world is coming to a end. Anyways thanks for the support!

[deleted account]

Exercise also helps with depression. I know it's the last thing you feel like doing but even if you just walk around the block it gets the endorphins working.

Santana - posted on 06/12/2010

1

16

0

well i have the samw issue nand they gave me zoloft i dont feel like it works it make me feel worst and worn out them that makes it hard to run around with my kids..

Andrea - posted on 06/12/2010

9

29

0

SWEET JUICES IN THE MORNING , LIKE BERRIES , PAPAYA, THEY FLOW THRU YOUR BODY BETTER, THAN VEGGIE JUICE , BODY WILL HAVE GAS , JIGGERY HEART , ALSO WHEN HAVE THESE FEELINGS , LAY ON YOUR BACK AND PUT LEGS UP AGAINST THE WALL , SO THAT YOU LOOK LIKE THE LETTER "L". THAT HELPS TOO AND JUST TAKE DEEP BREATHS, HOLD A FEW SECONDS AND EXHALE SLOWLY, THE 1ST 2-3 BREATHS WILL INCREASE NATURAL O2 IN AND EXHALE , IT WORKS , TRY IT

Cheryl - posted on 06/12/2010

135

1

18

I agree wi all of the above..but I had panic/anxiety attacks too after doing fasting diet to lose weight.. pregnancy and childbirth can aggravate these problems.. My mom was bi polar and got worse and worse after each child: she had 6!! My nutritonist helped me with this..You need to try SAM-E for sure, unless you are bi polar, St John's Wort, Valerian Root and lots of EVEning Primrose Oil.. (Borage, Flax, Fish, also) Lack of needed oils in the diet is thot to be a big culprit here! These are all natural but take 6 weeks or a month to feel effects, except SAM-E I felt better right away.. It seems you are uncomfortable wi the drugs so these are only suggestions if you want to go natural..yes, lots of green smoothies too for added nutrition! B- Vites as well help wi nerves.. and oh yes, Homeopathic Calms Forte at the drug store!

Andrea - posted on 06/12/2010

9

29

0

Please look at SAMe, it is all natural and it helps with depression , anxiety and panic attack , I swear to you also changing of the foods , juicing too .

Brittany - posted on 06/12/2010

11

40

0

zoloft is not going to make u worse because i wus put on it afta i came back to san antonio because of very bad depression and it helped me out alot. i was on zoloft and ambien cr to help with sleep and depression. ur jus going thru a lil ppd, post partum depression. i went thru it with my daughter. although i wasn't prescribed anything., i still dealt with it and it's jus something that all women go thru so there's nothing wrong with you

Ruby - posted on 06/12/2010

1

1

0

I think you should take Lexapro 10-20 mg...I have experienced the exact same thing...been on it for 1.5 years and it changed my life the very day I took it...I cannot believe there is help with it because there was a time I felt helpless...amazing that there is help through medicine for something that seems so mental but it really, really work...another thing you need to do is practice deep breathing because I learned that the anxiety gets worst because you panic and forget to breath...once you start breathing deep and tell yourself that there is nothing wrong with you...it leaves...I still go through it sometimes but I just say to myself (silently or even out loud) you are okay and there is nothing wrong...I take a few deep breaths and calm down and it helps me out big time...please feel free to email me because I really understand...uniqkreationz@sbcglobal.net

Barbara - posted on 06/12/2010

19

14

0

Oh and will i get my appetite back im sure my weakness is also coming from not having any food in my body.

Barbara - posted on 06/12/2010

19

14

0

Thanks everyone im about to take my medication just really nervous. I have been throwing up all morning and cant eat anything and i havent even taken them yet. I tried vitamin b and d since im defiecent in d. Nothing seems to work and i just cant stand feeling physically sick on top of the nervousness and down feeling. So hopefully it works like everyone says. To answer some questions its hard for me to get out bc i cant drive to far on the freeways and i live on the opposite side of town from all my family and they always seem so wrapped up in their own lives. So im just extremely tired and hopefully this pill will give me some motivation and love life again instead of wondering how ima get through the day again.

Andrea - posted on 06/12/2010

9

29

0

Hi , did yiy ever think of joining a support group , go onto Meetup and look in your area , so that you know that you are not alone in your depression , also , get a journal , and write the anxiety stuff in the book and when you feel good write that too , find the simple little things that make you happy and surround yourself with them , smelling crayons , brings up good childhood memories , favorite flower , and when one of the attacks tries to take over , breathe your flower or scent , you can do it , you are never alone , also try juicing , natural good things in your body helps to and will balance you , remember your body is still out of wack , if you ever want to talk call me Andrea 914-371-1848 home , I am on facebook too .Surrounding you with prayers , blessings strength , harmony and peace of heart mind and soul .

PATRICIA - posted on 06/12/2010

89

28

11

have you tried herbal remedies? If you dont like taking medications it could be something to try, also do you do lots of cardio? That always helps me when I am depressed, I also think you need to visit with friends, if you get panic attacks when your out, ask them to come over for coffee, I had panic attacks really bad in highschool, at first I thought I was going crazy, but I just started to see what my triggers were and over came them!

[deleted account]

im on the 50 mg. one pill once a day. i had HORRIBLE anxiety. i couldnt shake the bad thoughts of something happening to my kids, to me, to my husband etc... it got so bad, that i was holding my children back ! zoloft takes the edge off. i still feel like heather, but i am more relaxed, calmer, i dont get as mad - or if i am mad i dont stay mad like i used to, and sometimes i still get anxious, but it makes it easier to take a deep breath and move on.... literally zoloft prob. saved my life. i didnt realize how bad off i was, til i was on the other side of it....

Ashley - posted on 06/12/2010

7

16

0

take the zoloft...I was on zoloft after losing my son almost 4 years ago. It helped me tremendously and without it I don't think I would have been able to deal when I got pregnant with my twins (now 2 1/2) I stayed on it throughout my pregnancy. I have just recently gotten weened off of it and am gonna see how I do without it and if I feel myself going back down the road of depression I will be right back on it.

Renee - posted on 06/12/2010

239

29

31

Take it depression is such a dark place.I have bipolar and rarely had depression until i moved to Savannah where i'm isolated.i take tegretol for mine because I have a seizure history anti depressants are out for me.

Jen - posted on 06/12/2010

1,086

35

182

hi i have the same sort of problem but mine wont go away. i was born breech with my twin brother we were born naturally there wasnt time for a c section. the doctors didnt give me oxygen quickly enough so i was left partially brain damage couldnt walk til i was 5 slow at everything im 23 dnt know my planets simple things like tht cnt ride a bike or swim. n nver go places on my own. ive seen councilers docters child development social workers u name it noone has never tried to put me on meds. i just live my life the best i can i have a 19 month old n am stay at home mom if i have to go out my bf has to cum with me if not i go with my mum to places. its not a very nice life but this is the way i was born so nothing i can do about it i went to college for a couple of yrs the first year i was on community transport n on a specail needs course but being there made ave more independance all thw teachers said i looked fater the other disabled children who were worse off but i actually enjoyed it but then i had enough n needed to do sumthing for myself so i started to walk to college n bk home again n went on to do two mainstream courses it was only 20 mins but it killed me i either had to talk to myself to calm myself down or have my radio on but i did it so it might be the only thing i can manage to walk to town to myself but one day wen my little man is at skool i dont want to be sitting at home on my own so im hoping i will do sum voulntery wrk or my dream job a nursey nurse i mite be diffrent but im still human n want to prove i can be part of the world too its gna be very hard but i will try n try again if i have too. so hold in there n things will get better

Linda - posted on 06/12/2010

17

44

1

Can I ask if you have someone to talk to? I have found that pills are all well and good but it is neccesary to have someone sound that you can talk to. I had VERY bad PPD with my 1st-lucky a friend noticed and got me to someone who deals with it on a daily basis. Its hard in the beginning to talk about things you feel are private (like in my case I stopped breastfeeding at 6 weeks and felt guilty for it). When I had my twins I never got any PPD and was very lucky. Although when they stopped feeding at a year I got a little depression. I have ways to deal with depression that dont require taking any meds. I have endomteriosis and cysts (had cancer previously too) and had so many pills you could have shaken me I would have rattled. So, I dislike taking pills. Having someone who deals with your conditions (depression etc) can be a very helpful tool. Good luck, have a chat to someone if you feel anxious about taking them. Might help :O) Take care.

Gisela - posted on 06/12/2010

1

16

0

Zoloft is very good. Depression is not a nice state to be in. I have a generic depression, so I am on meds permanently.

Barbara - posted on 06/12/2010

19

14

0

Thanks i got out of the house today and i felt a little better just by doing that so know im second guessing taking them tomorrow. I still thin i am though bc regardless i shouldnt feel horrible and have anxiety. So hopefully it will take the edge off enough to were i feel normal and not like a zombie. Anyways i'll let y'all know how things turn out or keep you updated in case i have questions while taking the meds.

[deleted account]

Zoloft is one of the more safe drugs you can take for depression and anxiety. It's not addictive. And at the dose you've been prescribed it'll just take the edge of the horrible feelings and you'll be able to cope with things a little easier. As time passes you'll feel more confident and soon this will just be a way of life, maybe then you can cut down or stop the meds (slowly, don't just stop). I would also recommend some counselling too, cognitive behavioural therapy is very helpful as is learning breathing techniques and relaxation. I've been there and, even though you might not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, you've made the first steps and you'll get there. Good luck and let us know how your going.

Sandy - posted on 06/11/2010

267

866

16

Medicines for depression or anxiety can make matters even worse. Be careful. If I were you, I would first try Dong Quai in the mornings and see how you feel. I have tried a couple of meds and they have caused headaches, uneasiness and I just didn't feel good. It's a huge step and I wish you the best of luck.
Sandy Lora

Erica - posted on 06/11/2010

18

21

0

I would say take it...I was taking Paxil a few months ago and it helped a lot...the first few days were a little rough, it made me a little sleepy and not really wanna get up in the AM, when I was up I was okay though. Try therapy too, there are reasons why you are depressed and anxious. You and your doctor will decide when to stop taking it, just don't stop cold turkey. I stopped taking it when I found out I was pregnant b/c it's not good for the baby. The "withdrawl" sucked, I got headaches, very light headed and upset stomach. I lost the baby and I never went back on the meds and I look at my moods and depression and I see myself slipping back into the same place that I was before I started so I have an appointment with my doctor to get started back. Good luck, you will be okay, just have faith :)

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010

19

14

0

Do you have to take it everyday now that its in your system. It's just sometimes i start feeling a little better when im really busy bc i dont have time to stop and think about it but once im done with what im doing im back to hating life and wanting to just be at peace. So iguess yea i should try since nothing else seems to work or make me happy.

Katherine - posted on 06/11/2010

65,420

232

4963

No it has to be in your system in order for you to feel better. I've been on it for 5 years, I was without when I got pregnant with my second, but the hormones made me feel great so it didn't bother me. After I had my daughter though, about 2 weeks after, I started feeling horrible. I cried all of the time, I didn't want to do anything, I was irritable and angry. I just hated life. Soooo they put me back on and I felt a hundred times better.

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010

19

14

0

Is it possible to stop taking it a still feel better or is it something that you have to always take. How long have you taken it and have you ever been without it if you don't mind me asking.

Katherine - posted on 06/11/2010

65,420

232

4963

So you know you probably will have to be on it for a bit. Not addictive. The only thing that I would say to look for is if you feel worse.

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010

19

14

0

Also once i start taking it do i have to take it for the rest of my life. I hate pills and just want to take them untill i feel better but once i get off will i return to how i am know??? Also what signs should i look for to stop or that the medication is not working and are they addictive?

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010

19

14

0

Thanks.Im supposed to take 25mg for two weeks them up to 50mg. I'm thinking about taking half of the 25mg then more if i feel ok. I just get scared since im young bc it says it can worsen thoughts of suicide and i have looked it up online on yahoo answers and alot of people just say negative things about it. Some positive so i actually feel a little better about taking it now that i've gotten some advice. My family thinks i should try all natural first but i want something thats going to work now. So i guess i'll try it for a little while and hopefully im as lucky as y'all and it works and i get back to being me again. Thanks!

[deleted account]

im on zoloft- and let me tell you what, it works for panic and anxiety and sleep problems! i am a 100% different person. you have to try what it right for you, i would say give it a shot, and see if it helps. you should notice a difference in about a week, but full results will take about 3 weeks ... if you want to, start with a half... if it seems to help but you notice it wearing off, go up to a whole... and good luck! =)

Katherine - posted on 06/11/2010

65,420

232

4963

I had PPD with both of my girls and I'm on Paxil. It's helped a lot. I also have anxiety. Nothing except medication has helped that. If you're that worried why don't you research the side affects? They're very, very rare. If you're feeling that terrible my point would be; how can it make you feel any worse?

Andrea - posted on 06/11/2010

566

29

56

I stated medication for my anxiety and depression 15 years ago and I have never looked back! You may feel a bit worse as you begin the medication, but you have to remember it takes a couple of weeks for the medication to begin working like it should. It's good that you have some support. Good luck!

Barbara - posted on 06/11/2010

19

14

0

No i overcame that by myself just fought the urges it was hard but eventually i no longer had the urges. Also with anxiety i ordered this program panic away and it helped me get over my fears and my anxiety/panic attacks decreased alot. Now im depressed and i hate pills so im really scared to take them. Plus i've heard so many stories of people getting worse instead of better and i can't imagine being worse. Have you ever taken medication?

Katherine - posted on 06/11/2010

65,420

232

4963

Take the Zoloft, it will help with the depression and anxiety. Are you on meds for OCD too?

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms