i have been trying to get preagant for 10 months now dose any one have any tips for me

Genevieve - posted on 02/10/2010

there is a book called taking charge of your fertility. Every woman should read it. I learned things I had no clue about and I knew a lot.

Laure - posted on 02/10/2010

don't think about it and like us , do a new activity with the daddy.and but don't think about baby , think about you and your man !and soon you'll be pregnant soon .
we did it and we have a marvellous son !and shortly after we had a so cute baby girl !

Amy - posted on 02/10/2010

Go on vacation! It took us a year to get prego. Finally when we went on vacation and were in a relaxing atmosphere, it happened. Every day life, "trying" to get pregnant, etc. can be stressful. Also, usually after a year of trying, your doctor is willing to start talking about fertility treatments if that's necessary. Have your husband/boyfriend get tested for sperm count too. Figure out, based on your cycle, when the best time to have sex is... but also have sex other times and try not to only think of it as "trying to get prego." This stresses out the guys it seems. :)

Stacey - posted on 02/10/2010

PreSeed....it's a lubricant that works like a miracle.
Tried for months and months and nothing. Relaxed, used the preseed and the next month - presto, 36 and prego with baby number 2!

Andrea - posted on 02/10/2010

hi,we went camping and i fell prgnant i know it sounds wierd but it worked for some friends to as its just so relaxing the atmosphere,all my friends wanted to borrow my tent ha ha ha its worth a try good luck x

Cynthia - posted on 02/09/2010

I actually do. After you make love, prop your hips flat on a pillow and elevate your hips above the alignment of your head when you are laying down. Lay there for about 20 minutes in that position rather than standing right up. This keeps the sperm in for a longer period of time. When I was purposely trying to conceive -- this actually worked.

User - posted on 02/09/2010

you will recieve what you want when you stop trying, dnt think you can jus kno you can, let it come to you.... We tried for almost a year and a half and the ONE TIME, THE ONE TIME i stopped thinkn about it and just had fun was the time it happend. The more you stress yourself, the less possible it is to concieve. Dont give up girl, trust me i didnt think i could ever get pregnant and i am now with a boy....your time will come. and when not if but when it does the best of luck to you.

Jennifer - posted on 02/09/2010

If you are both healthy and able to conceive, then stop stressing it. I know that everyone says that but HOW...Plan a nice expensive vacation (think 7-10 day cruise). It will get your mind off of the issue and with Murphy's Law you should be happily pregnant and throwing up every morning thereby making the cruise poor option. Don't forget the trip insuance for the refund on the cancelation. One friend found out she was pregnant two weeks after closing on a house (was not trying to get pregnant) and another with twins after purchasing a car that would then be too small. Good luck.

Kimm - posted on 02/09/2010

The hardest thing in the world to do is relax when you really want to get pregnant, its on your mind always. No one knows that better than someone who has been there. And I have, three times. I had irregular cycles and have a tilted uterus, which makes getting pregnant more difficualt. Having sex doggy style helps. I actually took fertility drugs each time, and each time I was on them longer than the time before. Try to have fun, maybe plan a great get away vacation, you never know what might happen. Good Luck!

Emmalie - posted on 02/09/2010

thanks guys for all the tips will have to try some

Charlene - posted on 02/09/2010

My husband and I were trying for almost 2 years and it just wasnt happening so what I did was set up an appointment for him to get a sperm count done. Turns out it was low so I googled the different types of things that can boost it back up and one of the things it said was to give it time to for the lack of a better term 'recharge' his sperm so after having sex wait like 2 days. Also my SIL told me that when your at the prime time for ovulating you will notice a little bit of discharge, I watched for that and made sure we had sex at that point in time. it didnt take long for us to get pregnant after that. Hope this makes sense and that is helps. Good luck

Jaynah - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree with those that say relaxing isn't always the answer. Track your cycle and if you aren't ovulating....there is a problem that relaxation isn't going to fix and most competent doctors will see you at any given time if there is a definite problem. Go ahead and find a good OB/GYN and talk to them about testing early before you get more and more depressed and anxious. We tried the whole "relaxation" thing for a whole year and as soon as I went to my doc, found the problem, and started treatment...we were pregnant within 4 months. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree with Natalie! The most common reason for someone not getting pregnant is due to stress from trying to get pregnant. Relax, get plenty of rest/sleep, take prenatal vitamins (the folic acid is necessary at the time of conception to reduce the risks of spina bifida). Drink lots of water, exercise, eat healthy. Don't have sex everyday. Every other day is sufficient and allows time for your husband to reproduce healthy sperm. It can take what seems like forever, but I know a lot of people, myself included, that got pregnant when the "trying" and the worrying stopped.

If you feel there is something wrong, go see your doctor. There are tests they can do to test fertility, however they will probably recommend you try some things first.

Jenny - posted on 02/09/2010

It took me 12 months to get pregnant the first time, now 5 years later I have three kids!! So don't be discouraged! Also and this is SO GOOD!!!! PLEASE read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler (may have mispelled the last name) I learned SO much. It is a MUST read before you go to a fertility doctor. It will give you the tools you need. It has worked for me. Often couples are trying with just a little misinformation, they may just be a few days off and are just missing the most fertile days!! I tried for 10 months, then read the book, two months later I was pregnant!

Erin - posted on 02/09/2010

It took my husband and I 2 1/2 years to get pregnant. I have PCOS and needed help to conceive. Go to the gyno, they should be able to lean you into the right direction. Either by helping you themselves or helping you find a fertility clinic to help you. You may not have anything wrong but it's best to rule anything out. I took fertility drugs for 6 months and now I have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old little boy. Good luck to you!!

Natalie - posted on 02/09/2010

@ Rebecca
It can take a normal couple up to 12-18 months to conceive. Most doctors won't even help you until you've tried for that long.
So i think it's very discouraging to tell her to not listen to all of us people who say relax and let it happen. Just b/c she's been trying for 10 months doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her or her husband. Every month you have a 20% chance of becoming pregnant so it's very a low number.

Marcia - posted on 02/09/2010

It's easy...... stop TRYING to get pregnant....when you TRY your body stresses out. Have fun with process, and if you are really worried go to your dr and make sure there is nothing to worry about....

My cusin "tried" getting preg with her last two and each time she kept telling me the same thing that she couldnt get pregnant. I told her the same thing I am telling you and withing months she was pregnant...lol

Good luck, congratgulations on the wedding and above all...HAVE FUN!!!!! :)

Sarah - posted on 02/09/2010

my first one it took some months to and then my sec one we tried for 2 years and the last one just wanted to be here also

Emily - posted on 02/09/2010

stop trying!
sounds dumb but i promise thats how it works, unless somthing is wrong with you or your partner. [i.e. infertility....]
it will happen when its supposed to =]

Natalie - posted on 02/09/2010

Congrats Diane!! That's great! I'm so happy for you guys!

Andrea - posted on 02/09/2010

I'm speaking from experience when I say this. Once you have been trying for a year, go to get fertility testing. We did that and found out that no matter how much we relaxed or forgot about trying, it wouldn't happen anyway. We got answers as to what our problems were and IVF was our solution. We have a son and are going to do another IVF in the fall. Good luck, I know how difficult and frustrating it can be month after month of having a negative result.

Amanda - posted on 02/09/2010

It took me 2 years, it so hard but its true the minute u relax or give up it happens, i hv a beautiful 11 week old boy now.

Good luck:)

Amy - posted on 02/09/2010

ok both times i got pregnant i DIDNT have cable!!!! so disconnect yours lol im playing but it has happend to me like that..... stop tryin. when JC and I tried we never came out positive. after we quit tryin i ended up pregnant. just let it out of your mind and let it happen on its own. God knows what he is doing. You are prolly not ready for the sleepless nights =) good luck girl!!

Angie - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree with Kandie, I was drinking all 3 times I concieved my kids, and i'm not realy a big drinker. I guess maybe it just loosens you up and relaxes you.

Melyssa - posted on 02/09/2010

Were you on birth control before that?

If you were, It can take more than 3 years to concieve.

I was off birth control for 2 and a half years before I got pregnant.

But, Good luck & have fun!!!

ANGELA - posted on 02/09/2010

Well you can try this, have sex 14 days after the 1st day of your period then you do it one day and skip the next and go like this for one or two weeks... this worked for me :)

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

Don't listen to the people who tell you to "relax, stop trying, and then it will happen." Sometimes there is an actual problem that needs to be addressed by a Dr., and no amount of relaxation will help. Most of those people have no idea how unbelievably upsetting it is to not be able to conceive, and how it impacts your sex life and marriage. We "tried" for a year before seeking medical advice. In total, it took 4 years, 4 doctors, 3 surgeries, countless "procedures", and 1 miscarriage before our first son was born. We now have 3 sons, so take heart! But I suggest you go to your ob/gyn now and begin initial inquiries into why you've been unable to conceive.

Angie - posted on 02/09/2010

try ovulation tests, thats how i concieved my second child, you have to pee on a stick and it will tell you if you are ovulating that day or not. I think theres only like 2 or 3 days out of the month where you are ovulating. If it says you are have sex a couple times that day.You should be on the bottom, when you are finished don't get up right away lay there for about 20 minutes to alway the sperm to swim up.

Diane - posted on 02/09/2010

Stop trying so hard!!!! My husband and I just found out we are expecting in Sept. We have been married for almost 12 years. He is a cancer survivor and the drs said he could not get pregnant due to his chemo. We had accepted the fact that it was not going to happen and to our surprise, God had other plans!!! We were not even trying and it happened, so just relax and enjoy spending quality time with your husband!!!!!

Whitney - posted on 02/09/2010

just be patient-- it will happen! Have you tried eating healthier, being more physical, take prenatal pills, or even track your ovulation? You can buy ovulation kits anywhere-- hope I could help!

NARY - posted on 02/09/2010

no stress and when the time is right it will happen but if you been continiously trying and nothing happens over a year, you shouls see the dr. good luck

Kerry - posted on 02/09/2010

I have known at least 2 friends who had the same issue and both started using progesterone cream.. so I attached a link. BTW they both got pregnant within 2 months. :) http://www.beyondfertility.com/art205.ht...

Kandie - posted on 02/09/2010

for me and my ex husband we never tried to concieve. we just went with the flow of things. This is kind of bad to say but we concieved our son on his birthday and a little black berry brandy helped. i think that just have a couple drinks with your husband to help loosen things up. otherwise you are so determined to get pregnant that it will just happen.

Lauren - posted on 02/09/2010

I tried to get pregnant for over a year. We were going to get tested but decided to wait a couple of months. We figured there was something wrong, but we both lost our jobs so we thought we should wait till we found new ones. Not even a month later I was pregnant!

So, when people tell you to try to forget about it, TRY TO FORGET ABOUT IT. I know it is hard to do that, but it worked for me. I figured we would get tested in a couple of months.

Heather - posted on 02/09/2010

When I was trying, we had sex every three days. It gives him time to build up so you can get a "full load"; and since swimmers can take 7 days to fertalize, I basically always had them in there working. I also didn't have any problems conceiving, we got it on my first month, so it might not be the best answer, for you.

Joyanne - posted on 02/09/2010

There is a great book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I cannot remember the author but it is in the book stores. I wish you success. Been there, done that! Frustrating, but this book helps!

Decolua - posted on 02/09/2010

You should consult with your doctor. There could be a medical reason for it. Someone I knew had something in her uterus..nothing really serious. It just made it impossible for pregnancy. The doctor told her that she could get her utterus scraped out clearing the obstruction she would only have a few weeks to conceive before the thing came back. She got pregnant and now just celebrated his first birthday! If no medical reason you might want to find the right time you are fertile. It is usually around the time your cyle comes on. A week before and a few days after is what I was always told. I wish you the best.

Katie - posted on 02/09/2010

I was on the pill for about 10 or more years before quitting it and trying to get pregnant. I checked out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility and liked what I read. I started charting my body temperature every morning (it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be) and figured out when I ovulate within my cycle. Worked for me, but I also agree with the "Relax" and "Have fun" suggestions!

Katherine - posted on 02/09/2010

If you want, you could try ovulation tests. They usually come in packs of 7, with instructions on when to start peeing on them. They simply test when you are most fertile (usually a 24-48 hour span of time) and once you get a positive result, go off and seduce your hubby with some sexy lingerie!

Katie - posted on 02/09/2010

Try the ovulation sticks. They work, and they tell you the best time.

Tammy - posted on 02/09/2010

stop trying so hard and tell the hubby to stop wearing tighty whities

Katherine - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree - once you stop trying it will happen. The more you worry about trying to have sex at the 'right time', the less fun it becomes, and it's a stress on both you and your husband.

Stacie - posted on 02/09/2010

first i am so sorry I can imagine how much you want this and how excited you are. I would love to think that all that passion and energy isn't just spinning it's wheels right now stressing you out. Can you start a bucket list so to speak a list of things you might want to try or do before you have a baby and focus on marking those experiences off. Start a journal for your baby describe all the life's lessons you experienced before they got here so you could share them with your little darling. I have heard that when you decide to focus on other things it just happens . wouldn't that be great if you could just drink life till this magical moment happens and get the most out of it and who knows maybe you will meet someone who will have this tip like drink pickle juice upside down and it works !!!! How lucky this baby will be to have a mom so eager to celebrate life with them. good luck stacie

Firebird - posted on 02/09/2010

Stop trying. You're only going to stress yourself out over it, and that will make it even more difficult to conceive. Just have fun trying, don't focus on what you're trying to do. Also if you and your husband can orgasm at the same time it can help, (going to get graphic here!) quite often during orgasm the cervix will sort of latch on to the penis to literally try to "suck in" the sperm. That's one of it's functions. It will eliminate that one obstacle for the sperm to reach the egg. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 02/09/2010

HAVE LOTS OF SEX AND I TOTALLY AGREE WITH NATALIE S

Emmalene - posted on 02/09/2010

Do you think there are any reasons for not yet getting pregnant? Have you seen a Dr?



If you are healthy and know your cycle to time things to happen when your ovulating it should happen, but some people take time. There is a small window to concieve in, it's only hours. I got pregnant 1st time both times (high planning, not romantic at all LOL) but my BFF took 12mths and then miscarried 2 times but now has 4 beautiful kids. If you have real concerns go visit your GP.



good luck

Natalie - posted on 02/09/2010

What exactly have you been "trying" to do?

What helped with me is counting out my most fertile days. You can do that on parents.com

And relax, have fun with your husband while you're having sex.... don't stress about getting pregnant. It will happen in its own time!

Good luck!