I haven't felt the baby move yet and am getting worried!

Beth - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I'm 21 weeks and haven't felt my baby move yet! She is my first so I don't know if she is moving and I don't feel it or just isn't moving at all! Everyone keeps telling me that it feels like butterfly's in your belly, but I haven't felt anything like that! Should I be worried?

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Amber - posted on 05/23/2012

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I agree with a lot of other moms. My first baby, I didn't feel her move until I was close to 30 weeks. Its nothing to be worried about. If ur appts r going well and they hear the heartbeat every time then things r going well. I had no idea what to feel for as far as movements until she was big enough to actually kick kinda hard. I didn't even know what a contraction was until I was in active labor. I slept through most of my early labor and contractions. We tend to want to kno everything but ur LO is the one n control. She/He may b shy!! :-)

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2009

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Definitly get a hold of your doctor. Better safe than sorry, but you should be feeling the baby at this point. Has your doctor talked to you about kick counts. If not have them explain it to you- then do it everyday and it may help you to become more aware of your babies movements/ routines.

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Sarah - posted on 06/25/2013

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Hi no shouldn't be worried I was worried at ur stage I'm first time mum I started getting butterflies at 25 weeks I'm now 27 good luck

Angel - posted on 09/10/2009

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Iwouldcontinue to talk with your doctor.If this is your first child it might take a little longer for you to feel the movement.But as you get further along and do not feel the baby move, my doctor always suggested I drink a cold glass of water and this usually got the baby moving. But again the best thing to do is keep in touch with your doctor.

Kathy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I'm at 38 weeks now, and I didn't feel her move till about 25-26 weeks, and then it was almost a fluttering, not really like butterflies. Everyone is different, every baby is different, like many moms have said it depends also on how the baby is sitting. One of my friends bought a baby heartbeat listener because she wasn't feeling her baby move even later on, he's 3 now... one of my co-workers wives never felt their first move at all, but her hubby would feel baby kicking and punching where she would snuggle up to him all night. As amazing as it is when you do feel baby move towards the end it can hurt. Mine likes to punch and kick areas that really do hurt, or kick the same spot over and over again. Also someone mentioned a tilted uterus... that could be why I felt mine later, my first ultrasound they told me that mine tilted...

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My first child was very active, my second one was not, if your Dr says everything is fine & you can hear the heart beat don't worry.

Katarina - posted on 09/10/2009

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I felt my son move at 15 weeks. I've heard that some babies move a lot less then others and depending on how you're carrying you may feel sooner or later. If you're really worried buy a at-home Heart Monitor. I did while I was pregnant and it relieved anxiety. It allows you to listen to your little ones heart beat and let you know everything is ok. Mine was a life saver for me! My fiance and I would spend hours just sitting and listening to my son's heartbeat.

Alissa - posted on 09/10/2009

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you are still very early on in the pregnancy and I wouldnt be worried. You may have felt it and just not noticed because you don't know exectly what it fells like. If you are that concerned I would contact your doctor but I wouldn't worry

Emma - posted on 09/10/2009

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I didnt feel anything till about 23 weeks everyone told me he must just be small, he ended up being 10lb, i suppose every1 is just different. i wouldnt worry x

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if your doctor sAys everything is fine don"t over worry

dRINk something wITH loads of sugAr or caffiene And be reAlly still lAying in the bed wIth your hAnds on your tummy you will feel A flutter feeling mAy not even feel it with your hAnds

Shauna - posted on 09/09/2009

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Mine felt more like gas bubbles, and i didnt feel him til about 18 weeks, but if you are concerned you should talk to your doctor and make sure everything is alright. Good luck!

Claudia - posted on 09/09/2009

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With the first baby it can take longer to feel the baby move. But what worked to get my boys moving when I was worried was a hot chocolate. I would have that and they would move heaps afterwards.

Kirsty - posted on 09/09/2009

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i didn't feel my first til almost 25 weeks. my second i felt at 15 weeks. and my sister was about 25 weeks also with her bub. hope that helps ease your worries a little.

Allison - posted on 09/09/2009

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butterflies, ok - but normally, the very first few little moves - honestly, feel more like gas - itz very suttle - hard to notice unless u'r paying attn - but u shud most definitely ask your doctor at the next visit - there's never a dumb question when it comes to pregnancy :)

Sam - posted on 09/09/2009

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no.. its different with every Mum. Have you had your ultrasound yet? Your ultrasound should tell you how things are going with bub?

Amber - posted on 09/09/2009

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I wouldn't worry too much. At your stage of pregnancy, concerns about fetal movement, or lack thereof, while understandable, are usually unnecessary. Feeling the first movements can occur anywhere between the 14th and 26th week but generally closer to the 18th to 22nd week. Variations on that average include a woman's weight (a very slender woman may feel weak movements earlier), and the position of the placenta. Hang in there...you'll be feeling those twists and turns soon!

Jana - posted on 09/09/2009

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Not that it will help take some of your worry away, but I didn't really feel my daughter move until I was about 25 weeks along. But once I really felt her move, I knew that some of the other things I felt were her moving I just didn't know what I was supposed to feel. (if that makes since) Plus I have heard that if the baby is towards your back and the placenta is in front, it is much harder to feel the baby move.

Ashley - posted on 09/09/2009

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dont worry i was the same didnt really feel much till i got to about 25 weeks :) just wait once u feel it it is the best feeling eva

Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2009

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No you should not worry. It won't be long before you start feeling like a poke. I was over 20 weeks before I felt anything and I was carrying twins. You will feel it soon.

Amy - posted on 09/09/2009

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Oh and also if your uterus is tilted, which you may not be aware of, this can hinder feeling movement. Give it a little longer, you will feel your baby move eventually. Never lay on your back, this will compress your major arteries and impede blood flow back to your baby. Eat some ice, drink some juice, put your hands on your belly and eventually you will feel movement....

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My book says that you could try drinking a glass of cold milk, oj, or have a snack and lay down for an hour or two, if that doesn't work try again in a couple of hours (this would help if you've already felt the baby move)... it also says at this point you may not notice this for a few days at a time and are likely sleeping right through the fetus' most active stage (in the middle of the night). Since this is also your first child it may take longer for you to recognize the baby moving as such... I don't think i noticed my first born for what seemed like FOREVER!!! The book says after the 28th week you should be checking daily for fetal movement. So I would personally not worry if your doctor has said everything is fine. The bk also said that the baby may be kicking & such on the inside depending on how it is laying and this may contribute to you not noticing.

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If seen your dr. makes u feel secure do it nothing bad can come of it, but some are not as active as others and maybe is good thing mine use to move so much i was always etherin the bathroom or in pain. good luck

Amy - posted on 09/09/2009

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I am a L&D nurse.. Sometimes it has to do with how the baby is positioned in your belly. When the baby has it's small parts out towards your belly button you may feel movement sooner than someone's baby who has it's small parts facing their spine. Hope this helps...

Rebecca - posted on 09/09/2009

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definitely go see a doctor if nothing happens. Its better to suffer embarrassment of seeing you doc again and go in and see everything is fine (maybe s/he is a light mover?) either way you would be best to know for sure either way

Karen - posted on 09/09/2009

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I didn't feel my little guy move till about 21 weeks...at least that's when I noticed. He would never move while I was standing but would wake up when I stopped moving. Some just move more than others. Don't worry yourself too much about it, you don't want to stress out. If you are concerned, don't hesitate to call your doctor. That's what they are there for and they would rather you call and be comforted than stress out.

Mary - posted on 09/09/2009

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Make sure the drink is cold! and wait for 20 minutes. If nothing, then go see doctor.

Beth - posted on 09/09/2009

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I've tried both and neither worked. I had my dr.'s appointment less then 2 weeks ago and my doctor said that everything was going well, but I'm still worried!

Amanda - posted on 09/09/2009

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Have you tried something really cold, or spicy? with my first she moved every time I had ice cream or a milk shake. With my second it was every time I had spicy Mexican food.

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Have a sugary drink (juice or soda), lay down on your back and put your hands on your tummy. Lay there for a while and try to feel some movement. If you still don't feel anything go and see your Doctor.

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