I just found out my 14 year old daughter has been sneaking out of the house on weekends, to be with a 19 year old boy.

Tammy Lynn - posted on 10/12/2011 ( 202 moms have responded )




I have installed alarms on al lthe doors, so if she tries it again, it will alert me. I have already taken away her phone, computer privileges, cable in her room and now, her walking to school priviliges. She is under house arrest until further notice. I am looking for ideas for punishment/consequences.

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JuLeah - posted on 10/12/2011




Not sure punishment will be the way to go. What are you hoping will happen with that?

Odds are, she will be mad, and figure out a way to get out, get around your rules, lie even better, sneak even better .... it will become a battle of wills - which she will win

I don't know where you live, but 19 and 14 is illeagle in many places, you might look into that

Were she mine, I'd be interested in WHY she was doing this ... I'd want to figure out what emotional need was was attempting to meet, what thinking error resulted in her thinking this was a good idea, what kind of hold this person has over her ..... if you figure out the answer to those questions you will be in a better position to educate her, guide her, and help her make better choices for herself .... this comes down to self care and self respect ... which she will need every day of her life, so help her aquire it now

Tinker1987 - posted on 10/12/2011




I would alert the school,make sure she cant leave on breaks and if she isnt in class or late you want to be notified immidietly... sometimes school is a vacation for teens that are under house arrest at home and they can be up to no good during school hours!! as for at home your doing great,without the phone or internet she cant commute with the guy.if you have the guys number i would be giving him a piece of my mind to stay away from my daughter unless he wants to be in trouble with the Police,a guy that age can go looking for a woman his age!

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