I'm 11 but I really want to have a baby. I'm in the 7th grade (Iskipped a grade) and I really just need someone to love and to get loved back from. What should I do?

Dove - posted on 11/21/2012

I hope you're a troll, but if not....



Get yourself in to sports and tell your parents you want to go to counseling.



My oldest is 11 and if she were talking like you are.... her butt would never leave the house again. Seriously, you need help... NOW.





Getting pregnant and carrying a baby at your age could potentially kill you or you could end up with a preemie with all sorts of developmental issues. Unless you are living on your own and paying all your own bills.... someone else will be raising your baby. Either physically or financially and how selfish is that? Real mothers put their children first. They don't just have a baby so they won't be lonely. Real mothers care more about their kids well being than their own selfish desires.



Now, I KNOW this desire cuz I had it ever since I was 14. When I actually BECAME a mom (at 25) though.... I was extremely grateful that getting pregnant at 14 had never become a realistic option cuz my kids and myself would've suffered extremely for it. At 14 all I wanted was someone to love me unconditionally and I figured my parents would help me out. I was 100% stupid and self centered in my thinking.



Oh.... and if you think your puppy is too hyper to hold?! You obviously haven't had enough experience with toddlers.

Lacye - posted on 11/21/2012

I posted this on the other thread but I'm going to do it over here too. Just in case it didn't sink in the first time.



On the off chance this is real, here's all the reasons why it is not ok for an 11 year old child to have a baby.



1. Your body is NOT developed enough to handle the stress of pregnancy, much less labor.



2. You are not emotionally mature enough to understand what involves in taking care of an infant.



3. No person in their right mind would hire an 11 year old and don't give me that bullshit excuse that you work at a daycare your grandmother owns because guess what, she could have her place shut down for allowing it. There is a reason why a minor cannot work until they turn 16.



4. What a BS reason to have a baby. "I need someone to love and to be loved by." That right there just proves you are too young emotionally to have a child. Get a fucking puppy. If you have one, then that is enough for a person your age.



Let's get something straight, I am a 28 year old woman. I was almost grown by the time you were born. I am right now pregnant with my second child and guess what, it's still not easy. I was 24 when my first child was born and even then I thought I was too young to have a child. And I was too young. Stop worrying about having babies and just be a kid. Go play with your damn dolls instead of worrying about getting pregnant. And get the hell off of a mother's website. Hell, get off the internet completely. Go outside and play.

Monae Mokell - posted on 11/21/2012

??? The lady that owns the daycare is my godmother

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

No daycare would hire an 11 year old, I'm calling troll because you have two other posts asking the same question......

Lacye - posted on 11/21/2012

This is the same person who posted asking if it was ok for an 11 year old to get pregnant. I said this once and I'll say it again, NO! No no no no no no no no no.



I'm seriously wondering if this person is just screwing around. This is a joke.

Monae Mokell - posted on 11/21/2012

Not to mention - Condoms are uncomfortable

Monae Mokell - posted on 11/21/2012

I know what this site is for and thats why im asking theese uestion on here and i told you i have a dog and hes stupid and boring. I am really good with kids. I work at a daycare.

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

And in response to your statement have you every tried holding a tantruming toddler?? PS this site is for moms.....

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

Reposted from The Stir:



An open letter to very young teenagers wanting babies:



No.



Just ... no.



Seriously, what the hell is wrong with you? Have you ever even met a baby? Because most of them are assholes and they’re the only variety of people even more moody and cranky than teenagers.



Look, I know. I know you want a baby because you feel alone and you want someone who will love you and need you. I get that. And that’s why you should go get a puppy. Because puppies are totally glad when you come home to see them. Babies on the other hand aren’t there when you come home from school to see them because they’ve been taken away by child protective services because you can’t just leave babies on the floor while you run to class. This is just one of the many differences between puppies and babies.



Other differences between puppies and babies:



Puppies will pee on your rug for a few weeks until they’re trained.



Babies will pee on your rug, your clothes, and (on several occasions if you have a boy) your open mouth. FOR YEARS. Puppies almost never pee in your mouth.



Puppies occasionally poop on the carpet.



Babies occasionally pull the poop out of their diapers to create a mural on the wall, which you will then have to clean off. Puppies almost never make you clean human feces off walls.



Puppies come from animal shelters. You have to pay for them with a credit card.



Babies come from your uterus. You have to push them out of your vagina.



Puppies don’t need circumcisions. Also, you don’t have to clean their junk every time they go to the bathroom.



Puppies love you. So do babies. That one’s a tie.



Puppies love you even if you aren't perfect. Babies would kill you with their minds if they could simply because you aren't fast enough at reading their minds. Instead they’ll just scream their heads off. Puppies almost never scream their heads off.



If a puppy can’t sleep you can put it outside. If you do that with a baby you go to jail.



When your puppy finally does sleep you can curl up next to him and he’ll snuggle against you and you can nap. When your baby finally falls asleep you’ll try to take the first shower you've taken in days but then you’ll wake up the baby by thinking too loudly. Nice try, lady. Back to work.



Your puppy needs clean water, food, and a few toys. Your baby needs so much shit that you’ll need to take out a loan for just the basics. Six months after buying it, everything you bought will be recalled for safety issues.



You don’t have to hire a babysitter, tutor, or nanny for a puppy. Puppies never want summer camp and designer jeans and tongue piercings. Puppies never ask where babies come from, or why they can’t spend the night with their boyfriend since you got pregnant when you were their age. Puppies chew up your new purse. Babies throw up in your new purse. In fact, they do it so much that you don’t even get all that grossed out when you have to clean it up. That’s just how used to vomit you are.



Puppies are best enjoyed at any age. Babies are best enjoyed when you are responsible, out of high school, and economically independent.



That’s why, teenagers, I say to you now ... get thyself a puppy. And then when your parents get all pissed off that you got a puppy just say, "I’m pregnant." Once you calm them down and they see that you’re really just carrying around a puppy instead of a fetus they’re much more likely to think reasonably and will probably be fine with a puppy. It’s all about perspective really.







Hugs,



Jenny



PS. Condoms are your friends. So are chew toys. Don't confuse the two.

Monae Mokell - posted on 11/21/2012

I have a dog and hes not very fun and hes to hyper to hold.

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

Get a puppy