Yaya - posted on 12/04/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
My fiancé & I have been together for 2 years and got engaged 3 months ago. We are in the last year of College and living with my mother. We planned to get married after college but now my fiancé & I found out I'm 1 month & half pregnant.
fiancé and I think it's better to find our own place to stay before telling my parents. Since my mother was never fond of the idea of us living together or being engaged.
I told my older sister about it and she said my fiancé needs to leave and that I can't go with him because we are not married yet, ever since I told her she keeps treating me like a 15 year old, (I'm 21) telling me when to eat, what we are going to do, when to sleep, and that I can't get married by the state because I owe my mom a church wedding. She is actually stressing me out more than I already am.
We want to tell my parents that we want to get married sooner and want to be on our own. We aren't asking my parents for financial support just moral support, but my sister keeps on saying that they aren't going to allow it, that I owe my mom too much and that she is going to be hurt, disappointed heart broken because she always dreamt that I would graduate college 1st then get married in all white! She is going to kick your fiancé out All this shit I already thought of.we still plan to finish school.
I just want to know how do you get your family to respect and accept your decision even if they feel your making a mistake? I'm not scared of having a baby and still being in school or even us being on our own I accept the responsibility. It's just getting them to understand that and accept our decision.