i'm concerned reading through questions on here the ammount of people who are saying really nasty things to each other i thought this was a place we could come for help, advice and assistance concerning our kids. what's going on?

Anita - posted on 04/11/2009

i think pple should just learn to read the "attacks" and not actually comment on it but just reinforce their own opinion, thoughts, and advice that works for them and pass that on to whoever will "listen"..after that its really up to the third party (the person needing help) to take the best information that suites their needs and wants...I must admit i have many a times want to reply to those nasty post but i just bit my tongue...mind  i like a good arguement..lol

Melissa - posted on 04/11/2009

Is it just me or is it always the same people tras talking and causing problems?

Mel - posted on 04/11/2009

i think some people are just very arguementative and they dont mean to be. im thanking god that the 2 people on here who caused the most trouble on purpose dont seem to be posting anymore because i was beginning to feel upset and hurt by comments made against what id written but i think you just got to realise some people do it for attention others do it because its who they are they have strong opinions and they dont actually mean to hurt people and some just take things the wrong way. if i disagree i try to just say thanks very much for the input i disagree but i appreciate the response. anyway i was a bit upset fo a while but over the last few months or so everything seems to be fairly normal and great helpful responses not too many are insulting. my daughter went to hospital for a week and being 11 months i was in there with her and ever since i got back i hadnt recieved any rude or negative comments and seen many people do it to others so that has been great

Leah - posted on 04/11/2009

lol my spelling and grammar is always terrible its not my strongest point :-)oh dear your son not well? u live in australia ?? or usa ?? im in uk its08.45 am here :-)

Libby - posted on 04/11/2009

Sorry my spelling and grammar in that last post was horrible.  Didn't realize till I posted it.  Kinda sidetracked by the breathing treatment I'm giving my son.  Not usually up this late!

Libby - posted on 04/11/2009

Yes, communicating with just the written word can be confusing sometimes.  I tood also don't mean to come across as rude or anything, so if I'm going to post something and I'm not sure exact how it will be taken, I try to preclude it by stating that I don't mean to be harsh or whatever.  I don't have all day to sit her and plan out how to exactly say something that nobody will take the wrong way.  Hopefully people are just genuine people (even though we know not all are) and will post with all good intentions.

Libby - posted on 04/11/2009

Yes, communicating with just the written word can be confusing sometimes.  I tood also don't mean to come across as rude or anything, so if I'm going to post something and I'm not sure exact how it will be taken, I try to preclude it by stating that I don't mean to be harsh or whatever.  I don't have all day to sit her and plan out how to exactly say something that nobody will take the wrong way.  Hopefully people are just genuine people (even though we know not all are) and will post with all good intentions.

Leah - posted on 04/11/2009

i also find that when communicating with text alone it can lead to misunderstandings u cant always tell how something was meant to come across when u dont have body language etc to go by i agree with libby that u dont want to be patronized or come across as patronizing either u can give your honest opinion without being rude to people but i suppose someone can still take offense no matter how u word something if its not what they want to hear.All i can say is i never mean to be rude or offensive to anyone but everyone is different its the people who go out of there way to upset others that i dont agree with :-)

Libby - posted on 04/10/2009

People are people.  And like someone else said above, that it's a lot easier to be candid and not sugar coat their response when being online.  Some people come out harsh, some come across as being sugary sweet.  I prefer the true honest candid responses.  I don't want someone to patronize me because they think that is what I need.  Just give me your opinion.  I'm old enough to know it's just an opinion and I don't have to take the advice if I don't want to.  When it comes to religion or touchy subjects people get offended.  It's just the way it is.  I also believe that when someone's opinion may be waaaaay off base, someone should point that out to them.  Hopefully it will give them a new perspective. 

Sara - posted on 04/10/2009

I've noticed that too. I have to admit that I have gotten into some heated debates on here, I was letting people get to me. But, I realized that what they think really doesn't matter so I avoid threads that I think will get me upset. That's unfortunate too, because I'd love to give my input to some people, but it's not worth it to me if I'm just going to be attacked. I think some people are just really rude because, as someone else said, they don't have to look you in the face when they are saying it. Maybe it's some sick outlet for them to express their anger because they are unable to do it in their everyday lives. Or maybe they're psychologically disturbed...who knows?

Leah - posted on 04/10/2009

I was taught as a child if u cant say anything nice then dont say anything at all and also treat others as u wish to be treated yourself i feel both of these are good things to remember i am happy to give advice or my opinion to others but try and always bear in mind that my opinion may be different to other peoples my way may not be the best way and that u should think of others feelings when expressing your views .... i have only been a member of this group for a about a week and have come across a couple of thoughtless comments in general most people seem nice :-)

Julie - posted on 04/10/2009

Well ya know that seemed unnecessary right there...

Tanya - posted on 04/10/2009

I'v noticed that too and was a little disturbed by it. I am a member of the Step-moms, and Large or Blended families, communities and I have never come across rude or judgmental comments in either of those threads, the women are very supportive of one another. Maybe we should start a new community for people who want to argue and debate over every issue. Maybe they are just really unhappy people and they are taking it out on everyone here cause they have no other safe place to vent.

Carolee - posted on 04/09/2009

Hey carmen my name is carolee . my husband and i are life coaches for 12 years.Sometimes people who have a relationship with God haven't learned how to communicate in ways that don't sound religious and condemning . I have given it a word GUILTISM . Instead of learning how to inspire people to be great and explain to them the difference between right and wrong and what would be wise , there argument ,and not a very relatable one, ends up being "because God says so" for people who haven't developed their spiritual relationship with God they might as well of just said because Shakespeare said so ! people who may have been open to some of Gods wisdom have just been shoveled a pile of" should" . Sadly Their idea of God ends up being such a turn off for many people and thats not what God is like at all:} Hope to ttul 

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009

I've been a member of this circle for about a month now. I haven't come across any negative posts, but if I do, I plan to ignore them. The best thing to do is to not give the "attention-seekers" the power over you/your feelings. There's one in every bunch...



PS -I'm enjoying all of the "unscripted" replies. It's nice to get advice from unbiased honest strangers...

Maggie - posted on 04/08/2009

oooooo well i second that "on my gosh......."

however, i think you will see similar things like that any where unfortunatly. so much easier to say what is on your mind when you don't have to look that person in the face.

Carmen - posted on 04/08/2009

it's not any thread in particular just numerous ones i have read through. and i thought oh my gosh............

Maggie - posted on 04/08/2009

i think i know the thread you are talking about, and from what i read and commented on, people's feelings were getting hurt with some of those nastey things. religion being the big topic, which had nothing to do with the question asked. i think people (even me) got upset and just let our fingers type what we were thinking, getting carried away. some of the things bring brought up were getting to offensive and condinsending... which of course was not the intention when the thread was created.