I'm not really sure what to do..

Katelyn - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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So long story, but my baby's father and I were together til I was about 6 months pregnant when he told me he "didn't feel the same way about me anymore." And then 2 months later i found out he had actually cheated on me. We talked about it a lot and are still friends, but worked it out so hes staying with me for a while to help with our baby. But now I find out he's still talking to the other girl via facebook and probably text messages but I have no proof of texts. He told me he didn't want a relationship with anyone at all, not even me. But he is still flirty with me and sometimes talks about sex. I feel so depressed about the whole thing.

When I first got pregnant he told me he wanted to live together and be a family and someday get married, and now I have none of that. Part of me wants to kick him out, but part of me is still stuck on the fact that I really thought that he was the one. And I don't now what to do.

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Crystal - posted on 02/11/2010

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I've had the same problem, and if you know that you will never be happy with him around, tell him in a nice way he needs to find somewhere else to live, but because your kicking him out doesnt mean he cant see the baby. It will be hard at first because of your feelings for him, but eventually you will once again be happy with someone who is happy with you.

Sara - posted on 02/11/2010

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If you still have feelings for him or hopes that it will work out somehow, you need to distance yourself from him to save yourself heartache. He obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too (i.e., no strings attached sex with you and whoever else). He can still help with the baby but not live with you.

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Linda - posted on 02/11/2010

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Im with everyone here. You can be friends, but you dont need to live together. I would very nicely ask him to move out. Let him know he is still welcomed into the baby's life but that living together isnt all it seemed to be. NO ONE and I mean no one needs to stay together for a baby. Sometimes the best parents are those that dont stay together.



You can do it..... Have faith in yourself, not only that hun, to be a good mommy, you gotta be a happy mommy........ babies feel the stress..... If you arent happy, baby isnt happy..

Amy - posted on 02/11/2010

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oh honey i am so sorry you are dealing with this but the best advise i can give you is make sure youu atr happy and by the way it sounds your not.

Gerri - posted on 02/11/2010

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Get yourself healthy and move him out. You are responsible for a little one now and do not need the stress of this casanova. You are a better person. Don't let him use you.

Gerri - posted on 02/11/2010

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Get yourself healthy and working then get him out. He is using you and the baby to get his satisfaction. Be strong girl and move on

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