i'm not sure if i want to have my baby natural or do the drug things, what do u think, need help?

Katrina - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 274 moms have responded )

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I'm taking a birthing class and she said that u only really frrl bad pain for 2 and 11 min out of the 14 to 17 hours of labor.

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Deborah - posted on 11/17/2009

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i'm not joking when i tell you that the experience of natural child birth is beyond beautiful the pain is not your typical pain however every delivery is different so you should just wait and see how your feeling during delivery and make your decision accordingly

Stephanie - posted on 11/17/2009

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I tryed to go natural but wound up using medications bc of unforseen cercumstances and actually had to have a C Section after 15 hrs of labor. my son was twisted and his head tilted to one side in the birth canal! same reason i was in so much pain during labor. so i would say to plan natural but be willing to change your mind should something come up! a Safe healthy baby is what u want

G ENA - posted on 11/17/2009

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honey labor pain is the worst pain a woman can have all the way through. Unless you have drugs. because think about it you're stretching something the size of a football out something the size of dime. Fortunately,I had a c-section w/both of mine and so it limited the time in delivery,and the pain after I got the drugs. But it is all worth it in the end.You get a beautiful baby.

Tiffany - posted on 11/17/2009

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i tried going natural but i couldnt handle it so i got the epidural but i do have some back pains sometimes from it but it made the night so much more enjoyfull

Chante - posted on 11/17/2009

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It depends on your tolerance for pain! Some people have a high tolerance. I will advice you that the pain for me was A LOT longer than 2-11min! Dont believe that...I would say the drugs for sure!

Brittany - posted on 11/17/2009

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i can honestly say that the pain steadily increases. as long as you breath properly and move around you will be ok. its when u stay in one postion that things can seem unbareable. u also have to submit to the pain and try not to fight it. the contractions dont last long but they do hurt when they happen. i think mine lasted a minute. i just counted and focused on my breathin and it helped. im not for medication but i dont look down on women that get it. just have someone there to support ur choice whatever it may be. support is a NEED please believe me lol

Donna - posted on 11/17/2009

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you can get safe pain reliever in your ivy you don't have to get the epidural. Having my kids natural was the best experience i had in my life. If you can do it natural i say do it that way. There are complications with the epidural having something put in your ivy is safer.I wish you luck. you can do it.

Donna - posted on 11/17/2009

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I had all 3 of my kids natural. Although with my son the had to give me something in my ivy cause i was in labor with him for 16 hours and i was getting weak. I knew if they didn,t give me something i wouldn't have him. It end up that his cord was wrapped around his neck twice.

Heather - posted on 11/17/2009

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I gave birth to my first child October 19th. I had planned on a natural birth due to the risks associated with an epidural and labor induction. I didn't want to be induced and I wanted to birth without any pain medication. Well, I ended up doing both! I was absolutely miserable the last two weeks of pregnancy. I was uncomfortable, couldn't sleep, couldn't do the things that I was used to doing for myself and I broke down in my doctor's office. She offered an induction and I took it! I was ready to get my little man out! Then at the hospital after my water was broken and pitocin was started I lasted about two hours before asking for the epidural. I wasn't enjoying the labor process in that much pain. I was 4 cm dilated when I went in and when I asked for the epidural I was 6cm. Five hours later I pushed for 25 minutes not feeling a thing and when I needed an episiotomy all I heard was a big "pop" from the cut and a little tugging from the stitches. I loved my labor and delivery experience and I don't think I would have enjoyed it as much if I hadn't gotten the epidural. Thats my story. If you can do it naturally more power to you. I quickly changed my mind. : )

Melisa - posted on 11/17/2009

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the pain is intense, but trust me, you can do it girl!!!!!! there is also a feeling of power that comes with giving birth naturally, and it helps to get you through the process. Your body goes into a sort of coping mode when you are in pain, and you sometimes think I can't do this, but then you think again and say... "oh yes I can!!" Do it as naturally as possible, and do what makes YOU comfortable! walk around when okay to do so, squat, cry out... whatever helps with the process! I believe in you ..you can do it Supermommy!!!

Lucy - posted on 11/17/2009

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Well, it really depends on the person. some people have very high pain tolerance, other people have none. Some people have very long labors, others have short labors. Any amount of time that you feel your guts are being ripped out with every contraction, but know it will only last a minute, and you can tolerate it for that long, you''ll be find with lamaze and other relaxation techniques. If you are a person who can hardly stand a hang nail, then you will need an epideral. I know there are pros and cons about both. But since I work labor and delivery, I don't think being able to enjoy your baby the minute it is born, rather than being exhausted after breathing through contractions for hours, takes away from the birth experience. I don't think most moms really know until they are in labor that they can truly say they do not want an epideral. Labor is a lot of hard work.

Tamra - posted on 11/17/2009

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It is completely up to you what you do and don't listen to ANY ONE ELSE. Only you know what is best for you. No one here or anywhere else can tell you what is best for you. I will tell you from my experience, that I took a morphine shot and it didn't work. I was also given the maximum amount of epidural drugs and I couldn't feel my lower back or my legs, but ALL of my labour pains were centralized to one spot. It sucked! But that is not usual. Just like it is your choice whether you get a flu shot, whether you will have your child circumsized or if you like coke or pepsi. You will make the right decision. Have faith in yourself!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/17/2009

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I thought the hole way through my preganacy that I was going to do it natural but I ended up have drugs if we decide to have another one I will try the same thing again just with how you feel if you end up having drugs dont be diappointed about be open minded about it.

THERESA - posted on 11/17/2009

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If you think you can do it without the drugs go for it, it only hurts for a little bit and the outcome is wonderful, I have had 3 children two with the block and one natrual, they say no pain with block but it is still their, it just makes it easier for you to bare with the pain, GOOD LUCK

Chantel - posted on 11/17/2009

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I was induced with my first child and the pain was terrible and I made them give me something for it. With my second child I was in labour almost two days and only 30hrs in did I ask for something for the pain, because I didn't know how much longer it was going take. Its different for each person and with every pregnancy. Decide when you are in labour. If the pain is too much to bear don't be afraid to ask for something. If you can bear the labour pains till the end without any meds, then that's what you will do.

Once your baby is born, the pain and everything else is forgotten. It is all worth it at the end of the day.

Good luck and enjoy your last days pregnant.

Kayla - posted on 11/17/2009

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i had my first child in june, i did it all natural, i think it just depends on how you are feeling.

Kylie - posted on 11/16/2009

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Quoting Holly:

it really depends on how much pain you can handle. When i had my baby girl I waited it out as long as i could cause i wanted to kno wat it felt like but ended up getting an epidural



i did this wiv my son aswell, i feel the epidural helped wiv the pain but it also slowed down my contractions so i was i labor longer.



 The thing to remember is that its ur decision, u may say no i dont want drugs but in the labor room u may change ur mind and that is ur right. Keep ur options open, dont get hard headed, trust urself, if u feel u can go thru the labor without drugs, great if u feel u need the assistance of the drugs, thats great to, coz the important thng to remember is that the less stressed u r, the less stress ur baby will be under, if ur comfortable wiv ur decisions ur all good, if not u can always discuss ur concerns wiv ur doc. Hope this helps

Elzanne - posted on 11/16/2009

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Quoting Carina:

that all up to you. i know in my experience the drugs never worked for me in the end so i was poked with needles for nothing. i guess it also depends on your pain tolerance. as long as it is you making the final decision and no one else then you will do what you think is best.



"As long as it is you making the final decision"  well said i do agree!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2009

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Quoting Katrina:

i'm not sure if i want to have my baby natural or do the drug things, what do u think, need help?

I'm taking a birthing class and she said that u only really frrl bad pain for 2 and 11 min out of the 14 to 17 hours of labor.



Am I reading  that right pain for only 2 to 11 minutes? No it is painful alot longer then that.  I think that in this day and age there is no reason for women to go through that much pain. You can have an epidural and the baby will be fine. Mine was. I guess it really depends on what your reasons for going natural or not are. Good Luck! Amanda.

Jill-Arcangela - posted on 11/16/2009

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I perused some of the other responses, and I like them! I also had a prepared natural birth. Statistically, the drugs can make the situation more risky. You aren't sick, so why should you be treated like a patient? Not to mention the whole approach is different. Natural birth is centered on you being in control of the situation, working with your baby and your body, not avoiding but embracing pain as part of your experience, having no fear and trusting that you, your body, and your baby are capable of handling this normal, natural process. With the right preparation and mindset, you can enjoy a natural birth immensely. Look into "The Business of Being Born" (a dvd documentary available at your local library), "Gentle Birth Choices" by Barbara Harper, and "Preparation for Birth: A complete guide to the Lamaze method" by Beverly Savage... Also, consider having a doula (professional birth partner) as part of your birth team (www.dona.org)... I had one and she was AMAZING! We also found a hospital that had midwives practicing in the maternity unit! This is the safest and best option. If you ask the right questions, you might find that your regular OB/GYN isn't all that crazy about or educated on natural birth beyond "no drugs." It's more than that... and having the right professionals will make or break your natural birth plan. Check out those resources and get educated! You CAN do it... and with the right preparation, you will LOVE IT!! Congrats and Good Luck!!

Holly - posted on 11/16/2009

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it really depends on how much pain you can handle. When i had my baby girl I waited it out as long as i could cause i wanted to kno wat it felt like but ended up getting an epidural

Kim - posted on 11/16/2009

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the only reason why i got an epi was bcuz all the nurses warned me it might be hell if i didn't since i was having such a big baby. i would've been able to have my 9lb 6oz baby vaginally w/o one so i got one and it only took me an hour to push him out and he was my first kid. most women in this situation it takes at least 2 hours for a baby that size...if i was unsure like you i would jus go w/o one until u really think its necessary like if u cannot handle the pain at all. IMO before i got my epi the pain really wasn't that bad i prolly coulda gone a few more hours w/o it. everyones pain threshold is different!

Renee - posted on 11/16/2009

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well I was in pain most of it - & athoughI lost all sense of time - I know it was longer than that. I suggest using the gas - an epi was going to be my last resort & the gas helped (it doesn't take away the pain completely but at least you know what's happening down there) - just be careful you don't get carried away on the gas & overdose & throw up like me!

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its alot worse then u think!! u will b in the most pain of ure life but there r great ways to get thru it..... i heard about a "toning method" to get thru it naturally. u hummm louder n louder as the pain gets worse, n it helps get thru each contraction. the contractions dont last long but r very painful, breathing very deep and trying to put ure self in a meditative state works great too. itll b over b4 u kno it...... try all u can n if u just cant then take the drugs.

but honestly there is NOTHING in the world more rewarding then having a natural birth n holding ure new baby in ure arms clear of any sedative. Its just a miricle that u cant explain till u go thru it! take these birthing classes seriously n do all u can!

I had an AMAZING doula that helped me thru it n was by my side 100% of the way. i suggest looking in2 that cause ure doc n the nurses will push u to get the drugs just to make their lives easier!

Joanna - posted on 11/16/2009

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everyone is different, everyone experiences the pain differently. I had one child without epidural and one child with, the pain was different for both. My only advice is to go in with an open mind. Try to do it naturally, but don't feel bad if you can't do it because many can't.

Kristina - posted on 11/16/2009

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I just gave birth 17 days ago to a beautiful and healthy little girl. I had her at home in our kitchen in a blow up pool. I chose to have her completely naturally, no interventions in any way. We had a wonderful midwife. I was in labor for 40 hours, 30 hours of podromal labor and 10 hours of active labor. Let me tell you there really is no difference between prodromal and active except the frequency. The pain is completely and utterly there every 10 minutes nonstop. I would not have changed a thing. It was completely worth every ounce of pain I received to give birth to a healthy child. Pain is our body's response to labor and we need this pain. Our body's know what they are doing, we receive many endorphins and good end products by having this pain. It is completely necessary in the childbirth process, do not take this away.

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I work Labor and Delivery, and I just had a baby last month. I can tell you there are pros and cons to both sides. I believe God intended women to have epidurals, it just took the medical community awhile to figure it out. However there is always that chance that it will not work, both times I received an epidural and it didn't work both times. The pain is awful, but it's nothing you can't handle, you'll forget all about it as soon as you see your baby anyway...

Nikki - posted on 11/16/2009

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I didnt use any of the drugs until like 8hours into my labor. It wasnt all that painful. yeah it hurts but its more of the fact that you get exhausted. I ended up getting the epidural and it made the rest of my labor go alot faster. And I could still feel when i was having a contraction they just werent as strong. Our next one Im gonna have the epidural right away!

Stephanie - posted on 11/16/2009

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Keep in mind everyone is diiferent: With my son I went natural, wasn't bad and i didnt tear. I was aloud to sit in a warm tub or walk around or sway back and forth. I was in labor for 7hrs. I was exhausted for a few days afterwards. My daught on the other hand i had gained so much water weight that i wasn't alound to get out of the bed during labor. so i ended up with awful back and hip pain and couldn't take it anymore, i got a spinal (that leaves you feeling paralized from the waist down.) i felt nothing afterwards. I went from wanting to jump out of my skin to flipping channels on the TV :). I tore a little and the days after i felt great. not tired or soar at all. The desicion is yours.

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My advice would be sign up for the epidural make sure it's available and that drugs are also available, and then you can make the decision when your there and still be able to get it, if you don't ask before hand then it may be to late for the epidural when you get to the hospital.

And did you say 2 to 14 minutes???? Out of the 17 hours? That's not true at all, it does hurt, the contractions were pretty bad, and when I got my epidural I didn't feel a thing. But it all depends on the person and situation.

Nekita - posted on 11/16/2009

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I just delivered my first baby 4 weeks ago. And I end up having an epidural. I was going to have her naturally but I had to be induced. And those contractions was the worst type of pain I endured in my entire life! :-) I was in labor for a total of 12 hours by the 5th hour I wanted the epidural. Now just because you get the epidural doesnt mean that you won't feel nothing. I felt the contracts! They still hurt but I was able to enjoy the labor. Before I was in so much pain I felt that I was going to faint. You don't get a trophy if you had your baby natural and it doesn't make you a better parent if you have your child natural. Just do what's best for you. Everybody's pain level is different. My baby came out healthy and alert! Congrats and good luck!

Leanne - posted on 11/16/2009

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hi ya iv had 2 of my childern normily and 1 by c section the dugs do work eperdral dose work well iv had that 3 times its wicked i would say if u can have a normaile birth as u are out of hospital with in a few hours if every thing is ok and when u get home u can get on with day to day life but with a c section u stay in hospital for a week and its painfull after

Aviva - posted on 11/16/2009

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The thing about labor is - your body will tell you what you need! It's best to go in with an open mind and as much knowledge as you can. Meaning: if you feel that you want to try natural look into things that will help you - herbs, aromatherapy oils, bach flower remedies, music, yoga ball, etc. I came with an arsenal of these things to my labor and they helped immensely and I was able to go drug free. Fear of pain and first birth and all. You can try all of these methods and if you feel that the experience is becoming too intense and the discomfort is too great then work on being open to taking drugs. But be informed (for e.g., once you are dilated past 8cm it is not in your best interest to get an epidural because your pushing will be less effective increasing the risk of intervention. But doctors will still ask at 10cm if you want an epidural and think you're crazy if you don't take it)

One indispensible "item" is a doula. A labor coach. It has been shown statistically that women with emotional and physical support have less birth interference from doctors (procedures), less drugs, and faster births.

It's the fear of the unknown which is so intimidating but you will not be able to know personally how you, Katrina Benton, will react. No two women have the same experince so don't let anyone scare you! =) Birth is amazing and you have the strength for it. It may seem overwhelming now ( I don't know where you are in your pregnancy....) but knowledge, emotional support, some creativity, and knowing that your body knows what it needs are what will help you have the birthing experince that will be best for you. Wishes for an easy labor.....

Jamie Huff - posted on 11/16/2009

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I'm pregnant with my second baby. My first pregnancy i had the epidural. i had a bad experience with the epidural and it wore off so i felt everything anyways.... with my second pregnancy i'm going natural! but really it's up to you...

Aviva - posted on 11/16/2009

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The thing about labor is - your body will tell you what you need! It's best to go in with an open mind and as much knowledge as you can. Meaning: if you feel that you want to try natural look into things that will help you - herbs, aromatherapy oils, bach flower remedies, music, yoga ball, etc. I came with an arsenal of these things to my labor and they helped immensely and I was able to go drug free. Fear of pain and first birth and all. You can try all of these methods and if you feel that the experience is becoming too intense and the discomfort is too great then work on being open to taking drugs. But be informed (for e.g., once you are dilated past 8cm it is not in your best interest to get an epidural because your pushing will be less effective increasing the risk of intervention. But doctors will still ask at 10cm if you want an epidural and think you're crazy if you don't take it)

One indispensible "item" is a doula. A labor coach. It has been shown statistically that women with emotional and physical support have less birth interference from doctors (procedures), less drugs, and faster births.

It's the fear of the unknown which is so intimidating but you will not be able to know personally how you, Katrina Benton, will react. No two women have the same experince so don't let anyone scare you! =) Birth is amazing and you have the strength for it. It may seem overwhelming now ( I don't know where you are in your pregnancy....) but knowledge, emotional support, some creativity, and knowing that your body knows what it needs are what will help you have the birthing experince that will be best for you. Wishes for an easy labor.....

Amy - posted on 11/16/2009

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I had a natural birth! I was dialatign really fast. i had a 5 1/2 hr labor and only 1 1/2 hrs of that was really bad contractions. If i could do it so can you! . good luck!

Anita - posted on 11/16/2009

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I would see on the day. It is good to have a plan but sometimes the best laid plans are not what you baby wants to do. Just relax and enjoy (I know how can) it and see what happens. I had it all worked out in my head and then my waters broke a month early. Something I never even considered. Birth classes are great but remember everyone is different and what worked for the lady to your right, may not work for the lady on your left. Good luck and relax, that is probably the best advice.

Angie - posted on 11/16/2009

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I think it depends on a lot of factors. I don't think there is a responsible doctor in the world that wouldn't agree that the healthiest way to have a baby (if you and the baby are both healthy and there isn't a possibility of a c-section) is without any drugs. All pain meds get into a baby's system. It also depends on your pain threshold and if you are able to concentrate during pain. I gave birth to all my children without pain meds - I was induced 2 of 3 times. I even chose to be stitched up without meds because I only need a stitch or two and the pain shot would have been more painful than the stitches. Don't get me wrong, it was painful, but it was only for a few hours (12 or so) and then it was over. If you have a supportive coach who can keep you calm and focused, then give a medication free delivery a try. If you find that you just can't handle the pain, then get the drugs. Just remember that being a mother is doing what is best for your child even if it means you having to be in pain or uncomfortable for a time. I am a GIANT wimp but I did it, if you want to have a natural delivery I know you can too!

Karen - posted on 11/16/2009

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i did it naturally and i soon forgot the pain had all sorts of labours first one lasted 14 hours but i dont regret just using gas and air and the tens machine as high as it went. It is up to yourself in the long run depends on your pain threshold. Your body will tell you what you need so dont rule anything out, all the best

Kristy - posted on 11/16/2009

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ya your instructor is def lying... with my first i had pain meds and they were great. I wanted them again with my daughter and the dr never got there in time ot administer it so i ended up with NO meds.... it was awful BUT the part where they say after its all over and you see you baby you forget about it is pretty much true :)

Claudia - posted on 11/16/2009

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keep your options open. People will tell you many things. Some people just shrug and say, it's not that bad, while others thrash and cry and yell...everyone's pain tolerance is different. If you can push through pain and do it natural, there's a lot of benefits to that. But if you can't tolerate anymore, and you've considered pain relief, don't even think twice.

Karen - posted on 11/15/2009

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I have done both. I had my twins naturally, and it was an amazing experience. However, they were small, so when I had my daughter a year and a half later, I chose to get an epidural. Fortunately, mine worked, and my delivery was virtually pain free. However, I was not able to have my daughter in my room overnight with me because my epidural hadn't worn off, and hospital policy is that I must be able to walk by myself if the baby is left alone in the room with me. That was very disappointing. Honestly, it really is up to you. Do what is best for you and your baby, and trust your doctor. If you decide to do it naturally, there are many techniques to help with the pain. I would definitely recommend a doula.

Lynn - posted on 11/15/2009

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prepair your mind/spirit and body. classes hypnobirth, and belief that your body was made to do this! naturally. if you can get a doula and widwife to deliever i recommend it. i had 3 beatiful babes without drugs

Robyn - posted on 11/15/2009

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I did Hypnobrithing, the Mongan method, and it was awesome. I was having contractions 2 minutes apart, I was dialated to a 6 and I was so relaxed I was falling asleep. It was amazing. It is also cool because your husband is a huge part of the birthing process, he is actually intregal, and is an active participant. About 12 hours after my son was born, I was thinking that I couldn't wait to give birth again. I tried the Hypnobirthing mostly because I refuse to let somebody stick a needle in my back, and anything else you take goes across the placenta. Hypnobrithing is awesome and I can't wait to do it again. I would go through the birthing process 100 times over, it was that awesome. However it takes preparation. My husband and I practiced 4-6 times a week. The cool thing now is that just his voice can relax me.

Anita - posted on 11/15/2009

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Natural all the way. It will be over before you know it. (It's the next 18 years that are tough). lol

I've had three. Two natural and one induced (ouch).

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. I would say go with the flow, don't stress out about it too much, when the time comes you can decide. If you are in pain then get one, you don't go home with a medal for not using pain meds. I thought the epidural was amazing, I didn't feel a thing after it.

Natasha - posted on 11/15/2009

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you will make the right decision for u when u go into labour, my idea was i would give it a go but if i feel i need help with the pain then i would ask for it.
i was lucky i had fairly quick labours but they both hurt alot from start to finish, my first was 3 hrs and i begged for a epidural but they told me the baby was coming to quickly so i couldnt [that did not stop me from begging over and over for it] i had the gas which made me feel ill, my 2nd was 45 mins so i didnt even get to the hospital in time but had i had the chance for pain reliever i would have grabbed it with both hands.
u have no idea how your going to react when labour starts and we all handle things differently some have a higher pain thresehold then others, so my advice is take it has it happens all plans can be changed, go with what u want at that moment.
this is just me but i really wish i was allowed a epidural cause i think maybe i would have enjoyed it more, i remember them asking me when the head came out did i want to look in the mirror and i said no cause i was too busy concertrating and wanted the pain to be over, and now that is something i regret that i missed out on, good luck in the future, you'll know whats right when it happens.

Erin - posted on 11/15/2009

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It depends on you, but keep both an option. Don't be so hell bound on one that you lose sight of what you are really there to do, deliver a happy, healthy baby. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something that you aren't comfortable with. If you don't want drugs, don't let a dr. talk you into them. If you have a low pain tolerance, don't let anyone tell you that you are a bad mom for taking the drugs. I had drugs with both of my children but went in with the intention of a natural delivery with my first. Went a majority of my labor with out, then asked for stadol (spl?) so I could rest. That didn't do a whole lot. Then went for an epidoral. Thank goodness I did when I did. My son got stuck (his head size was 16 1/2, average size is 13-14), he ended up being a forcep delivery after they gave me a 4th degree episiotomy. Actually, I ended up with a second epidoral with him. Then I didn't deliver my placenta like one is supposed to so the doctor had to go in and manually retreve it (not fun, even with the epidoral, lol). My second was breech so I didn't have a choice but more than likely would have had an epidoral the second time around. It is a personal choice so just remember to make YOUR own choice :)

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