I'm only 13 and I think I might be pregnant please don't judge me... I never wanted to do anything in the first place and I really don't know how to tell my parents what happened to me and that I think I might be pregnant. I have no way to get a pregnancy test and I am really scared. What should I do ?

Evelyn - posted on 12/30/2012

I have read the posts and responses. Everyone here is right. Get a pregnancy test, tell someone who you can trust to be there with you to tell your parents, tell the whole of it...the truth, do not worry about your brother in this because this does not sound like a friend to me and your brother will have something to say about that when he finds out, also if the cops become involved this may keep this guy from doing it again to another girl.

Anne - posted on 12/30/2012

Hi Adriana,
Just wondering how you are feeling now? Will you come back to circle of moms and let us know how you get in with your friends Mum? And with your parents?
Still praying for you
X

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/28/2012

I am smelling something funny here. Just saying.

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Yeah I know

Dove - posted on 12/28/2012

He's 18 and you were 12. He needs to be in jail. If you ARE pregnant... there's your proof. Since you were 12 it wouldn't even matter if you said yes a million times. HE deserves to be prosecuted so he can't do this to any other girl.

Rebekah - posted on 12/28/2012

If this guy forced himself on you, it is rape. I understand completely that you don't want to complicate things, but please reconsider and tell the whole truth to your parents. If this guy took advantage of you, there's a good chance he will do it again...if not with you, then perhaps someone else. Protect yourself and some other unsuspecting girl by bringing the truth out into the open. This is no "friend" of your brother. He's some kind of predator. Even if you end up not being pregnant, this should come to light. Good luck to you.

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Thank you very much and I don't think I want to get the police involved maybe if I leave that part out of it and only tell my parents about it afterwords because I don't want to make things even worse then they already are

Anne - posted on 12/28/2012

Ah, bless you Adriana. I really feel for you. Are your parents really strict?
I keep my prayer list on my phone. I have added you already.
You will need to think about whether or not you need to get the Police involved. Ask your friends Mum about it, and be open with her about what happened. I will pray for wisdom for this lady to help you and guide you in the right way. There are organisations that help young women in your situation. Maybe you can find them on the Internet, or maybe your friends Mum can help you find them?
Sending you compassion and a hug x

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Yes please that would really be great I have recently accepted Jesus Christ to help me through this

Anne - posted on 12/28/2012

That sounds wise Adriana. You need someone who will support you through this.
Would you be happy for me to pray for you?

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

I go to school and I was planning on talking to a friends mom about it

Anne - posted on 12/28/2012

If it is only just a month, I would give yourself a few days, and then try to get a pregnancy test if your cycle hasn't come. it may be that your cycle will come a few days late. Is there a way for you to buy one? Or could you ask a friend to buy one for you? Or a friends Mum?
Do you go to school, or are you homeschooled?

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

It was November I was still 12 I remember it was November 29th because I was writing a paper and its almost been a month now an I have missed my period and I have had discharge

Anne - posted on 12/28/2012

Have you missed a cycle? When did it happen that you may have become pregnant?

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Ok thank you Elaine

ELAINE - posted on 12/28/2012

Tell your counselor at school, have him or her call your mom into the school and tell her with you. Then all three of you work out a plan. First to buy a pregnancy test to see if it's positive.the one's at the dollar store work as well as the one that cost $20. But regardless, no one should be taking advantage of. Try to get proof that you were sort of forced to do this from the guy either by text or email or facebook, this way there can be proof that you are not lying and further action may be taken against him if you guys chose to. Please do this before telling your dad.

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Not at the moment I don't really know anyone exept friends

Anne - posted on 12/28/2012

Adriana, I am so sorry! Is there anyone who will listen to you kindly and help you?

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

I just don't know how

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

It would be really hard to tell them especially because the one who did that to me is almost 18 and my brothers best friend

S. - posted on 12/28/2012

I agree with dove you need to tell someone, anyone who can help you. Also if you say you never wanted to do it in the first place maybe it's defiantly something you need to be tell your mum about.

Dove - posted on 12/28/2012

Then have another adult that you trust with you when you tell them.

I won't lie to you... I would take it REALLY hard if my 13 year old came to me and told me something like this and might not initially react very well, but that is my baby and I would do whatever it took to love her and support her through this.

If you didn't want to have sex.... you were raped. That makes it NOT your fault. Doesn't fix the situation you may be in right now, but if you tell them everything... they will most likely help you get through it.

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Yes but the only thing that is holding me is my dad I am afraid of what he will do

Adriana - posted on 12/28/2012

Yes but the only thing holding me back is that I am really scared of how my dad will react

Dove - posted on 12/28/2012

You NEED to tell your parents... as soon as possible. If that idea totally freaks you out.... do you have a school counselor, teacher, aunt, etc... that you could confide in to HELP you tell them?