I'm pregnant! I need to know what the biological father can do about this!

Madison - posted on 11/02/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am 17 years old and 5 and a half months pregnant. The father of my baby is my ex boyfriend and I need to know what rights he has as the biological father if i am underage and we have never been married.He makes Poor choices and I don't want him part of this childs life. I have a New boyfriend that wants to step up to the plate and raise this child and even have him have his last name, but we need to know what or if the biological father can do anything about that.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/02/2012

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Ok...take a step back and think really clearly for a moment. You are 17 years old. Unless your new current boyfriend is much older and wants to marry you, and is financially stable with a house bla bla bla, I would not be giving my kids his name. I am not even sure if that is legal. I think you would have to get married, and have the new guy adopt the kid. This would mean the bio father would sign off his legal rights as a father. You can certainly call a lawyer in your area for advice, but putting anyone but the bio father on the birth certificate? Giving the child his name? I am not even sure that is legal. Plus, what happens if you give this kid his name, and you break up? Then you have to change the kids name back to yours. Safest thing, give the kid your name, and if this guy is serious and wants to step up, go through all the proper legal channels.

Gemma - posted on 11/03/2012

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Don't in my eye 2 give the child his name....If it don't work you can't just change a name you will need his consent to do so as he will treated as the bio dad. I think only person you should put is your self. You may end up staying together for ever but not very often that happens now a days and at least youwill always have your baby.

He is doing a good thing sticking with you but a new baby brings alot of stress and pushes some people apart sorry to sound so negative ..

Good luck x

Gemma - posted on 11/03/2012

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Where i am he can't do anything.The father only has rights if he is on the birth certificate as if you are not married he has to be present to sign the name of the child. If he is not their he has bascially had his rights remoed and their is no proof that it is his child. So if you wish for him never to see of make contact with the child that your choice as you are the only legal guardian over your child.

I know this as i dd it myself..My child has nothing to do with the bio dad and fam :D

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Dove - posted on 11/03/2012

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Your question was what can he do.... well, he can file for custody and visitation and he SHOULD be granted at least visitation if not up to 50/50 custody. Even if he's not on the birth certificate it shouldn't be any problem having a lawyer get him a paternity test.

Dove - posted on 11/02/2012

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In many states/cases the biological father can and should have 50/50 rights with the biological mother. If you didn't want this guy to be the father of your child... you should've thought of that BEFORE having sex with him. Not to be rude, but that's the reality of the situation and it's not fair to cheat your child out of a relationship with his/her father just because you made a poor choice in sex partners.

Kimberlee - posted on 11/02/2012

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The laws are different from one state to another but I think it's wrong to cut out a biological father just because you feel like it. He has parental rights and the child deserves to know who their bio Dad is.

Joanna - posted on 11/02/2012

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Have you told the biological father that you are expecting a baby? If he knows about it and wants nothing to do with the child, I believe it might be possible to have him legally sign away his parental rights and allow someone else to adopt the child/give the child their name (for instance, if you decided to get married to your new boyfriend). That being said, I'm unsure as to whether or not he would still be liable for financial support. I think a lot of those details depend on what state you live in and how things work there.

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