I'm trying to potty train my son but it isnt going to well, anyone got any tips?

Rachel - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 251 moms have responded )

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I started today, i put him in pants he wnt even sit on the potty ive tried the toilet as well but dnt seem to be getting anywhere.

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Jessica - posted on 06/10/2009

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My daughter was actually waaay harder! I know someone mention that its great to start early and it is if they are showing signs of interest or they seem ready. My son started to show interest at a little over 2 so we went with it and it went fairly smoothly, however, he wasn't fully POOP potty trained until 3!!! lol, but he tried and we made sure he knew how proud we were of him. My daughter NEVER showed any signs so my husband and I just said "enough diapers, let's get this rolling!" She was 2 1/2 then and she had a hard time. She is 3 1/2 now and can go all night without wetting the bed but still has a little accident or 2 EVERYDAY. She doesn't fully pee her pants but she will wet herself a little and hold it until I notice her pants are wet and tell her to go potty. I really think it's because we pushed her into it when she wasn't ready. Our pediatrician told us to wait until at least 3 before even trying unless they want to go on the potty. Like I said, my son was ready, daughter...not so much!!! lol It's a trial and error thing, just do what works for you and your son... he'll get there. :)

I know it's hard but hopefully seeing him light up when he succeeds will make it all worth it! Hang in there....day one and counting!

Maria - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hello Rachel. I know exactly what you are going through right now as I had the same situation with my 1st daughter starting an early education program that required the child be potty trained. First, take a deep breath. I know this is a frustrating time but it doesn't have to be. My success story comes from something I was a bit skeptical of at first. But since I like Dr. Phil and the advice he gives I thought I'd give it a shot. I was shocked when I quickly saw the results of his potty training steps. The link is http://drphil.com/articles/article/264/ I didn't potty train my daughter in one day but 2 days. Probably the reason was because I modified a few things that he said to do. I did purchase the doll, and I did get the underwear. I made sure to keep her tummy full of liquids and most of all I can't emphasize this any more.. the celebration is crucial to the success. I went out to the party supply store and bought confetti, party hats, and noise makers. Every time she went potty in the toilet we paraded around the house loud and clear and made a big mess... she loved this... My husband had to bite his tongue when he walked into a huge mess..LOL.. BUT it worked and it only took me 2 days. Also, I didn't take her back to the potty 10 times right after if she had an accident. I only took her 3 times and made a game of it. She thought it was hilarious. You have to make sure to keep a good sense of humor through this or else they will sense you are upset and not cooperate. I know it sounds crazy but true... Good luck to you! Oh, one more thing.. there is a potty video called "It's Potty Time." www.LTEinc.com This is also a really helpful tool. I highly recommend it...

Tiffany - posted on 06/10/2009

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In my experience of potty training two boys and in the process of training my 20 mo. old daughter, here's what I have for you.....First, ask yourself these two very important questions.
1. Is he showing signs of interest in training? i.e. does he take his clothes off or diaper off or does he go and hide when he needs to go poopie?
2. Does he wake up from naps with a dry diaper? If so, this means that he has the muscle control to control his bowels. If this seems to be the case, then I would continue with the training.
Keep him in underpants during awake times during the day and when he wets his pants, do not say "that is bad" or "it's o.k." .....give no emotion at all, simply say "let's clean you up". Also, make a super big deal and praise him a lot when he sits on the potty to try and give him a reward for trying. If he doesn't want to try, do not give him an option, he may fuss and cry and when he stops and sits for a minute then give him the praise and reward. Continue having him "try" on the potty every 20 minutes until you catch it just right and he will go pee-pee in the potty and make a huge deal about it. During naps and night sleeping, use pull-ups, not diapers. Do not use diapers anymore, it only confuses them. It works, but it is tiresome and frustrating for you as well. The main thing is to be consistent. Also, keep in mind that pooping in the potty takes much longer and they do not like to let go of the control. You will clean lots of poopie underpants and don't ever try to force the poopie in the potty, just have them try. You can even expect them to regress once they start pooping in the potty and when they do this, just say "it's up to you if you want to be a big boy and go poopie in the potty, but you don't have to".....Eventually, they realize it's no longer a battle over control. Good luck!

Ruth - posted on 06/10/2009

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You don't say how old he is but if he's not responding to anything that you're doing, then maybe he just isn't ready. I just left it til my son was old enough to realise he needed the toilet and could tell me too(about( About 3, I think). Too many parents think it's some sort of race to get their kids to toilet train as soon as possible - if you make a big deal out of it, then it'll take longer and you'll cause lots of upset.

If he's old enough, put him in a pair of underpants - not pull ups or nappies because they obviously absorb moisture - and when he wets himself leave him in his pants for a bit. He won't like the wet sensation. Don't make a fuss but tell him to use the potty next time and when he does, make a big fuss and praise him.

It will take a few days but remember - he MUST be old enough first. All kids develop at different rates but they soon catch up to each other. Have you ever seen a 5 year old start school in a nappy/diaper? No. They all get the hang of it in the end! x

Francesca - posted on 06/10/2009

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how old is he??

stay with it, keep him in his pants all day, let him feel the wet on his skin for a minute or two so he knows what it feels like, just explain that its bad to do it in panties. some people get it wrong because they give up, then the child gets mixed signals.

what sort of potty have you got?? we had the chair one and we also have the child seat to go on the toilet. maybe he could choose a new one what he would like. and new pants to choose as well.

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Alana - posted on 11/05/2013

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it's only the first day, give your kid a chance to warm up to the idea.
It took us nearly a year to fully potty train my middle son, and now currently in 4 month of trying to potty train our youngest son (3 y.o), who started off alright, was quite happy to sit on the potty and has done a few wees and a tiny little bit of poo, but out of nowhere for seemingly no reason he's back to getting upset about having the huggies taken off, and knows when to go but instead just sits on the sofa and wets himself, and will refuse to move after doing so :(

I don't mean to sound harsh but it's just starting to seem lazy because we know he can use the potty.

it's OH SO hard to not lose your cool in that situation, so before it gets to that situation, remember to stay patient and calm throughout the potty training, how ever long that may go on for.

Try not to make too much of a fuss, hassle them, or rant about it.
Just go about it as if normal, maybe when you need to go to the toilet suggest for them to come along and get them to sit on the potty while you are.

Jami - posted on 06/30/2009

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i have 2 boys and the best thing i can tell u is that he will do it on his own. i did everything possible and johnathan still went in his pants. one thing that helped was letting him run around naked

Cherie - posted on 06/24/2009

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I am wanting to get my son out of nappies he is 3yrs old. His child care won't move him to a the next class up if he is not potty trained. He is ready to change classes mentally but needs to wear undies. I am going to try the under pants suggestion as this is what his teacher has said to me. Hopefully it won't be too hard.

Mom - posted on 06/20/2009

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*MAKE IT FUN & SPECIAL FOR BIG BOY POTTY PARTY!!!!!!

1).Time between pee's. gives you a time frame.2) Buy his own kando soap & wipes

3) get own blue personal dry towel.4) Get NEW big boy underware. 5) Set egg timer "Ding!"

6). Take him in the bathroom, throw three Fruitloops in the toliet. 7) "GAME ON"! Let him do target practics. HELP W AIM & FOCUS. CHEER CHEER CHEER.

The next time the TIMER goes off.

He'll beat you in there!!! Good Luck!

Trisha - posted on 06/20/2009

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Oh ya, that worked for my son too. He always wants to do what Dad does, so I asked Dad to take him in and show him when he got home in the evenings. My son was the easiest to train.

Angel - posted on 06/19/2009

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I say if he is ready, he will go! My son was 3 1/2 when he first used the potty. I just waited for him to want to use it. At 2 1/2 we would ask him if he wanted to use the potty. He saw his dad use it so he knew what it was for. His response was always "no". Then one day he decided he wanted to use it. He came up to me and said, "Mommy I need to pee in the potty." So I took him to the potty and he peed standing up. That's when I started him in "big boy's underwear" - lightning mcqueen was the character he was into then. He also used "Pull-ups" during naptime and bedtime (in case of accidents). Three days later he didn't need the pull-ups and he was trained! Every child is different. My girl was 2 when she potty trained. She just stopped using pampers and started using the potty, no bedtime accidents.

Just show your son what the potty is for and every now and then ask him if he'd like to use it. He will when he is ready. The only time I ever made a fuss about using the potty was the very first time my children used the potty. We did the "Pee Pee in the Potty" dance - from the movie "Look who's Talking".

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My mother is teaching my nephew outside as it is hot here, so when he needs to go he tells her he needs to water the plants. It seems a bit gross but he thinks its fun so he is slowly learning the sensation of when he needs to go. also you could put a table tennis ball in the toilet to help with aim when a bit older. (& they dont flush so you arent going to spend heaps on table tennis balls)

Heidi - posted on 06/19/2009

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I know with both of my boys it wasn't much of a struggle. I use to put them in underwear and every 30 minutes I would have them go to the bathroom for the first few days. It is tiring, but its worth it in the end. I use to put fruit loops in the toilet and tell them it was a game and they had to try and hit them with there pee and if for fruit loop they hit they got a prize. Usually a candy or chocolate. After about a week of this they seemed to get the idea and got tired of me telling them when it was time to go to the bathroom, they decided they were old enough to know when they had to go. Both of my boys were fully trained by 2 1/2.

Bettina - posted on 06/19/2009

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Hi Rachel. My name is Bettina. I am the mother of 5 and grandmother of 3. I used a method of toilet training described in the book, "Toilet Training In Less Than A Day" by Nathan Azrin and Richard Foxx. It works. They say that if a child is 20 months old, then he is probably capable of being toilet trained. They, like parents, recognize that not all children will train at the same age. There is a readiness list of three simple tests. 1) Bladder Control: a) does the child urinate a good deal at one time rather than dribbling throughout the day? b) Does he often stay dry of several hours? c) Does he appear to know he is about to urinate as indicated by his facial expressions or by special postures he adopts? If he does all three, he is aware of his bladder sensations. 2) Physical Readiness a) does he have enough finger and hand coordination to pick up objects easily? b) does he walk from room to room easily and without the need for assistance? 3) Instructional Readiness: ask your child to carry out the following 10 actions. Ask him to point to his nose, eyes, mouth, hair. Ask him to sit down on a chair, to stand up, to walk with you to a particular place (such as another room), imitate you in a simple task (such as playing patty-cake), bring you a familiar object (such as one of his toys), place one familiar object with another (for example, put the ball in the wagon). If he does 8 out of 10, she should be considered intellectually ready for training. Maybe the guidelines will help you. No two of my children trained at the same time or exactly the same way. My grandson didn't have any interest in toilet training until he was about 3 1/2. Then one day, he decided it was time and trained himself. I need to clarify, I didn't learn of this book until after my oldest was toilet trained. She was bright and would have passed all the tests at 20 months. I used the traditional method and it took a couple of months for the training to be complete. With the book's method, it really takes about half a day. One child took 2 half days. Very simply, it is a process that teaches the child the mechanics of toileting and through snacks and drinks and a "wetting" doll; you accelerate the number of times a child needs to urinate. It uses a reward system that the child is weaned off of before the day is done. And, the child can take himself to the toilet, flush / empty potty, wash hands, clean up his own accidents by the end of the day.



I tried to toilet train my 4th at 20 months before she was quite ready. She passed the tests, but just wasn't ready to toilet train. But, I had baby 5 on the way who was due when child 4 was 22 1/2 months. I did not want to have 2 in diapers (all others were 3 years apart). Well, once Kathryn figured out that she could get the treats for the dolly going potty, she wouldn't try again. I just picked every thing up and put them away (including the treats). I waited until she was adjusted to the new baby and had gotten past the regression stage of having a new baby in the house.



My mom wanted me toilet trained before my brother was born. We are 16 months apart. As she puts it, she trained herself to catch me in time to put me on the toilet. She laughs as she tells the story, like I laugh when I tell the story of Kathryn.



One final point about toilet training that the authors make and I found true, nighttime incontinence is different than daytime bladder control. A child can use the toilet himself during the day, wear pants and then wear a diaper at night. That does not cause confusion. I had two that did that. I had 1 who had 1 accident, ever. Each is different and to me the most important part is waiting until the child is ready. By the way, a friend and I had children the same age. When their son had an accident (I mean accident, and not deliberately wetting himself) they would punish him. That did not help, it made him fearful of having an accident and delayed a positive outcome. Our child knew that if she had an accident, she just cleaned it up and got herself new clothes (had to have help with the clothes). She was the one that I trained by the "traditional method", and she progressed much faster than my friend's child.



This was long, maybe it will help. Take it or leave it. If any of this sounds promising to you, I suggest you get a copy of the book. The library may have a copy. If not, Amazon.com will. I think it is out of print SBN: 671-21701-1.



Hang in there. Be encouraged. And enjoy this precious time with your son. It all goes by so fast! :)

Holli - posted on 06/18/2009

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Google "3 day potty training". This method has worked for me, and for several other people I know, and it really only takes three days! You just have to pay for the author's downloadable book, but it comes with unlimited help from the auther herself through emails. I was a skeptic but it really truly works! I'm going to do it with all my kids.

Danielle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Try putting cheerios in the toilet and having him aim, a friend of mine did that with her son and it worked, the only thing was she had to take cheerios with her everywhere she went but when he had to go to the bathroom he would tell her he wanted to play the cheerio game. My son just toilet trained himself in the past 2 weeks, we bought him underware he loved and told him that Thomas/wiggles/lightening McQueen and Spiderman do not like to get wet, and that worked a little with him. I think he was just ready this time around, we tried everything before...giving presents everytime he went...etc..hope this helps and good luck

Danielle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Try putting cheerios in the toilet and having him aim, a friend of mine did that with her son and it worked, the only thing was she had to take cheerios with her everywhere she went but when he had to go to the bathroom he would tell her he wanted to play the cheerio game. My son just toilet trained himself in the past 2 weeks, we bought him underware he loved and told him that Thomas/wiggles/lightening McQueen and Spiderman do not like to get wet, and that worked a little with him. I think he was just ready this time around, we tried everything before...giving presents everytime he went...etc..hope this helps and good luck

Melissa - posted on 06/18/2009

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it takes time. started my son at same age. i might have got lucky but. i took the potty chair put it in living room in front of tv and put elmos potty time on. kids that young stay interested and sit there. i gave him juice he watched movie and when it was over there was pee pee in the tolet! and becuz of watching movie he was excited he did it. how ever it works...give it time. 2 is still early for boys

Melissa - posted on 06/18/2009

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it takes time. started my son at same age. i might have got lucky but. i took the potty chair put it in living room in front of tv and put elmos potty time on. kids that young stay interested and sit there. i gave him juice he watched movie and when it was over there was pee pee in the tolet! and becuz of watching movie he was excited he did it. how ever it works...give it time. 2 is still early for boys

Brenda - posted on 06/18/2009

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I have 2 boys. Age 5 and almost 3. I started my 1st son around 18 months. He did okay as far as peeing went. Pooing was another thing. 1 week before his 3rd birthday, I was so frustrated. He asked to watch a movie and I told him, "no, if you want a movie, then you must make poo on the potty." I held to my word. When he pooped on the potty, he watched a movie. If he went 2 x's a day then he got two movies. If he did nothing, then he did not have the priviledge of watching a movie. Within a week, he was completely potty trained.



I was dreading the potty training with my second one. He is a much more determined child than my 1st. I started by letting him sit on his potty chair when I took his diaper off for changes and before we put him in the tub for his bath. He sometimes went and sometimes not. He didn't seem too interested. I wasn't sure if he was quite ready either. He showed signs-------he knew when he was wet, when he was poopi, and would ask to be changed-----he just didn't show interest in the potty. I would try to get him to go around with no pants on. For some reason, they are more aware of themselves and more likely to feel when they need to go. Plan to be home for a few days straight and concentrate only on potty training if you can. Potty training is more about training yourself to be diligent and committed to taking him potty. I found that was the hardest cause it is not always convenient. I knew it was time to potty train when he started bringing me a diaper and asking me to put it on him so he could potty. I figured if he could do that then he was ready reguardless of interest. Yes, no bottoms on equals accidents on the floor, but like I said, they seem more aware of the need.



The first thing I did was to not put him in pull-ups. I did that with my first one and I think it just confused him. They work like diapers, so they don't feel the full effect of being wet. We had 2 potty chairs----one I kept in the bathroom and the other was in the living room. Make it convenient and in his sight to act as a reminder. I also took the one from the living room with me in the car whenever I left the house. I took him potty before we left the house, before we went in anywhere, and went we got back to the car. I only allowed him to wear a diaper at nap time and at bedtime. He would ask for one, but I would tell him we only wear them at those times, and I didn't give in. He was right at about 2 1/2 when I decided that he was ready.



They make vinyl covered underwear. I only used them when we went somewhere that had an extended time in the car like a 45 min drive. I even used them a few times around the house at first, but I found it more affective to just put regular underwear on him. His daddy and big brother would demonstrate to encourage him. That helps too. Going pee on the potty is the easier of the two. To encourage pooing, I bought him a Cars vehicle (mater, Lightening McQueen, etc.) and taped it was in plain sight. High enough that he couldn't take it down on his own, but low enough that he could see it clearly and easily. When he pooed, he got the car. I did that for about 2 weeks. It took me about 1 to 1 1/2 weeks to potty train him completely, but I did the Cars thing a little longer just for good measure. He only pottied/pooed on the floor 3-4 times during the no pants phase. He seemed to get that it was a no-no. IHe has had accidents, but not many. His accidents are more from when he sits down on the potty and doesn't make sure his wee wee is pointed down or his pants are not down far enough. If your son doesn't want to sit on his potty chair, but will sit on the potty, sit him on it backwards. His will pee down into the toilet and not up through the toilet seat, thus getting the floor or his clothes wet. Also, he won't feel like his is going to fall in. I tried the cheerios thing, but the only thing he wanted to do with them was to add more! It works for some people though.



To recap-----try letting him go around with no underwear around the house. Use only underwear. Find his currency.....what will he want or be willing to do as a reward for being successful? For my first son, it was watching a movie. He loved to watch movies. My second son was the reward of his favorite... Cars vehicles. And the most important and probably the hardest.......BE DILIGENT AND COMMITTED. If he asks to potty and he has a diaper on (like getting up from a nap) never say.."you have a diaper on, just potty in your diaper." They cannot understand that it is okay sometimes and not at others. I dreaded the potty training experience with my second son because I remembered what it was like with my first. It ended up that he was sooooooo much easier to potty train that the first one.



The day will come when he is potty trained. I hope my experience will help you some. I wish you the best.

Ronda - posted on 06/18/2009

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I started potty training my twin boys at 20 mo. They had a potty that played music when they p p in it. We live in a rural area so they really liked going pp outside especially on a tree or something like that. When they tired of the potty i would sit them backward on the toilet to give them the since they were doing it like daddy. It's different for each child. Be creative!

Jaimie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Just watch for signs that he has to go and rush him to the potty! I never used pull ups went straight to panties. I did use them at night. Once he goes once he will continue to go unless he gets broken of habit such as being put back into diapers.. I bought a big toy I knew he would like and hung it up on the wall. It sat there for two weeks until one day I decided I had enough so I decided to put her on the potty and she didn't want to go so I handed the toy over. SHe tried running off with it. I took it back. As soon as I took it back the potty was used. After that to keep encouraging it, I went to the dollar store and bought coloring baskets, crayons, colored pencils, foam puzzles, books and packs of stickers. Also, I bought favorite candies such as laffy taffy, suckers and Spongebob patties adn put them in the little snack sized baggies. I put 3 pieces of candy. All filled and a nice sized wicker basket. Everytime te potty was used an item was able to be picked out. SHe made sure she told me she had to go. She knew if she went she got something out of the basket. If she chose a toy she didn't get the baggy of candy and vice versa. It worked. I ended up with a weeks worth and once it ran out it was done. She continued going. We had trouble with timing. Sometimes she would wait to the last minute, but she still made teh effort. The hardest part we had trouble with was pooping. She feared pooping on the potty. She would go a little and hold the rest. I jsut threw away those panties and bought new ones. She has so many pairs but thank goodness up to this day she doesn't completely finish and we have to change her panties. She does poop but somehow she ends up pooping on the floor too. I think she waits until the last minute when it is coming out before she heads to the bathroom. Its nothing that Clorox Wipes don't clean up. I swear by them in the bathroom! Potty Training is pretty messy. Good luck!

Christy - posted on 06/18/2009

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I thought potty training a boy was much easier than with my daughter. Some prudies might disagree with this advice, but I say let him run around without pants as much as possible. With boys, you can tell when they're about to pee. You'll have the occasional accident, but that will happen anyway. Other than that, if he's not showing any interest, it might be easier to put it on the backburner for a few months. They usually let you know when they're ready. Good luck!

Nakeya - posted on 06/18/2009

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i got my two yr old potty trained by playing a game with cheerios i took six cheerios and put them in the potty and told him to shot an aim if he stayed in the circel he would get a treat like go to the park or something and ever since then he would not say he had to pee pee he would say cheerios and i knew what that meant now he's a little older no problems

Holli - posted on 06/18/2009

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It sounds really funny and you may not think it's okay...but with my son, who was my first born, I let him walk around naked! Whenever he started to feel the need to go he would rush to the toilet! He was completely potty trained by age 2!

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Yup that's what i had to do w/my 3 yr old daughter, let her wear panties so she could feel how good it felt to not be so bulky so as to want to be able to wear them all the time, and also that when she did have an accident she could feel that too it helps make them more alert to paying attention to the body cues. The pullups i only use at night. Also i played elmo's potty time dvd OVER AND OVER AND OVER! And lastly try to find a pattern to how soon after drinking they go and start making a schedule. Even if they don't have to go, just sit them on the pot, and i would count to 30 or sing some songs and such. Hope this helps it takes a while..I introduced a year ago, but had her using the pullups, and only w/in the last month now of doing these steps did it just all of a sudden seem to work.

Angie - posted on 06/18/2009

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I have a 3 1/2 year old boy (who will be 4 in september) and i'm still kinda fighting with him, i didn't try till he was 2 1/2 years old than the doctor says i was pushing him too much so i backed off for about 6 months and now that he's going on 4 years old i just think it's ridiculous, he pees in the pot just fine, we have a shorter toilet where he's able to stand and pee like his older brothers and daddy....i just cannot get him to poop on the pot either....the doctor keeps telling me don't push him or he'll resist even more and that he'll do it on his own, i have grandparents that don't help any either they just get more mad at him also and tell him that he's a bad boy for not going in the pot, i completely understand that it is not right to say that or even do that to a little boy, they don't understand me.......which i feel even more worse...i just wouldn't pressure him, i think that is what i did with my son and now he's really resisting it alot....sorry wish i was more of a help...

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Different things work for different kids - so keep trying. If you live somewhere out in the country or even have a private yard, you might trying letting him pee in the bushes. My grandson is 8 and he still likes to pee outside! And always sit him on the potty while you run the bath water, alot of times just hearing the water runs makes it happen, then you can praise him alot. We always started that as soon as they were crawling. Poop is harder, we bribed our kids and grandkids with suckers, m&m's & pennies - whatever works.

Katie - posted on 06/18/2009

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put cheerios in the toilet for "target practice." make it fun!

it's hard not to resort to candy as incentive; this was the only other thing that worked with my son. good luck!

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Have a man or older boy that he trusts show him how to pee on a tree, my step-son thinks it's the coolest thing in the world and has helped more than rewarding him with candy or treats that he doesn't need.

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Have a man or older boy that he trusts show him how to pee on a tree, my step-son thinks it's the coolest thing in the world and has helped more than rewarding him with candy or treats that he doesn't need.

Shannon - posted on 06/18/2009

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Has he given you "sign" thats hes ready? Does he tell you when he's gone in his diaper? My son will be 2 in Sept and I have bought a little potty chair, but he has no idea what so ever what to do! He will sit in a poop diaper all day if I would let him!! Im just curious what to expect! Every baby is different. My mom said my brother was trained when he was 2. Mine isnt even close to being ready yet! Good luck!!

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I need help too!! My son is almost three and simply has "no time" to learn because he has so many more important things to do in his life! Help!

Nathalie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Your son is barely two so first of all I would ask you... Does he show signs that he is ready AND interested in potty training. That is one of the things you can't force a child to do. I have proof of it. I had a gril who potty trained herself by 22mo and my second girl didn't want to have anything to do with it. I tried to force her because she was going to turn 3 and that didn't get me anywhere except for a load of frustrations. Boys are also slower, remember that. But anyway, signs that he is ready are: He shows interest in the little potty and wants to sit on it, he stays dry for periods of at least 2 hours and he wakes up dry from his nap. If there are none of these signs present then the mom wants him potty trained while he does not or physicallty CANNOT yet. But if he shows interest then you can work with stickers (the ones he loves and chooses himself) and you can give him a sticker everytime he SITS on the potty even though he doesn't go. You can have a board right by the potty where he puts his stickers. Cheer everytime he sits and he will figure it out eventually. Good luck!

Lynn - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Rachel:

I'm trying to potty train my son but it isnt going to well, anyone got any tips?

I started today, i put him in pants he wnt even sit on the potty ive tried the toilet as well but dnt seem to be getting anywhere.


well i found that training in the summer on holiday helped. they can wear pants and if they wet themselves its not so bad.



dont rush it it will come when its ready!! both my sons were starting nursery at 3 and half  when they became dry. dont make it a big issue cos it will take much longer.



good luck

Linda - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hi Rachel, do you have a potty seat? My son was afraid of falling in! Try using some Cheerios, toos them in, let him see that they'll just float around. And I aslo told my son to "shoot the Cheerios" when he was peeing! Then I put a calendar in the bathroom, and each time my kids (b/g twins) went IN the potty, they got to choose a "special" sticker and put it on the appropiate date, on the calendar. After they went a whole week, they got a surprise! The reward system worked for us, maybe it can for you, too! Good Luck!

Christie - posted on 06/18/2009

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As a daycare provider, I have noticed that most children show interest in the potty between 18 months and 2 1/2 years. The trick is to catch them during that stage and run with it. In training my three children, I started by letting them run naked for two days. They had less accidents and were no longer dependant on the diapers when they started wearing underwear. None of my children were very difficult to train, but they are all relatively easy going kids, so I am lucky. The best advice is to follow your gut. You know your child,so relax and make it fun.

Manuela - posted on 06/18/2009

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I tried the potty train in three days that i read in babycenter.com and it worked really well, with both my sons.After 3 days they were doing wee and although pooh took them about a week.

Aleathea - posted on 06/17/2009

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Well you could try having him go water a tree. I was having a horrible time with my oldest son and well Grandpa took him out and showed him how to water trees. It worked great. Then we did the Cherrio thing and that helped alot. Don't give up and be patient. All 4 of mine are finally potty trained. Thank God and Good luck getting yours trained.

Jennifer - posted on 06/17/2009

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He doesn't sound like he is ready. I got a potty and put it in front of the tv so he get's used to it. I'd get some books and read up on different stratagies.

Vanessa - posted on 06/17/2009

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Rachel I know it is hard but sometime when you make that decision you have to make sure it is going to be done...there are going to be accidents and you need to be prepared and stay home for couple days and not go anywhere so he can get use to it. Try to read to him while he is on the toilet or reward him for sitting by telling him ok if you sit and do pee we will go....it helped a lot...with my little girl...does he go to daycare? That helps a lot also....well good luck and if you decided to start don't stop if not we will fall behind...take care

Annie - posted on 06/17/2009

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I waited until both of mine were 2 1/2 and they seemed to be more mature at that age. They both picked out their potties and they used them. I never had an accident with either.

Marianne - posted on 06/17/2009

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I was totally lost when it came to training my son who is also my 1st child. he is now 3 and few months and fully trained day and night woohoo. I tried everything the only thing i found that worked was completely take nappies away let him run around in jocks through the day he will eventually realise to use the toilet. I got him using the toilet straight up and i would flush the toilet before he used it a got him to aim at the bubbles he loved it and went in every half hour flush and force himself to wee so he could get the bubbles. Night time i got myself a waterproof mattress protector and let him go nappy free. I didnt start the night till he was fully controlled by day. Surprisingly he only had one wet night since i started a few months ago.

Tracey - posted on 06/17/2009

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what helped my son was he had a tedy bear n every time he sat on the toilet his bear sat on the potty it made him feel like a big boy

Tracey - posted on 06/17/2009

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what helped my son was he had a tedy bear n every time he sat on the toilet his bear sat on the potty it made him feel like a big boy

Luz - posted on 06/17/2009

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Hi Rachel,



I am going to give you the same tip that I gave to another mom here in Circle of Mom's.



I was able to get my daughter free of pampers and pull out a month before she turns 3 years old, of course with the help of the daycare what I did is I started eliminating regular pampers then only pull out when she used to take naps and to go to sleep. the difficult part was to get her to do number 2 but I started telling her that if she goes to the toilet I was going to give her one of her favorite sweets which is Oreo cookies and this is how she started doing it. Let me tell you it worked. try something like that, something that he likes specially something sweet. Good luck and please let me know how it goes....

take care,

Wendy - posted on 06/17/2009

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we used a ping pong ball in the toilet for our boys and they thought it was fun to try and aim for the ball try that it worked for us.

Sue - posted on 06/17/2009

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I've been reading some posts here. Most everyone is saying the same thing, don't push it. Great advise, after I read about the cherrio's with the kid climbing in the toliet.

I take back my friends advise.. don't try it... And after thinking about it. who's wants there kid associating, Food with the John! Gross! I take it back don't try it. Let him get it on his own terms and time. Best advise!

Sue - posted on 06/17/2009

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How old is he? Boy's are different.. Don't push it, If he's not ready he will take longer, than you want him to. Do it on his terms, I did and my son did it in two days, all kids are different. Have you tried the Cherrio thing! My girlfriend said it work with her son. Give him time and always, tell him what a good boy he was for trying. Good Luck.

La Keva - posted on 06/17/2009

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He will get the hang of it. I have a 2 year old girl and she got it down them regressed so I am just trying to stay consistent with it and believe it or not she will tell me more in public setting she has to go verse at home she becomes more lazy or distracted by whatever she is doing and just go in her pants. Perhaphs just start off with pull up and see how he does thinkign he advance to big boys pants and pulling them up and down... Good luck

Jocelyn - posted on 06/17/2009

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As a mother of three small children, I have to say that every child is different and will learn at their own pace. I took a much more laid back approach and figured they would do it when they were ready. My oldest daughter, who is now 6, probably would have trained early, but we had a lot of transitions that set her back. She secretly trained herself after the birth of my second daughter (She would actually sneak in and use the potty thinking I wasn't aware of it) I didn't push her and she was completely trained with no accidents by the age of three. My second daughter, probably would have been trained prior to the age of two, because she wanted to be a "big girl" like her older sister, but my son was born when she was 21 months and she wanted to still be the "baby" like him. She was trained by 2 1/2. I have heard that boys are more difficult. My son is now 19 months. He has expressed an interest in the potty a few times. I will let him sit on it and he goes through the motions of wiping, flushing, putting the top lid down and washing his hands. I did not push any of my kids and they did it and will do it when they are ready. If you do some research, experts say that most kids aren't even ready to start training until at least 27 months. Some do it earlier, but the majority are closer to the age of three. Hope this helps!

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