I'm worried about my daughters development!!!

Erinn - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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She's 9 months and still not crawling, barely rolls and still can't sit up on her own.... any suggestions or advice??

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Fern - posted on 08/09/2009

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I would also suggest calling Early Childhood Intervention in your locality. It sometimes has a different name, but essentially it is a federal program run in each state. They will come to your home and do a thorough assessment of your daughter. She may have low muscle tone, which my son has, and if they find a true delay she will qualify for services through the program. They will send a therapist out to your house to treat her in her own environment where she will respond better. They will also look at your finances and insurance to decide if you have to pay for the services. I pay nothing for my son's therapy. Its great to have her pediatrician to evaluate her too and make any referrals he feels are necessary, but it never hurts to have more than one evaluation. My pediatrician did not catch my son's low muscle tone, it was found during the assessment done here in our home. It does sound like there is some problem and the right professionals can determine the actual cause and will best know how to treat it.

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Jacque - posted on 10/24/2011

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Hi Erinn,
My name is Jacque. I've got a Bachelor's Degree in Early Childhood Development. First of all, I want to say that each child develops at their own rate and time. With that said, I'll just give you the break down of how average babies grow and development rates go... most babies will start sitting on their own around 6-7 months. Crawling happens between 6-8 months, for most. If you are worried that your daughter is a little behind, I would recommend talking to her doctor. I don't want to scare you, at all. That's not my intention at all. I just wanted to let you be aware that this is something that you should speak to her doctor about and see what they think.

Trish - posted on 08/12/2009

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In the photo do I see a cute older sibling. Does he/she pay her loads of attention and fuss over her, maybe he/she does everything for her so she doesnt need to. Its quite common with talking too, when an older sibling speaks for them they are slow to talk. I think she looks fine, each child develops differently, she may walk and never crawl.

Krista - posted on 08/11/2009

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I didn't roll until I was close to 1 year old, didn't crawl until after a year and didn't walk until almost 2. I turned out just fine. I wouldn't worry.

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There is a good chance that nothing is wrong, but contacting as many organizations as possible and getting her on as many lists as you can won't hurt. Sometimes wait lists can be as long as 18 months for certain services. If she starts excelling without help you can take her off the lists, but if she is still struggling the right people will be able to help her out. If you don't already have one, I think the Bumbo chair is fantastic. Good luck, your kids are adorable!

Annetta - posted on 08/11/2009

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My daughter was just like that. She wanted us to do everything for her and would scream if left on her tummy for more than 30 seconds. She pulled herself up and started walking at 11 months without crawling. She learned to crawl later when following the cat under the table. She refused to even roll over until she was 10 months old. She is a very intelligent person. Every child develops at their own pace, and some have mental growth earlier than physical. Nothing to worry about.

Kylie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

Well her pediatrician is also concerned about her... we have appts. with her to see several docs and get checked out... I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas of things I could do to help her in the mean time!


some things you could do to get her more in touch with her body includes- baby massage especially her feet and hands count each toe so she can see it, sing and swing her around, tip her upside as down this massages the inner ear and helps with balance. do slow stretches(arms stretching up then down) see if she can weight bare by her griping onto your fingers and you slowly lifting her off the ground this improves strength. when shes on her tummy get down on the ground with her and talk and encourage. Of course if she is upset and doesn't want to do these things stop and try again when shes feeling better. See if you can take her to a babygymba class it will help he be more aware of her body.

MaryAnn - posted on 08/11/2009

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Lots of tummy time!!! On your chest, on the bed - watch her closely - on a blanket on the floor.

April - posted on 08/11/2009

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This sounds all too familiar! My daughter saw numerous Dr.'s & had physio 3 times a week for months. She was given numerous diagnosis's as well, I was told she had a stroke in utero or that she may have C.P. I am proud to say that I have a very healthy, active, STUBBORN almost 3 year old little girl. She never crawled until she was 11 months old, (not a normal crawl either, she did the bear walk) and walked when she was 12 months old. She still hates rolling over, & only does it when she has to. She just hates doing anything that she doesn't want to do, if she can get someone to do it for her, she does :) I've learned that I needed to learn what was normal for her and just "roll with it" :)

Jena - posted on 08/11/2009

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i am a pediatric physical therapist, and i would definitely talk to the MD. i am not sure where you live, but there is program through your county called Early Intervention. (depending on where you live it is either covered by your insurance or funded by the county/state). the early intervention office would be able to set you up with a coordinator, who would come out and meet you guys. based on her assessment, she would bring out the necessary therapists to evaluate your daughter, and give you guys some suggestions... the crawling is not a big deal - but she definitely should be rolling and sitting by now. do you hold her a lot? does she get much tummy time? do you have a bumbo seat? definitely make sure she gets plenty of time on her belly - even if she doesn't like it. practice her sitting - have her sit in the corner of the sofa, hold her in sitting on the floor, etc. good luck

MaryAnn - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

I'm worried about my daughters development!!!


She's 9 months and still not crawling, barely rolls and still can't sit up on her own.... anysuggestions or advice??


You should be concerned!  It may be nothing; it may be her personality; it may be a muscle tone issue. But development at this age is sensorimotor based, and if the baby cannot move and explore, she may be at a disadvantage in other areas of development.   As her Mom you need to have an expert look at her motor development now!



You should continue to have an open dialogue with your pediatrician, but you should also be proactive.



Every state has a Birth to Three (B23) program.  Call it, whether or not your pediatrician thinks there is a problem. Call your local Health Dept, school district or Dept of Mental Retardation(or whatever your state calls their Developmental Disabilities offce, don't get hung up on the name!), and get the # for the B23 referral line. Then refer your baby to it.  They will send a team of 2 developmental specialists out to your home to meet you and the baby.  You should ask that one of them be a physical therapist.  They will do a developmental evaluation and tell  you how your daughter is performing compared to age norms and their opinion as to whether they are concerned about her development.  Then you can take that information to your pediatrician.



Good luck and don't wait for her to "outgrow"  this!



Disclaimer: I AM a pediatric PT and have been doing B23 evaluations and intervention for +20 years!



 

Angie - posted on 08/11/2009

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My friends son had the same problem. when he finally turned 1 he started crawling and a couple weeks later was walking. He working with her...do tummy excercises, keep her toys at a distances (making her work for them). Also I agree get advice what you can do from a doctor.

Coral - posted on 08/11/2009

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Erinn, as the mother of a girl (10) and a boy (7), I can tell you that every child develops at their own rate and does things when they're ready. My son refused to crawl until 10 months, and walked at 13 (although he'd been taking up to 2 steps at a time at 11 months), whereas my daughter crawled at 6 months and walked steadily at 9 months. My daughter said her first words at 7 months and was speaking full sentences by her first birthday. My son gave the whole family such stress because he wouldn't talk until he was 2...but when he did it was full, coherent, perfect sentences, like a 5 year old. Did I mention he also has an IQ over 140 and is a star hockey player now? He is just a kid who does not want to do anything until he could do it perfectly. It's all in the personality and what motivates them. I wouldn't worry until your pediatrician tells you to. "Normal" is a huge range.

Pat - posted on 08/09/2009

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Hello, these are the developmental milestones that babies should go through. Not set in stone for all to be exactly at these points but should be very close. Seeing that you are concerned you should take the baby to see her pediatrician. Here is a link with the milestones: http://www.thenewparentsguide.com/baby-d... PASTE INTO YOUR BROWSER. Hope this helps.

Michelle - posted on 08/09/2009

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It sounds like you're doing the right thing, where she has appts to get checked out. At home, I would do what the previous posters have said. Tummy time, try to entice her with a favorite toy (usually Mommy qualifies as that :) ) If you have older children, maybe use them to turn it into a game. Let her watch them roll and crawl, and cheer and clap for them. Reward any progress for her with the same. Hopefully she will be smiling and laughing and having a good time, and have a bigger interest in doing those things.

Erinn - posted on 08/09/2009

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Well her pediatrician is also concerned about her... we have appts. with her to see several docs and get checked out... I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas of things I could do to help her in the mean time!

Rebecca - posted on 08/09/2009

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My friend's daughter was crawling at 6 months and my little boy is almost 8 and getting close but not yet so I don't think there is any truth to that developing slower

Aleks - posted on 08/09/2009

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While my son didn't start to crawl till he was well into his 10th month, he did roll and sit by 9 months...

Go and speak with a doctor... And get a complete look over including heart! Similar thing happened to a friend of mine, and at a regular check up the nurse found an irregular heart beat, which then a doctor found a murmur... baby barely rolled, hated tummy time... didn't really sit till later... all because of his heart. I don't want to scare you, however, if you are concerned it means you have a valid reason to speak to a professional and get some answers.

Good luck and I hope it all turns out well for you.

Angela - posted on 08/09/2009

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I am told that girls develop slower with their motor skills than boys. I have a friend whos son was walking at 9 months but her daughter is 12 months and barely walking on her own. Although girls do start talking a lot quicker than boys. My suggestion is to just keep encouraging your daughter by placing her on her belly and sitting across from her like 3 feet away and coy her into crawling to you. Although if she is not rolling over properly I would speak to your pediatrician about that. They are supposed to keep record of these things and let you know what to do. I am sure everything is fine though! Have fun with your babies!

Kelly - posted on 08/09/2009

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I would definatley call and talk to her doctor and see what they say....they might want her to go to physical thearpy.....my friends little girl goes and it has helped her alot..... she was also 3 weeks early and has something with her neck muscle that makes it hard for her to turn her head one way, but it is getting way better since she has gone to thearpy....she is almost 9 months and she sits up and will roll around sometimes but she hates her belly and has no intrest in crawling......but just see what the doctor says....

Diane - posted on 08/09/2009

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What a cutie pie! Did you ask the Dr.? I'm thinking the same thing, by 9 months she should be doing those things. Crawling sometimes never comes. They go right into walking.

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