I need answers... I have so many unanswered questions. Could someone help me?

Tabytha - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 137 moms have responded )

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How long should I let my 3 month old sleep? I tend to sleep in a lot and he'll be wide awake and then go back to sleep. My son is on a feeding tube because he has reflux disease and he's on continuous feeds. I don't know how often to play with him and I have no idea how long I should let him sleep. I was also wondering what is the best time and way to do tummy time?? I need a lot of advice.. I have a learning disability and I would like to know so bad.. I want to do a better job as a mother... and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do.

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Bonnie - posted on 01/24/2013

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I commend you on wanting to be a great Mom. Play for a 3 month old is as easy as holding/cuddling and just talking to him. Get some children's books and read to him both while he is in your arms and while he is laying on his back. Show him the pictures and point out the colors in the book. When you walk around the house with him tell him the names of things and shapes, colors even number of items. His brain is developing and all the knowledge, even at 3 months will help his development, also it will help you to be less lonely, you are talking to someone. If you have a baby gym where you lay him under it and he can bat at the hanging items that is helping his gross motor skills. Music, especially classical is really good for the brain. Since he has a feeding tube, you may want to talk to his doctor about tummy time, he should be able to recommend how long and how you can alleviate discomfort. When my twins were babies I would take them into whatever room I was in, to include the bathroom if I was taking a shower and I was constantly talking or reading to them. If I wasn't talking I had classical or childrens' music playing. We had daily floor time, both on their backs under the baby gym and on their tummies with bright toys around them that they could reach for and try to get at. Tabytha, you can do it and be the great Mom you want to be.

Dove - posted on 01/24/2013

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Maybe the doctor knows of someone that could come TO your house?

Some places have what is called a Healthy Start program where someone comes to your house once a week to offer encouragement and support to new moms. Maybe there is something like that in your area...

Christie - posted on 01/25/2013

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Your doing fine as a mother! Try to be awake when your little one is in the morning, take naps with her durning the day if needed and go to bed at same time as her in the evening! This should help with the fatigue!
As for playing with a 3 month old talk to her a lot, sing to her, sing songs with actions in them that you can tickle her or move her limbs along to the action(teddy bear, itsy bitsy spider, row row your boat, are some examples) get some rattle toys, or a floor play may that has objects hanging over her to bat at, lay with her and show her. If she has a swing or bouncer seat hang toys a little lower to bat at!
She will need to nap about 3 times a day depending how long her naps are! Remember also she has been sick and in hospital and she may be behind in development , so may also need more sleep then the average 3 month old
As for tummy play start with small amounts of time on the floor, you can use a wedge under her chest so that her arms and head are slightly over the wedge, you can improvise a wedge with a rolled up receiving blinket! Also when your sitting with her place her on your chest and lean back so she can try to lift her head off your chest or place her on your legs feet by your tummy and head up by your knees! Remember with sever reflux to keep her head elevated as much as possible!
As for the feeding tube if there making a new incision to do placement then No tummy time for 6 weeks she needs to heal but placing her on your chest and leaning slightly back will be fine!
As for going out with the feeding tube do not be scared to do this! You should of been supplied with a portable pump that you can place in a bag or hang off the stroller!
I take my son everywhere with his, he's also on 24 hour feeds! And also is about 3 month ability and size even though he's 27 months!
I have 5 other children I need to deal with and my son has to be toted along with his 02/heart monitor, feeding pump, 02 tanks it can be difficult but is possible!
Talk with your pediatrician and health nurses there should be programs for you out there the pediatrician can help set you up with! Example Respite, home care are some examples!
Good luck
Hope this helps and if you ever want to talk give me a private message
Christie

Dove - posted on 01/24/2013

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When you go back in to the doctor perhaps you can ask if there are any free or low cost parenting classes near you. Some personal interaction (as opposed to advice on the internet) might be easier for you to relate to and help give you the confidence you need. :) ♥

Deanna - posted on 01/25/2013

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Hi Tabytha,
I have read some great responses here. Until he gets the G-Tube, there is not much you can do for tummy time. And you will have to wait for him to heal after the surgery. Is there a public health nurse in your area? If so, many of them will do a home visit. Ask the doctor about tummy time and a public health nurse to get that help. It takes a wonderful Mom to ask for help. You are doing what many of us have a hard time doing, asking for help. I commend you for it.
As for play. I read about reading and singing to baby. Those are great ideas!! Slow dancing with baby is good too. Even with the feeding tube. Laying him on the floor and playing peek-a-boo is a great way for interaction.
As for sleeping, babies sleep as they need it. Let him sleep as long as he wants.
You are facing some challenges, but please don't get discouraged. The G-Tube will start to make things easier. I do think getting a health nurse giving you a home visit would be better than classes because you are facing challenges that a normal parenting class would not teach about. If there is a place that gives the classes, call them and ask if they know someone who could come over to your home and help out a bit.
Maybe also find an online support group for the reflux. http://www.livingwithreflux.org/
is one that I found.
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Munira - posted on 03/08/2013

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firstly-never doubt that you a good mom,all moms do the best they can for their kids,you have been given alot of feedback you should just follow it all,make notes and just follow your instincts.........good luck

Laura - posted on 03/05/2013

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I would say don't stress about tummy time. I did with my first, as a new mom. My frist started rolling from his tummy to his back at 13 days old because he hated his tummy. With my others I never much worried about tummy-time. I'd try it, but none of my kids liked it much and guess what, they all learned to roll, crawl, and walk. I didn't have a feeding tube I had to worry about, that does sound uncomfertable. Good luck, with whatever you decided. The biggest thing with being a mom I think is being consistent in whatever you do, we all have different ways, and they can all work, but being Consistent in the way we do it, is most important. Thats my two cents.

Tabytha - posted on 02/27/2013

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I don't know about that Jenna. They said I had EXTREMELY healthy cord blood... I don't know if that's the case.. They said they had never saw such healthy cord blood before

Jenna - posted on 02/21/2013

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I'd have a doctor check everything out, the drugs could have messed up things inside your body. Yes you could get pregnant without having cycled yet. . .your best bet is to have a dr check you out!

Genni - posted on 02/21/2013

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SOPHIE - posted on 02/18/2013

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It's probably good for him to be woken and play in the morning and then nap regularly when he gets tired. I was sleeping in with my baby (5 months) before too and I was worried that she wasn't getting the stimulation and contact she needed. She would be in bed from 5pm to 10am sometimes only waking for feeds and going back to sleep. Now I try and wake her around 8am and then put her down for a nap when she gets tired (2-3 times a day), so now her bedtime is later at 7pm. She's less cranky, feeds better, her muscles are more relaxed and she naps more easily. You can always nap when he naps to get your sleep. With tummy time, keep it short and be right there next to him to make sure he's okay with the feeding tube and if he is, just make it a little longer each day. All babies need is your attention, just talking and interacting, simple things. They learn more from you than anything else right now. You can read to him, which will help him develop, even if at this stage he doesn't understand. As he gets older he'll be able to interact with simple baby toys and begin to be more aware of what you are reading. The fact that you posted this shows that you are a good mother and you are doing a good job, because you care.

Jenna - posted on 02/12/2013

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I'd watch it, they do get tired from the surgery and being in the hospital, it makes me sleepy for a few days , but I'd all the nurse in the morning and just run it past them, no fever or the site isn't bright red is it? If so I'd take him in tonight otherwise just for your comfort call in the morning
It gets better just hang in there!

Tabytha - posted on 02/12/2013

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No I haven't been giving him any medicine.. I will. Me and my fiance are going to call tomorrow to see what we should do..

Laura - posted on 02/12/2013

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tabytha maybe u should talk 2 ur bbys doctor, i dont thing its normal for ur bby 2 sleep alot, r u giving the bby medecine maybe thats making him sleep alot but still talk 2 the doctor abt it.

Tabytha - posted on 02/12/2013

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He got his Nissen Flundoplication w/ a G-tube last week(Wednesday). He was miserable after it like the day after and the entire time we were at the hospital. Today and yesterday he's been sleeping a lot and very crabby.... Idk why.. I really want to know about that.. Before he wasn't doing that. He wasn't sleeping all the time but every few hours..

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2013

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My 3 month old didn't like tummy time so much because he is nosey, hehehe. What I did was use a boppy pillow and this allowed him to sit in a slant soon he was trying to sit up. So I would sit him up and read him a story or sing a song or something. We got our play time and he worked on holding up his neck pretty good and now that he can hold his neck up he doesn't mind tummy time so much. This might work better for him his feeding tube. Good luck.

Ruth - posted on 02/08/2013

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Add me on Facebook and if you have any questions at all at any point you can message me and ill try my best to help :)

Mary Jane - posted on 02/05/2013

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You are doing perfect...he is three months old and still hungry...very good sign! Mom's have a tendency to be perfect but we learn as we go. Get the rest you need and believe me this will pass and you will be stronger and brighter and so will your son! Hang in there...You're doing a great job!

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2013

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Hello. I also commend you on wanting to be a good mom ! Let Noah rest as long as he wants to. Just monitor him and check on his breathing to make sure he is ok. Since he is about to have surgery rest is especially important so let him rest as long as he needs to and you rest while he does so you will not be worn out! Playing with Noah can be reading to him laying him under a jungle gym do you have one of those?? Lay him on a black face up and lay beside him and read to him play with stuffed animals as far as tummy time if you call your doctors office ask to speak to your doctors nurse and she can give you directions about tummy time for this little guy! Don't worry your doing great!

Tabytha - posted on 01/31/2013

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Thank you:) That was really sweet. He did really good thats what the surgeons said. ♥ They have to give him a lot of pain medication because he seems to be in pain often.. I thought this was really sweet :)

Susan - posted on 01/30/2013

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Bekki,
Do you have a child with reflux? Just wondering as I was connected with the ECI in Texas and also Grant Wood Area Agency for Children in IOWA and the Visiting nurses association and all of them encouraged me to do tummy time with my daughter although she had reflux and a feeding tube ...It is good for those muscles in the trunk and neck and will eventually help them hold their head up!

Claire - posted on 01/30/2013

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Hi Tabytha,

Although all babies are different, I found my three were awake for roughly 40 minutes at a time at 3 mths.

The key signs of a tired baby that needs bed are:

Jerky arm and leg movements. Mine were textbook cases. They looked like puppets having their strings pulled! :)

Blinking and a glassy or glazed look in their eyes.

The start of crying ( hard to tell whether it's the reflux or tiredness, though, sometimes :):).

With tummy time, I'd roll my Gastric Reflux girl onto her tummy BEFORE a feed for a few minutes, then i'd give her 1 minute tummy time every 7 minutes after her feed.
If that doesn't suit your little man, try rolling a towel up and propping him up on one side.

Kind of like this- o\ .. The 'o' is the towel and your boy is the ' \ '. My reflux girl really liked that but also needed to be swapped on to her other side, too.

** Only do this if you stay with him though. He could roll over on to his tummy and suffocate on his mat or blanket.

Totally agree with Susan K... Talk to your boy, and don't feel self conscious when out in public. He'll learn better if you use normal language that you would use with a child or adult.

I also found my 1st girl - she had no siblings until she was nine- learnt more from the other kids in the park than anything I taught her. And my boy doesn't do a thing I try to teach him- he also learns more by copying his sisters and the other boys in the park.
I think you would find it really helpful to start a regular park visit- yep rain hail or shine, lol.
That way, you also get healthy and he gets more tired by being out and about.
I rug mine up like Michelin men in winter. In summer, we carry spray bottles of water everywhere. They also help with those 'I'm hot n tired' tantrums!

Good Luck!

Donna - posted on 01/30/2013

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Call your pediatrician and they can tell you how much to let him sleep. Babies this age do sleep a lot.

Donna - posted on 01/30/2013

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Call your pediatrician and they can tell you how much to let him sleep. Babies this age do sleep a lot.

Donna - posted on 01/30/2013

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Keeping them on a schedule is very important. Does he have continuos feeds or continuous and bolus. Put him to bed at the same time each night. Hopefully 8 or 8 30 he should sleep 10 to 12 hrs. You should sleep when he sleeps it helps. But,if he has acontinuos feed at night you can start a bolus two hours after continuous stops. Wait one hour after feed stop and check feeding tube for any residual. If no residual then do as much tummy time as possible. Bolus I assume are every 3 to 4 hours. Hope this helps.

Donna - posted on 01/30/2013

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Keeping them on a schedule is very important. Does he have continuos feeds or continuous and bolus. Put him to bed at the same time each night. Hopefully 8 or 8 30 he should sleep 10 to 12 hrs. You should sleep when he sleeps it helps. But,if he has acontinuos feed at night you can start a bolus two hours after continuous stops. Wait one hour after feed stop and check feeding tube for any residual. If no residual then do as much tummy time as possible. Bolus I assume are every 3 to 4 hours. Hope this helps.

Kim - posted on 01/30/2013

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Listen to your child. When he cries, he needs something, either a diaper change, rocked to sleep or activity. Let your mother's heart tell you. My daughter's little girl is 4 months old, and she still awakens at night one or two times, wakes at 6 in the morning (when my daughter would love to sleep in) and then sleeps an hour or two in the morning.
From my experience, babies really don't go on a schedule until they are older, and they sleep a lot of the time. You will find that as you spend every day with this beautiful child, you will begin to know when he's tired, cranky, or just wants someone to look and talk to him.
Is there someone who can help you so you can get much needed sleep? I think that's the hardest for young mothers is lack of sleep.
Best wishes,

Laura - posted on 01/30/2013

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i think u should ask ur baby doctor, and abt the sleeping well u should let him sleep all he wants but maybe not during the day because at night im pretty sure his gonna be super awake maybe around 5 or 6 u can put him asleep and just play with him with little toys and read him fun books and buy him muphets my son loves em he laughs at them its pretty funny. good luck and always ask questions to ur doctors dont be scare they would love 2 help.

Shannel - posted on 01/30/2013

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Hey. Every baby is different so you won't get a "right" answer. Does he sleep throughout the night? My son is 11 months old and he has slept throughout the night since 6 weeks he has 2 naps in the day and sleeps through the night and has been doing that pretty much since. If he's tired he will sleep I don't know much about the relux disease but I'm guessing it takes a lot of energy out of him so he probably should get more sleep than other 3 month old babies that don't have reflux. And you're doing a great job as a mother especially by reaching out for help:) I hope you find the answer you're looking for -I've learned babies will make their own schedules no matter what

Bekki Boo - posted on 01/30/2013

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Reflux babies hate being on their tummies. You will probably have to wait a bit.

Suraiya - posted on 01/30/2013

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Tabytha I have two boys now 12 and 14 and I was a worried anxious Mother like you and I still am. I read books, I researched the internet, I looked at Mothers who I thought were better than me and tried to copy them. Being a Mother is the hardest job in the world if you make it hard, It is the easiest most natural thing if you let it be. I joined circle of Mums only last week after 14 years of suffering. All I get from this is reassurance that Motherhood can be challenging. Babies are a bit different to my age group. From past experience I would say let the baby sleep as much as s/he wants. Babies need to hear Mummys voice and feel Mummys touch so do this as often as you can. If you were breastfeeding you would be making contact every three hours with your baby at this age. So generally speaking I would use that as a guide. As often as you would normally feed a baby make contact (physical touching hugging cuddling speaking singing) that many times a day. This is just my feeling on the matter if I had a third baby with this disease that is what I would do to feel like I treated all three the same. I often let my baby sleep with me as I am of Asian origin I do not believe in leaving babies alone in a room in a lonely bed until they are two years old.

Susan - posted on 01/29/2013

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My daughter who has Down Syndrome had reflux when she was small and her goal was to do tummy time a little longer each day ... however it made her tummy and the feeding tube site very sore some days and we didn't do it at all some days. I usually put our daughter Anna on her tummy tho when she had the most strength and energy. ....- right when she got up after her diaper was changed and when she got up from her nap in the afternoon! Sometimes I would try after her morning nap as well ....
I started reading to Anna while she was inside of me yet and continued to read to her when she was very tiny ... Don't worry if he is wiggling or whatever He is listening and absorbs more than you think at that age!! Our daughter is now 7 and loves books and sits still to listen to stories. I have also had some learning disabilities and know from experience the more you talk to him and expose him to healthy playing and talking the smarter he will be later... Keep up the good work and love to you both!!~

Shannon - posted on 01/29/2013

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Hi there! You sound like a concerned and loving mommy, so I'm sure that you are doing the best job that you can!
I have a different perspective, since I actually had a Nissan Fundiplication surgery when I was a teenager. My reflux disease started later on in childhood than most and I can tell you that I suffered great pain and restless nights before the procedure. If your baby seems content to sleep away or rest, just let him! Don't feel guilty and try not to compare his sleeping habits to other babies his age. His body is working harder just to simply absorb nutrients. I can tell you this: the surgery has been a huge success in my life! My reflux cleared up immediately and I stopped vommiting right away. My color came back and I started gaining weight within 6 weeks. Once your baby recovers from surgery, I'm sure that he will become more active and perk up. I wish him all the luck in the world. Please feel free to ask me any questions regarding the surgery. Its been over 11 years, but I still haven't had any major complications!

Astrid - posted on 01/29/2013

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My boy was born with 2 bottom teeth + extremely collocy. If your baby is on formula, give him only recommended amount on the tin. Reflux baby tend to feel, give signs of hunger. A dummy will help +nursing baby on their tummy for comfort. Don‘t over feed a reflux baby due to bloating

Doreen - posted on 01/29/2013

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Bless Your Lil Angel,,,& KNow he will grow out of this cond,,,,, Also ask the Nurse or Dr for any add, advice on his condt,,,,& a baby that Young should get @ "least" 2 hrs of Nap time. I would go about my daily activities based on his routine,,,"IF" YOU cannot get Him used to YOURS,,,especially due to his condt @ the moment. When he is Up,,,stimulate him W/ visuals , different colors like Black,& White,,,Babies like the Contrast,,,,& Bold Shapes W/ some music,,,if he fusses after a lil bit,,,,then try to maybe settle him sown to sleep,,,either W/ maybe strocking his forhead/hair,,,rub his cheek W/ as small Lovie, or maybe his Palm,,,My Gr'son Loved this,,W/ maybe some white noice,,heart beat, rain, birds,,,in those lil animals that play them on a timer.
Also take ALL the advise you can W/ a smile,,,& Use what Best is suited to Your Life style,,,,Remember YOU "R" his Mom,,& KNow in Your Heart that YOU will MSke All the Right Choices for Him,,,Don't let Your L.D. get in the way of YOur Instinct to Love YOUR Baby ! YOu can & Will Be an Awsome Mommy !,,,Even PP W/ Degrees Do some Really Outlandish things,,,You'd BE suprised,,,,& Simple Folk who have No Degree,,,Have Better Parenting Abilitys!
Best to You & Your Lil Angel,,,,Remember,,Higher Up has it All in Control =-)
Gr'ma of 4 <>

VM - posted on 01/29/2013

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Oops, forgotten to add that you can also seek the help and advise from the doctor or nurses taking care of babies. In some countries the hospitals have classes for new mothers, teaching them the basics and essentials for taking care of babies.

Good luck! :)

VM - posted on 01/29/2013

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Hi, sorry to hear about this. Actually all babies are different. Because your baby is on feeding tube I am not sure if our method is suitable.

I trained my children to differentiate day and night so that they will sleep longer or even throughout the night but not daytime.

During the day, they don't sleep that long and usually most babies will have their milk feeding at certain timing like every hour, 2or 3hrs, different babies different and depending on age too. The bigger they are, usually the time can drag longer than usual if they are drinking more and much longer and lesser feeding of milk once tbey start on semi- solid and solid food. Try not to make lesser noise or tune the volume of your radio or tv lower just because he is sleeping. Leave everything as they are during the day, even if the volume are very loud, just let it be.

Comes night, make the room dimmer and on some soft music (not songs and no pop nothing, just light/soft MUSIC-daytime you can choose to on any songs you like). Do not feed him milk at every of his usual feeding time. Eg. if he needs 3 feeds per night, make it only 2 first for a start. Just make sure you feed him his milk just before he sleeps and if he wakes up the next round asking for milk, give him water instead. Some parents they totally do not give milk at all in the night except water so gradually the babies will know that they will not get to have milk in the night and they will learn to sleep throughout, and you can have better rest too. You can at interval too. Up to you. Never to always give in to babies or children just because they cry. Depends on situation.

Sorry for the long post but hope this helps.

Danielle - posted on 01/29/2013

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I recommend the book" happiest baby on the block!". You don't feel any different than any other new mom out there, and your want to be a good mom proves you are and will be one. We are all trudging our own motherhood path. Let him sleep until he wakes up! As long as he is sleeping at night. The book was recommended to me by my pediatrician and has been very helpful. Healthy sleep habits happy baby is another great book!

Sue - posted on 01/29/2013

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You have the best ingredient. Good momma wanting to do her best. I think babies are like people. Some sleep a lot, some don't. Both my babies slept a lot. I do think you should discuss your concerns with your doctor. I don't know about feeding tubes and doç will advise you. Congrats on your baby. It will be ok. I was a young mother, 1200 miles from home and it was scary at times. We had a great doctor It's always good to check if you have questions. It's better to know and all new mothers have questions.

Jessica - posted on 01/29/2013

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Let him sleep as long as he wants to and play with him while he is awake. As for tummy time, lay him on a rug out side where he can see everything or a blanket inside with toys around him and play with them with him, i've even used a massage with some after bath cream as a way to get my daughter to get used to her tummy, but she was a tummy sleeper so it was easier for me. As for having no idea what to do, it will come in time :) I hate to admit it but I was useless when I came to tiny bubba's but now my daughter is older it come much more naturally, just give it time an enjoy being with him.

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2013

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Just from my own recent experience with my son now 19 months, we tried to do tummy time on and off for 5 months or so and weren't to successful or dedicated and around eight months he just started to roll over on to his belly in his crib at night on his own and then crawled and walked soon after. so I'm not saying its a futile activity but if its not that fun for baby or you then hey don't worry about it! that's all. Don't worried about much just love them. They grow without any help from us! one thing i would recommend is co sleeping! that helps with the love part!

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2013

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Tabytha, I forgot that you said he was 3 months...you probably are very tired. The other moms are right you shouldn't feel guilty about getting your rest. But you will be find, a helpful support system is key though. Yes, you can do it.

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2013

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Tabytha honey, you need to find a mentor that is a strong mother to help guide you that lives in your area. You may want to seek out a local parenting group also. It would be a very good idea to do this asap. I pray that God send someone to help give you proper guidance asap. It really does not sound like a good idea to be sleeping in if he is on a feeding tube. There are so many things that can happen. And you do not want to mistake the feeding tube for the needed human interaction that your precious child needs. I commend you for asking for help.

Lindsey - posted on 01/29/2013

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At that age, I say let him sleep when he wants for as long as he wants, and you should sleep when he'll let you, too! Don't feel guilty for sleeping, as long as you go to him when he's crying :) They set their own schedules at that age, and there's nothing wrong with that. When he's awake, play for a few minutes at a time. When he gets frustrated, bored, or sleepy, that's him telling you he's had enough. Tummy time is also up to him - every child likes it at a different time. Try to do it once in the morning (when you're both fresh from a good sleep and in a good mood), and again in the afternoon, maybe after a nap, so he's fresh and awake then, too. I'm sure you're doing a great job! When my daughter was that age, I felt the same way - and she also has reflux, so I know how stressful that can be. I was FULL of questions, too. I did the same thing you are doing now - I reached out to other moms here, and they were wonderful. Other moms and your instincts are your best resources. You obviously love your little guy, so your instincts will be to comfort him if he cries, to play with him when he's happy, and so on. It's hard not to question yourself when it's all new to you, but you can do it! :) Congrats on the new little man!!!

Rebekah - posted on 01/29/2013

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I just did up to 5 mins of tummy time with my girl after 3 months old - any longer than that and she gets frustrated and doesn't like it - but after a while she stayed on her tummy for a bit longer without fussing - I just wait until she gets sick of it then pick her up :) - All kids sleep for different amounts of time - just let them sleep :) The longer they sleep the more their body is working and helping them grow and digesting milk etc so it's good , I never wake my daughter up for feeding or anything - they will let you know what they need and when - just try and pay attention to the different sounding cries they make for different things and once you have those down your pretty much sussed and it's lots easier.. haha it's like a secret language you share with them.. Communication and eye contact are really important and will help you and your baby connect and get to know each other...they take in so much when they are little so everything you can show him or do with him will help him learn - your a teacher really.. I talk to my daughter all day explaining what I am doing while shes watching me - shes only 5 months old and picks up on so much - Its really rewarding to watch them learn from you - and always praise them when they learn something - I say "oh you are so clever!" to her and she knows what it means now and gets a big grin on her face.. That's only some advice I don't think any one can really tell you what to do - you just learn as you go and different things work for different people - but the fact that you are wanting to be a better mum shows that you are already a great one :)

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2013

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I felt the same way with my son. Completely at a loss. Everyone had different advice and I just had to find the middle ground. I read the book "Babywise". You could get it online or at the library. It took care of everything.

Heather - posted on 01/29/2013

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When my daughter was 3 months old she slept all the time. All infants sleep different amount. Some may sleep 15 hours a day some only 8. At 3 months old it good. Also for tummy time once uve fed him try and put him on tummy time in morning and mid afternoon whenever hes awake long enough. Just whenever u can as long as its not at night.

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2013

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Also check with your insurance company. We found a provision in ours for nursing hours. My baby had a twin brother so this came in really helpful. Of course our insurance co. automatically denied us this and it took several months but after reporting them to the California Insurance Commision for not upholding their contract we got them to provide a nurse to come to the house for several hours a day. Be ready to advocate and not accept no for an answer.

Heather - posted on 01/29/2013

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My daughter has a nissen and g tube. She was 5 months when she had the surgery and I was told it doenst hurt her to be on her tummy. Shes now 16 months and crawls and rolls all over. Let him sleep when he wants but when hes awake play.

Angela - posted on 01/29/2013

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Call you local health department. WIC may have a nurse that would be able to come to your house and help you. Also ask about a patents as teachers program. My kids were in that and they come out to your house once a month to work with the babies and you.
Hope this works.

Shannon - posted on 01/29/2013

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Asking for help is the first step. Being a mother is scary enough let alone a child with aa disabilty and a mother with a disabilty. So many people have different views on how long a baby should sleep,when u say sleep do u mean nap or bbed time. Both my girls @ 3 months slept a good 10 hrs with a 2 hour nap in between. If his eyes are open and he is alert then it is time to wake up and start ur day with ur new bundle of joy. Interaction with ur child will create the most amazing bond,one u can never get from someone else. Tummy time can be done anytime throughout the day. U need to go to toys r us or once upon a child and buy a tummy mat. It has a long cloth tube the the baby can rest on that helps them keep their head up. With the disabilty he may not be ready for tummy time so any interaction with him with be awesome :)

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