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I need help getting my son back!! Here's my story

Emma - posted on 02/07/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm in the Sam spot. I had my son taken from me and at the time I was in able to have a home for him and money to make sure he was feed so I took trust in my xs that he wouldn't keep my child from me well he didn't for a while then he went back to court and I didn't show up the only reason I didn't show up cause I never got a letter or email or a call about the court date so I didn't know it was going on so they have him custody and my dad rights to and I'm aloud to have visits as long as my dad I there at all times well me and my dad do not get along at all and we had a fall out an now it has been two years since I've seen my son I have no help no family no money and hen I do have a job I pay child support so I have no none to save for court or a lawyer I can't even afford my bills or rent every month I'm late and everything gets turned off intoll I can pay the bills all I want is to see my son I don't mind paying child support I just want the right to see my son he needs his mother I've tried to talk to my xs he will not even pick up the phone or text back my dad will not let me see him unless his wife is there me and her hate each other long storie there but all I want to know is how can I get I to where I can see my child it's been two years and I have tried to save money but I can't I don't even have a car any more lost it couldn't pay what can I do I'm lost I cry every day I even dream about my son every night I get no wave my heart hurts all I want is to see my child. I have no criminal records I've navel done drugs I'm not a stripper I'm a good person just have no help no one to help me... Sorry this is so long but I'm lost and I just can't stand that this is happening to me or to any mother who simple just can't afford court coast I haven't done anything to have my child taken from me only thing is I have no money... And when I do I pay child sopping before my own bills or food. I don't go out to bars or drink I son even rent moves I don't even have cable I live low budget and I do this so I can save money to go to court to see my child I hate that he will not have a mother what will that do to him :( HELP

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Chaya - posted on 02/09/2013

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If you are in the US, contact the ACLU, they can refer you to a lawyer who has a talent in that situation.

Cecilia - posted on 02/07/2013

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where i live, i would just show up at the court house and ask them for paper work. i live in a very small town though so you might need a different office. Either way start off by asking the courthouse and they will tell you where to go. Same with child support simply go to the office where you have court and someone there can help you.

Emma - posted on 02/07/2013

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How do I get the court to even hear my case who do I contact about going to court?? And thank you for responding to me!! And that's a great idea about having the court have some one instead if my father!!!

Cecilia - posted on 02/07/2013

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Ok, Let's start here. You don't need to pay for a lawyer. Have the courts give you one.
You're going to have to find a way to keep your own bills in order. The courts will look at this and think you're not ready yet.

The truth is you're not ready yet. You need to get yourself in order to be able to take care of your son. Find another job, any job that will take you. I don't care if it's taking out garbage at the mall. Do what you need to do.

Always call your son. Even if they don't let you talk. Keep records of when you call. Always show up for visitation. Try to set up more if you can. I know you and your father don't get along. Maybe ask the courts if they will supervise the visits for you, they can. Just tell them you're having a hard time arranging things with your father and you would like more time with him.

When was the last time you went to child support? Maybe go in there and ask for it to be lowered. Bring in proof of how much rent and bills are, and bring pay stubs to show them that you simply can't pay that much right now.

Once you get yourself together, re-summit a claim for custody. You might not get him back full time but possibly weekends alone which is more than you have now. Do not do this before you can show you are stable. Doing so early might hurt your case.

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