i need help on custody battle

Gwen - posted on 01/30/2013

You need to talk to a lawyer and find out what options you have according to the laws in your area.

Jazmin - posted on 01/29/2013

thank you . you helped me a lot n now i really have things to think about. ill prob just focus on getting full custody of her first

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

i didn't think of it myself... I asked someone what are the pros and cons of my fiancee adopting my kids... and they told me that, and i was suprised like you i had not thought about that. I am glad i asked someone because that would have been horrible for me. I would have kicked myself for doing that. i will NEVER ask my fiancee to adopt my children. and if he asks i will tell him no.

Jazmin - posted on 01/29/2013

you know u are right that has not crossed my mind at all.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

The only reason why i would think that it may be better if my fiancee DOESN'T adopt them is that if things don't work out in the end for me and my fiancee, i don't want my fiancee to have to pay child support for my kids and i don't want to go through a custody battle and risk having my kids away from me every other week. I would not be ok with this... I wouldn't mind him coming a visiting every once in a while if we broke up, but i am so used to my kids being with me all the time, i wouldn't be comfortable with him taking them.

Jazmin - posted on 01/29/2013

yeah i know. thats what i say that my fiance is her dad bcuz he has been there since day 1. and he loves her. same here the real dad doesnt even call to see how shes doing i dont even think he knows whens her bday wen she was even born or how old she is. if anything his family is always talking crap about me n my daughter. so thats another reason i know for a fact my little girl is better off with out the negativity in her life.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

my kid's real father isn't in the picture at all either, he doesn't pay child support, doesn't send a card, doesn't call, doesn't visit, but my fiancee is their dad because of his love and support

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

don't tell her that she doesn't have a dad, if she asks let her know that she is special because her "dad" loves her so much that he chose to be around and to be her dad because his love was so strong.

Jazmin - posted on 01/29/2013

true i get you. he says he wants to adopt her bcuz he doesnt want to feel diffrent just bcuz our kids have his last name n nevaeh doesnt have his. but i understand what u are saying and he loves her too like if its his own. he loves her calling him dad. and my biggest thing is i dont want her thinking she has no dad.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

you are in the similar boat as me, i debate having my fiancee adopt my children... i think it is a good thing sometimes and then think perhaps it may be best if i don't.

MY fiancee loves my girls. he loves them as much as he loves his own daughter.

you have to ask yourself the pro's and the cons of him adopting your children. what would be the benifits? list them.... i found there was nothing really to gain by my fiancee adopting my daughters

he loves them and doesn't need a peice of paper proving it.

Jazmin - posted on 01/29/2013

i dont know where to find him. the second he found out i was pregnant he left. and no one of his family care for my daughter.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

have the father sign off all rights to your husband