I NEED HELP PLEASE I AM GOING TO DRIVE MYSELF CRAZY

Margie - posted on 12/19/2009

Hi Brittany, with everything you have been through over the last few months, have you thought about just trying to relax abit and enjoy your son. It might sound hard, but in the long run it could be what you need.

Iysha - posted on 12/08/2009

Periods can be late too you know. Wait it out a bit longer and try again (same or different brand if you'd like) in a few days to a week...maybe two...or go to the doctor and get tested there. I mean...you will find out sooner or later =] Hope you are pregnant!

Rebecca - posted on 12/08/2009

Oh a great book to read on getting pregnant is "taking charge of your fertility" It was great and 3 ppl i lent the book to became pregnant the cycle after reading it. The website is

www.tcoyf.com

I wish you the best!

Rebecca - posted on 12/08/2009

Ok so i just read that you got your period so i deleted my post lol. I would recommend you go talk to you Dr for advise on pregnancy after miscarriage. It is recommended usually to wait at least 6 months before trying to conceive again. I aws told to wait a year after i miscarried at 4months. If you conceieve too closly together after losing one the chances of carrying to term can go down and i would hate for you to have to go through it again. I have 2 kids since my miscarriage and my miscarriage and my 2 kids are a blessing! I was told i would NEVER be able to have kids after having surgery for endometreosis so i was devistated when i lost the first one. You will get pregnant again and you're right, it will be when God wants you to. I took us 2 years after we were told to start tryingt o get pregantn the first time.



Good luck!

Debbie - posted on 12/08/2009

Just give it time sometimes when you try to much it delays it. I would wait a few days before you try a pregnancy test.

Abbie - posted on 12/08/2009

just relax. it took my husband and i almost two years to get pregnant. then, when we were on vacation in the caribbean and not worrying about it, it happened. just relax and enjoy trying. :)

Brittany - posted on 12/07/2009

thank you all so much you have all been giving excellent advise, i do need to calm down...and im sad to say that i ended up starting my period yesterday morning, so i am not pregnant, but thats okay we will just keep trying until God decides it is time for us to have another. Thank you all so much!!! You have helped make this process so much smoother for me. I love on my little boy everyday and thank God for him, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me!!!! Thanks ladies for everything, maybe next month!!

Monica - posted on 12/06/2009

just go to your doctors and get a blood test done it will tell you if you are or arnt and its more accurate then a store boughten pee test good luck and god bless and i'm sorry to hear about your miscarrage i hope everything goes as planed for you~

Tracey - posted on 12/06/2009

I would say too early... it took 2 and a half years and 3 miscarragesto have my little man and I went through the cycle of am I or aren't I so many times. If you can't handle the wait a blood test can confirm the result.

Laura - posted on 12/06/2009

I'm really sorry you miscarried. That's one of the saddest things ever. My own experience was horrible and we struggled to get pregnant with my newest baby, Mason for over a year afterwards. :( Sending a big hug.

Rosa - posted on 12/06/2009

stress does not help with the period when some ladys stress it does not help the body

Marissa - posted on 12/06/2009

First of all, those pregnancy tests detect a hormone that is present in your urine during at least the first two weeks of being pregnant. That means that you should not waste your money on a test that isn't going to show something until you are pregnant for two weeks. So, if you do not get your period in two weeks, then take the test. There is a test they can do that detects the hormone in your blood but you have to go to the doctors for that and it may be expensive because it really isn't essential that you get it. I hope that helps!

Kristen - posted on 12/05/2009

Dont stress. I tried for 6 months and then when I decided to relax I got pregnant. I went to the doctor and had a pregnancy test and blood test and they both came back negative. Then I went back 2 days later and they were positive so even the blood test can sometimes not tell you.

Angela - posted on 12/05/2009

i have to agree with jakala here in your case, you maybe too stressed out at the moment of trying to either see if you are preg or if your period will show. but dont give up hope, just concentrate on something else right now. and as for the brand of pregnancy tests, i use clear blue digital, it will tell you in words if you are preg or not thats the only brand i trust, i used it when i found out i was preg with my 3 year old son, the child i miscarried in 07, and with my daughter, all came out pos. in your case stress maybe a good conducter as to why you may not be having a reg period it happens to me all the time especially when i get stressed out.

Billie - posted on 12/05/2009

I had false negative test results for both of my pregnancies. I was a month along in both pregnancies when I tried the at home test. Even tried them twice. The only way to know for sure is to go to your doctor. The tests in the doctors office are much more accurate.

Markita - posted on 12/05/2009

You got some great advice and I can't really add to it. I just wanted to give you a hug and let you know it's going to be ok.

Emily - posted on 12/05/2009

You said it--you are going to drive yourself crazy!! Of course, it is your choice when to have your second child...but my best advice is to enjoy your one year old, focus on him and enjoying the stage that he is at, and let God take care of when your next baby comes. If you stress about it, your cycle will be off-kilter anyway, and you will go crazy wondering if you are or are not pregnant. And if you just focus on your son and enjoying life, you'll get pregnant again....and if you really don't focus on it, I'm sure it'll happen soon! :) I hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!

Rozalyn - posted on 12/04/2009

Hi just so u know there are preg tests that r suppossed to tell u 5 days before missed period but if u r stressing u wont have an accurate reading. So get like clear blue easy or edt and try to relax the more stressed out u r the more u have issues with it. CHill!!! its the holidays and yes it is a wonderful thing to have happen but it will come with time. :) Good Luck

Sakshi - posted on 12/04/2009

u must wait atleast ten days after ur period date if u haven´t got ur periods. Only then take the preg test. Well I did that for my first baby and it was positive, I hope its positive for u 2. all the best. take care.

Velvet Dean - posted on 12/04/2009

The best way to get pregnant is to not try to hard. It most likely is to early to tell. Just relax and you will know soon enough. I had 22 negative test (home test and blood test) with my 13 yr old and didn't get a positive until I was 5 months and he was kicking. The doctors didn't even admit I was pregnant until I lifted my shirt and said "SEE!!" and the baby happened to kick at just the right time. So just chill out and let things happen normally and when you and your husband/boy friend start to make love don't go into it with the frame of mind of conceiving a child. That is my advice.

Darlene - posted on 12/04/2009

Hi Brittany. I had two miscarriages and I was always told to wait at least six weeks before trying again. It gives the uterus a chance to heal and the chance for the fertilization to take. Good luck. DJ :O)

Angie - posted on 12/04/2009

I would wait a few days then get a blood test at the doctors office. It is not too early for a pregnancy test, but if you have been given false negatives in the past then you need a blood test for confirmation, but I would wait about a week before doing that.

Sandy - posted on 12/04/2009

Patience. It is probably too early.

Brenda - posted on 12/04/2009

you are getting some good advice here. enjoy the one you have. it will happen again when the time is right. good luck and God will bless you and your family.

Cornish - posted on 12/04/2009

hello love first thing is calm down all of the above is right it could be the brand, just give it a week or so then tryalthough it isnt to early to takea test, but if ur are really strssed which will effect ur period let me know how u get on good luck

Carolyn - posted on 12/04/2009

Most all brands have the same percentage of accuracy. Do not get your hopes up, but also do loose hope. God will know when you are ready. Have faith and patients. Your miracle will happen as it should. Be blessed and enjoy what you have and your blessing will arrive as God has scheduled. God Bless and I can feel your loss, I have had a miscarriage as well. God does know what is right and trust in him it helps. Many blessings in the future.

Mary Lou - posted on 12/04/2009

GO TO THE DOCTOR! Your doctor can tell you if you are indeed pregnant and can also tell you if your body is READY to be pregnant again yet. Take a little time to enjoy the miracle God has already given you and when the time is right, he will give you another one. Please consider your pysical health though. You already have one miracle that needs you. I will say a prayer for you! Best wishes!

Susan Tait - posted on 12/04/2009

I agree, be patient and relax. Your body has just been through a pregnancy and a miscarriage....give it time to get back to normal.
Take a deep breath ....and enjoy your little one.

Karin - posted on 12/04/2009

I agree with the others as far as be patient. my son never showed pos on a home preg test!! turns out I was low on the hormone that shows- just waited and got a blood test after a few weeks, and poof, i was pregnant!

Gina - posted on 12/04/2009

Sorry to hear you had a miscarriage, when i heard my friend lost a baby, like you she already has one healthy child, i asked her to not worry, that maybe the baby was not formed properly and could not have had a good quality of life in that case. It's easier said than done, but just carry on as normal, when your body is ready, it will happen. Don't drive yourself nuts, that won't help anyone. Give yourself a chance to recover and enjoy Christmas with the family, try again in the New Year. Wishing you and yours well.

Micaella - posted on 12/03/2009

Hi Brittany .... Pregnancy tests normally give a result 2 weeks after your starting date. If you would like to find out before then it's best to go to your doc and do a blood test as this would show your count.
I'm sorry about your miscarriage i know what it's like and can relate.
Good Luck and let me know how it goes.
MIcaella.

Stephanie - posted on 12/03/2009

Check out a book called 'The child Bearing Year" it has many herbs and plants to help with conception as well as things to avoid that can cause miscarriage. Are you still breast feeding? That can effect your chances of getting pregnant again. Also stress can make your period late, so don't count to much on that as a sign. I would also suggest drinking mother to be tea. It has raspberry and stinging nettle which strengthens the uterus and kidneys, that should help you keep a baby if you get pregnant again. I personally like the Yogi brand of this tea.

Amber - posted on 12/03/2009

Stress can cause your body to act funny and may make your periods irregular. Also you can buy early detection pregnancy tests if you cannot wait to see if you completely miss your period. If you are really anxious you can go to your obgyn for a blood/urine test to check for sure. I've had 5 children and knew I was pregnant within the first 2-3 weeks of being pregnant. Stress has also made me irregular. If you are one day late then a normal pregnancy test will work. Wait another week and take another one if your period hasn't showed up yet. Keep me posted. Best wishes to you.

Adrienne - posted on 12/03/2009

Quoting elizabeth:

well when i took my first prego test when i was pregnant with my daughter it came back negative and i was at a clinic getting it done the nurse told me to come back in 2 weeks and she would do it again if i still hadn't started so i waited 2 wks and when i went back the test showed up posaitive so and i would wait at least a wk after your missed period to take another test to because if your period was supposed to be today then it is way to soon to tell

I agree! I knew I was pregnant went to the clinic to take a test it came out negative and they told me to come back in a week if I hadn't started which I did and it was positive. Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 12/03/2009

Wow! You've gotten some VERY GOOD advice. I agree with just about everybody, which is a MIRACLE! Relaxing will help you get pregnant, or so my doctor said. Stress hormones are not healthy for you, healing your body or helping you get pregnant again. God's blessings on you and your family, as displayed in your little girl. Best Wishes.

Sharon - posted on 12/03/2009

be patient God will let you know just have faith wait awhile try not to stress it could give you a false reading

Jessica - posted on 12/03/2009

my friend just found out she was pregnant 4 days after her due date and with 2 previous tests showing as negative.. just give it a few days.

Kelsey - posted on 12/03/2009

Try clear blue digital, they always worked great for me. As far as getting you hopes up, it seems to be 50/50. Do you know how to tell if you ovulating? Its usually in the middle of your cylcle when your discharge changes. Depending on your body, it could be thicker, white, or clear, but its a definate change in texture or amount. Thats usually the only window you have in the month. Its about 3 days.

Rebekah - posted on 12/03/2009

I think that your best advice has been given by Denise Hibben - she is a midwife and her advice is sound. I am a great-grannie and so so sympathise both with your sad loss and your desperation to have another child. As Denise says, please give your body a chance to recover from the birth of your little boy - he is only 1 year old - and from your very recent miscarriage. I usually advise my grand-daughters to let their bodies have a rest for 12 months before trying again. Enjoy your little boy and enjoy your husband - he loves you very mcuh and will understand if you need to use contraception. Relax and chill out a bit, honey - enjoy being a Mom. All will be well. I wish you luck and send you good vibes. Rebekah ;~)))

Nicole - posted on 12/03/2009

I was pregnant and my pregnancy test was negetive untill i was nearly 6 weeks. Try another brand of pregnancy test but just wait a little longer and try again.

Danelle - posted on 12/03/2009

U should go and see ur dr. they can take ur blood to c if ur pregnant again. also after having a miscariage so soon u want them to keep an eye on u asap be careful good luck

Heather - posted on 12/03/2009

I found out that early with all three of my pregnancies. If you know your body well enough and have a feeling you are take another test. I used clear blue pregnancy tests for all three of mine. They are supposed to give you results sooner. Wait until the morning when your urine is most concentrated... if it's negative wait a few days and try another one. Don't stress too much. A negative test result isn't always right it could just mean it's too early to tell. Good luck!

Krista - posted on 12/03/2009

Were you not told that you should wait at least 3 months after a miscarriage to try again? It's not healthy for you to be starting again so soon.

Marissa - posted on 12/03/2009

it could be to early mine came up negative at that stage you could always go to the doctors and get a blood test to be sure

Denise - posted on 12/03/2009

Wait a little bit.. Let your body heal from the birth of your 1 year old, and the miscarriage. It takes approximately 18 months after birth for your body to return to its prepregnant state.

As for the pregnancy tests, wait another week, and then retest first thing in the morning. First morning urine is more concentrated, and the hCg levels (what the pregnancy tests are looking for) will be highest. Also, make sure you are eating a very good diet. Get rid of artificial sweeteners... well artificial anything really, Eat lots of fresh fruits and veggies, make sure you are getting enough iron (dont take iron supplements with dairy or other calcium... calcium blocks the absorption of iron, vitamin c helps with iron absorption.) Make sure you are getting plenty of folic acid in your diet, as well as vitamin D, and lots of protein. Other than that, relax and enjoy the time with your man... make sex fun and relaxing... not a chore... It will help... You can also get an ovulation kit that lets you know the optimally fertile days of your cycle...

Good luck Brittany! I hope every thing goes well for you!

Love and Light,

Denise Hibben,

Student Midwife

Kelly - posted on 12/03/2009

I had a false negative with my last child (when I was two weeks late), so I no longer trust the tests you do at home. I would just wait (even though it is so hard to do!), and go to a doctor in a few days. I hope for your sake you are, but try not to stress over it too much if you are not. If it is meant to happen, it will, in God's time.

Sadie - posted on 12/03/2009

i know how your feeling i had 3 miscarriges .last time i got pregnant i did about 6 tests all said different .all you can do is hope and you will get there with time .in the mean time enjoy the child you have now

Cassie - posted on 12/03/2009

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. Miscarriages are hard to deal with, I've had several and it never gets easier. My doctor always advised me to wait at least three months between attempts to get pregnant. There could be a lot of reasons for you not starting your period and stress is one of them. It sounds like you've got yourself all freaked out hoping to be pregnant, which I understand, but you're not helping yourself. Calm down and relax, it'll happen, just give it some time. If you still haven't started in a couple of days, buy a new pregnancy test, a different brand, and test again. But, first and foremost, RELAX!

Alison - posted on 12/03/2009

Sweetheart, why the rush??? Take a deep breath and take it easy. Take precautions as though you may be pregnant, but probably wait for some symptoms before doing another test. I'm sure that a period does not always resume normally immediately following a miscarriage.



Enjoy your son and thank God for him. Your next treasure will come at the right time.

Maranda - posted on 12/03/2009

I would try another brand, EPT first response is suppose to be good. Also some women don't create the hormone right away that the pregnancy test reads, so that could be your problem with the faulty readings. Hope everything goes well for you and good luck.