I Need some advice

Mika - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My sister has asked me to watch her 3 year old son when she has her daughter in June. My problem is that he's bigger than my 2 year old by about a foot and outweighs her by a good 20 lbs (he's a big boy) and he's mean to her. He will hit her, knock her down, sit on her and take things away from her just so she can't have them (he puts them up out of her reach). My daughter also starts exhibiting behavior problems when she's around him such as hitting and throwing tantrums that she doesn't do around other kids. He also can't talk well so he grunts a lot and when she's around him she stops talking as well. He's in speech therepy so it's not his fault he can't talk but it's hard to get her to use her words again after she's around him. I'm worried he's going to hurt her and I've talked to my sister about it many times before but she brushes it off as boys being boys. There are other people who could watch him while my sister is in the hospital but she wants him somewhere he has another child to play with. I love my nephew but I'm not sure if him coming to my house is a good idea. Any advice?

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Candace - posted on 05/13/2010

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Make sure you have an honest and open discussion with your sister about her son's behaviour. Tell her you will be happy to watch her son if she agrees to let you enforce your behaviour guidelines with her son. If you really love your nephew, you need to give him some important discipline and guidance that it sounds like he is in need of. Once you establish the rules in your home with your nephew and he sees consequences for breaking them, future visits will become easier and you will have done the family and your nephew a service.

JuLeah - posted on 05/13/2010

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I think it is fine to set the boundry. Protect your child and maybe it will be the wake up call your sister needs. What will this boy do to his new brother or sister?
Boys will be boys is the bull be say when we want to ignore bad behavior. The thing is, this boy is learning this behavior from someone. Kids don't just act like this. It is learned. It can be unlearned, but your sister needs to get on this fast. That boy wll be bigger then her someday.