Tarsha - posted on 12/14/2009 ( 118 moms have responded )
Ok this is going to be a long one ... just warning you... I got into a relationship with a guy 3 months younger than me he moved in with me and my parents. He was a really nice guy for the first 3-4 months and then he verbally abused my mother, controlled me and verbally abused me (a mate of mine said he saw him hit me across the face but i don't remember that) I feel pregnant to him and that was ok except he kept going on to me about wanting to move out and for us to get a place of our own. Except i kept telling him no as he wasn't working and i was on a benefit as i wasn't aloud to work because of a car accident. That i wanted to stay at home with my parents so we could get some savings behind us so we could support our child. He wasn't happy about this and one night we got into a big argument about this and he got so angry he went for a walk at about 1am. My dad got up at saw me in tears and asked me what was going on and if i was ok. I told him what was going on and my dad had had enough of his bull and when my partner got home my father asked him to leave. I was going to stay with him but let him leave and me stay at home UNTIL he walked out of my home and abused my father and my dad went out there and asked what he was saying and then kept asking him to leave and he wouldn't leave my dad asked him to leave about 5 times and he would leave. My partner then punched my dad in the face. I watched this all from my bedroom. I was NOT happy about any of this. I then stopped contact with him so i could calm down. i then thought we could work things out but he got even more controlling and abusive via text and his mother got in on the act. They were saying i should abort that i was nasty cause i told my baby's father that it was over. Then the baby's Nana told me that just cause im pregnant doesn't mean i couldn't be hurt she knew how much my parents meant to me and told they could end up broken i got very upset about this and went to the police station and went through court and got protection orders out on them. That helped me through my pregnancy. Then when my son was born the hospital helped and put the hospital into lock down so that anyone that came in had to be identified. 3 months later we went through court proceedings so my son's father could have visitation rights to see our son as i was worried if he could do that to me and my family what could he do to our son if he wouldn't stop crying. So he got visitation rights which was fine by me He was allowed to see our son every Thursday for 2 hours from 9am till 11am. He turned up for the first few weeks and then he started coming up with excuses why he couldnt come and see our son. Sleeping probs, Not enough gas etc.. He keeps telling me that he still loves me etc. but i had told him that we are not going to get back together as im not willing to put our son through that. Thats when he turned so nasty. He started telling me he didnt want the supervisor there as he wants to just spend time with me and my son. Then he told me to choose between the supervisor and him?? I choose the supervisor as i don't want my son getting hurt. And i know thats all my babys dad is going to do. I am going full custody. He didnt come to our first court hearing for custody. Then we ended up in a big argument via text and he told me not to contact him anymore and if i did he would get a protection order out on me and take custody. Does anyone have any advice for me and am i doing the right thing ???