I need suggestions for what to do about my 5-1/2 year old who is still wetting the bed every night.

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Kristin - posted on 03/27/2009

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HI! Our eight year old son is still having problems. The pediatrician said not to worry unless it continued after nine. He is just a HEAVY sleeper, which I think is nice, wish I was :-)

One thing our pediatrician had us try was making sure that he got enough fluid DURING

THE DAY and to make sure he was emptying his bowels daily. There is evidently some sort of connection between the bowel and bladder schedules for the little ones.



Hope that helps!

Tammy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I have a seven year old boy who still has issues with this.....i have taken him to get checked and its a common problem that will work itself out.  They told me that my son's bladder was undeveloped and when his bladder got full it didn't send the signal to his brain to wake him up.  The doctor said give it time it could be till he is a pre-teen before he actually out grows this.  I guess thats why they came out with the "goodnites" for the kids cause more and more people are discussing it. 

Wendy - posted on 03/26/2009

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I had the same problem.  My son was shuch a heavy sleeper he didn't wake up.  We started getting him up just befor we went to bed and had him go.  he wasn't very happy about it.  We also got him up about two or three in the morning.  After a while he this seemed to help his body know when he had to go and be able to wake up so he could go by himself.  Hope this helps.



Wendy

Christine - posted on 03/26/2009

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my sister once told me that a scout leader told her that they have a lot of scouts that still have a problem with wetting at night when they go to scout camp---and they have to be 11 or 12 to go on overnighters.  i think that most of them are just heavy sleepers. 



they did a really cute show about wetting at night on an "aurthur" episode.  the character who actually wet at night dropped her pull up on the floor, and to avoid embarrassment, had pretended it belonged to someone else and made fun of it.  one of the other characters kind of chewed her out for making fun of someone who still had a problem with wetting at night because they couldn't help it.

Rachelle - posted on 03/25/2009

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Like the other comments, it may be a medical problem. My son wet the bed until he was around seven because he slept so soundly ( a fire alarm counldn't always wake him up) that he just didn't wake up. He finally outgrew that and wakes up. Meanwhile, that is is frustrating and I agree with the pull-ups. Make sure you get a waterproof bed lilner and you may want to consider waking him up a few hours after he has gone to bed to take another bathroom break.

Christine - posted on 03/25/2009

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buy him pull ups and don't worry about it.  i have 9 kids and they all quit wetting the bed at different times.   i just don't think it is that big of a deal---except for the inconvenience of having to change the bedsheets----especially if the mattress gets wet.   my 8th child was out of diapers at night while her two older siblings where still wetting the bed.   happily------all of my children can stay dry all night now!!!

Catherine - posted on 03/25/2009

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I want to thank everyone for their kind words and words of advice.  Sebastian is my first and only child and I have no practice with this.  The only reason I was worried is that my mom was really forcing the issue and made me feel pretty bad about it.  All of your advice has been really, really helpful!  Thanks!!!!

Cheryl - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Joan:

Children usually wet the bed for two reasons: physical or psychological sometimes they have what is sometimes called an imature bladder, and in that case the child is unable to hold their urine at night. Pull ups are a great help.
If the issue is psychological it could be something as simple as the child is afraid to get up in the middle of the night, because it looks scary, or something is going in their lives that they cannot verbalize. It is important to make the child feel as if it is ok. That this happens to alot of kids. Making them feel secure is a good start. Also I assume the child goes to bed before you, so on your way to bed, go into their room and take them to the bathroom, even if they are half asleep. We did this to one of our children and the child was so proud of himself to wake up dry. Also you may consider putting a potty in their bedroom.
THough it may be an issue now, it will not be long lasting.
It takes patience, praise and perserverence to get through it.
Good luck!






This is prety much what I siad in the other thread and by far I believe ths to be the best, it was what was recommended by health visitors and professionals when we came to toilet training our kids. As I sai on the other thread, this method worked really well with all 4 and I think it was because we never ever made a fuss over the few accidents we did have, and it was all kept minimum fuss and low key lie it was no big deal. Of course dry beds got big, pride filled hugs and kisses each morning :)

Rebecca - posted on 03/24/2009

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My six year old son is having this problem as well. Although, his is psychological, at least IMO.  He started wetting the bed only after several changes had occurred in a short period of time. Leaving him confused and insecure.  I took him to a counselor who suggested that not only should we make him go potty before bed and cut off fluids at a certain time. 



The counselor also suggested making a chart with each hour of the night on it.  Going in and checking on him every hour to find out about what time he was actually wetting the bed.  In my son's case it is about midnight.  So at the counselors suggestion I go in at 11:30 to take him potty.  But before I put him in front of the toilet, I have to wake him up completely by splashing his face with cold water.  It sounds cruel, but the purpose is to train the brain to wake the child up at that exact time so that he can get himself up to go potty.    It is working, but it does take time.  And remember to leave a nightlight on, so that when he does start to wake up on his own, the dark wont prevent him from going to the bathroom.

Barbara - posted on 03/24/2009

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My oldest son had this problem, but he outgrew it by the time he was at the end of kindergarten or the summer before 1st grade. He was a hard sleeper with a small bladder. He just did not wake up to go to the bathroom. Our routine was to just put a pull-up on him at bedtime and not make a big deal of it. I asked the pediatrician who told me not to worry about it unless it continued into 1st grade. We never forced him up in the middle of the night to interrupt his REM sleep, and we told him that some kids just sleep harder than others. The main thing is to not make him feel bad about it, and not worry too much. Your child will probably outgrow it. My middle son was totally different, and my littlest son was the same as my oldest. They are all different!

Traci - posted on 03/24/2009

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We set an alarm clock to wake up so I could get my son up in the middle of the night to go to the rest room, plus stopping liquids 2 hours before bed.  It took about 3 weeks for it to be a habit and then he would wake up without the alarm clock or my help.  We did have to adjust the time a little, because at first we started after he had already had an accident.  After a couple of tries we found a time just before it happened and continued with that time until he would get up on his own.  I think we did it about 4am.

Tracy - posted on 03/24/2009

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I had this problem with my oldest son too - check his fluid intake during the night. We limited drinks after dinner to 1 at snack time. Made 2 bathroom stops before bed - 1 before bath, 1 before actually going to bed - and we also woke him up at 11:30 before we went to bed to go one more time. This worked for us - we noticed by the time he was 6 that he would either get up on his own and go or sleep through the night without a problem. FYI - we tried a portable potty in his room for awhile, but it just invited disaster - he kept missing the bowl! Most of all, be patient. If he just started Kindergarten this year, the change in his life style could have stepped him back a little. It will get better!

Shawn - posted on 03/24/2009

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Try limiting drinks after dinner and wake your child up before you go to bed and if you get up in the middle of the nite.

Sabrina - posted on 03/24/2009

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It may not be his fault. My son does they same and it is for health reasons. You can get pills to make his bladder stronger from your doctor. I needed to get them from my son because his bladder isn't strong enough and he didn't know he had to go when he was sleeping

Lisa - posted on 03/24/2009

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This was done with my daughter by her father. Every night as a rule he would wake her to use the potty. This have to be done regularly say two to three times for the night. Starting to wake her from 1-2hrs after she fell asleep. This is time consuming and takes love and patience. It worked. But I can't remember for how long it was done. If she was not waked up she will wet the bed. there were lapses, but he didn't give up.

Angela - posted on 03/24/2009

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Whatever you end up doing, please don't ever make your child feel bad. He can't help it. You may have to get into a routine of getting up with your child in the middle of the night to take them to the potty.

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My daughter wet the bed periodically up until the age of 7 and then we just started to see a decrease after that and it just quit on its own.  Our pediatrician just said that her bladder wasn't mature enough to hold it at night yet and that was very common.  I also was a bed wetter when I was young so I could relate to her.  As frustrating as it got sometimes, my husband and I tried not to make a big deal out of it.  We did use plastic sheets on the bed because it wasn't an every night occurence.  She would just get up in the morning and pull her sheets off and change her clothes and put new sheets on when it happened.  Low and behold one night she went to bed and never did it again.  If there isn't something physically wrong, which a trip to a urologist would ease your mind, it is something that too will pass in time.  Good luck to you!!

Heidi - posted on 03/24/2009

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what worked with my son was stopping the drinking after 7pm and try going potty before bed and that helps but it took him a while and he's almost 6....every child develops differently

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Children usually wet the bed for two reasons: physical or psychological sometimes they have what is sometimes called an imature bladder, and in that case the child is unable to hold their urine at night. Pull ups are a great help.

If the issue is psychological it could be something as simple as the child is afraid to get up in the middle of the night, because it looks scary, or something is going in their lives that they cannot verbalize. It is important to make the child feel as if it is ok. That this happens to alot of kids. Making them feel secure is a good start. Also I assume the child goes to bed before you, so on your way to bed, go into their room and take them to the bathroom, even if they are half asleep. We did this to one of our children and the child was so proud of himself to wake up dry. Also you may consider putting a potty in their bedroom.

THough it may be an issue now, it will not be long lasting.

It takes patience, praise and perserverence to get through it.

Good luck!

Michelle-Lee - posted on 03/24/2009

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Boy or girl? My daughter is close to 6 and wore a pull-up going to bed until recently. She is a very sound sleeper and couldn't wake up to go. My middle boy wore a pull-up also until 5 1/2. He is soooo active during the day and sleeps so soundly at night that he would have accidents and was very upset about it. What we did for him for a while was minimize drinks after dinner, encourage him to go to the bathroom a couple of times right before bed, and wake him up at around 10 or 11 to go. That seemed to help him.



Of course, if you think it is a problem, you should talk to your pediatrician.



Good luck to your little one!

Christina - posted on 03/24/2009

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There is a lot of bedwetting info on the diaper websites. Check out goodnites site and pullups, they have a dvd's and expert info

Darlene - posted on 03/24/2009

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Have you tried having your 5 yr old wear the night time pull-ups that you can purchase?  Wetting the bed at night has to do with the maturity of a certain part of the brain, and every kid develops at different ages, some kids wet the bed until they are 8 or longer.

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I had this problem with my younger son.  Take him to the pediatrician.  My son's problem was that his bladder was not keeping up with his growth rate.  Chances are there is a medical reason for the bedwetting. 

Jenny - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Catherine:

I need suggestions for what to do about my 5-1/2 year old who is still wetting the bed every night.



I ws a bed wetter growing up, I stopped after spending the night at someone elses house. I made sure I went before bed and didn't get a night time drink.



Now days you can get those Underjams, They did have free samples @ walmart.com  , on the Instores link under free samples..They may still be threr

Helen - posted on 03/24/2009

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Have you ever tried taking him to a ciropracter, My son did that as well. so I took him to one and he stop from that moment on.They told me that  his bladder  was not in place  so he massaged it back into place. 

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