Im so tired and unfulfilled

Leigh - posted on 07/12/2012

No problem. I appreciate the update. Glad you took our advice and spoke to your doctor and partner. Hope all goes well. Keep us in the loop.

Lyndsay - posted on 07/11/2012

First off, Thank you for responding to me.
I went to the doctor and took a list of all the things that have been happening with my daughter and explained how she doesnt eat or sleep and he referred me to a pediatrician to have her intestines looked and what not.
I have been talking with my partner and he is going to help me a little more around the house.
I think I have been just trying to hard to do everything and putting it upon myself to keep our life running at a norm- Which it never does..
I spoke with the doc a little about how i have been feeling as well. I just need some time for myself to enjoy alone time and do things I want... To remember who i am other then just mum.

Thanks for the support.

Louise - posted on 07/03/2012

Leigh is right, you need to sort your state of mind first so that you can deal with the other issues. Then find yourself a job, it sounds to me you would be happier working than staying at home all day, there is no shame in that, some mums prefer to work, so what! If you find a job that you would like to do then look into day care options. You may be able to afford a child minder in the area rather than a nursery. Just make sure they are registered and checked by the local authority. When you get paid divide the pay into 4 and only spend the weeks allowance on bills and food. It is quite easy to budget if you know what your limits are. Keep a book with all your bills in and write what you spend in there too. Keep a check of the total so you know how much you have left in the bank.

Now the sleeping sounds like more of a habit than a need for food. You have to stand firm with your little one now, at 11 months they do not require a feed in the night so stop. I know this means letting them cry it out, and that is a stressful time, but it only takes a few nights and once she has learnt to sleep through your life will seem so much better. There is nothing worse than broken sleep every night.

This is your time to claw back your life, if you want to work, work, sometimes it makes you a better parent. A happy mum has a happy baby!

Leigh - posted on 07/03/2012

First off, have you talked to your doctor about how you are feeling and the way your daughter is reacting to solid foods? Is it possible that she is allergic to something in the solid food that is causing her to dislike it? You might want to have her tested for allergies if you haven't already. I'll tell you right now, you aren't failing anyone in your life. Have you told your family and friends what you are going through and how you are feeling? If so, how do they react? If not, you need to sit down and talk to them in detail about everything. If your family lives nearby, maybe you can work something out with them to take your daughter for a couple days to give you time to get your house in order so you feel better in that sense. This will also give you and your partner time alone which sounds to be VERY much needed. If family isn't available, maybe some friends would like to take her to give you a break. Every mom needs a break from their children even if it is for just an hour, especially with as stressed as you are sounding. I hope this helps you in some way. Please let me know how things go and if you want to ask me anything on my advice go ahead. Good luck Lyndsay.