interfering idoits?

Kelly - posted on 07/19/2009

The worst one that i got was at the grocery store on day, i had my son, and my sisters 3 girls and her son, they all look like they could be brothers and sisters......so i was at the store and they are all really good the 2 little ones ride in the cart and the other 3 either hold onto the cart or hold hands and walk behind me, keep in mind that the oldest is 6years old....it happened about 3 weeks ago....i was shopping and i always let the kids pick out a bag of candy if they are good while we are out and about....well we were in the candy isle and an older woman comes stands next to me and says....wow you must be really busy how do you have any time in bed with your husband??? I just said we manage...then she says that maybe i should go to the free clinic and get some birth controll that way we don't have baby number 6.....i looked at her and said "well maybe we are trying for baby number 6" and OMG you should have seen the look on her face......she turned and walked away and i laughed.....the kids said "that old lady thought you were our mom" so if she would have even listened to the kids talk then she would have heard them call me by name and not "mommy" but she just jumped to conclusions and thought they were mine......

Nancy - posted on 07/19/2009

I haven't had it too bad, I think. but it always blows me away when complete strangers demand to know whether we're going to have more kids (we have one) and then insist that we should. They have no idea of my circumstances, maybe my partner is gone, maybe I'm unable to have more, maybe I just don't want to. As it is, we're planning to adopt a foster child in a couple years and the warnings people give me about adopting, let alone foster kids, is horrific-basically how the adopted child will necessarily be a crack baby and kill us all in our sleep. It's infuriating to me how this country loves babies and expects everyone to have them, but gives almost no support to children and especially unwanted children.

Jana - posted on 07/18/2009

I too lost a child at 20 weeks. My first born son was born still born. I was living at home and not with his father at the time and my mom of all people said to me "you probably don't even care that your baby died". I was devastated because she was my only support and she betrayed me. I moved out that night. I have since had 2 wonderful children and have repaired my relationship with my mom.

Michelle - posted on 07/18/2009

I lost my first baby at 9 weeks and it was the hardest thing that has ever happened to me! If someone had ever said anything like that to me I would probably loose my mind on them! I now have a beautiful 7 month old girl and so far I have been very lucky! No one has said anything except that she looks small for her age. And that's the truth! SHe is very small for her age.

Carrie - posted on 07/18/2009

i think it's awful what happened to you, sickening! i could never imagine in the whole world how i would feel if that were me. i feel guilty because when i had my son another mother was pregnant at the same time, we were 3 weeks apart! i had my son and three weeks later her baby was born still born. i have to see her everyday at school, so coo's over my baby, holds him talks to me and i have no idea how she must be feeling. i tried to avoid her for a bit but she wanted to be around me. i don't think it matters when you loose a baby 8 weeks, 16 weeks, 40 weeks, full term, cot death, meningitus, car accidents, even when the child is 18 years old! as long as you outlive your children it's heartache, i would never wish this apon anyone, i know i would never cope, i don't know what i'd do. and if someone said that to me, i think i'd slap them in the face!

Emma - posted on 07/18/2009

That comment is really horrible and it really angers me that someone can even think that let alone say it. A friend of mine on finding out I was pregnant told me that I had time to get rid of it. I haven't spoken to her since because I was really angered and upset. I also had a stranger come up to me when my daughter was crying and told me to shut her up or get off the street. I was still hormonal and just ran home crying. Sometimes strangers can be helpful with what they say but the majoirity of the time hey take the biscuit.

Emma - posted on 07/18/2009

O my God, Ive had some rude comments but that one takes the Cake !!
I find it hard to belive that anyone could be so thoughtless and hurtfull!
The rudest comment ive ever had was that i would be an awful mother !
And should not be aloud to have children. that was from my sister in law.

Clare - posted on 07/17/2009

my husbands nan had 13 children and brough them up in a 3 bedroom house they weren't on benefits he was a builder n taught his sons the trade, now she has 40-odd granchildren n over 100 great grandchildren! people weren't as jugding back then god noes what reaction she would get now days! people have way to much time on there hands to go round commenting on strangers lifes!

Kelly - posted on 07/17/2009

I can't believe some of the things people say. I think the one thing I have heard more than once is "haven't you figured out birth control yet" we have three boys close in age, and we are having our 4th. I feel like it isn't anyone's business. As long as we support our children what does it matter to anyone else if we have 1 or 10.

Marta - posted on 07/17/2009

I've never had anyone say anything like that, I think it's digusting. I think the worst comments I've gotten are about my age (I'm 21 with 3 kids) and how I must be very irresponsible or on welfare since that's the only way they can see that my husband and I would be able to raise our children. I just smirk and tell them that at least I'll be able to play with my grandchildren in the future. These comments usually come from protentious 30 somethings with no children who are still looking for that special someone to settle down with. For the most part we get compliments on our children's behaviour and our ability to raise them even though we're so young.

Lori - posted on 07/17/2009

Quoting Elizabeth:

Moms, let it go! It is only going to eat you alive, not the person who said it. There are alot of rude and abupt people out there and you need to just keep going. So sorry when a baby does go to heaven, my condolences. God Bless

I do agree about letting it go but just had to share my story - it makes me giggle a little at work all the time!

When I was just about to leave work for the impending birth of my daughter (now almost 3), a member of staff made a derogatory comment about the worthlessness of all babies  and implied that they should not be brought into the world.  This is not the actual comment as I really can't remember what she said, but it was enough for my jaw to hit the floor.  I must add she is childless and will never have chn - breeds dogs instead!  I actually complained to my manager as it would have been exceptionally devastating had I experienced a miscarriage or loss.  She was spoken to and hasn't spoken to me since!  When I returned to work some 2 yrs 9 mths later, I couldn't for the life of me remember what had happened to make her so grumpy with me till someone else reminded me of it!  I think in this case I won the battle but by the same token, I let it go!

Cyndi - posted on 07/17/2009

Quoting sarah:

my son died in delivery room,and people kept telling me "its nothing compared with having a kid for a few months and it dying of cotdeath" that came from a family memeber

People who have never lost a child have NO CONCEPT of the agony, guilt, despair, anger, etc. that go along the loss of a child.  It's stunning to me that anyone could even open their mouth to say something so incredibly thoughtless & hurtful.  Obviously they were never taught "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."  I'm sorry someone was that cruel to you at a time when you need love & support more than any other time.

Angela - posted on 07/17/2009

I used to get all kinds of comments due to the fact my children were (and still are) large/tall for their ages. And it never failed to amaze me that people didn't look at their TALL mother and figure it out LOL





I've had people tell me I should be ashamed for letting my 3 year old use a binky (my son was only about 18 months old), that I shouln't let my 4 year old drag around a blanket (my daughter was only about 2) or that my 5 year old shouldn't still be drinking a bottle (my youngest son was about 2 1/2).





I simply told 'em all that they were my children and I'd let them have their binky/blanket/bottle as long as I damn well pleased and they could go get stuffed LOL Although I used a word that begins with F LOL





The comments on the loss of a child though are beyond the pale. That is so wrong it's just beyond belief. Kick 'em in the privates next time.

Clare - posted on 07/17/2009

Quoting Rabecca:

I was an unmarried teen mother, one day at a public park I was sitting with a few male friends watching my 2 year old daughter play. I had a couple come up and tell me and the guy I was sitting closet too that we had a beautiful little girl, I thanked them and he mentioned she wasnt his. They couple then turned to my 2 yo child and told HER she was an evil little bastard and she was going to hell. I was 18 and they were an olderish couple, so I was at a loss for words I was so MAD. Fortunately my guy friend swept up my little girl, hugged her, told the couple to mind their own business.and explained that this was why she was not to talk to strangers.

im very shocked that some1 would say that to your own child, they were useing swear at your daughter yet by doing that they were trying to tell you what a bad decision you have made seems a bit hypercritical to me. im so sorry that they said that i wish u n yr daughter well! x

Kyrsten - posted on 07/16/2009

Dear one, I am so sorry that elderly couple said such an awful thing to your daughter. Your friend's response was wonderful! Grownups can be so horrible sometimes. I wouldn't call them childish because I've never heard a child say something that awful. Keep loving on that beautiful little one. -A mom of two

Rabecca - posted on 07/16/2009

I was an unmarried teen mother, one day at a public park I was sitting with a few male friends watching my 2 year old daughter play. I had a couple come up and tell me and the guy I was sitting closet too that we had a beautiful little girl, I thanked them and he mentioned she wasnt his. They couple then turned to my 2 yo child and told HER she was an evil little bastard and she was going to hell. I was 18 and they were an olderish couple, so I was at a loss for words I was so MAD. Fortunately my guy friend swept up my little girl, hugged her, told the couple to mind their own business.and explained that this was why she was not to talk to strangers.

Mary - posted on 07/16/2009

People thought my daughter-in-law was too young to be pregnant, and she was 20. Not that it was anyone's business. I agree, though, people are thoughtless and ignorant. So you ignore them and get on with your life. You can't change them, but you can respect yourself.

Holly - posted on 07/16/2009

my daughter (step, but I don't call her that) was born when I was 16 years old. I did not come into her life until she was 3, but I love her as my own. When we go places I don't stop to explain to exery single person that she's not mine biologically, I don't think it's any of their business... So that's the backstory behind the rudest thing done to me...



My hubby and I were getting car insurance and we had my daughter (by then she was 5) with us. She was sitting inmy lap being her usual talkative self. She was telling the insurance lady how old she was, her favorite things, etc (she is a very sociable little girl!). Then the insurance lady asks for our driver's licenses so she can run our records and literally as soon as she sees my birth year I can see her doing the math in her head. All of a sudden she can no longer sell insurance to us, even though we have good credit and no accidents on our records. She judged me based on how old she thought I was when I had a child and that is the rudest thing anyone has ever done or said.

Karen - posted on 07/16/2009

Quoting wendy:

While walking in the mall with my Twins, and two children I was caring for, a gentelman walked up to me and said..."You know, they make a pill for that!". I was stunned! He just kept walking. By the time I realised what was said he was too far away to slap!

That's the thing that gets me... people assuming things about you because you have a child... (or 12!) ...with you.  When I was about 14, my boyfriend and I took my little cousin to the park.  While we were there some old bitty felt the need to tell me how stupid I was for having a baby so young and that someone should have taken it away from me before it was ever born.  I was stunned... my boyfriend layed into her!!!  Then, when I did have a baby at 20... I was still looked down on because everyone thought I was only 16!!!

Karen - posted on 07/16/2009

Quoting wendy:

While walking in the mall with my Twins, and two children I was caring for, a gentelman walked up to me and said..."You know, they make a pill for that!". I was stunned! He just kept walking. By the time I realised what was said he was too far away to slap!

That's the thing that gets me... people assuming things about you because you have a child... (or 12!) ...with you.  When I was about 14, my boyfriend and I took my little cousin to the park.  While we were there some old bitty felt the need to tell me how stupid I was for having a baby so young and that someone should have taken it away from me before it was ever born.  I was stunned... my boyfriend layed into her!!!  Then, when I did have a baby at 20... I was still looked down on because everyone thought I was only 16!!!

Christine - posted on 07/16/2009

I lost my second son 23 years ago to SIDS. You never forget the comments that were made when they are rude or hurt you. You just move from a place of anger and loss to love. I can change what was said I can only change my heart and attidude. When my son died he was 10 weeks old when the priest can to visit us he said, "It's what God wanted". How can this be I thought. I was so angry that I hated God and didn't want anything to do with him. However, I moved on and realized the priest was just ignorant. I found God again, stopped blaming HIM and myself and started living a life of love and caring for my family and others. I only grow from there. Don't let what others say build a wall. Let go and Let God.

Charlie - posted on 07/16/2009

i lost my son ( first child ) at 15 weeks and coming home from dinner this woman , who was blessed to have a girl and boy ( twins ) said to me " your lucky you lost him " i felt sick to my stomach . not to mention this woman was blind drunk standing outside the pub with her partner , her two babies at home asleep BY THEMSELVES !

Lydia - posted on 07/15/2009

I have been toldoff by a few people about how I raise my daughter - fortunately its about stuff that I can laugh at THEM for and nothing as drastic as the death of my child. My Aunt is still getting it now - her 30 something year old daughter passed away last month from cancer and she is having a dispute with a teacher at her grandaughters school who is actually accusing her recently deceased daughter of being a bad mother! Some people dont think before speaking and some just speak anyway. These are the kinds of people that should definately come with a mute button

Ardeliah - posted on 07/15/2009

I got a good one for you.

My second son was stillborn. We found out a few days past his due date and were devastated. At his funeral when my husband and I are clutching each other bawling our eyes out, his MOTHER comes over and shoves me out of the way to hug her son during the ceremony. She had her husband with her, my husbands father. I wound up nearly tripping over the pile of dirt next to his grave.

And my husband wonders why I don't like his parents.

Sara - posted on 07/15/2009

I lost twpo gbabies before I had my first daughter ... A friend, who was dutch, (not that I am making an excuse, but they DO tend to be quite blunt), asked me why I was so ropriate time to upset when it wasn't even a real baby yet????? I was devastated... and it was just a really inappropriate comment to make..... I am hearing you Clare!

GRRRRRRRR..

Clare - posted on 07/15/2009

oh my gosh im so sorry for your loss i dont no what to say really i wouldnt even begin to cope if that happened to 2 me

Sarah - posted on 07/15/2009

my son died in delivery room,and people kept telling me "its nothing compared with having a kid for a few months and it dying of cotdeath" that came from a family memeber

Clare - posted on 07/15/2009

Quoting Cheryl:

Mine was an interfering ANGEL! I was trying to leave the park with my colicky newborn and attention-desperate toddler both screaming. In the midst of my own insanity I grabbed my toddler and gave her a slap on the butt thinking it would snap her out of the fit. Yes. I spanked my child in the middle of a public park! As i imagined every cellphone in the park speed dialing social services, a stranger mom was at my side in an instant asking if she could help. She carried my toddler to the car while I carried the stroller and my infant. Thank God for interfering moms sometimes!

thats really nice what that lady done i wish i hopefully come across some1 who helps me when its definetly needs its nice to know that people understand as well x

Jennifer - posted on 07/15/2009

I think that people are always blurting out comments or advice before they think of it, then it's too late to take it back so they ride it out. I am one of five children and my mother told me that when she would go out people would say things to her or glare at her in reference to her having so many children, like; `` They have a pill for that``, or ``That's all the system needs!``, as if she was having kids to get welfare checks or something. I guess once she said back, "Hey, do you know me or my husband, who by the way owns 3 businesses of his own?, No you don't, so shut your mouth because we pay for our kids by working hard and don't receive welfare or any government assistance!" I was glad that she had stood up for her self instead of being quiet and letting it eat her up.



I was a little schocked when I was pregnant I worked for the post office delivering parcels and I told my boss I was pregnant and I'd work `til the end of the month and then I wanted to quit because I didn't want to lose my baby because I was lifting some giant box for someone, So he understood, but asked if I could stay longer if someone else took the boxes that weighed over 15 lbs. I said I guessed so, but when it came down to it, everyone thought I was lying about being pregnant to get out of the work and didn't help me much at all, so I left the big ones and they didn't get delivered, I was reprimanded for it, but I brought up that I was pregnant and my boss said he would take care of the big ones for me, so it worked out, everyone apologized for the most part and I quit before they had a replacement for me at the end of the month like I'd said I would, I had to do what was best for my baby and my own health. I kept my job bartending and did that til the day before I had my beautiful daughter and they were so awesome in helping me with big things, but I was in such good shape I only gained a total of 23-24 lbs so not many thought I was as far along as I was, and gave me beans about not doing certain things until I told them, well ,``I am in my 3rd trimester, I really shouldn't!``



People also like to make me feel good by makeing jokes abot me being so small, they`d often say,`` What do you got in there 2 or 3!`` I knew they were joking because I was so small and it always made me laugh. The people that came into the bar were all super nice and really supportive, I really needed that, and I thank them for it!



The only other bad thing I can think of is when we hosted a X-Mas work party and I worked it, a man came up, who was very drunk, and asked if I was single, I said no I wasn`t and he asked if it was serious, I said well I`d say so, I`m 4 months pregnant with his baby! Thinking that would give him a hint to leave me alone, I was wrong, he made me step back from the bar to check, and said you don`t look pregnant to me!( I didn`t show til i was 5 or 6 months along), so I said well that`s too bad if you don`t beleive me, I am and I`m not interested in your advances! He continued with, `` Well that`s why I`m so attracted to you, you have that sexy pregnant lady glow and my God your breasts are amazing!`` I went in the back and told my boss what he`d said and told her I refused to serve him anymore and I hoped she would do the same, she didn`t serve him and made a point of it and told his friends to get him out or she`d call the cops!



I think for every ignorant person that is out there, you will meet a good one and it will balance out, I think it is good to let things go in life, or you will spend much time hurting, when you should be living and thanking God for every moment you spend on Earth! To all who have lost a child or children, I`m deeply sorry for your loss and hope you all the best in life and will pray and continue to pray for you all! God bless!

Cheryl - posted on 07/15/2009

Mine was an interfering ANGEL! I was trying to leave the park with my colicky newborn and attention-desperate toddler both screaming. In the midst of my own insanity I grabbed my toddler and gave her a slap on the butt thinking it would snap her out of the fit. Yes. I spanked my child in the middle of a public park! As i imagined every cellphone in the park speed dialing social services, a stranger mom was at my side in an instant asking if she could help. She carried my toddler to the car while I carried the stroller and my infant. Thank God for interfering moms sometimes!

Cyndi - posted on 07/15/2009

I lost my son at 22 weeks - without question, the most DEVASTATING experience of my life!! When I was about 5 1/2 months pregnant after losing him, a friend said this baby could "replace" Caleb. WHAT?!?!?!?!?!!!!?! There is NOTHING in the world that could replace a child you've lost and HOW people can say stupid things about it (particularly a person who is a parent) is beyond me! My daughter is a blessing, without question, but the pain of loss never goes away - it's been 8 years.

Clare - posted on 07/15/2009

thank u for all your comments it means alot to here that it wasn't just me been given these nasty comments but at the same time it saddens me that some1 could say nasty things to u nice ladies. when i found out i was pregnant i was 18 with the love of my life and we were perfectly happy still are now, and i was so exstactic about my news anyway i had to go into work that day so i told my boss he was happy for me n so was every1 else except this on woman she over heard me talking to my friend and i was holding my tummy in excitement n she turned to me n said 'clare are you pregnant?' i replied 'yes' and then she said 'oh well i no a good abortion clinic down southampton to get rid of it!' i was fuming but that was one of the nicer comments.

i was at work again 6 months gone n i was on checkouts (i no not nice job!) and a lady come up to me and she had a load of heavy things i managed to get to a barcode for everything without lifting anything except this one item it was a huge slab that a full grown man could struggle to lift. so i said to her im going to have to get a man to lift that so i can reach the barcode she said why cant you lift it? n i said well 1. its to heavy n 2 im pregnant! n she had the cheek to turn around and say, well its no skin off my nose what happens to your kid do your job and lift that deal with the consequence after who cares after all! i was so mad i went straight to the tannoy which beams right over the shop and i said staff annoiuncement could a member of staff please report to the tills as i refuse to serve a customer who has just been a right cow to me, n with that i walked of into the staff room and bawled my eyes out, thankfully my manager saw it my way n he banned the lady for stepping foot in the store but after that i went on maternity leave within the week no way was i risking my childs health n my health again over that stress!

Sharon - posted on 07/14/2009

Sometimes I wonder if we make to big a deal out of some of these things? Not the insensitivity. But the other pregnancy things.



Belly touching. people are just so astounded by the miracle and see so much to look forward to when they see a lovely pregnant woman, I think they feel compelled to touch and take a little of that miracle for themselves. I was SHOCKED to my core when people did this and I struggled really hard to understand wth strangers would want to touch me. Mostly it was women and mostly it was older women, a couple of children, and one younger man.



Other women want to compare experiences, share their past experiences, and relive that miracle for themselves. I come from a reserved family. So this was kind of hard for me to accept.



And don't you just "LOVE" those people who make a comment and turn it into a face slap? GAWD. Just wanna smack them. LOL but I get a little of my own back with a roll of the eyes and a "good luck with that"!

Jill - posted on 07/14/2009

I think people just don't think at all when they speak. I'm currently due in two weeks and have a three year old. Where do i start??? When my first child was born I was told by a co-worker that she was not going to bring her child into work becuase there were too many germs. She said they are choosing to raise their child differently than we did. Now, onto the pregnant comments... why do strangers feel the need to touch your belly and talk about how big you are. Do i walk up to someone and rub their beer belly and talk about how much weight they have gained!?!?! People seriously need to think about things before they say them.

Sharon - posted on 07/14/2009

I wasn't there - but maybe they were trying to say that nature chose that path for the better? People can be really awkward when trying to deal with a death or loss.



I'm really sorry this happened to you. Vent it!!!! Call them up and tell them that they were rude and unfeeling and you resent it.



If you can't reach them now - post it here!

Kim - posted on 07/14/2009

I hope you will soon know the joy of motherhood. The rudest thing someone said to me was my gosh "how many you got in there" . It was just the one. Some people just aren't very nice . I wish you peace & happiness.

Kim - posted on 07/14/2009

I am truly sorry someone was so thoughtless to say some thing so hurtful. I was35 when my daughter was born , the doctor had me scared to death ,at the 2nd high risk mom ultrasound they did he told me she had a choroid cyst on her brain . I cried so hard (I knew right then I loved her more than anything .)born or unborn they are our babies. Be happy you have your child & say a little prayer for ignorant people darling.

Wendy - posted on 07/14/2009

While walking in the mall with my Twins, and two children I was caring for, a gentelman walked up to me and said..."You know, they make a pill for that!". I was stunned! He just kept walking. By the time I realised what was said he was too far away to slap!

Deb - posted on 07/14/2009

Im so sorry to all the mums who have lost their child..............Ill prey for them & you XX

Liz - posted on 07/14/2009

Moms, let it go! It is only going to eat you alive, not the person who said it. There are alot of rude and abupt people out there and you need to just keep going. So sorry when a baby does go to heaven, my condolences. God Bless

Rhionna - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting Libby:

Quoting Clare:

interfering idoits?

what is the rudest comment that some stranger has said to you about raising your child i have had what i think is possible the worst insulting one ever practically telling it wasn't a big deal if my unborn baby died! have any other mom/pregant mums had this experience? im still fuming from mine and that was a year ago? x

The is the worst thing I've ever heard.  My baby has died and it IS a big deal. 

 

Usually my interfering idiot is my mother in law.  Among many things she has said and done, two things that come to my mind when it comes to my children is when my first child was about a year old she told me husband and I that we shouldn't have any more children because he needed to be an only child.  Then, after we lost our 3rd child and got pregnant with our 4th her response was "shouldn't you have waited longer?"  Then she proceeded to discuss with my husband about two people who had lost a baby that she knew.  It made me mad that she couldn't just say she'd pray for the baby.  Instead she felt the need to remind him the reality of losing a child, the reality we were already living.  Trust me, that's hard to forget!

So sorry to hear of your loss, the pain of losing a child is unimagineable to me. I will pray for you and the child you lost.

Libby - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting Clare:

interfering idoits?

what is the rudest comment that some stranger has said to you about raising your child i have had what i think is possible the worst insulting one ever practically telling it wasn't a big deal if my unborn baby died! have any other mom/pregant mums had this experience? im still fuming from mine and that was a year ago? x

The is the worst thing I've ever heard.  My baby has died and it IS a big deal. 

Usually my interfering idiot is my mother in law.  Among many things she has said and done, two things that come to my mind when it comes to my children is when my first child was about a year old she told me husband and I that we shouldn't have any more children because he needed to be an only child.  Then, after we lost our 3rd child and got pregnant with our 4th her response was "shouldn't you have waited longer?"  Then she proceeded to discuss with my husband about two people who had lost a baby that she knew.  It made me mad that she couldn't just say she'd pray for the baby.  Instead she felt the need to remind him the reality of losing a child, the reality we were already living.  Trust me, that's hard to forget!

Nicole - posted on 07/14/2009

Who says stuff like that?! Seriously, you wouldn't walk up to a stranger and say "Your shirt's ugly, you should go home and change", why would you say something to a total stranger about the way they raise their kids? Luckily, I've never had someone make a rude comment to me, but if they ever did they would get one right back, just to shock the rudeness out of them! What is wrong with people today?!

Rhionna - posted on 07/14/2009

That's disgusting!

I'm lucky in the comments that have been made to me, they are typically about BF or my ignorant son. He's autistic and unless you sat his name or make good eye contact with him he doesn't know that you're talking to him. The trouble is people always say what a lovely smile he has and then get offended when he doesn't look at them or he starts violently shaking his head, he just does that cos he likes the feeling it gives him.

I just wish that when you are out and about people would just keep their opinions to themselves, they don't know you or the circumstances surrounding you.

I can't imagine someone saying it doesn't matter if your unborn baby died, my aunt went through several IVF cycles before she fell pregnant, and that was really tough on her but if someone had said that to her I'd have been livid!