Is it bad that my 2 month old son still sleeps in the same bed??

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Quoting miranda:
Babies cry even when nothing is wrong.


I heared this several times and I tend to disagree. Babys cry to communicatie something is wrong: they need reassurance, safety, warmth, food, comfort, ... by just letting it cry, you count on extinction of the communication. I do agree that you don't always have to pick them up, but you should definetly let them know that you are hearing the message and want to help them out in the best way you can.



I tried that 'let them cry' theory from those supernannys on TV but it goes entirely against my mother intuition. Don't listen to experts when your feeling is telling you something else!

Kylie - posted on 05/17/2009

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DeeDee do whatever works for you. Our two month old alternates between his cot (now in our room) and our bed. I have heard pros and cons for both, but I am choosing what works for me.

Emi - posted on 05/25/2009

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I agree with the one that your bed is the best place for the baby to sleep during the night. However I found ot with my 3 children that if they sleep all the time with you then they will not like their bed at all and some might be so used to it that would like to sleep with you when they are older. I dont think you spoil a 2 months old by keeping closer to you during the night or nurising when ever he wants too. I usally put the baby to sleep in my bed and then move to his bed but early in the morning I take him to nurse and he sleeps in our bed till wakes up. The babies need security, the warm and momies heart beat next to them. That makes them grow happy. Personally I dont think you spoil them or they manipulate you. What you have to watch out is after 4 months as they start moving a lot and can casue accident when yo are sleeping. try to alternate between both and he will get used to sleeping by himself slowly. Then, as a mother of three boys I found out, and heard from other moms that the boys need more body contact and more closness to the mother. And last, They will grow up so fast and move in their own room before you will even know, and all you will be left is the memory of the time when the innoncent baby lay down to sleep close to you, needing you all time. Enjoy those moments that is the best part of motherhood. Will make the difficulties and tiredness of the day melted away...

Angela - posted on 05/21/2009

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Quoting Laurie:



Quoting Vanessa:




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Quoting Tricia:

If you breastfeed, your bed is the best place for your baby until he's at least 6 months. Our culture has this obsession with babies sleeping through the night, but it helps your LO get the nutrition he needs if he can nurse several times overnight. And if you want to get some sleep, the easiest way to accomplish both goals is to keep the baby in your bed. Sharing sleep actually reduces the risk of SIDS, which is reason enough as far as I'm concerned!
The fine print: make sur your bed is safe. Use a firm mattress (no waterbeds or pillow-tops). Keep comforters, pillows, and blankets away from baby's face. No drugs or alcohol for anyone in the bed. Make sure baby can't fall off the bed or get trapped between the bed and the wall.
As for the worries about getting the baby to sleep in his own room later, at some point he's going to want the "big boy" bed. Don't buy trouble stressing about how to transition him. He'll leave on his own sooner or later, and if you want him to leave before that, cross that bridge when you get to it.
As far as sex, if the baby is in your room, nobody is in the baby's room, or the living room, or the shower.... Use your imagination. ;-)









Excellent advice! 100% agree













i also 100% agree.  co-sleeping is wonderful for everyone and its what babies are born to expect.








makes night time mothering so easy and natural.









Ditto!!  We each have to do what's best for us at the time that's best for us. 






Our baby sleeps with us in our bed and we're all well-rested and enjoying every minute that we have together, both day and night!  I'm well rested because I'm not up and out of bed for each night feeding (I'm nursing also) and I get to wake up looking at my beautiful baby sleeping so peacefully between us.  I couldn't think of anything I'd rather wake up to!





 

Tamara - posted on 05/21/2009

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Quoting Melissa:



Quoting Tamara:




Quoting Gail:

DeeDee,
Please do not let your son sleep in the same bed with you. This is not a safe practice. Even though some folks say there is little chance of you rolling over on your child, I say that even if the chance is remote it's too much of one.







This is a fallacy.  Cosleeping can and is done safely all over the world.  Please look over the articles at the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame.  http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...









 






Tamara its not always safe. i even just recently heard of a mother waking up and her baby being dead because she has fallen alseep with her daughter. happens more often then you think. the only reason to co sleep is if bayb is sick or for the first few months if you cant get them to settle. i did it then myself plenty of times but its not something you make a habit of when they are older then about 3-4 months. not to mention getting you baby back into their own bed. Before you give your advice on these topics please refer to all the women on here who cant get thier kids to sleep in their own bed/cot due to co sleeping for too long





You do realize that a child, especially an infant, sleeping apart from their parents is only an invention of the last 100 years or so?  Cosleeping is the norm across the world.  Did you read the link that I provided?



 



The mother you heard of who's child died at her side, was the mother on sleeping medication, obese, under the influence of alcohol or other substance that would have caused her to not rouse properly?  Where was the child and mother actually sleeping?  Was it in a safe bed environment or was it in an unsafe environment such as a couch?  You don't answer any of those questions with your assertation nor do you provide a link with more information.



 



Sleeping in one's own bed a milestone reached when BOTH parent and child are ready and is done gently without sudden separation.  I'm sorry others have tried to rush the transition but it is their choice as parents.  I am only trying to provide factual scientific based information that dispells old wives tales and media propoganda.

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Emi - posted on 05/25/2009

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Quoting Trudy :

Ok so my son is 5 years old now and that's how it started. We would bring him in our bed when he was a baby so we could get sleep. I love to cuddle with him don't get me wrong but he comes in our room every night now. We never even know when he comes over. He plops himself right in the middle of my husband and I and all night long we get kicked and pushed. We have done everything gave him a room makeover with all new stuff and spent the day in his room and had a camp out in his room...Nothing has worked so we just deal and pray he grows out of it soon.


My 3 years old did the same for a while nd we end up 5 of us in te smae bed. Bt now he is sleeping all night on his bed in his room, and the sec one has a bed , more likely a couch join to our bed the protects him from falling out and gives the idea that he is sleeping with us. THe baby crib is on the other side of our bed, but of yourse most of the night he is with us. I am happy to know that other children plop during the night at their parents bed,LOL. I love that though..

Johanna - posted on 05/24/2009

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my almost 8 month old sleeps in bed with us. it's wonderful. you may not know know it but by co sleeping/bed sharing you are building trust. I'm a firm believer that you cannot hold your baby too much...anything you can do so that child will trust his parents will make him a stronger more self confident person as time goes by. Sleep well! enjoy it...its simply delightful to wake up to a precious baby.

Mistie - posted on 05/24/2009

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I think it's awesome! our daughter still sleeps with us at 18 mo and not only do I get more sleep this way I love being there if she gets upset like from gas pains or something. I have some really great memories of falling asleep next to her and waking up to her sweet smile- that I wouldn't have if she were in a crib- I don't like to sleep alone- your hubbie probably doesn't either so why would we think that someone so small and not actually physiologically mature yet would- you must do co sleeping safely though! you know - using common sense mostly with not smoking, drinking, etc and watch for thick blankets- there is a great book by dr sears on SIDS which gives good reasons for safe cosleeping- like how it helps babies breathing and grow better to be close to mother- when i read in the book that there was a study done and over the course of several years like around only 500 babies died of sids while cosleeping but in 1 year thousands died in cribs- that was all I needed to keep her in our bed til at least 2. and really- they are little for such a short amount of time who cares how long - if they need us I feel we should be there- thats just my thought- you will know what's best for your baby- trust your instincts n don't be afraid to go against the grain if you feel it's best- even if your hubbie is of a different "grain" best of luck!

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This is a topic that can be quite controversial to some people, not me lol. When my daughter was less then a month to 2 months I would hold her until she was in a deep sleep ( you know the one where you can move her limbs and they don't flinch ) then i would place her in her bassinet beside my bed. I did this until she started sleeping longer periods through the night which was around 3 months or so then we started a routine and put her to bed in her crib in her own room. This is a decision that my husband and I made because we didn't want to have her sleeping in our bed all the time. That's not to say that it's not ok for you to have your child in bed with you. whatever is comfortable for you or you and your partner. But if you want your child to learn to sleep on their own I would suggest trying to wean your baby off the idea of sleeping with you as soon as possible, be patient though it may take a few tries and a few sleepless nights. Don't let anyone make you feel weird if you want to have a "family bed" I know someone personally who has this system and it's perfectly fine. hope this helps

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This is a topic that can be quite controversial to some people, not me lol. When my daughter was less then a month to 2 months I would hold her until she was in a deep sleep ( you know the one where you can move her limbs and they don't flinch ) then i would place her in her bassinet beside my bed. I did this until she started sleeping longer periods through the night which was around 3 months or so then we started a routine and put her to bed in her crib in her own room. This is a decision that my husband and I made because we didn't want to have her sleeping in our bed all the time. That's not to say that it's not ok for you to have your child in bed with you. whatever is comfortable for you or you and your partner. But if you want your child to learn to sleep on their own I would suggest trying to wean your baby off the idea of sleeping with you as soon as possible, be patient though it may take a few tries and a few sleepless nights. Don't let anyone make you feel weird if you want to have a "family bed" I know someone personally who has this system and it's perfectly fine. hope this helps

Lori - posted on 05/24/2009

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I hear the crunchy parents call it co-sleeping all I know is if your nursing its more convenient and eventually the little one will want their own space , I promise you he will not be still sleeping with you come kindergarten:) suffocation worries are a bunch of hoo ha unless you go to bed intoxicated. stats are sids babies were all sleeping alone so do what works best for you. 2 of mine slept in cribs 3 slept in our bed some til they were four oh well we have a king sized bed.

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Quoting Jamie:
My "common sense" tells me that it makes more sense to move your child to their own bed when you can explain what is going on, rather than closing the door on your infant with limited brain capacity who is still getting over being ripped from their mother's womb and doesn't understand whether or not their mom is ever going to return.


terrific statement! 200% agree

Mandy - posted on 05/23/2009

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No its not a bad thing that your son still sleeps with you! My daughter is 3 1/2 and still sleeps with me. They will soon grow out of it or you will one or the other,

Mandy - posted on 05/23/2009

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No its not a bad thing that your son still sleeps with you! My daughter is 3 1/2 and still sleeps with me. They will soon grow out of it or you will one or the other,

Kat - posted on 05/23/2009

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hey dee dee.... do what ever is in your heart.... there is no correct answer.... I love sleeping and cuddling with my children... it just feels safe having them right next to me!!

Serina - posted on 05/22/2009

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My sons 3 and still sleeps with us... theres nothing wrong with co-sleeping, the only thing is it takes away from me and my husbands time. My son is JUST starting to warm up to his own bed idea, and the fight to get your bed back when there no more room is quite a proccess. Every child is different, I think co-sleeping is a healthy thing as long as you dont mind the extra work later. :)

User - posted on 05/22/2009

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I did this with both my children for my own sanity as the first born never settled at all so it was easier, when the 2nd one came along i would end up with them both in bed with us. It took ages to get them to sleep in their own beds and we would wake up with one or both in the middle of us in the morning. They are a lot better now but sometimes they like to still sleep in our bed even when I leave them in their own at night one will creap through when i go downstairs so i end up in a single bed due to their ages 11 & 10. Just thought i would let you know my own experience hope it helps you to make your mind up .

Mel - posted on 05/22/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Melissa:

i didnt read the link Tamara because its common sense that if a baby sleep with the parents too long you will rarely get them back in their own bed easily and there fore it makes for harder times later listening to your baby cry it out and wondering why its left alone in the cot after sleeping with its mum for so long. Each to their own





Why should you listen to your baby cry when its much simpler to make the transition when you both are ready instead of rushing it?  The link I provided leads to articles at the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame headed by Dr. James McKenna.  These articles show over and over that not only is cosleeping safe but has benefical effects on the breastfeeding relationship and reduces the chances of SIDS.





 



http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sle...



 

Tina - posted on 05/22/2009

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Hi my name is Tina. I think having your child sleeping with you is not a good idea. I have read and seen on the news at least 3 times this year of a parent rolling on to their child and killing them when they had not been drinking or on meds. You would think that some thing inside you would stop u apparantly this is not so. Letting your child sleep with you will make a rod for your own back, remember its all ways easy to get in to habits not so easy to brake them. Hope this is usefull. good luck for the future. xx

Salena - posted on 05/22/2009

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All 4 of my babies started out sleeping in bed with me. When you have to wake up to breastfeed every 2 hours it's so much easier to have them right there with you. My husband was always afraid he would roll over on them so we placed the bed against the wall and I always had the babies on my side. Once they were fast asleep I'd put them in the bassinett at the foot of our bed. As the baby gets older you can start putting him in his own room. No biggie. Your not doing anything wrong. xoxo

Salena - posted on 05/22/2009

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All 4 of my babies started out sleeping in bed with me. When you have to wake up to breastfeed every 2 hours it's so much easier to have them right there with you. My husband was always afraid he would roll over on them so we placed the bed against the wall and I always had the babies on my side. Once they were fast asleep I'd put them in the bassinett at the foot of our bed. As the baby gets older you can start putting him in his own room. No biggie. Your not doing anything wrong. xoxo

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I say whatever works for your child...no right or wrong answer...I let my first child sleep with me....I wasn't married so it worked out great for us...When my husband and I bought our first house he was about 2 yrs old he started sleeping in his own bed...he done very well too I was surprised. With my 2nd child he slept in our room but not in our bed (at first he would only sleep sitting in his swing then eventually he grew out of it into his crib) when started sleeping through the night we moved him into his own room, never had a problem with him......until......we bought him his first big boy bed....he would then come into our room in the middle of the night and he finally stopped coming into our room when he started kindergarten....he didn't like to sleep alone in his room so we got them bunk beds and he was fine as long as he knew someone was in the room with him.....he's 8 yrs old now and sleeping in his own room in his own bed by himself (we took the beds apart over spring break so they could have their own rooms)........every child is different I have proof....only YOU know what's best for your child.....hope this helps GOOD LUCK!

Tanya - posted on 05/22/2009

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I share a bed with my daughter who is 21mths and my son who is 6mths. My daughter transistioned into her crib when she stopped nursing around a year of age then we had our son and he obviously slept in our bed and she in her crib right beside me. She would wake up and cry for what i think is ( why can he sleep there but i can't) so we bought the biggest bed we could find and sleep very comfortable. We did buy her a big princess bed to stay in our room if she gets interested in sleeping in it but we will not force the issue. And transfering her to her own room across the hall, no way i am a paranoid mom and think anyone can come in the house threw a window and by the time we get to her something could happen. We do live in a very private and safe area and have a house alarm but there is always that chance. I know i am paranoid but i am with love!

Jamie - posted on 05/21/2009

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#1 Common sense is not "common" and #2 if you aren't even willing to look at sound medical and scientific evidence, perhaps you should preface your advice with that, so the person knows that you are blatantly ignoring science and simply stating your opinion. Opinions are fine, and everybody is different but you shouldn't assume that your experience with co-sleeping (or lack thereof) is going to be the same for everybody; especially when you are unwilling to even look at the other side of the issue. My "common sense" tells me that it makes more sense to move your child to their own bed when you can explain what is going on, rather than closing the door on your infant with limited brain capacity who is still getting over being ripped from their mother's womb and doesn't understand whether or not their mom is ever going to return.

Andrea - posted on 05/21/2009

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the best way to bond is sleep beside them..google cohabited sleeping.. i agree with cheryl too...

Tamara - posted on 05/21/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

i didnt read the link Tamara because its common sense that if a baby sleep with the parents too long you will rarely get them back in their own bed easily and there fore it makes for harder times later listening to your baby cry it out and wondering why its left alone in the cot after sleeping with its mum for so long. Each to their own


Why should you listen to your baby cry when its much simpler to make the transition when you both are ready instead of rushing it?  The link I provided leads to articles at the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame headed by Dr. James McKenna.  These articles show over and over that not only is cosleeping safe but has benefical effects on the breastfeeding relationship and reduces the chances of SIDS.

Jamie - posted on 05/21/2009

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Thank You for providing that website and information. You are right, much like breastfeeding, co-sleeping has unfortunately fallen to the wayside. Of course every person is different and has to make the right decision for their child. Although it helps to make an informed decsion ;)

Jamie - posted on 05/21/2009

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Actually, contrary to what some may believe. Sleeping in the same bed with your baby (especially for the mom) is not a problem if the proper precautions are taken. If you are an excessively deep sleeper or have taken medication or drank alcohol, then your infant should definitely sleep in their crib. Otherwise, cosleeping (as coined by Dr. Barry Sears a leading author and pediatrician) can be a wonderful and rewarding experience for both mother and child. Teaching the child to sleep on their own is not neccessary by a certain age, every child is different. My daughter is 17 mos old right now and NEVER slept in her crib untill she was around 8 months and fell asleep with very little crying the first time. As far as rolling over on your child is concerned, studies have shown that over 90% of mothers have an awareness of where there baby is throughout the night, so there is little danger of this. Fathers do not have this same instinct, and babies should never be placed between two adults. There are other requirements like having no soft pillows or blankets around that might smother your baby. I wouldn encourage you to read of Dr. Sears parenting books or look on his website to find out more information about cosleeping.

Megan - posted on 05/21/2009

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i dont believe so my daughter slept in my bed for as long as i breastfed until 14 months however i always put here to bed in her bed and she only came too mine after 2am i was also single and had a snuggle bed for her so i knew i wouldnt roll on her i plan to do similar with my next however i have partner now so bed will be against wall and ill be in middle with snuggle beside me and against the wall my daughter has had no issues with transference to cot or bed and its rarely that she comes into ours partly i think she knows that if she tries before 6 its back to her bed

Grace - posted on 05/21/2009

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NO, it is not bad! In fact, it will create a greater sense of security for your babe & help you to get more hours of sleep. It is a myth that if you don't "nip it in the bud now" it will go on forever. Read about Attachment Parenting and you will find A LOT of data showing you that most of the world co-sleeps with their babes. The U.S. and western society only started sleeping in different rooms about 150 years ago. Please do what you feel is right. Of course, don't do it if you are taking drugs, alcohol or medications as this could put your baby in harm's way. Google "attachment parenting"

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2009

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I have Osteo Arthritis sometimes my legs hurt to bad to go back and forth from my room to his room sometimes I end up bringing my son to my bed I did this with my daughter on and off till she was 3 no harm done I think you do need to be smart, I dont take pain meds, drink alcohol and do not co sleep if im over tired. I think its responsible to have a back up plan for these times my son sleeps in his crib some use a bassinet or playpen I dont think theres a big deal as long as you follow co sleeping guidelines not putting baby in the middle and so many other things but you should as I said have a back up plan incase you are over tired, took a new medicine you dont know how you will react to and so on this way to the baby will be fine sleeping by themselves also My daughter is 4 and is fine sleeping by herself and lets just say I never thought Id co sleep

Mel - posted on 05/21/2009

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i didnt read the link Tamara because its common sense that if a baby sleep with the parents too long you will rarely get them back in their own bed easily and there fore it makes for harder times later listening to your baby cry it out and wondering why its left alone in the cot after sleeping with its mum for so long. Each to their own

Helen - posted on 05/21/2009

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Absolutely not! I slept with my first born until he was 3. Although he sleeps in his own bed, but he still crawls into ours in the middle of the night. Enjoy this precious time, because it'll be over soon!

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2009

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my daughter is turning 2 in june, and she has only been in her bed for 2 months. my baby now starts out in her bed, and then when she wakes up whenever that is i bring her in bed with me and nurse her. sometimes she starts out in my bed cause i love having her next to me, and i fall asleep really fast that way.!

Heather - posted on 05/21/2009

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My son would fall asleep with me and then I would move him into his crib. It was hard becasue I wasn't living by myself and he didn't have his own room. By 4 months he was sleeping in his crib but still in my room. By 9 months he was sleeping in his own room with his crib and he goes to bed without a fuss just fine.

Rita - posted on 05/21/2009

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Some people have different opions on that.. I have 4 kids and all of mine would sleep with me... the youngest was the only one that would sleep in her crib. To me you have to get rest also so if the only way they will sleep is with you then I say whatever makes you happy and comfy. Because if you are up all night with a screaming baby then you dont have enough rest and energy the next day and that can cause problems later down the road.

Katie - posted on 05/21/2009

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my baby is 6 months old and sometimes he still ends up sleeping in my bed. They say you aren't suppose to but it does happen once in a while. But remember if you start doing it you will have to break your baby from it and that will be very hard on both of you the older he gets. So if you want to break it now is easier then later.

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Co Sleepingi s great! I moved my little one to her crib at 4mos in our room then to her own room in the crib at 6mos.

Ann - posted on 05/21/2009

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I have a five year old son who still sleeps with me and has since birth. I love co sleeping many times during the day I dont get to spend quality time with him so bedtime is a good way to make up for those lost moments. Just be careful to make sure you safe sleep with him use a special co sleeper you can buy online to reduce the risk of you rolling over on him or SIDS

Angela - posted on 05/21/2009

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I completely agree. the baby that died, the mother was on sleeping tablets, and they were on a couch. i sleep extremely deeply, i dont even hear my babies unless they are next to me, and all of my children sleeping with me as babies, i have NEVER woken up and found myself on top of them. If you have been drinking, are on strong medication, or are a smoker, it is common sense not to sleep with your child. otherwise, do what feels best for you and your beautiful baby boy.

Angela - posted on 05/21/2009

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NO!!! OF COURSE NOT! If that is what suits you and your baby best, keeps him happy, gives you more sleep so you're able to cope better in the day, then thats what you need to do. My first baby never slept with me, yet my other three did, and they are no different from the other. My partner and i still co sleep, and when they dont sleep with us, we lie with them till theyre asleep or happy. There is nothing wrong with letting your little boy know that you're always there for him, no matter what. I also suggest baby wearing during the day. It makes for a more settled child, they feed better, and creates a warm bond between the two of you.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/21/2009

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My son is 13months old and although he goes to sleep by 7pm every night in his own cot, he will, more often than not, wake any time after 12am - but is extremely difficult to settle - I will bring him in with us; perhaps not everyone's ideal, but it works for him. We will gradually get him out of this - which is improving as he gets older and more active, and cuts out his morning sleep. If it feels right, and works for the moment then go with it....they are changing ALL the time!!! x

Lindsey - posted on 05/21/2009

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i think it ok to let your baby sleep with you i had to do it with my oldse child and now she in her own bed and now my yonese sleep with us so i think it ok

Keisha - posted on 05/21/2009

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No its not bad or wrong, especially if you're nursing. He's only two months old, he's still an infant so its fine.

As for "rolling over on your baby"...well if you're a heavy sleeper, they make bassinets, dividers and such that you can put in your bed so that you don't roll on your baby. I was very worried about SIDS, so both of my boys slept between us until they were able to consistently roll over by themselves. At that point I felt comfortable enough to put them in their cribs.

Clare - posted on 05/21/2009

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Our daughter slept with us until she was 3 months old and then I moved her into her own room as I had absolutely no space in the bed at night!! i loved having her close to me and not having to jump out of bed to get her when she needed to nurse. My daughter just turned 2 in April and sleeps in her own bed. However, she has never slept through the night and I end up in her room sleeping with her as she is still nursing at night due to a very fast metabolism. I still enjoy the closeness I have with her at night. If it works for you to have your son in your bed then don't worry about it. Don't let anyone tell you what is best for you and your family. That is your decision. Enjoy these times because they go by so fast.

Qiana - posted on 05/21/2009

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yes, please put him in his own bed when he falls asleep, this is from experience only my son is turning 3 in september and still sleeps in the bed with me and his father and it is really hard we even put a toddler bed in our room and he will get out his bed and get into my bed so nip it now before he takes over your bed

Qiana - posted on 05/21/2009

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yes, please put him in his own bed when he falls asleep, this is from experience only my son is turning 3 in september and still sleeps in the bed with me and his father and it is really hard we even put a toddler bed in our room and he will get out his bed and get into my bed so nip it now before he takes over your bed

Tonya - posted on 05/21/2009

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some advice to Trudy Warnick, my oldest child is almost 6 and we had the same problem. We finally got him out of our bed, by giving him one of our pillows. we purchased new ones and he got the old still in good condition pillow. He sleeps all through the night like a charm and we no longer have to deal with him in our bed. we still have the younger 3 to work on though. Best of luck!!

Tonya - posted on 05/21/2009

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if you are still concerned discuss this with your childs dr. explaning your feelings and reasons and then you 2 decide whats best for your lil one. But I agree go with your gut!!!

Tonya - posted on 05/21/2009

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yes/no. I have 4 children and they have all slept with me. I enjoyed the closeness and breastfeeding at night was easy. simply latch them on. the problem comes later. Eventually you are going to want your own bed back. (hard to spend time with daddy if child's in the bed.) Bottom line. You have to figure out what works best for you and your family. ONLY YOU can know how much you can or cannot take. You are your childs best advocate. Best Wishes!!

Kelly - posted on 05/21/2009

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I would have to say yes because it is very dangerous to have him sleeping next to you all night. What happens if you suddenly rolled over on him. I usually let my two month old fall asleep first and then put him in his crib. I stay with him until I know he is fully asleep or okay.

Kate - posted on 05/21/2009

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Hi DeeDEe. Yes it is bad that your 2 month old son sleeps in the bed with you. I have a 13 day old niece that was suffocated by her mom . They both fell asleep and no the mom was not drunk or on meds. There are so many risks. If he dosen't want anything to do with his bed get him a glider from toys r us (it moves and pkays music) and put him by your bed. he will be a sound sleeper in no time. That is what i used with my daughter, She hated her bassinet so i had to get her one of those until hse was 4 months old and able to she in her big crib. Hope i helped ya.

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