Is it hard to take care of a 3yr old and a infiant?
Amanda - posted on 03/28/2010
i hear that i just think i will have a hard time i dont even have my own place i just lost it and i am staying with my mother and i dont have everything i need for my children and i am having trouble getting what i need and it is not good and on top of that is the only thing that makes me happy is my children and i dont even know if i can do this all on my own with no help the only people helping me is all of u girls on here and that makes me happy too
Stephanie - posted on 03/27/2010
I think three years is an excellent age difference. While it is hard, it is not impossible and it is something you can do. Your three year old can help a lot, your 3 yr old can run and get a diaper, can sit by you and feed his/her baby while you feed the your baby. The 3year old can understand basic instructions and ideas about love and how your heart will only grow to accommodate all the love you have for all your children.
Everything will be great and your 3yr old will love that baby so much.
Amanda - posted on 03/27/2010
thanx and my son will be 3 july 4th and i am due july 3rd so it is kinda scareing me a lil bit and i just was not sure what to expect with 2 lil boys in my life and their dad is not around anymore so it will be hard for me i bet but at least i have people like u to talk to to get some help with that
Krista - posted on 03/26/2010
Rebecca, have you considered a child harness for your son, if he's a runner? It would make it much easier for you to keep him from running away while you're occupied with your daughter. I know some people are vehemently against them, but to me, it seems like a much better solution than having to stay at home because you don't have another adult with you.
Elizabeth - posted on 03/26/2010
Hi. I have a 4 yr old and a 5mth old. At first it seemed like my daughter who is 4 didn't get enough of my attention so guilt set in. However, if Daddy can step up to the plate or someone close like a grandparent it will make things alot easier! Now Hunter my 5mth old is at an age where she can interact more with him so it is alot of fun! Just hang in there! You will find a way to balance everything, if I can do it anyone can! lol
Michelle - posted on 03/26/2010
It was aright for me, my kids are 3 yeas apart. My daughter helped out a lot. she loved being my helper. I had her potty trained by the time her brother came along so I only had one in a diaper. A good tip is to a sippy cup full at all times in the fridge so that your older child can get it when you are feeding the baby. When my son napped I would lay down with my daughter for cuddles and reading and a nap.
Christa - posted on 03/26/2010
Yes it is. Simplify your day. Prioritize the demands. Make wise choices that include yourself. And remember that you are doing the hardest job in the world that gives you the most rewards. There were days when I felt that I all I did was feed them, change them and clean up after them, because that is all I did! Sit down and drink a lot of water. Watch them, Rest with them. You are tired and it is ok to take a nap too!
Rebecca - posted on 03/26/2010
My son was 22 months when our daughter was born and the first 2 weeks were the hardest for me. My husband also had to go out of town for a month when he was 2yrs and she was 3 months and that wasn't too bad. I was very surprised but i never go out with the kids alone...EVER. My son is a runner. I have a hard time getting to my neighbors for him to play with the kids there let alone get out of the house to do shopping lol. He had a hard time adjusting the first 2 weeks so that's why it was the hardest. Now that she's 8 months and she's 2.5yrs he loves bringing her toys, giving kisses, helping to feed her or give her a bottle and he even gives her a hug and kiss before bed. He honestly loves her and i'm happy there is no jealousy. On my part i was so tired the first month i wasn't eating properly to keep up with my toddler and BF my newborn and my supply dried up and i became depressed for a week or so until i shock myself and said she's not dead and she got the best i could do. I learned to skip the dishes some days, or the laundry and if my toilet didn't get cleaned for another few days then so be it. We now have our house for sale and i'm cleaning 24/7 and i hate it!LOL but it comes with the military life of moving all the time and i'll be glad when i can relax some lol.
Good luck and congrats!!
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