is it harder to get pregnant or to prevent it?

Erin - posted on 07/04/2009

You all seem to forget the BIG picture here! Is it in YOUR plan to have a baby? I don't mean did you personally plan it, I mean your LIFE'S plan, the plan you make before you begin your journey on earth. In having many discussions with people about having children, I know ppl that took bc religiously and still managed to get pregnant on it, ppl that always have unprotected sex that don't get pregnant, etc. etc. If it isn't in your plan at that point, IT WONT HAPPEN. If it's in your plan at that point then it won't matter what you do you will not avoid it.

Mel - posted on 07/04/2009

oh im so with u, i never bothered with protection except when i first started having sex. i had my first serious bf at just turned 16, we had unprotected sex the first time i stressed afterwards asked him if he had anything (was worried about stds) and wanted the morning after pill then after a long discussion he told me he wanted a baby and we kept having un protected sex. we broke up and i got into another relationship with the assumption i couldnt get pregnant just because i hadnt before. 2 years went by, i was 18 partner and i wanted a baby but of course we were young with my history just didnt think about it and shock for me i fell pregnant. i was late, very sick and even had a positive pregnancy test but still thought it was wrong til i did one again the week after. i think because i had thought i couldnt have a baby even so young i was so very very happy. i had her 2 weeks before my 19th birthday. shes 15 months now and this time around we started full on trying early due to my history. hasnt happened yet but hopefully soon. it is definately much harder to get pregnant then to prevent it. preventing it for me was taking the pill 5 in a day when i forgot to take it and nothing happened lol

Nicole - posted on 07/03/2009

Quoting Michelle:

Just guessing but I think when she says 7 "tries" it means that's the number of times they had intercourse before they conceived.

Exactly!  When you're having sex for business instead of pleasure it becomes a chore so we were trying to plan on doing it at the right time so we could hurry up and get pregnant already!  Next time we're ready I may just jump straight to using the ovulation test.  But then again, there's no hurry this time because we already have a child!

Tammy - posted on 07/03/2009

It totally depends on the woman, I think. I have a friend who had to get her tubes tied at 23 because she already had 3 kids. As soon as she stopped nursing, there was no form of birth control that would work. Contrary to what anyone says, all birth control forms have a "fail" rate and if you are that fertile person, you'll probably get pregnant. Also, the reason why teens get pregnant a lot is that the same hormones that make you ovulate also make you feel more interested in sex and lowers your inhibition to it. So, it makes sense that the "one time" that a couple has sex would also happen to be the PERFECT time to get pregnant. For me, it's harder to get pregnant. It took me 2 and 3 YEARS of no birth control to get pregnant. I don't think I ovulate every month. My tubes are tied now so of course I'm not getting pregnant, but I've barely used any birth control in the 20 yrs I've been married because we wanted a lot of kids and we just didn't get pregnant any more often than the four (I suspect 5 total, early miscarriage) times.

Kim - posted on 07/03/2009

It took me 18 months to get pregnant my first time and that was on Clomid. After having my son the first month we tried I got pregnant, after that it only took 4 months for my next pregnancy. They say it can take up to a year if you don't have problems. But I also know too many people who have oops pregnancies from that one time. Even though I had a hard time with 2 of my pregnancies I still wouldn't take the chance that I would have trouble again since we are done having kids.

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2009

Just guessing but I think when she says 7 "tries" it means that's the number of times they had intercourse before they conceived.

Libby - posted on 07/03/2009

Quoting Nicole:

I think it may be easier to get pregnant when you're younger (like a teenager) because your body is all out of whack with the hormone changes from puberty. I was 24 when I conceived and it took us about 7 "tries" over the course of 3 months, lol!

Perhaps that is where your confusion is at.  I don't know what you mean by 7 tries in 3 months.  If you had 3 cycles in 3 months then you had 3 tries (3 eggs).  And 3 months is very VERY quick to get pregnant!  It took me 8 months for my first, 7 months (plus infertility help) with my 2nd, and over 2 years (and a year and a half of failed infertility help) with our 3rd.  You are right, there is a very small window of opportunity each month to actually get pregnant. 

Libby - posted on 07/03/2009

For me it has always been harder to get pregnant. However, some people are just more fertile than others. This is definetly one that depends on the person.

Nicole - posted on 07/03/2009

I think it may be easier to get pregnant when you're younger (like a teenager) because your body is all out of whack with the hormone changes from puberty. I was 24 when I conceived and it took us about 7 "tries" over the course of 3 months, lol!

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2009

In my case I would have to say prevent! My hubby and I got pregnant on the first try both times! We ended up loosing the first, but now have a happy and healthy baby girl:) Plus I think it depends on age. It seems like a lot of younger girls are getting pregnant these days and you would think that with everything out there it wouldn't be a problem.

Kaitlan - posted on 07/03/2009

Hey in my opinion it is harder to get pregnant than to prevent it. It took us nearly 5 months to concieve our beautiful baby boy. He is now 5 months old and we have prevented another for the same length of time, and will continue to do so until we are ready to recieve another gorgeous gift of life