Is it impossible to get pregnant at 42? Any secrets out there to help us?

Elizabeth - posted on 01/11/2011 ( 200 moms have responded )

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We are trying to get pregant, we are taking vitamins we need, I have charted a calendar to know when its the best time but I am losing hope. Is there anyone out there that has had a baby at 42 or know any secrets?

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MiChelle - posted on 02/14/2011

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The risks are raised highly after 40. It might be hard to come to terms with it, but it is incredibly selfish to try to get pregnant at your age. Think of your babies health... adopt.

Michelle - posted on 10/22/2011

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"definately possible. My mom got preg. 2 months before she turned 50! talk about a suprise!!! "
Rebecca,
How did your mother's pregnancy go?

SHARIFAH NORJANNAH - posted on 01/29/2011

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These days, it is common for women to have babies at the age of 40 and above, so don't give up hope...

Nicole - posted on 02/13/2011

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it's not impossible hun, but there are risks to you and the baby. it will not come easily though.
This is just advise - i dont have a medical background. but i did struggle to get pregnant for four years with my first and a year with my current pregnancy

Evening Primrose oil / MumOmega
this will increase your cervical mucus and make it easier for hubbys fishies to get to the egg, take it for the first 14 days of your cycle, counting the first day of menstruation as conception day 1 (CD1). hubby can take the EPO too - it will increase his semen.
Give him a good Mens multivit and extra Zinc.
take a good pregnancy vitimin which will make sure you are not absorbing too much of a certain vit for your possibly growing fetus. ie too much vit a/c can be bad for fetus's
We used herbal drops to help with both conceptions. i dont ovulate every month and my hubby's fish are less than 1% viable.. so - no matter the complications in your path... majority of them can be overcome.

i would also have hubby do a semen analysis at your local pathologist. get yourself some OPK - ovulation prediction tests and if you can afford it a clear blue monitor and tests. i just used opk's and wrote on the back the date and CD and saved each months tests in a plastic bank bag. you could also glue it in a diary and write your notes of each day in the book.
fertilityfriend dot com is a great site to help you record your cycle - i just used the free option.
babycentre dot co dot uk is another site that i felt helped me alot through my struggles.

another thing i feel helped us was the herbal drops from feelgoodhealth dot co dot za - we used fertility drops for hubby and myself and well as difficult conception drops for me.

i hope this helps you and i hope you get your Big Fat Positive (BFP) really soon. find and internet company in your country that is able to supply you with OPK tests as well as hCG tests to save you money during this time xx i used a company in England called Access Diagnostics - but if you dont live in UK i think you would get it cheaper in your own country xxx all the best and feel free to contact me with any questions or if you just feel like a chat xx

Lesley - posted on 01/31/2011

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hi i was nearly 48 and 32 weeks pregnant when i found out after we were not trying for any more children as they were both grown up , just live life normally enjoy holidays together , and hopefully it will happen our new son is now 3 and he is certainly given us a new lease on life,

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Rosaline - posted on 03/10/2011

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I am a Massage Theurapist just massage your feet on the inner side of both feet be low the ankel every day that will help.

Jenny - posted on 02/13/2011

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I know someone who got married at 52 and subsequently had 5 kids one after the other. If you need to ask for fertility help from your doc. do so. Good Luck and don't lose hope ever. My 21 year old says she wants to adopt even if she has her own. Maybe that would be an option for you. Some people who adopt get pregnant after. Relax.

Rosebel - posted on 02/05/2011

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as long as you still have your monthly period, try to check your OB-GYNE for hormones test or why not try IVF...

Annabel - posted on 01/31/2011

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They always say if you try to hard it does not happen..... so why not keep taking your vitamins and just try out of sequence.... it may just catch

Fiona - posted on 01/28/2011

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I had number 2 at 42 .... took a long time to get him though! We actually fell pregant the week after we signed up for IVF. I know that its been said by others but for us it was so true. Pressure off, baby ON!
So keep on trying. And Zinc is really important for you both.

MaryAnn - posted on 01/28/2011

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I Agree Jennifer! The pressure of trying to make a baby happen is incredible. Stop Trying and let it all happen.
IVF is a possibility. I have a friend who found it necessary for both of her babies who were born later in life to her and her husband. I like my brother's way better. SURPRISE!

Angela - posted on 01/27/2011

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Of course you can as long as you are in good condition. Yet, if you have not seek professional advise, do so now to accelerate the chance of getting pregnant soon.

Donna - posted on 01/27/2011

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I had my 1st @ 16 natural birth (daughter 23). Then my 2nd @ 17 (son nearly 22) BUT when i had my son an elderly lady of gracious 69yrs old had delivered a son natural & her 1st both mum & bub wear healthy... I was shattered becaz i had delivered my son by c-section NOT like my 1st natural... Then @ 18 I had my 3rd (son whos 21 soon) also by c-section induced he was 44wks. Then heartache after heartache of misscarriage after misscarriage 7 all up over 10 yrs period (SO i gave up on any more) 8 yrs of trying wiz new hubby we both visited an IVF clinic (me cleared) we both started on a medication me on elevit, hubby changed his meds & just b4 our 3rd visit @ the clinic we canceled "we were pregnant". Wiz out treatment of IVF. I was 38, not real healthy I was dianoised type 2 diabetic when i was 36, plus wiz very high blood pressure. Was a very hard pregnancy NO morning sickness (yaya) in & out hospital due to high blood pressure, swelling of feet... & my princess was born via emergency c-section at 35 wks weighing 2.4kgs healthy due to my health my daughter only spent 24hrs in ICU 4 temp control - she is 2 now... I have gone onto having 2 more misscarriages since my daughter birth... I always wanted 6 I have 4 Im 40 tis yr & wood just luv 1 more my saying goes "if its meant to b its meant 2 b"

My aunt had her 1st at 38 & her 2nd at 43 both were born perfect healthy boys & by natural birth wizout drugs....

My other aunty had number 5 (her last) at 42 i think mayb 43 & she was healthy bubba early delivery but healthy also wizout drugs...

So wiz all tat said: Like afew have suggested b4 me a quick visit 4 U & YR hubby get checked over. All clear. RELAX & let it happen... I know its very dissappointing as mth by mth goes by (been there myself darl). BUT if u have b trying 4 awhile look further in2 things ask ???? it dose'nt hurt 2 ask.... AFTER all its a little bundle of joy & after all the hard work done & u hold em in yr arms & yr counting all their little toes & fingers... IT was worth it... I dont know y we mothers do tat count the toes tat is.... But just RELAX & ENJOY... BUT plez let us all here in mum circle know how ya get on.

Lynn - posted on 01/26/2011

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Just had #2 at age 41, one cousin is due with her 4th at age 44 and both my grandmothers had kids (in the 1950's) after the age of 40. From our collective experience, I have to say relaxing. I hated hearing that over and over when we were trying for a long time but it does help. Relax and enjoy yourselves. And if that doesn't work, a strong dose of yoga classes and breathing techniques as well as accupuncture will really relax you. Good luck to you!!

Sharon - posted on 01/26/2011

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if you carry extra weight it will go against you. a good balnced diet and exercise will help but not a guarrente. are you still getting your period regularly is a queston you need to ask yourself. best option to answer your question is to go to your gp and get a full check up and there is even a test that that they can do to tell you where you are in your fertility and have some helpful information to help you fall pregnant. not impossible but a harder task to acheive as you are racing your body clock. but in saying that, it will be a well worth challenge if you do succeed. good luck!!

Dorita - posted on 01/26/2011

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My last child was born when I was 46 and I have several friends who have had children around the same age. It isn't easy to just relax and not stress if you are trying to get pregnant but in my case and my friends cases, we were not been "trying" to get pregnant but just open to it happening. I'm sure we have all heard of people who have given up and adopted only to get pregnant right away. So, try to relax and not think so hard about it- easier said then done!

Cynthia - posted on 01/26/2011

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Anything is possible but it would probably be best to see a fertility doctor. Just because your ovulating does not mean you might not need assistance. Once you hit 43 it does even get harder so since time is a factor you really should see someone. Letting nature take it's course at your age is not in your favor. Of course, there are always women who it does happen to but it's not the norm and usually it's not their first baby. I did acupuncture and an ivf and did have a healthy baby boy at 43. I spent 2 years trying to get pregnant, natural, acupuncture and iui's. It was my first ivf so we were very fortunate.



Yes, it is important to be relaxed and not stress but it's more important at your age to be as proactive as you can to beat the odds!! It's possible but you need to be aggressive about it!!

Cheryl - posted on 01/26/2011

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I'm 44 in 3 weeks time and am 12 weeks pregnant,so yes its is possible.Just keep trying

Kara - posted on 01/26/2011

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I got pregnant at 39, after trying for what seemed like forever...it finally happened when I relaxed & stopped keeping track. Keep taking the vitamins and enjoy yourselves, don"t turn babymaking into a high stress job.

Samantha - posted on 01/26/2011

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I had my twin boys just after my 43rd birthday entirely natural , big surprise to me lol as I thought I was the no child career type! who knows? I was taking folic acid for my own health good luck big hugs x

Evelyn - posted on 01/25/2011

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I have two aunts who have had babies at around 42. For one it was her first baby and for the other it was her 14th baby. I also have several friends who have had babies around this age and even know of one lady who had a child after she had turned 50.
Don't give up hope. Just relax and focus on enjoying your relationship with your husband. I was only 28 when my husband and I were first trying to become pregnant but I found that when I was focused on getting pregnant I couldn't enjoy the moment or my husband. Relaxing may or may not help get you pregnant but it does help your relationship with your husband.

Lisa - posted on 01/25/2011

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I got pregnant with my son at 42 and thankfully did not have any complications and delivered a healthy baby. I know when I am ovulating and we tried a few days after. I also went to an accupuncturist once a week until a month after I was pregnant. My doctor said to cut-out caffeine but I did have a cup in the morning. After you try put your feet up and lay in bed for awhile. I don't know if this is an old wives tale or not but I did it with both kids and I did get pregnant right away. I know it's hard but try to relax. I know a few women who just conceived and they are 45. A close friend had her son two months before I did and she was 45.

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See an acupuncturist that specializes in fertility. The acupuncturist I apprenticed with in San Francisco was able to to get someone as old as 52 to conceive naturally.

Peggy - posted on 01/25/2011

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I had my fourth at 44, but it took longer to get pregnant. In fact, we decided that after a year of trying that we were going to be happy with the three we had (mine, step-children for my husband) and three months later we were pregnant. Being healthy and fit is a huge help. Good luck!

Sheila - posted on 01/25/2011

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I'm 41 and 14 weeks pregnant, tried for 8-9 months. I took prenatal vitamins the whole time and we had sex every 2-3 days and I stayed in bed for half an hour after to "help" the process :)

Tatia - posted on 01/25/2011

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Hi, I know of quite a few women who have gotten pregnant in their forties. It is not immposible! I would recommend reading one of Francesca Naish's Preconception care and Natural way to better babies. Really helpful info especially when time isn't on your side. Stay positive!!! Have fun practicing!!! Don't "try" too hard!!! It took us 3yrs to get pregnant so I know the rollercoaster of emotions and it wasn't until we stopped "trying" that it happened. Good Luck!

Sue - posted on 01/25/2011

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hi Elizabeth my hubby and i had been trying to have a baby for 6 years. we had 7 miscarriages along the way and finally i gave birth to my darling daughter in 2009 when i was 42. We used no fertility treatments and i took no vitamins etc. We just gave up and got on with our lives - and it just happened. There were none more surprised than we were. So i say to you definately do not give up. No matter what people ( professional as well as personal) say to you. I have heard it all i am sure. I am currently 15 weeks preg with my second. So you see there is hope. Keep on keeping on - best of luck to you xx sue

Sandy - posted on 01/25/2011

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It is possible to get pregnant at 42. It depends on so many medical things though. Your doctors have probably told you the best things to do to promote conception. If you really want to have your own child, you just need to keep trying until you hit menopause or feel you'll be too old to raise a teenager at 55.You can also adopt a child either through your country's system or from a foreign country. Good luck in any case!

Fran - posted on 01/25/2011

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at 42 the best thing to do is work with a fertility doctor. that doesn't mean you will have a multiple birth. but this way you will have someone monitor your hormone levels on a weekly basis for the first few months. then when you are ready you go back to your ob/gyn. it's not impossible but with a little help it can be a reality. good luck.

Karin - posted on 01/25/2011

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I HAVE 4 CHILDREN, MY LAST WAS DELIVERED AT THE AGE OF 41, I HAD NO PROBLEMS. DONT WORRY, TAKE FOLICE ACID, LOVE EACH OTHER AND HAVE FUN MAKING LOVE/MAKE BABIES.

Julie - posted on 01/25/2011

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My mom's best friend had her first and only child at 43 and she is quite the bright little girl. My old boss's best friend had her 3rd child in her mid 40's and he is also a healthy little guy so it'd def. possible. instead of charting a calendar buy an ovulation kit and not the cheap strips you pee on. the machine that costs a couple hundred dollars. My girlfriend who is now 30 had her first son a year ago and it took her over 2 yrs to get pregnant. She tried everything and when she finally bought the ovulation test machine she was pregnant 2 months later. I'm sure you area already aware the additional risks to having a baby at this age, but with all that in mind if this is right for you then you should def. keep trying!

Onome - posted on 01/25/2011

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just to let you know nothing is impossible with GOD,just relax yourself,dont get stressed up,the moment you stop worrying,you are there with a positive result,you know stress and tensions could cause changes in you.just relax and continue to pray and believe me you would smile soon.

Joy - posted on 01/25/2011

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It is dangerous to have your first baby after your 30's. They say the chances of a first pregnancy in your 40's and beyond can produce a baby with birth defects. If this is not your first pregnancy than it is fine. Also if you have regular periods and are not going through menopause you have a good chance of getting pregnant and my grandmother got pregnant with my father when she was 42. She was starting menopause and was just skipping periods but not actually missing a bunch in a row.

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2011

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Hi there - I am 42 and 34 weeks pregnant, so yes it is possible. After over a year of trying and nothing, we went to our GP who referred us to a fertility clinic. After tests, we were told that although they all came back ok, chances of us having a natural conception was zero. We we told that only option was IVF which we would have to fund. When we asked how successful this would be, were told less than 8%. For the next few weeks we walked around in a daze, really low, without hope. Then following month I felt weird, sick etc.. took a pregnancy test which was positive - then took 6 more to be sure :-). It is possible to be pregnant at 42, but my advice is to stop "trying" - I believe the pressure and the disappointment each month does not help. I know how it feels to be in your position, and my heart goes out to you - but please do not lose hope. It IS possible

MaryAnn - posted on 01/25/2011

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YES! My sister-in-law had never been married, had never been pregnant and when she and my brother got together, she did not believe that she could have children until Cassidy showed up about a year into their relationship. My brother already had three grown sons - the youngest being 18 from his previous marriage. Everyone, including her brothers were delighted and they are now living in Europe. Cassidy is 2 1/2 and has seen more of the world than most people.

Laura - posted on 01/25/2011

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Well, I very unexpectedly got pregnant at 42 and miscarried thirteen weeks later not long after turning 43. I did nothing to get pregnant as we had been trying since I was 36, had seen specialists, etc and were told it would never happen. So when it did I didn't believe it was real so never took a test and it wasn't confirmed until the night I miscarried. So I guess what I'm saying is, are you sure you really want to go down that road? I'm now 47 and have moved on with life. But I think even a doc will tell you your chances of conceiving are minimal and the chances ofnhaving a healthy baby are even smaller. But there are also fertility specialists out there who may still help you at that age ...

Marykaye - posted on 01/25/2011

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If you want to go the holistic or alternative route, I may have some advise. It took me 8 years to keep a pregnancy. 6 ended in miscarriages and finally after 8 years, I gave birth to a healthy little girl. I have a great respect for the medical community, I had to give birth three times via c-section. So I know they are truly amazing and needed. In my case, the medical doctors were not able to help me get pregnant or keep a pregnancy. Many, many failed fertility proceedures and many years, lead me to seeking alternative methods. After my first miscarriage, I had my ob tell me I had a tilted uterus, but it was no big deal and it would not hinder my ability to get or keep a pregnancy. After 6 miscarriages and 7 years I did discover that my tilted uterus was one of the reasons that was keeping me from having a baby. While I was seeking what to do, I discovered a fractured L5 in my spine. Seeing a chiropractor for a year or so helped heal that area (which intervates) the reproductive nerves. So back to my uterus. I found a holistic lady who ( I know this sounds weird) externally adjusted my uterus. So while I was seeing a Chiropractor, getting acupuncture done, and drinking copeous amounts of red raspberry leaf tea and getting my uterus adjusted, it only took 3 months and I was pregant. Not only did I have one, but 13 months later I had another baby girl and 24 months later I had another baby girl. Since then my periods are so much lighter and I don't have horrific period cramps. So my suggestions: Lots of Vit D3, go to whole foods and get red raspberry leaf tea which is a natural uterin tonic ( or you can buy the crushed and seep it), see a chiropractor to keep that part of your spine healthy and the reproductive nerves healthy, and get acupunture done. If you have a tilted uterus, seek help from a professional (not necessarily a medical doc), naturalpathic, or holistic doctor. Good luck and I wish you all the best. Also, I have a great chiro if you need one.

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2011

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I was 38 and 40 when I had my last two girls after a ten year break. If you are in good physical health and there's no other issues, the best thing you can do is just let it go and let nature have her way. How often have you heard of someone getting pregnant after they "stopped trying":) There's a lot to be said for not trying to control it.... and it sounds like so many others have experienced great success with medical intervention after things didn't work the old-fashioned way. Good luck!!

Michele - posted on 01/25/2011

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My good friend just had a baby at 42. Thing is...she had her tubes tied after she had her daughter (who is now 18). She remarried a younger man that had no children. They decided they wanted a child together. She went through a reversal to "untie" the tubes...whatever the medical term is, I don't know. They tried to conceive for awhile but it didn't happen. She got shots and all kinds of stuff over a long period of time. They finally decided to do the in vetro fertilization...and they ended up having a beautiful baby boy! So, I guess it all depends on your own situation and how far/how much money you want to spend to make it all happen?

Jan - posted on 01/25/2011

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I have 2 boys the oldest is 20 months the little one is 17 weeks, and this year I will be 45. just relax and let nature take its course

Michelle - posted on 01/25/2011

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You definately have a chance...have EVERYTHING checked including Thyroid and PCOS possibilities. I was 39 when I got pregnant after trying 19 years....it was a surprise to say the least when I did get prego! My Thyroid and PCOS is what gave me problems. And most of all RELAX! If it is meant to happen it will happen! Good Luck!

Leah - posted on 01/25/2011

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Yes!! It is totally possible! I got pregnant @ 45 & we now have a totally healthy, handsome & smart 5 year old boy! Don't stress it.........If its meant to be it will be!

Cecy - posted on 01/25/2011

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On of my best friends had her first son at 40 and another at 43. She had a hard time conceiving her first because her HCG levels (if I have that correct) and progestrone were low. She had to take shots but she did get pregnant. Her second pregnancy happened with no problem at all and the month they began trying. So go for it! Relax and enjoy trying. :o)

Onikede - posted on 01/25/2011

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it is possible, you have to remove anciety from it, just relax, you wont even know when it will happen

Tanasha - posted on 01/25/2011

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As you age, you produce less eggs. or rather, less viable, healthy eggs. You are born with a certain number of eggs and that is all you get. the older you get, the harder it is to conceive, because the quality of the eggs diminishes and certain things, like Down's Syndrome, become an increased risk factore becaose of this. Regardless, anyone who watches Discovery Health Channel knows it is possible for a woman in her 40s to get pregnant and even beyond (ANyone see that episode with the 55 year old woman?). But it does get harder. Other than that, like a couple others have said, get a check up and exam make sure there is nothing terribly off (both of you should do this), and hope for the best :)

Rachel - posted on 01/25/2011

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My cousin is 42 and pregnant right now! So don't give up hope! A little story: my husband and I had problems and just couldn't get pregnant. We gave up trying. It was the best thing we could do, because our stress level dropped to nothing, and we began enjoying our "trying" attempts. Bingo, got pregnant! Don't forget to enjoy your attempts to get pregnant! :-)

Ann Marie - posted on 01/25/2011

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I fell pregnant 2 months before my 42 birthday - we had been trying for several years after our first was born (when I was 38), and during that time I had had an early term miscarriage. I finally just decided that I was probably too old, stopped worrying about it - especially stopped worrying about when we should be having sex - and fell pregnant the next month (I'm due in June). I know it's not always down to stress and "over-worry", but that certainly seemed to be a factor for us. Good luck!

Wendy - posted on 01/25/2011

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My girl friend was born to her mother at 46 years old. Age does make it harder, but for my husband and myself stress was what made it really hard for us. Once my husband accepted he was sterile...I got pregnant 2 weeks later after 5 years of trying off and on with 1 lost pregnancy to a car accident. If you've checked to see that everything is working for both of you. Then just take my doctor's advice...forget the calendar and "just do it". Make sure you get a specialist though that takes care of pregnancies in women over 35 yrs old. Don't be frightened about the down syndrome test, if they do it and you get a positive, it could be a false positive so don't dispair. I was an "at risk pregnancy" at 35 yrs old.

Loretta - posted on 01/25/2011

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I had a baby at 42. The secret for me was deciding I didn't want to have a baby after 40 and starting to get excited about life after my two children I already had were grown. Then--surprise!!! I'll tell you--in my 40's this baby and toddler thing totally wears me out, but worth all the effort! :)

Shelly - posted on 01/25/2011

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I had my daughter at 42, she was a great suprise, we tried to have more after with shots etc..........no luck but our daughter is now 11 and we feel truly blessed. So it is possible.

Robbie - posted on 01/24/2011

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I just delivered my 3rd at 42. I have always been of the belief that stress would prevent pregnancy and though we never prevented pregnancy, we never 'tried' to get pregnant (testing, timing, whatnot). I just kept believing it would happen in God's timing. It took 5 yrs to conceive my first, 2 months to conceive my 2nd, and 7 yrs to conceive my 3rd! I had resigned to not having the 3rd and lo and behold, surprise! I will say that it's not the same carrying a baby in my 40's as it was in my 30's. Get into a habit of exercise now, get off the caffeine, and start the folic acid and whatnot. You won't feel like starting an exercise routine while prego in your 40's and the incidence of gestational diabetes is higher when you are older. I was not exercising and had the diabetes and it was not fun. The exercise will prevent or revers the diabetes and I just couldn't do it without hip pain. I also delivered 5 weeks early because my water broke (but it turned out to be a blessing because cord was in a knot and we didn't know it). Baby is perfect in every way, though. Don't stress - it will happen for you! Plan as if it will happy at any time so you'll be ready when it does!

Susie - posted on 01/24/2011

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Relax,pretend u can't get pregnant..go on vacation when u r ovulating........worked for myself and 3 friends

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